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By *ndyehelen OP Couple over a year ago

stoke on trent

Seems virtually impossible to find a bi female to meet a couple why !!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We've met a few

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Seems virtually impossible to find a bi female to meet a couple why !!!

It's equally as difficult to meet a bi female 1-1! I won't give up though lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its difficult to meet just a couple lol. Hubby wants. Wifes oblivious to it all lol

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By *_PlayMan over a year ago

cardiff

I havnt met anyone. I can't even get my self verified!!! I'm silver member too, what a waste

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I havnt met anyone. I can't even get my self verified!!! I'm silver member too, what a waste"
you have only been on a week lol

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By *alandNitaCouple over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Seems virtually impossible to find a bi female to meet a couple why !!!

They're in such demand and often wary about couples where the lady wants to "play BI" to impress the husband.

It seems much easier to find single ladies in the clubs though.

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By *alandNitaCouple over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"I havnt met anyone. I can't even get my self verified!!! I'm silver member too, what a waste"

What !!! a "straight" guy looking for TV/TS who can't find anyone to meet them ? ... I don't believe it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They can pick and choose. Guess we got lucky

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We don't seem to have a problem! I guess if you chase them and thats the only thing you're looking for, they can smell your desperation a mile away

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"Seems virtually impossible to find a bi female to meet a couple why !!!

It's equally as difficult to meet a bi female 1-1! I won't give up though lol

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By *alandNitaCouple over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Personally, I find that if you play with other couples, you'll enjoy many different combinations of F's and M's..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Behind every or most single bi fems..or women is a man lurking in the background...and i did say most lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It is really hard to meet bi fems as they are a minority on this site, and therefore can afford to be very selective in who they even talk to.

I used to have a single fem profile and from my point of view your profile wouldn't interest me as it tells me nothing about you, what you can offer, or what you're expectations would be from a meet.

I know by clicking on the handy little green arrow that you've been offered that advice before though and you chose to ignore it. Have you attended any clubs or socials?

Juicy

Juicy x

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By *_PlayMan over a year ago

cardiff

It feels like months hahaaa! I'm just goin to leave my membership go then not bother lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Seems virtually impossible to find a bi female to meet a couple why !!!

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Plenty of couples with bi fems on here. But if you don't want to accept another male to the party then you are lowering your chances.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We have a lot of single bi female friends, we've really never had any problems finding them. We do tend to make first contact at parties, socials and clubs. Perhaps then they can see our dynamic and know that they'd like to take things further with us...We went to a local party not long ago with 4...Instead of _osie and the pussycats, it was Janey and the unicorns!

(I realise that I'm massively dating myself here...)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

lol that's right. Females are the hardest one to find. I been looking for half a decade

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Struggling to find a couple

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Change your way of approaching them here and you may be in for a chance, perhaps offer a social between the ladies for a start so they dont feel like she is put on the spot and can ask any questions had. We've had our fair share of mff and its because I became friends and met them and socialised first.

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman over a year ago

Deviant City

"It is really hard to meet bi fems as they are a minority on this site, and therefore can afford to be very selective in who they even talk to.

I used to have a single fem profile and from my point of view your profile wouldn't interest me as it tells me nothing about you, what you can offer, or what you're expectations would be from a meet.

I know by clicking on the handy little green arrow that you've been offered that advice before though and you chose to ignore it. Have you attended any clubs or socials?

Juicy

Juicy x"

just because I'm a single bi lady on here, doesn't mean I can "afford to be very selective". I'd still be choosy and selective, even if there was only 2 couples on here. I would rather go without, than to meet up just for the sake of it to please others

Same goes for men and other single ladies.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

I have only ever once found a couple where im attracted to them both equally enough to meet them for FFM play

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By *ruitWoman over a year ago

near kings lynn

I am a single bi fem with no man hiding in the background.

I have met loads of single bi fems or unicorns to use a good phrase. If you go to clubs and socials they are everywhere.

I haven't looked at your profile or preferences but single ladies can get alot of messages.Are you appealing to them? I have no idea without viewing your profile.

You have to look for them. They won't jump into your lap...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Behind every or most single bi fems..or women is a man lurking in the background...and i did say most lol

I'm glad you said most; there's no man lurking here lol!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No sympathy for any 'we can't find what we are looking for...'

No one ever posts a ' we are not very good at looking are we....' Posts.

What we can say with say with some certainty is that you have not been to socials, club nights, or parties, or holidays like cap d agde or even out in your nearest city centre on a Saturday night. If you had been you wouldn't be posting where are all the bi females. You most likely have been looking on line at profiles and getting nowhere.

We are thinking of starting a single bi female national lottery, think of all those ticket sales...

Get out, meet people, chat, flirt, and who knows where you might end up....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Behind every or most single bi fems..or women is a man lurking in the background...and i did say most lol

no 1 lurking behind me! single bi fem here! im not interested in bi curious women in a couple, some will be genuinely wanting fem on fem play, but I wouldn't want to play with a woman only doing it for hubby.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Many of the women I have met are (well say they are) in fact bi. A few I know for sure are, from personal knowledge. Overall there seem to be more bi women and f half of couples than straight ones....?

Would not have thought it would be that hard?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I havnt met anyone. I can't even get my self verified!!! I'm silver member too, what a waste"

OH NO! You mean you've paid a whole fiver for 60 days membership and got no shag yet? That's dreadful! I'd demand a refund if I were you!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Behind every or most single bi fems..or women is a man lurking in the background...and i did say most lol

So you would be happy to meet a straight couple and the man fuck you to make his mrs happy though?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I havnt met anyone. I can't even get my self verified!!! I'm silver member too, what a waste

OH NO! You mean you've paid a whole fiver for 60 days membership and got no shag yet? That's dreadful! I'd demand a refund if I were you!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I havnt met anyone. I can't even get my self verified!!! I'm silver member too, what a waste

OH NO! You mean you've paid a whole fiver for 60 days membership and got no shag yet? That's dreadful! I'd demand a refund if I were you!!

wow can you actually get a refund I'm owed a canny few fivers then.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Behind every or most single bi fems..or women is a man lurking in the background...and i did say most lol

So you would be happy to meet a straight couple and the man fuck you to make his mrs happy though?"

no, wouldn't meet a couple with a straight fem, if no fem play, I may aswell meet a single guy,

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By *oobsandballsMan over a year ago

st andrews

We'd love to meet a bi fem for regular fun, with me alone and with him, but I understand why they're wary.

Have enjoyed a few couples meets where the lady is bi though, fantastic couple this weekend

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

it seems as though no single females find me boo hoo

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find it easier to meet couples at clubs and partys

I like to see in flesh and be spontaneous after chatting . haven't met a couple from fab chat in over a year

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By *ilmisscantbewrongWoman over a year ago

Sleaford

I am a single bi-female and I have met a few couples from this site but most of them I met at a club first.

Some like to say SBF are "picky" but no more so than anyone else. There has to be some form of sexual attraction there and more importantly for me I need to feel comfortable and safe.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm a "unicorn" (learned that today!) No man hiding behind me, nobody pressuring me to do anything I don't want.

Maybe it's the way you approach them?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Took my wife and I 3 years to find the first elusive unicorn. Then met 3 others in the following 3 months. As others have said we have seen plenty of single bifems at chams so they are out there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Finding it interesting that because the OP is a MF couple people are actually responding with constructive advise, yet if a single male had posted this thread (after already choosing to ignore previous advice on another thread) then I highly doubt he'd be getting such a friendly response!?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm a bi female but have got fed up with mail from so called couples especially when it's the male doing all the messaging , when I ask to speak to the female I get "oh she's gone shopping or she's asleep lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a "unicorn" (learned that today!) No man hiding behind me, nobody pressuring me to do anything I don't want.

Maybe it's the way you approach them? "

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

"I'm a bi female but have got fed up with mail from so called couples especially when it's the male doing all the messaging , when I ask to speak to the female I get "oh she's gone shopping or she's asleep lol "

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By *ndyehelen OP Couple over a year ago

stoke on trent

We aren't that bothered about clubs. We would prefer to play in our home or there home. We aren't very good at selling ourselves really we would appreciate some help if possible.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We aren't that bothered about clubs. We would prefer to play in our home or there home. We aren't very good at selling ourselves really we would appreciate some help if possible."

You may have to go to a club to find what you're looking for so don't rule them out yet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Believe it or not, it's just as difficult for a single bi fem to find a couple to play with.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Believe it or not, it's just as difficult for a single bi fem to find a couple to play with.

Agree!

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By *hortieWoman over a year ago

Northampton

"Seems virtually impossible to find a bi female to meet a couple why !!!

It's equally as difficult to meet a bi female 1-1! I won't give up though lol

Meeting anyone in Dover on here is hard enough (and yes I do know, cause its my home town

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Finding it interesting that because the OP is a MF couple people are actually responding with constructive advise, yet if a single male had posted this thread (after already choosing to ignore previous advice on another thread) then I highly doubt he'd be getting such a friendly response!?!"

Spot on.

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By *uzzy NavelWoman over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

I think it's all about networking and luck.

I've found lots of ladies to play, perhaps im just lucky...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It says you're looking to meet regularly, but doesn't really say what you have to offer a bisexual woman. Are you looking for a relationship or a fuck buddy or someone just to call up when you want sexy times?

Also, the beginning of your profile about how wonderful and happy you are together as a couple - that would put me off. Couple privilege is a real thing when you're playing with single people, and I don't need to have my face rubbed in it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We aren't that bothered about clubs. We would prefer to play in our home or there home. We aren't very good at selling ourselves really we would appreciate some help if possible."

So your wish list scenario is, that you find a single bi fem on this site, she is interested in you, she gets in a car and drives to your house, a strangers house found on the inherent and comes into that house, you all progress and end up in a situation where you all have the type of sex you want, she dresses, leaves and drives home.

The advice we would give is reflect on your requirements, think about the reality of your expectations, and consider modifying them to include firstly the wants and needs of the single bi fem you are looking for and secondly the reality of turning your fantasy into reality.

Is the reality achievable ? Possibly, but you probably need to accept you will have to go to places to meet the girls you are looking for.

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By *randnew23sumsCouple over a year ago

Lancashire

We've been on here a few years and have met 3 single bi females. We're happy to meet couples now as well but wont just meet up with anyone. There has to be an attraction for us!

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By *dwalu2Couple over a year ago

Bristol

"So your wish list scenario is, that you find a single bi fem on this site, she is interested in you, she gets in a car and drives to your house, a strangers house found on the inherent and comes into that house, you all progress and end up in a situation where you all have the type of sex you want, she dresses, leaves and drives home.

We have had ladies who we met on Fab come to ours and do exactly this, and a fine time was had by all. It's not impossible. The houses of couples on Fab are not places of inherent risk for single females by default.

With good, open honest communication and mutual attraction between all involved, things can often work out very nicely.

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

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The houses of couples on Fab are not places of inherent risk for single females by default.

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If the home of a single male is risky for a single woman, then the home of a couple is twice as risky for a single woman

Signed: Fred & Rosemary West

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some like to say SBF are "picky" but no more so than anyone else. There has to be some form of sexual attraction there and more importantly for me I need to feel comfortable and safe.

this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

With good, open honest communication and mutual attraction between all involved, things can often work out very nicely."
can i watch? Please

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

.....

The houses of couples on Fab are not places of inherent risk for single females by default.

.....

If the home of a single male is risky for a single woman, then the home of a couple is twice as risky for a single woman

Signed: Fred & Rosemary West"
giggidy

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By *trawberry-popWoman over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

Fuck me, everyone's a bit 'woe is me'. The site's what you make it. If people don't want to meet you there's probably a reason!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Single bi fems have the pick of the site, fit attractive couples in their twenties will struggle so maybe you need to look elsewhere, go to clubs, look for couples with a bi fem

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By *dwalu2Couple over a year ago

Bristol

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The houses of couples on Fab are not places of inherent risk for single females by default.

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If the home of a single male is risky for a single woman, then the home of a couple is twice as risky for a single woman

Signed: Fred & Rosemary West"

What strange maths! What if the single man is paraplegic, and the woman is Cyntha Rothrock? Does the equation still hold?

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

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The houses of couples on Fab are not places of inherent risk for single females by default.

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If the home of a single male is risky for a single woman, then the home of a couple is twice as risky for a single woman

Signed: Fred & Rosemary West

What strange maths! What if the single man is paraplegic, and the woman is Cyntha Rothrock? Does the equation still hold?"

Then you meet him

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fuck me, everyone's a bit 'woe is me'. The site's what you make it. If people don't want to meet you there's probably a reason! "
hygiene ?

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"We aren't that bothered about clubs. We would prefer to play in our home or there home. We aren't very good at selling ourselves really we would appreciate some help if possible."

nope..... in the nicest way

who knows you both better than you both!!

if you can't sell yourselves... thats no having a "bi woman" problem... thats a "You" issue.....

so give people a reason as to why they should pick you guys over all the countless other couples out there..... whats your selling point?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

.....

The houses of couples on Fab are not places of inherent risk for single females by default.

.....

If the home of a single male is risky for a single woman, then the home of a couple is twice as risky for a single woman

Signed: Fred & Rosemary West"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

patience is a massive virtue on here if you want to find what you are looking for. going to socials, clubs etc will help.

you need to put yourself out there and not discount anything, embrace new experiences and have fun.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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The houses of couples on Fab are not places of inherent risk for single females by default.

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If the home of a single male is risky for a single woman, then the home of a couple is twice as risky for a single woman

Signed: Fred & Rosemary West

Must admit I think couples (and males) are far more likely to find what they want at clubs and parties! Many people no longer trust profile pics etc as so many are old/misleading/unduly flattering/completely false - and it's difficult to put ones personality across in texts! I've played with couples (in a limited capacity with the fem) at clubs and parties several times - but I would never risk meeting a couple at their home if I didn't know them well! Xx

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By *ndyehelen OP Couple over a year ago

stoke on trent

We have changed our profile have a look and see what everyone thinks. We arent very good at writing these things any advise would be appreciated. Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We have changed our profile have a look and see what everyone thinks. We arent very good at writing these things any advise would be appreciated. Thank you

Looks fine - but might be worth mentioning that you'd be happy to meet for drinks socially at first. X

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

"We have changed our profile have a look and see what everyone thinks. We arent very good at writing these things any advise would be appreciated. Thank you

Looks good now; xxx

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By *aydeesclubCouple over a year ago

Bedfordshire

Hi if you ever make it over this way we are having our first Ladies night, this will be for couples and single ladies only (no single guys) as we have had quite a few people mention the same problem of meeting bi sexual and bi curious ladies. This will be on the 4th Friday of every month.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Standard answer seems to be... go to clubs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi if you ever make it over this way we are having our first Ladies night, this will be for couples and single ladies only (no single guys) as we have had quite a few people mention the same problem of meeting bi sexual and bi curious ladies. This will be on the 4th Friday of every month.

Will you only be allowing bisexual women? How will you check that straight women aren't getting in?

Will you be checking if the women in the couple is bisexual too in order to make us bisexual women feel like we're nor being used like performing seals?

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By *unkydesignCouple over a year ago

Manchester

As with most replies on here we repeat the line "go to clubs". We've had a couple of meets from the site but far more by meeting in the flesh. Probably because T isn't as ugly as his photos on here suggest

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