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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm always myself and respectful I'm really curious as to how to couples feel towards a first timer in regards to it being my first time ... I have had one experience of a social with a couple and was put under a bit of pressure to play but pics didn't match the profile and there was no spark there for me which is vital in my eyes ... I got some grief for not playing and labelled as timewasting which in my experience here is when you get let down |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So for me I'm thinking soft play would be the ideal first meet when I do click and arrange a meet with a couple ie maybe watch and join in ... Just from experience so far there seems a lot of pressure to jump straight in bed for fun |
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"I'm always myself and respectful I'm really curious as to how to couples feel towards a first timer in regards to it being my first time ... I have had one experience of a social with a couple and was put under a bit of pressure to play but pics didn't match the profile and there was no spark there for me which is vital in my eyes ... I got some grief for not playing and labelled as timewasting which in my experience here is when you get let down "
When you contact people explain how you would like things to move forward. It must be very difficult for a single to join a couple.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I will definitely do that moving forward I would also say it's very difficult for a single to find a couple that suits them ... I do totally understand the ratio of couples to singles and can only imagine how tedious it's is going through the mail from some singles ... It does spoil it for the genuine ones like me  |
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"I will definitely do that moving forward I would also say it's very difficult for a single to find a couple that suits them ... I do totally understand the ratio of couples to singles and can only imagine how tedious it's is going through the mail from some singles ... It does spoil it for the genuine ones like me "
I would argue with your last statement, decent, genuine men look better against the tedious ones. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've not really thought of it like that before to be fair ... Also to the couples reading this how does my profile come across ? I know ideally I would have face pics up but due to my past experience on here of my pictures being used for a fake profile I will not ever change that ... It was a horrible situation I will avoid repeating |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your profile reads okay and your (sole) photo is great. You don't have to post face photos - just send one with your first message - simple.
The big turn off for us would be that you say you are straight and yet you are looking for TV/TS's ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm looking for my first meet with a couple as I have always liked the idea of it ... Any tips or advice would be appreciated "
Find a non-pushy couple you click with and get lots of banter going before a meet, you can usually tell if you want to meet someone fairly quickly.
As for the meet - go with the flow, as long as everyone has discussed boundaries, scenarios etc and just enjoy |
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"I've not really thought of it like that before to be fair ... Also to the couples reading this how does my profile come across ? I know ideally I would have face pics up but due to my past experience on here of my pictures being used for a fake profile I will not ever change that ... It was a horrible situation I will avoid repeating "
I don't think face pictures are vital on a profile and you are happy to send them so that's fine. Your profile looks ok to me, I'm not sure what you mean by dipping in and out accordingly but that's just me.
Good luck, I hope you have many happy meets |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm looking for my first meet with a couple as I have always liked the idea of it ... Any tips or advice would be appreciated "
Aye...find a willing couple  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Well I'm hoping some genuine couples like yourselves get in touch and I can see how things go ... I'm grateful for the advice given ... Have any of you met a first timer before ? And what do you guys think of a soft first time meet ? ie watching with maybe a little interaction ... I do love the build up flirting eye contact banter ... I really love the spark with the right people and hope this works with couples |
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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago
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You don't appear to be photo verified - which is very easy to do. You are not showing any verifications not even the verification summary - which may add to your difficulty in getting meets.
Perhaps you should put in your profile the information you mention here about soft swap.
I know that clubs can be tough for single guys but we have played with at least one guy in an MFM threesome who hadn't done it before.
Also penetrative sex is not the be all and end all but what else can you offer. Are you (genuinely) good at oral sex etc. Think of your profile as your show window not just something to write so you can be on the site.
Best of luck.
Him |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just relax, take the time to understand their expectations and wants......also gives them a chance to understand yours.
If all clicks then all will flow nice and smoothly......and feel natural.
Good luck and enjoy...
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You don't appear to be photo verified - which is very easy to do. You are not showing any verifications not even the verification summary - which may add to your difficulty in getting meets.
Perhaps you should put in your profile the information you mention here about soft swap.
I know that clubs can be tough for single guys but we have played with at least one guy in an MFM threesome who hadn't done it before.
Also penetrative sex is not the be all and end all but what else can you offer. Are you (genuinely) good at oral sex etc. Think of your profile as your show window not just something to write so you can be on the site.
Best of luck.
Him"
This is really good advice. a guy who can write a good profile (not just one or two lines) and have actual details of what he is interested in (so, not just anything) always at least gets a second look from us. And photo verified is a must. -Courtney |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A lot of single guys we get messages from are seemingly just looking for a quick fuck. I'd love a soft swap Mmf ))"
Start with flirting...anticipation....what can.....what will......sensually kissed alternating between both guys...... Ill leave you to think about what would come next......
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"Well I'm hoping some genuine couples like yourselves get in touch and I can see how things go ... I'm grateful for the advice given ... Have any of you met a first timer before ? And what do you guys think of a soft first time meet ? ie watching with maybe a little interaction ... I do love the build up flirting eye contact banter ... I really love the spark with the right people and hope this works with couples"
What you are asking for wouldn't suit us, but I am guessing there must be someone about who it does suit.
If I am honest though, all the meets we have had before now have been people who say they had had MFM before which suited us.
If it is a first time for someone you might get stage fright and at the moment time for meets is scarce so we wouldn't take the chance.
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