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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago
Cambridge |
We are fairly new to swinging, but the way that we look at it is this: you are not going to go through your whole swinging journey without making mistakes. You will fuck up. You will do something and it might upset your partner, your partner might do something and upset you, but let's be honest, that happens in vanilla relationships too.
When you make a mistake, TALK ABOUT IT! Try to figure out exactly why it made you upset, and then think about it, is it just a bit of mental gymnastics that you have to do and in a few days you will accept it, or is it a hard boundary that has been crossed that you can recognise, and know not to cross again?
In terms of jealousy it is a weird creature that I think can sneak up on you at any time, but again just talk about it, even if there is nothing your partner can do, even if they haven't done anything wrong, tell them how you are feeling. Then in 2-3 days, tell them again, is it getting better? Worse? The same? Tell them, just keep on talking.
On some meets it might feel like one is having more fun than the other, but on another meet it might be opposite. I guess you just keep going till you find couples that you have equal amounts of fun with. Who knows!
With genital size, you've got what you were given, you can't change that. If the only reason you partner is with you is because of the size of your cock then you have a serious problem in your relationship. I'm sure that's not why she is with you. Remember with swinging you are choosing to be sexually non-monogamous, but the rest of your lives, spiritual, emotional, financial etc.etc. is just the two of you. There is more that holds a relationship together than what's in your pants  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are fairly new to swinging, but the way that we look at it is this: you are not going to go through your whole swinging journey without making mistakes. You will fuck up. You will do something and it might upset your partner, your partner might do something and upset you, but let's be honest, that happens in vanilla relationships too.
When you make a mistake, TALK ABOUT IT! Try to figure out exactly why it made you upset, and then think about it, is it just a bit of mental gymnastics that you have to do and in a few days you will accept it, or is it a hard boundary that has been crossed that you can recognise, and know not to cross again?
In terms of jealousy it is a weird creature that I think can sneak up on you at any time, but again just talk about it, even if there is nothing your partner can do, even if they haven't done anything wrong, tell them how you are feeling. Then in 2-3 days, tell them again, is it getting better? Worse? The same? Tell them, just keep on talking.
On some meets it might feel like one is having more fun than the other, but on another meet it might be opposite. I guess you just keep going till you find couples that you have equal amounts of fun with. Who knows!
With genital size, you've got what you were given, you can't change that. If the only reason you partner is with you is because of the size of your cock then you have a serious problem in your relationship. I'm sure that's not why she is with you. Remember with swinging you are choosing to be sexually non-monogamous, but the rest of your lives, spiritual, emotional, financial etc.etc. is just the two of you. There is more that holds a relationship together than what's in your pants "
The voice of reason. |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
South West London / Surrey |
"We are fairly new to swinging, but the way that we look at it is this: you are not going to go through your whole swinging journey without making mistakes. You will fuck up. You will do something and it might upset your partner, your partner might do something and upset you, but let's be honest, that happens in vanilla relationships too.
When you make a mistake, TALK ABOUT IT! Try to figure out exactly why it made you upset, and then think about it, is it just a bit of mental gymnastics that you have to do and in a few days you will accept it, or is it a hard boundary that has been crossed that you can recognise, and know not to cross again?
In terms of jealousy it is a weird creature that I think can sneak up on you at any time, but again just talk about it, even if there is nothing your partner can do, even if they haven't done anything wrong, tell them how you are feeling. Then in 2-3 days, tell them again, is it getting better? Worse? The same? Tell them, just keep on talking.
On some meets it might feel like one is having more fun than the other, but on another meet it might be opposite. I guess you just keep going till you find couples that you have equal amounts of fun with. Who knows!
With genital size, you've got what you were given, you can't change that. If the only reason you partner is with you is because of the size of your cock then you have a serious problem in your relationship. I'm sure that's not why she is with you. Remember with swinging you are choosing to be sexually non-monogamous, but the rest of your lives, spiritual, emotional, financial etc.etc. is just the two of you. There is more that holds a relationship together than what's in your pants
The voice of reason. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone ever done anything with their partners and been jealous because they seem to have the better time or jealous of cock size etc? "
We've had a situation where one of us (Mr) no longer wanted to play with a couple again, but we talked it out and came to an agreement. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are fairly new to swinging, but the way that we look at it is this: you are not going to go through your whole swinging journey without making mistakes. You will fuck up. You will do something and it might upset your partner, your partner might do something and upset you, but let's be honest, that happens in vanilla relationships too.
When you make a mistake, TALK ABOUT IT! Try to figure out exactly why it made you upset, and then think about it, is it just a bit of mental gymnastics that you have to do and in a few days you will accept it, or is it a hard boundary that has been crossed that you can recognise, and know not to cross again?
In terms of jealousy it is a weird creature that I think can sneak up on you at any time, but again just talk about it, even if there is nothing your partner can do, even if they haven't done anything wrong, tell them how you are feeling. Then in 2-3 days, tell them again, is it getting better? Worse? The same? Tell them, just keep on talking.
On some meets it might feel like one is having more fun than the other, but on another meet it might be opposite. I guess you just keep going till you find couples that you have equal amounts of fun with. Who knows!
With genital size, you've got what you were given, you can't change that. If the only reason you partner is with you is because of the size of your cock then you have a serious problem in your relationship. I'm sure that's not why she is with you. Remember with swinging you are choosing to be sexually non-monogamous, but the rest of your lives, spiritual, emotional, financial etc.etc. is just the two of you. There is more that holds a relationship together than what's in your pants "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone ever done anything with their partners and been jealous because they seem to have the better time or jealous of cock size etc? "
No, my partners happiness makes me happy. Try it - it's called compersion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone ever done anything with their partners and been jealous because they seem to have the better time or jealous of cock size etc? "
Regrets or jealousy? No...things to talk about and learn lessons from...absolutely |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be honest as much as I like the thought of some girly fun while Mr N watches. There's not one chance of me coping with him having another woman. Even if I was there! I'd be so insecure. It's for that reason that it will be unlikely to happen anytime soon. However I'm open and honest enough with myself and him regarding that.
I really admire couples who can do it and maybe one day I'll realise I can too and my fears are unfounded. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are fairly new to swinging, but the way that we look at it is this: you are not going to go through your whole swinging journey without making mistakes. You will fuck up. You will do something and it might upset your partner, your partner might do something and upset you, but let's be honest, that happens in vanilla relationships too.
When you make a mistake, TALK ABOUT IT! Try to figure out exactly why it made you upset, and then think about it, is it just a bit of mental gymnastics that you have to do and in a few days you will accept it, or is it a hard boundary that has been crossed that you can recognise, and know not to cross again?
In terms of jealousy it is a weird creature that I think can sneak up on you at any time, but again just talk about it, even if there is nothing your partner can do, even if they haven't done anything wrong, tell them how you are feeling. Then in 2-3 days, tell them again, is it getting better? Worse? The same? Tell them, just keep on talking.
On some meets it might feel like one is having more fun than the other, but on another meet it might be opposite. I guess you just keep going till you find couples that you have equal amounts of fun with. Who knows!
With genital size, you've got what you were given, you can't change that. If the only reason you partner is with you is because of the size of your cock then you have a serious problem in your relationship. I'm sure that's not why she is with you. Remember with swinging you are choosing to be sexually non-monogamous, but the rest of your lives, spiritual, emotional, financial etc.etc. is just the two of you. There is more that holds a relationship together than what's in your pants "
I literally agree with everything you've said |
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"To be honest as much as I like the thought of some girly fun while Mr N watches. There's not one chance of me coping with him having another woman. Even if I was there! I'd be so insecure. It's for that reason that it will be unlikely to happen anytime soon. However I'm open and honest enough with myself and him regarding that.
I really admire couples who can do it and maybe one day I'll realise I can too and my fears are unfounded. "
This is where I'm at too - although I have no desire to change it. |
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"Anyone ever done anything with their partners and been jealous because they seem to have the better time or jealous of cock size etc?
No, my partners happiness makes me happy. Try it - it's called compersion."
Don't know.... Turn that jealousy to envy and wishing you had what somebody else does, is a great motivator to improve.
Improve yourself and everytime you step into a room people will be glad to see you...
But yes I'm a big believer in living in the moment, what is happening now, am I enjoying this now, are they?
If the answer is yes then be happy.
Admittedly this makes me a nightmare to live with... But you can't have everything! |
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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago
Cambridge |
"Anyone ever done anything with their partners and been jealous because they seem to have the better time or jealous of cock size etc?
No, my partners happiness makes me happy. Try it - it's called compersion.
Don't know.... Turn that jealousy to envy and wishing you had what somebody else does, is a great motivator to improve.
Improve yourself and everytime you step into a room people will be glad to see you...
But yes I'm a big believer in living in the moment, what is happening now, am I enjoying this now, are they?
If the answer is yes then be happy.
Admittedly this makes me a nightmare to live with... But you can't have everything! "
Jealousy or envy can't make your cock get any bigger though! |
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By *er himWoman
over a year ago
Essex |
"We are fairly new to swinging, but the way that we look at it is this: you are not going to go through your whole swinging journey without making mistakes. You will fuck up. You will do something and it might upset your partner, your partner might do something and upset you, but let's be honest, that happens in vanilla relationships too.
When you make a mistake, TALK ABOUT IT! Try to figure out exactly why it made you upset, and then think about it, is it just a bit of mental gymnastics that you have to do and in a few days you will accept it, or is it a hard boundary that has been crossed that you can recognise, and know not to cross again?
In terms of jealousy it is a weird creature that I think can sneak up on you at any time, but again just talk about it, even if there is nothing your partner can do, even if they haven't done anything wrong, tell them how you are feeling. Then in 2-3 days, tell them again, is it getting better? Worse? The same? Tell them, just keep on talking.
On some meets it might feel like one is having more fun than the other, but on another meet it might be opposite. I guess you just keep going till you find couples that you have equal amounts of fun with. Who knows!
With genital size, you've got what you were given, you can't change that. If the only reason you partner is with you is because of the size of your cock then you have a serious problem in your relationship. I'm sure that's not why she is with you. Remember with swinging you are choosing to be sexually non-monogamous, but the rest of your lives, spiritual, emotional, financial etc.etc. is just the two of you. There is more that holds a relationship together than what's in your pants "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We are fairly new to swinging, but the way that we look at it is this: you are not going to go through your whole swinging journey without making mistakes. You will fuck up. You will do something and it might upset your partner, your partner might do something and upset you, but let's be honest, that happens in vanilla relationships too.
When you make a mistake, TALK ABOUT IT! Try to figure out exactly why it made you upset, and then think about it, is it just a bit of mental gymnastics that you have to do and in a few days you will accept it, or is it a hard boundary that has been crossed that you can recognise, and know not to cross again?
In terms of jealousy it is a weird creature that I think can sneak up on you at any time, but again just talk about it, even if there is nothing your partner can do, even if they haven't done anything wrong, tell them how you are feeling. Then in 2-3 days, tell them again, is it getting better? Worse? The same? Tell them, just keep on talking.
On some meets it might feel like one is having more fun than the other, but on another meet it might be opposite. I guess you just keep going till you find couples that you have equal amounts of fun with. Who knows!
With genital size, you've got what you were given, you can't change that. If the only reason you partner is with you is because of the size of your cock then you have a serious problem in your relationship. I'm sure that's not why she is with you. Remember with swinging you are choosing to be sexually non-monogamous, but the rest of your lives, spiritual, emotional, financial etc.etc. is just the two of you. There is more that holds a relationship together than what's in your pants "
This is literally taken from the voice of god lol well done)
On another note - another poster nearly made me swear and only the fact that being banned by admin is shit but I do really wish some know-it-all oxygen thieves would just stay out the forums  |
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