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Ok well We change the pic and me and my hubby tryed three ways befor with just guys and just girls I did not like the outher man and it made me fill weard and pulse I have a man and a dick I love I just won't pussy to and he better be lucky iam like that |
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over a year ago
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Your profile text needs punctuation and there's loads of bits that don't make sense. Read it again to yourselfs out loud. Cut a few pics out and swap them for some sexier ones. |
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"Idk? Git? Wtf?
Try language as your favoured form of communication. "
Play nicely fellas.
You have no idea if there is a reason behind her poor spelling, you could be making yourself look a twat if there is! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally, the drug reference in your user name would be a big no quite apart from how badly written it is. There is absolutely nothing appealing about it whatsoever if we were in your demographic, what would be in it for anyone considering it? |
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I just read your profile text again, it doesn't seem too bad. You say what you would like to do with another woman, could you change that a bit so it showed that you would like it to be the two of you women enjoying the experience? At the moment it sounds like you just want her there for you to touch. Would your partner be joining in or watching make that clear too and as I said consider losing the 420 bit of your username.
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I have to agree with what others have said. Your profile seems to set out what you are looking for, photos show both of you, so from that point of view, all well and good.
However spelling and punctuation would put a lot of people off, as does text talk. Should be easy enough with spell checker etc.
I also think you are looking for someone that seems to be fairly illusive. Not called unicorns for nothing. Think of yourself as the person you are looking for and look again at your profile. Does it stand out from others? Because it needs to, to attract the unicorn you need very good bait! Ask yourselves if yours is good enough? And take notice of the advice you have already been given. |
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"I have to agree with what others have said. Your profile seems to set out what you are looking for, photos show both of you, so from that point of view, all well and good.
However spelling and punctuation would put a lot of people off, as does text talk. Should be easy enough with spell checker etc.
I also think you are looking for someone that seems to be fairly illusive. Not called unicorns for nothing. Think of yourself as the person you are looking for and look again at your profile. Does it stand out from others? Because it needs to, to attract the unicorn you need very good bait! Ask yourselves if yours is good enough? And take notice of the advice you have already been given." Ok I will do that |
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It's to short to be honest, it only tells people a short description of what "you" want.
Try making it a bit longer, maybe a bit about what you seek, what you can offer, a bit about yourselfs and also good if a bit of humour in there.
You have to try to sell yourselfs |
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"Ok look at it bow it real and what we won't "
Change the spelling of board to "bored" and I don't understand what "hafe" is. Apart from that it's a bit better. Hope you find what you're after, good luck. |
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"Ok look at it bow it real and what we won't "
Huh? I have no idea what you meant to say!!
I didn't see your previous version, so this applies to what you have on your profile now.
Change "board" to "bored". Change "were" to either "we are" or "we're". Put a full stop at the end of each sentence and start the next with a capital letter. It is very hard to read otherwise. And what do you mean by "hafe swing".
Plus what others have said. |
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It looks like you have raided your Facebook profile for pictures.
As other say you need to check your grammar.
You don't look as tho you're offering very much to prospective 'partners'.
You need to know what you're looking for and are willing to offer before people will take you seriously.
Good luck |
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over a year ago
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It's a bit better but like others said you still need to use paragraphs, punctuation and spellchecker. Also still need to change your pics. the pulling of faces isn't really good |
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"Remind me not to send my kids to the school you went to, if you went at all "
Rude and unnecessary.
Also not providing the help the OP was asking for.
If I'm asked for help I tend to help. If I'm asked to be sarcastic and rude...... |
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Op, communication is key. Your profile text and op is poorly written/unintelligible and that will put some people off. Some of the pictures ie visible toilet, are not appealing.
Bottom line: you have to sell you in a crowded market. As it stands you'll struggle: good luck. |
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Op you are both very young, much younger than most of us who have answered you. It occurred to me this morning that it could be that we aren't the best people to advise you, we aren't familiar with a lot of the phrases and vernacular that you use and someone of your age might be.
You will have learned though that rudeness, sarcasm and bitterness have no age limits and that I am sorry for. |
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"Op you are both very young, much younger than most of us who have answered you. It occurred to me this morning that it could be that we aren't the best people to advise you, we aren't familiar with a lot of the phrases and vernacular that you use and someone of your age might be.
You will have learned though that rudeness, sarcasm and bitterness have no age limits and that I am sorry for."
I am young-ish - I don't understand their profile, I can't read it because there's no punctuation... (Well that's a lie, yes I can, but I can't be bothered to attempt to separate sentences, try and work out what the words are supposed to be... Etc etc).
You could use a dictionary? If you are struggling with punctuation, read your profile out loud, put a comma every time you feel the need to pause or breath. This might help a little. Put a full stop once you feel you've communicated to message you want. Then move on to your next sentence.
Your pictures aren't massively appealing, and are very 'samey'. Pick the best ones, and have those, then take some sexier ones?
Hope this helps. But at the end of the day, you won't be everyones cup of tea. |
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"Op you are both very young, much younger than most of us who have answered you. It occurred to me this morning that it could be that we aren't the best people to advise you, we aren't familiar with a lot of the phrases and vernacular that you use and someone of your age might be.
You will have learned though that rudeness, sarcasm and bitterness have no age limits and that I am sorry for.
I am young-ish - I don't understand their profile, I can't read it because there's no punctuation... (Well that's a lie, yes I can, but I can't be bothered to attempt to separate sentences, try and work out what the words are supposed to be... Etc etc).
You could use a dictionary? If you are struggling with punctuation, read your profile out loud, put a comma every time you feel the need to pause or breath. This might help a little. Put a full stop once you feel you've communicated to message you want. Then move on to your next sentence.
Your pictures aren't massively appealing, and are very 'samey'. Pick the best ones, and have those, then take some sexier ones?
Hope this helps. But at the end of the day, you won't be everyones cup of tea. "
oh right, I'm very aware that I wont know what's current in "yoofspeak" it took me months to work out afaik |
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"Op you are both very young, much younger than most of us who have answered you. It occurred to me this morning that it could be that we aren't the best people to advise you, we aren't familiar with a lot of the phrases and vernacular that you use and someone of your age might be.
You will have learned though that rudeness, sarcasm and bitterness have no age limits and that I am sorry for.
I am young-ish - I don't understand their profile, I can't read it because there's no punctuation... (Well that's a lie, yes I can, but I can't be bothered to attempt to separate sentences, try and work out what the words are supposed to be... Etc etc).
You could use a dictionary? If you are struggling with punctuation, read your profile out loud, put a comma every time you feel the need to pause or breath. This might help a little. Put a full stop once you feel you've communicated to message you want. Then move on to your next sentence.
Your pictures aren't massively appealing, and are very 'samey'. Pick the best ones, and have those, then take some sexier ones?
Hope this helps. But at the end of the day, you won't be everyones cup of tea.
oh right, I'm very aware that I wont know what's current in "yoofspeak" it took me months to work out afaik "
Uhhh ... What's afaik ?! |
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"Op you are both very young, much younger than most of us who have answered you. It occurred to me this morning that it could be that we aren't the best people to advise you, we aren't familiar with a lot of the phrases and vernacular that you use and someone of your age might be.
You will have learned though that rudeness, sarcasm and bitterness have no age limits and that I am sorry for.
I am young-ish - I don't understand their profile, I can't read it because there's no punctuation... (Well that's a lie, yes I can, but I can't be bothered to attempt to separate sentences, try and work out what the words are supposed to be... Etc etc).
You could use a dictionary? If you are struggling with punctuation, read your profile out loud, put a comma every time you feel the need to pause or breath. This might help a little. Put a full stop once you feel you've communicated to message you want. Then move on to your next sentence.
Your pictures aren't massively appealing, and are very 'samey'. Pick the best ones, and have those, then take some sexier ones?
Hope this helps. But at the end of the day, you won't be everyones cup of tea.
oh right, I'm very aware that I wont know what's current in "yoofspeak" it took me months to work out afaik
Uhhh ... What's afaik ?! "
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"Op you are both very young, much younger than most of us who have answered you. It occurred to me this morning that it could be that we aren't the best people to advise you, we aren't familiar with a lot of the phrases and vernacular that you use and someone of your age might be.
You will have learned though that rudeness, sarcasm and bitterness have no age limits and that I am sorry for.
I am young-ish - I don't understand their profile, I can't read it because there's no punctuation... (Well that's a lie, yes I can, but I can't be bothered to attempt to separate sentences, try and work out what the words are supposed to be... Etc etc).
You could use a dictionary? If you are struggling with punctuation, read your profile out loud, put a comma every time you feel the need to pause or breath. This might help a little. Put a full stop once you feel you've communicated to message you want. Then move on to your next sentence.
Your pictures aren't massively appealing, and are very 'samey'. Pick the best ones, and have those, then take some sexier ones?
Hope this helps. But at the end of the day, you won't be everyones cup of tea.
oh right, I'm very aware that I wont know what's current in "yoofspeak" it took me months to work out afaik
Uhhh ... What's afaik ?! "
As Far As I know |
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I'm sorry but for me everything about your profile screams immaturity which is something nobody can teach you to overcome, for that reason alone I wouldn't want to talk to either of you.
Remove all of your pictures and start again. If you only remove one remove the one of you smoking a joint.
420 plus you both being smokers tells me you both smoke which for a LOT of people will be off putting.
Go back to Facebook, you're way over your heads here guys. |
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"I'm sorry but for me everything about your profile screams immaturity which is something nobody can teach you to overcome, for that reason alone I wouldn't want to talk to either of you.
Remove all of your pictures and start again. If you only remove one remove the one of you smoking a joint.
420 plus you both being smokers tells me you both smoke which for a LOT of people will be off putting.
Go back to Facebook, you're way over your heads here guys."
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"We it new pics up Idk what to say on my wall and don't give a fuck but hop yall like the pics "
By not giving a fuck you won't get a fuck.
This site has real people, most of which are at the minimum semi-intelligent.
Swinging isn't just "I've got a dick let's fuck" it's (from what I've seen) more about the social aspect and having fun, I don't mean "fun" I mean having a good time, sex is the by-product.
If you don't seem like you could hold a conversation and make for pleasant company (you don't by the way) then you're probably limited to horny single guys who don't care what happens as long as they get to fuck someone. |
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"And that, like just about everything else you've written, makes no sense at all!
I understood it.
Yes it's been said. I live in the USA. "
I'm not saying that I didn't understand the written words, I'm saying that I didn't understand the reasoning behind them. I haven't seen too many profiles where their location has been another continent because it's been said they live there! |
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Oh yeah nearly forgot, on your profile you state you only want to meet single bi women for threesomes.
That's like trying to catch a unicorn with a diamond encrusted golden fishing rod using rocking horse shit as bait.
I'll dumb it down for you, very unlikely. |
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"And that, like just about everything else you've written, makes no sense at all!
I understood it.
Yes it's been said. I live in the USA.
I'm not saying that I didn't understand the written words, I'm saying that I didn't understand the reasoning behind them. I haven't seen too many profiles where their location has been another continent because it's been said they live there!"
Now it's my turn to not understand.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Op you are both very young, much younger than most of us who have answered you. It occurred to me this morning that it could be that we aren't the best people to advise you, we aren't familiar with a lot of the phrases and vernacular that you use and someone of your age might be.
You will have learned though that rudeness, sarcasm and bitterness have no age limits and that I am sorry for."
Whilst I know people get sick of seeing the same mistakes again and again I have to agree with this post. |
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By *essysteveCouple
over a year ago
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"Idk how to git what we won't and y is it so hard to play and what can we do to improve our profile " -
you really need to let us understand what you are looking for - we cannot understand many of the words that you use - so perhaps get a friend who is a little better at spelling to write it for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What is the significance of 420 in the username?
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Generally 420 refers to cannabis.
silly me! I thinking it was just a number
learn something new everyday as they say thanks for the reply"
I'm glad someone else asked, I didn't know either.
I also learnt AFAIK.
Every day's a school day here isn't it.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok well We change the pic and me and my hubby tryed three ways befor with just guys and just girls I did not like the outher man and it made me fill weard and pulse I have a man and a dick I love I just won't pussy to and he better be lucky iam like that "
Not to be funny but is English the first language for either of you?
Try a spell checker English is not a language that you can spell phonetically. |
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"Op you are both very young, much younger than most of us who have answered you. It occurred to me this morning that it could be that we aren't the best people to advise you, we aren't familiar with a lot of the phrases and vernacular that you use and someone of your age might be.
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It's nothing to do with age lol.
What they've written makes perfect sense (aside from typos) if you sound it out phonetically.
You mostly see this with recent African immigrants who are trying to write English as it sounds but English is a weird language where that doesn't work. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What is the significance of 420 in the username?
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Generally 420 refers to cannabis.
silly me! I thinking it was just a number
learn something new everyday as they say thanks for the reply"
No problem |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wow! Just Wow! For some people here who are part of a scene, where outside people could be incredibly critical and judgemental of what you do for a past time, you are quite critical, judgemental, and down right rude yourselves! (This is aimed at that fraction of those who have responded to the OP on here in what can only be described as shockingly poor!)
It's quite clear that for those people, the sense of community and the real essence of swinging is quite lost!
For sure, we all have our likes, dislikes and preferences, but to be completely and openly critical and judgemental towards people who are only seeking support, help and guidance, you should be bloody ashamed of yourselves, because quite frankly it's nothing less than bullying.
For those who responded with non judgemental constructive criticism, we applaud you and YOUR sense of community and simple decency!
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"Wow! Just Wow! For some people here who are part of a scene, where outside people could be incredibly critical and judgemental of what you do for a past time, you are quite critical, judgemental, and down right rude yourselves! (This is aimed at that fraction of those who have responded to the OP on here in what can only be described as shockingly poor!)
It's quite clear that for those people, the sense of community and the real essence of swinging is quite lost!
For sure, we all have our likes, dislikes and preferences, but to be completely and openly critical and judgemental towards people who are only seeking support, help and guidance, you should be bloody ashamed of yourselves, because quite frankly it's nothing less than bullying.
For those who responded with non judgemental constructive criticism, we applaud you and YOUR sense of community and simple decency!
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"Ok well We change the pic and me and my hubby tryed three ways befor with just guys and just girls I did not like the outher man and it made me fill weard and pulse I have a man and a dick I love I just won't pussy to and he better be lucky iam like that
Not to be funny but is English the first language for either of you?
Try a spell checker English is not a language that you can spell phonetically." yes born and raised in the USA we both wher |
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They've updated it now and the text MUCH MUCH better, and the pics now pretty good, at least the public ones, don't know what's in the friends-only ones.
Well done you two for taking on board the advice, and hope you now get some good meets over there in the US of A.
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"Wow! Just Wow! For some people here who are part of a scene, where outside people could be incredibly critical and judgemental of what you do for a past time, you are quite critical, judgemental, and down right rude yourselves! (This is aimed at that fraction of those who have responded to the OP on here in what can only be described as shockingly poor!)
It's quite clear that for those people, the sense of community and the real essence of swinging is quite lost!
For sure, we all have our likes, dislikes and preferences, but to be completely and openly critical and judgemental towards people who are only seeking support, help and guidance, you should be bloody ashamed of yourselves, because quite frankly it's nothing less than bullying.
For those who responded with non judgemental constructive criticism, we applaud you and YOUR sense of community and simple decency!
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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago
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Yeah, try to ignore the horrible comments. Although Fab covers America, it does appear to be very UK focused, so as well as having a Fab profile, you might want to think about using more than 1 site.
You have added a couple of photos over the last few days, but the one on the bed doesn't even have a sheet or bedding on it so it might be off putting to some people. Try to prepare a little before taking some sexy photos.
I hope that helps, good luck |
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"Yeah, try to ignore the horrible comments. Although Fab covers America, it does appear to be very UK focused, so as well as having a Fab profile, you might want to think about using more than 1 site.
You have added a couple of photos over the last few days, but the one on the bed doesn't even have a sheet or bedding on it so it might be off putting to some people. Try to prepare a little before taking some sexy photos.
I hope that helps, good luck " Ok we will and if u won't to see what's in the friends only just send a request any one can and thanks for all the positive advice |
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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago
Cardiff |
I cant add to it because I'm not you so I don't know you personally but how about something like this?
"WE ARE LOOKING FOR WOMEN ONLY, WE DO NOT SWAP.
My wife and I are looking for 3 ways. My wife is bisexual so we are looking for ladies to join us.
We are down to earth and want to try new things. We are fun and outgoing and we know how to please others. Yes, we are young, but we do have a lot to offer. We can't travel but we are happy to accommodate.
If your looking for that get in touch."
You may want to add what it is you have to offer though.
Hope that helps |
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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago
Cardiff |
I've just looked through your photos. Please don't take offence at this but your bedroom pictures need to be a *lot* better as they look like you're squatters! That will put people off immediately!
If you want people to come to you and have fun then you are going to need to offer better than what look like filthy pillows and an unmade bed! Your photos don't say sexy they scream dirty, and not in a good way. If that attracts you to someone's home to have sex then great for you but I can assure you that it will turn pretty much everyone else away |
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Sorry for that we have all that we are giting new things we just are in the process of moving and are bed is most of the time made but I'm moving tommrow and every thing is packed up we will post new pics and no offense token |
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"I cant add to it because I'm not you so I don't know you personally but how about something like this?
"WE ARE LOOKING FOR WOMEN ONLY, WE DO NOT SWAP.
My wife and I are looking for 3 ways. My wife is bisexual so we are looking for ladies to join us.
We are down to earth and want to try new things. We are fun and outgoing and we know how to please others. Yes, we are young, but we do have a lot to offer. We can't travel but we are happy to accommodate.
If your looking for that get in touch."
You may want to add what it is you have to offer though.
Hope that helps " I will just copy and paste lol but true |
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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Sorry for that we have all that we are giting new things we just are in the process of moving and are bed is most of the time made but I'm moving tommrow and every thing is packed up we will post new pics and no offense token "
I would remove the photos and just wait till you have some better ones. Take a look at the site's most fabbed photos for inspiration as to what people think looks good and see if it works for you too?
You'll get there, it just takes a bit of work to sell yourself when you have loads of competition on sites as big as this |
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"Wow! Just Wow! For some people here who are part of a scene, where outside people could be incredibly critical and judgemental of what you do for a past time, you are quite critical, judgemental, and down right rude yourselves! (This is aimed at that fraction of those who have responded to the OP on here in what can only be described as shockingly poor!)
It's quite clear that for those people, the sense of community and the real essence of swinging is quite lost!
For sure, we all have our likes, dislikes and preferences, but to be completely and openly critical and judgemental towards people who are only seeking support, help and guidance, you should be bloody ashamed of yourselves, because quite frankly it's nothing less than bullying.
For those who responded with non judgemental constructive criticism, we applaud you and YOUR sense of community and simple decency!
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""we are looking to play any one won't to play with us""
Put WANT instead of WON'T.
WON'T is short for "WILL NOT", so it reads as if you're looking for someone who WILL NOT play with you duh!
WANT means you REQUIRE something. |
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"Ok we will and if u won't (*WANT*) to see what's in the friends only just send a request any one can and thanks for all the positive advice "
Tried to take up your offer to view your friends only pics, but I'm blocked from asking you by your preferences. |
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"Ok we will and if u won't (*WANT*) to see what's in the friends only just send a request any one can and thanks for all the positive advice
Tried to take up your offer to view your friends only pics, but I'm blocked from asking you by your preferences. " u are in blocked |
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"u are in blocked"
You have males blocked, and the only way to unblock individually is for you to send me a message, then FabS unblocks so I can reply. To see your friends pics you'd have to invite me as a friend anyway.
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By *onyneMan
over a year ago
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Regrdless of what has been said here, this couple have continuously been polite in thanking people for advice.
We should be wishing them well [and of course offering constructive criticism] but there is a fair amount of taking the piss going on, despite the mentioning that they agree they aren't good at spelling. It really is unnecessary.
Just my view.
Good luck to you both. |
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over a year ago
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Take some pics with you in some sexy lingerie/stockings & heels try to relax while taking them. good lighting helps to enhance to quality of pic and smiling is good.. feel free to have a look at our profile pic. hope this helps & good luck..x |
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"Regrdless of what has been said here, this couple have continuously been polite in thanking people for advice.
We should be wishing them well [and of course offering constructive criticism] but there is a fair amount of taking the piss going on, despite the mentioning that they agree they aren't good at spelling. It really is unnecessary.
Just my view.
Good luck to you both." thank you |
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"Take some pics with you in some sexy lingerie/stockings & heels try to relax while taking them. good lighting helps to enhance to quality of pic and smiling is good.. feel free to have a look at our profile pic. hope this helps & good luck..x " Will do after we move |
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