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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Um, ok some advice needed. serious that is if possible please.
Ive mentioned before in various related threads about ffm and its in my profile. Me and my fb would like a ffm and well, we almost got there regarding this but things went pearshaped. I had got my head round being in the same room as a female and her possibly touching me too, to the point where I felt attracted to the female. Ive got bi-curious on my profile now because we would like this to happen and I dont mind the possibility of being touched either. Ive browsed and cant find anyone thats local really. Ive messaged a few on and off, no interest or no reply, just thought maybe id post in here for a bit of advice, hopefully from females but advice from everybody is a good thing. Thank you  |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
I would never meet a couple from a singles profile, so would not entertain a FFM from a solo profile of either sex. I like to see both people to judge if there is a level of attraction prior to chat.
Perhaps you will find it less of a challenge when you have that, so females can see both of you.
I would also be very wary of some of the ways you describe being open to the "possibility of being touched" to me that sounds very much like you are doing it for your male friends sake and just putting up with another female touching - its not really an appealing offer, and does sound a bit like you are very unsure - which would be a huge red flag for me.
Good luck with your search |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Weve found some bi fems prefer not to meet curious women as they want the woman they're playing with to be as keen as they are and don't want to 'teach' as such. Obviously everyone has different preferences though.
Keep searching, I'm sure you'll find the right fem eventually, it just might take some more work & sending more messages out xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would never meet a couple from a singles profile, so would not entertain a FFM from a solo profile of either sex. I like to see both people to judge if there is a level of attraction prior to chat.
Perhaps you will find it less of a challenge when you have that, so females can see both of you.
I would also be very wary of some of the ways you describe being open to the "possibility of being touched" to me that sounds very much like you are doing it for your male friends sake and just putting up with another female touching - its not really an appealing offer, and does sound a bit like you are very unsure - which would be a huge red flag for me.
Good luck with your search"
I understand that. we will be having a couples profile as soon as possible but he has asked me to do the searching for us. Im not doing it for him but for us, I am a little nervous admittedly as being with a female in that situation would be a first for me and for him too. Thank you for your advice  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Weve found some bi fems prefer not to meet curious women as they want the woman they're playing with to be as keen as they are and don't want to 'teach' as such. Obviously everyone has different preferences though.
Keep searching, I'm sure you'll find the right fem eventually, it just might take some more work & sending more messages out xx"
I understand that,thank you. We had found a lady but its fizzled out. Wont say more on that subject. Ill start browsing again. Maybe I do need teaching, not sure on that one |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What advice do you need? Straight MFF exist. You don't have to be bi. "
Most of the profiles ive found matching our age etc, are bi-curious or bi-sexual. I guess I dont but the couple that did message me, they did imply they would want to touch me too . |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
"What advice do you need? Straight MFF exist. You don't have to be bi.
Most of the profiles ive found matching our age etc, are bi-curious or bi-sexual. I guess I dont but the couple that did message me, they did imply they would want to touch me too . "
It honestly sounds like you are unhappy with being touched by another woman (not saying that is wrong at all) but do not do something you feel uncomfortable with.
You can have a straight FFM - it just may take a little more looking... but personally, I'd rather spend time looking for what I want, than settle for something that makes me unhappy/uncomfortable and cannot be undone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What advice do you need? Straight MFF exist. You don't have to be bi.
Most of the profiles ive found matching our age etc, are bi-curious or bi-sexual. I guess I dont but the couple that did message me, they did imply they would want to touch me too .
It honestly sounds like you are unhappy with being touched by another woman (not saying that is wrong at all) but do not do something you feel uncomfortable with.
You can have a straight FFM - it just may take a little more looking... but personally, I'd rather spend time looking for what I want, than settle for something that makes me unhappy/uncomfortable and cannot be undone."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"What advice do you need? Straight MFF exist. You don't have to be bi.
Most of the profiles ive found matching our age etc, are bi-curious or bi-sexual. I guess I dont but the couple that did message me, they did imply they would want to touch me too .
It honestly sounds like you are unhappy with being touched by another woman (not saying that is wrong at all) but do not do something you feel uncomfortable with.
You can have a straight FFM - it just may take a little more looking... but personally, I'd rather spend time looking for what I want, than settle for something that makes me unhappy/uncomfortable and cannot be undone."
Yes you are right. Ill have to look harder for the straight ffm. we werent looking for the bi or bisexual ladies, thats what my search came up with. I hadnt thought of it to be honest. Thank you |
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By *eithoWoman
over a year ago
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I think if you're looking for a straight woman it's going to be more important to have a social with both of you there. I can't imagine a straight woman wanting to meet a couple, the male half of whom she's never met before? So maybe try to offer a social when your man is back? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think if you're looking for a straight woman it's going to be more important to have a social with both of you there. I can't imagine a straight woman wanting to meet a couple, the male half of whom she's never met before? So maybe try to offer a social when your man is back?"
He is back on Monday when I will be seeing him for a short time so I will talk to him about this. His work makes things a bit awkward at the moment too. Thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have met lots of bi curious ladies. As a girl who isn't bi curious (I am completely bi). It is added pressure on us cause if she decides it doesn't live up to what she wants then I will feel bad. you sound not bi curious the terms you are using as a girl I don't want someone who is comfortable with me in room and I might be able to touch them  .All the people in any situation mmf or ffm or any variation on these should go home feel it was a good experience well at least that's what I think. Straight ffm sounds like your best option and maybe not easy to find but better you are comfortable and happy than worried about a female touching you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why are you doing something thst is causing you so much angst. This all screams of 'doing it to please my man/using a single womans profile for a couple to get a bi female for his fantasy' Is any if this what you want?
Some people are straight so why not go for a straight FFM? You don't need a bi female just a female who wants to fuck your FB. This should all be on a couple profile so everybody knows where they stand. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why are you doing something thst is causing you so much angst. This all screams of 'doing it to please my man/using a single womans profile for a couple to get a bi female for his fantasy' Is any if this what you want?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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seems like your "man" is pulling all the strings to me. why dnt you meet ladies on your own to see how far you actually want to go?
oh and during your chat with your man why not bring up mmmf and ask him to send and reply? just a thought  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Um, ok some advice needed. serious that is if possible please.
Ive mentioned before in various related threads about ffm and its in my profile. Me and my fb would like a ffm and well, we almost got there regarding this but things went pearshaped. I had got my head round being in the same room as a female and her possibly touching me too, to the point where I felt attracted to the female. Ive got bi-curious on my profile now because we would like this to happen and I dont mind the possibility of being touched either. Ive browsed and cant find anyone thats local really. Ive messaged a few on and off, no interest or no reply, just thought maybe id post in here for a bit of advice, hopefully from females but advice from everybody is a good thing. Thank you "
Are you doing it for him or you? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"seems like your "man" is pulling all the strings to me. why dnt you meet ladies on your own to see how far you actually want to go?
oh and during your chat with your man why not bring up mmmf and ask him to send and reply? just a thought "
I was meant to be meeting a lady socially who I have had long chats with on here and Skype but her personal situation changed. It's not happening now |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Um, ok some advice needed. serious that is if possible please.
Ive mentioned before in various related threads about ffm and its in my profile. Me and my fb would like a ffm and well, we almost got there regarding this but things went pearshaped. I had got my head round being in the same room as a female and her possibly touching me too, to the point where I felt attracted to the female. Ive got bi-curious on my profile now because we would like this to happen and I dont mind the possibility of being touched either. Ive browsed and cant find anyone thats local really. Ive messaged a few on and off, no interest or no reply, just thought maybe id post in here for a bit of advice, hopefully from females but advice from everybody is a good thing. Thank you
Are you doing it for him or you?"
Doing it for us |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Why are you doing something thst is causing you so much angst. This all screams of 'doing it to please my man/using a single womans profile for a couple to get a bi female for his fantasy' Is any if this what you want?
Some people are straight so why not go for a straight FFM? You don't need a bi female just a female who wants to fuck your FB. This should all be on a couple profile so everybody knows where they stand. "
I did a search yesterday. Two females, one straight, one bisexual. We will be doing a couples profile |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Doing it for us "
Eek! Honestly, that really doesn't sound as if you're into this situation at all. I enjoy playing with bi-curious women, but they do have to be genuinely bi-curious.
I'd ask you to give some thought to the woman who might be joining you. Is it really fair on her?
Would you go out and look for a bi-fem on your own?
If not, then I think you're doing it for your fb and honestly, that's really shit for the other woman. Believe me, I know!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't really want to have sex with a woman who isn't sure if she wants me to touch her. Have you thought about not having axe with women?"
I'm not planning on having sex with another woman |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Doing it for us
Eek! Honestly, that really doesn't sound as if you're into this situation at all. I enjoy playing with bi-curious women, but they do have to be genuinely bi-curious.
I'd ask you to give some thought to the woman who might be joining you. Is it really fair on her?
Would you go out and look for a bi-fem on your own?
If not, then I think you're doing it for your fb and honestly, that's really shit for the other woman. Believe me, I know!
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I'm now looking for straight women
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Doing it for us
Eek! Honestly, that really doesn't sound as if you're into this situation at all. I enjoy playing with bi-curious women, but they do have to be genuinely bi-curious.
I'd ask you to give some thought to the woman who might be joining you. Is it really fair on her?
Would you go out and look for a bi-fem on your own?
If not, then I think you're doing it for your fb and honestly, that's really shit for the other woman. Believe me, I know!
I'm now looking for straight women
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Cool, that sounds much more like a successful plan! Good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Doing it for us
Eek! Honestly, that really doesn't sound as if you're into this situation at all. I enjoy playing with bi-curious women, but they do have to be genuinely bi-curious.
I'd ask you to give some thought to the woman who might be joining you. Is it really fair on her?
Would you go out and look for a bi-fem on your own?
If not, then I think you're doing it for your fb and honestly, that's really shit for the other woman. Believe me, I know!
I'm now looking for straight women
Cool, that sounds much more like a successful plan! Good luck. "
Thank you |
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