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By *lashpix OP Man
over a year ago
nottingham |
Hello, i am a 68 yr old married man who's wife has a lot of ongoing health problems and is currently in hospital, and could be for quite a while. I do 90% of house work, shopping, and all of the cooking at home, not to mention looking after the garden. We are not intimate together anymore which i miss, and we have talked about me having an affair so at least i could have a little pleasure. She said that she has no objections. Hopefully we will stay together in the long term. What would others do? |
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"Hello, i am a 68 yr old married man who's wife has a lot of ongoing health problems and is currently in hospital, and could be for quite a while. I do 90% of house work, shopping, and all of the cooking at home, not to mention looking after the garden. We are not intimate together anymore which i miss, and we have talked about me having an affair so at least i could have a little pleasure. She said that she has no objections. Hopefully we will stay together in the long term. What would others do? "
I think I would soul search for a while to make sure I believed that she genuinely wanted me to go and have sex with other people. Because I'd worry that she was saying it just to make me happy so that I didn't leave her when she needed me. |
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"Hello, i am a 68 yr old married man who's wife has a lot of ongoing health problems and is currently in hospital, and could be for quite a while. I do 90% of house work, shopping, and all of the cooking at home, not to mention looking after the garden. We are not intimate together anymore which i miss, and we have talked about me having an affair so at least i could have a little pleasure. She said that she has no objections. Hopefully we will stay together in the long term. What would others do?
I think I would soul search for a while to make sure I believed that she genuinely wanted me to go and have sex with other people. Because I'd worry that she was saying it just to make me happy so that I didn't leave her when she needed me."
The "Hopefully we will stay together in the long term" bit made me raise an eyebrow.
If you can separate 'sex' and 'love' - it's easier to handle the situation and should not compromise your long-term stability.
If Mrs is genuinely okay with this - then 
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Is there any possibility of your wife resuming intimacy? I don't mean penetrative sex necessarily but all the other sexual things that can happen between long established couples that lead to closeness and intimate feelings. |
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