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Coming across too Particular/Arrogant?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey everyone, Apologies for such a common subject, but I'm wondering if, through my profile i've projected myself as being way too particular about what i want in a woman i'd meet, and also if i just sound like I'm being an ass!
I fear no scrutiny everyone, let me have it!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Though its well written, your intelligence shines through, and your pics are great, it is essentially a list of what you don't want. As fab is very much a womans world then selling yourself would aid you more. |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
Wakefield |
Your profile comes across to us as very narcissistic.
A view reinforced by the photos you display, although having said that your photos are far preferable than a page of cock pics.
There is nothing on your profile that would suggest to us you would be fun to be with.
Its all about what you want and nothing to give a clue to what you have to offer
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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago
Bedworth |
While it's good to see that you know what you want it also seems very selfish.
As you probably know, the site is so full of single men that the ladies and couples are overwhelmed with choices. You need to give them a reason to pick you, not a list of demands.
As for a code word as the message subject. In my opinion it's bullshit, no matter if the profile is male, female, couple, or ewok. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We thought the bit up to "I like" was good. Then we got a bit confused as to why you liked licking ashes from your fingers.
Sorting out the line spacing on the poem would help stop that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think your profile is great. There are loads of woman on here that write huge lists of what they want on their profiles, so it's nice to see guys doing it too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your profile comes across to us as very narcissistic.
A view reinforced by the photos you display, although having said that your photos are far preferable than a page of cock pics.
There is nothing on your profile that would suggest to us you would be fun to be with.
Its all about what you want and nothing to give a clue to what you have to offer
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
South West London / Surrey |
"Hey everyone, Apologies for such a common subject, but I'm wondering if, through my profile i've projected myself as being way too particular about what i want in a woman i'd meet, and also if i just sound like I'm being an ass!
I fear no scrutiny everyone, let me have it!
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No I don't think you come across as arrogant or an arse in your text or pics.
There is nothing wrong with stating and knowing the type of person your looking for. People can then see and decide if they match your criteria. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I didn't really know what you meant by the [SONNE] bit. Do you want people to write that in their message subject?
I just usually skip profiles by that request certain things in message subjects. If I, as a single woman, can skim through all the messages that I get without having to resort to such things, then I guess I just feel it's a bit overkill for a single guy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Get rid of the poem at the end; I don't see what purpose it serves.
Your profile is fine in that you are clear about what you want but it is very unclear about what you have to offer. Maybe a little tweak here and there to even this aspect out? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't say arrogant per se, and it's completely acceptable to have standards and set out what these are. But the "Got it? I'll only tell you once" part sounds a bit odd, and also reminded me of Allo Allo.
But that could just be me. |
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If its what you want then least your honest, doesnt mean its what you will get though so you may be left with nothing
I wouldnt message you as you do seem a bit selfish and i personally dont go for the "i love me who do you love" sorta guy, i find it intimidating
Plus i dont think im up to the standard you are looking for anyway haha i dont have a perfect body or fitness regime  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The list of waht you are looking for is fine.The poem bit ditch it it makes no sense.
We get no sense of your personality coming through, there is no humour and it is all about what you want and nothing about what you offer... Muscles and a 6 pack are great if you have a personality to back them up, if you haven't they mean nothing. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks all for your feedback!
I've had what could arguably be described as an overhaul on the profile text, I hope it shines a somewhat better and truer light on my personality! I understand that to the reader it would have likely looked far too didactic and selfish!
I hope I've taken on the feedback appropriately and not totally ignored any of you! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks all for your feedback!
I've had what could arguably be described as an overhaul on the profile text, I hope it shines a somewhat better and truer light on my personality! I understand that to the reader it would have likely looked far too didactic and selfish!
I hope I've taken on the feedback appropriately and not totally ignored any of you! "
I've read what I'm assuming is the rewritten version and it's really good! Good to see you've taken on board the comments on this thread! And great pics wow!  L |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your profile comes across to us as very narcissistic.
A view reinforced by the photos you display, although having said that your photos are far preferable than a page of cock pics.
There is nothing on your profile that would suggest to us you would be fun to be with.
Its all about what you want and nothing to give a clue to what you have to offer
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IMO there is nothing wrong with it...show OP's true character...and if you don't like you don't message...simple  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks very much  I chose my profile name in a moment of little inspiration, however, I don't like profile names like "bigcock" and "hungnoonegivesashit"
So I'm very happy with my username on that basis |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i think yer profile is cool......why ask a bunch of strangers to verify whither it remotely akin to yersel? if folks dont like it....then it serves its purpose well eh? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Perhaps say that you don't play with attached people unless their oh is involved instead of mentioning morals - we are swingers after all!"
Swingers don't have morals???
The only bit I'd change is about it being all about the woman - it's a little cliched. But otherwise your profile has lots of energy and your pics are great. Good luck! |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
Wakefield |
I can't understand all those who suggest your profile is good.
They obviously have not noticed that you have only had one meet over a year ago.
If your profile is good that would not be the case.
Sorry but be realistic, dump most if not all of the text and start again; that is if you want to meet people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can't understand all those who suggest your profile is good.
They obviously have not noticed that you have only had one meet over a year ago.
If your profile is good that would not be the case.
Sorry but be realistic, dump most if not all of the text and start again; that is if you want to meet people."
thats kinda easy for a couple to say.....try being a single guy.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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never change who you are, or what you want to put on your profile for a potential meet.......a meet is a fleeting oppertunity that doesnt give a shit about you in the first place.....make a profile that you are happy with...if they are not....then mibby they are not the ones ye chase |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's a really nice profile. You come across as nice and intelligent and your pics are hot It does seem a little like you want more than nsa, but there is nothing wrong with that either. Best of luck and have fun!
-Courtney |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks all for your feedback!
I've had what could arguably be described as an overhaul on the profile text, I hope it shines a somewhat better and truer light on my personality! I understand that to the reader it would have likely looked far too didactic and selfish!
I hope I've taken on the feedback appropriately and not totally ignored any of you! "
I think I would expand on what you mean by someone who 'takes pride in their appearance and keeps themselves clean and tidy'.
I mean, I shower every day and have a healthy body, so as far as I'm concerned I fit your description. However I get the feeling you're actually looking for someone who wears make-up and shaves everywhere. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
Well, I admit, I would respond to a message from you if you were in my area, though I would reduce the amount of cock pics, but that is just my preference
And yes, some of your pic are lovely |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
"Well, I admit, I would respond to a message from you if you were in my area, though I would reduce the amount of cock pics, but that is just my preference
And yes, some of your pic are lovely "
Sorry, just noticed your age, too young for me though  |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"Hey everyone, Apologies for such a common subject, but I'm wondering if, through my profile i've projected myself as being way too particular about what i want in a woman i'd meet, and also if i just sound like I'm being an ass!
I fear no scrutiny everyone, let me have it!
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Looks fine to me |
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You're damned if you do and damned if you don't on here, especially as a single male.
Keep it light and keep it simple. Also, think about who you're trying to attract. (unless you're simply throwing your net out!)
Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How much time have you spent looking for people to meet you? "
To be honest, I don't devote that much time to fab because I'm quite a perpetually busy person, I've made the choice to not meet various people for my own reasons. It appears to be a seldom occurrence for a single guy on fab to genuinely care about who he sleeps with? |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
I scanned and couldn't see anything negative.
I would advise on some more variety in your pics (maybe try putting some clothes on in a few) or you may find the majority of fabs coming from guys.
But I suspect that already happens!
A |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I can't understand all those who suggest your profile is good.
They obviously have not noticed that you have only had one meet over a year ago.
If your profile is good that would not be the case.
Sorry but be realistic, dump most if not all of the text and start again; that is if you want to meet people."
Thanks for your most recent post.
From the outside looking in, I see how to people such as yourselves, (and i mean this totally respectfully) one verification says bad things, but I have made the choice to meet only one person from here, and I'm often not around long enough to establish a substantial enough thing to meet and fuck each other, as you'll see in another post of mine. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I scanned and couldn't see anything negative.
I would advise on some more variety in your pics (maybe try putting some clothes on in a few) or you may find the majority of fabs coming from guys.
But I suspect that already happens!
A"
You couldn't be any closer to the truth if you were sat on top of it. Thank you for the suggestion! How weird is it that I'm less camera shy with my clothes off? Maybe i just have crap fashion sense |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've only seen the amended profile and hypothetically speaking, you are definitely someone I would take the time to message myself. Top pics and well written text. Didn't read into it that you were looking for anything other than NSA either?
Nicely done. Hot! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How much time have you spent looking for people to meet you?
To be honest, I don't devote that much time to fab because I'm quite a perpetually busy person, I've made the choice to not meet various people for my own reasons. It appears to be a seldom occurrence for a single guy on fab to genuinely care about who he sleeps with?"
Who are you waiting for? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I scanned and couldn't see anything negative.
I would advise on some more variety in your pics (maybe try putting some clothes on in a few) or you may find the majority of fabs coming from guys.
But I suspect that already happens!
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You couldn't be any closer to the truth if you were sat on top of it. Thank you for the suggestion! How weird is it that I'm less camera shy with my clothes off? Maybe i just have crap fashion sense "
Or no pics with clothes on? You're not scared to show your face,why not put on a nice shirt and trousers? |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"I scanned and couldn't see anything negative.
I would advise on some more variety in your pics (maybe try putting some clothes on in a few) or you may find the majority of fabs coming from guys.
But I suspect that already happens!
A
You couldn't be any closer to the truth if you were sat on top of it. Thank you for the suggestion! How weird is it that I'm less camera shy with my clothes off? Maybe i just have crap fashion sense
Or no pics with clothes on? You're not scared to show your face,why not put on a nice shirt and trousers? "
Or a onesie.
A |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Didn't see the original one but as far as single male profiles go yours is one of the good ones. Everything is spelt correctly, you're handsome with a good body and what looks like a large penis, can't really see the balls though and because you're around the 10-14% bodyfat mark I'd like to make sure you were natty and had a good size set of balls and no horrible tasting yellow spunk. 5'10 is ok for me to walk around with, I'd wear flip flops so you'd have a good 7 inches over me in height! 23 is too young for what I'm looking for but for a one off fuck you'd be perfect, providing you remove all pubes from your arse hole and enjoy rimming (receiving) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Your profile is now much better. It's less narcissistic and more of you and what you offer shines through "
Thank you very much  your insights and pick up points are invaluable, I really appreciate you taking the time to help! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've only seen the amended profile and hypothetically speaking, you are definitely someone I would take the time to message myself. Top pics and well written text. Didn't read into it that you were looking for anything other than NSA either?
Nicely done. Hot!"
Thanks very much
With geography ever against me, all fantasises I have of telling you how much id love to take you out for a drink and talk more in person (and about your taste in music as I hope the name correctly suggests?) may remain hypothetical, which all of the eloquent vocabulary in the world, is not going to make, any less shit that I remain in the sunny city of Bristol. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks all for your feedback!
I've had what could arguably be described as an overhaul on the profile text, I hope it shines a somewhat better and truer light on my personality! I understand that to the reader it would have likely looked far too didactic and selfish!
I hope I've taken on the feedback appropriately and not totally ignored any of you!
I've read what I'm assuming is the rewritten version and it's really good! Good to see you've taken on board the comments on this thread! And great pics wow! L"
This for me too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've only seen the amended profile and hypothetically speaking, you are definitely someone I would take the time to message myself. Top pics and well written text. Didn't read into it that you were looking for anything other than NSA either?
Nicely done. Hot!
Thanks very much
With geography ever against me, all fantasises I have of telling you how much id love to take you out for a drink and talk more in person (and about your taste in music as I hope the name correctly suggests?) may remain hypothetical, which all of the eloquent vocabulary in the world, is not going to make, any less shit that I remain in the sunny city of Bristol. X"
Ha! It's not that far!
PS. I'm worth it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I took a look at your profile and roared laughin!. I guess its safe to say, you can afford to be. In saying that i find no fault in saying what you are looking for. Saves confusion. You should see the mail i sometimes get with mine. Even though it is a bit toungue in cheek and sarcastic. Fuck um luvvy. If people dont like it or approve, they shouldnt message you! |
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