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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think we have ever told anyone that. We just avoid doing so.
Eventually I think people realise although we have rarely met people for repeat fun x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you really need to be specific about your reason for not meeting again?
Perhaps saying something like 'on reflection I don't feel that we're really that well suited' would be kinder?"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yeah one guy i told him i didn't want to see him again, only because he brought up that he wanted to see me again and i said i didn't want to.
Idk why but one guy thinks we're really well suited and although i don't dislike him as a person i just don't enjoy sex with him that much and i can't put up a meet without him messaging me every time so gonna have to tell him. The other doesn't moither as much but i'd rather fuck him off as well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah one guy i told him i didn't want to see him again, only because he brought up that he wanted to see me again and i said i didn't want to.
Idk why but one guy thinks we're really well suited and although i don't dislike him as a person i just don't enjoy sex with him that much and i can't put up a meet without him messaging me every time so gonna have to tell him. The other doesn't moither as much but i'd rather fuck him off as well."
Just.tell them you prefer not to meet the same person to often x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you really need to be specific about your reason for not meeting again?
Perhaps saying something like 'on reflection I don't feel that we're really that well suited' would be kinder?"
Agree. I've done this once or twice. Still felt awful though!
When one did ask why, I bit the bullet and just told him he didn't do it for me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yeah one guy i told him i didn't want to see him again, only because he brought up that he wanted to see me again and i said i didn't want to.
Idk why but one guy thinks we're really well suited and although i don't dislike him as a person i just don't enjoy sex with him that much and i can't put up a meet without him messaging me every time so gonna have to tell him. The other doesn't moither as much but i'd rather fuck him off as well.
Just.tell them you prefer not to meet the same person to often x"
Gonna go with this thanks. If they pressure me for more info or still ask me to meet then i'll tell them why. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just say that you need some type of connection when you are having sex and although the sex was good, it lacked the connection you crave. Tell him the sex was great but it's an emotional thing.
His feelings aren't hurt and you don't feel awful either, win-win. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"its not you...it's me!  "
Well yeah it is me because they're happy to see me again and i don't want to. 
Not gonna lie and say they were good in bed lol, to the person above. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You never know...you might be doing them a favour by telling them....they may feel the same "
I'd imagine if this was the case it wouldn't be an issue as neither person would be bothering the other one asking to meet again! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"LMAO just be honest at the end of the day all this pussy footing around.
You either had chemistry or not..
Some you fabbers are D minus. x"
One guy is really nice, i just feel bad about telling him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If they were nice people but just crap sex and you don't want to hurt their feelings just tell them that as a rule you don't sleep with people more than once, say it avoids you developing feelings for them is less complicated.
If I don't like something about someone I always let them them think the fault is with me, I'll make myself sound bat shit crazy or weird so they don't think there was anything wrong with them, just me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ignore the mistakes littered through that post, I'm tired!"
Didn't notice any mistakes, i must be just as tired. 
Think i'll go with the looking insane, i can do that no problem. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ignore the mistakes littered through that post, I'm tired!
Didn't notice any mistakes, i must be just as tired.
Think i'll go with the looking insane, i can do that no problem."
Much easier and kinder to make yourself look like the problem. I've used excuses like not being over an ex, not wanting to get attached so it's best it's kept as a one off, that sort of bollocks! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ignore the mistakes littered through that post, I'm tired!
Didn't notice any mistakes, i must be just as tired.
Think i'll go with the looking insane, i can do that no problem.
Much easier and kinder to make yourself look like the problem. I've used excuses like not being over an ex, not wanting to get attached so it's best it's kept as a one off, that sort of bollocks! "
That's actually true a bit for me anyway so i wouldn't be lying. The not being over my ex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think women got more of the say whether or not it should be more fucks. I am sure all men want one regular lol "
You can see it on most verifications from blokes, 'best fuck of my life, she was the nuts' then always end with 'can't wait to meet again or hope to see you soon' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think women got more of the say whether or not it should be more fucks. I am sure all men want one regular lol
You can see it on most verifications from blokes, 'best fuck of my life, she was the nuts' then always end with 'can't wait to meet again or hope to see you soon' "
lol yes, that's a good one and your right there, so then they never show up again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think women got more of the say whether or not it should be more fucks. I am sure all men want one regular lol
You can see it on most verifications from blokes, 'best fuck of my life, she was the nuts' then always end with 'can't wait to meet again or hope to see you soon' "
Spot on and ever notice there is no second verification.
LMAO says it all really.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ive gOT the same prob liked shagging hIm but his cum twasted funny but his askin why I won't meet n I don't wanna offend him  "
you could just say you don't like anyone cumming in your mouth and you're up for meeting but not doing that? can even make up some excuse like your gums bleed or something.
i'm good at making excuses when on the spot, just not when i over think stuff. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honesty is probably the best policy. If it was me, I'd prefer that. Although perhaps not *too* honest...
As in, "Thanks for the offer(s) but I'd prefer not to/Don't take this as an insult but you're really not for me..."
As opposed to, say, "I'd rather watch paint dry."
That said the overall impact would probably be about the same :D |
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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago
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Think we've all been there.... We met a couple in a club some time ago and played basically cause there was no bugger else about and they kinda pounced on us in a room. Normally wouldn't have touched em with a bargepole! Now they keep pestering to meet us again and can't post a meet without them pouncing on it!
Whatsmore, can't block them as we want to be able to keep an eye on what club they'll be in so we know to avoid it!! Lol
I've used all kinds of excuses in the past though, even told one I wasn't playing with him cause i had thrush!?
Although I will just add that my current status is true, I am getting over a minor op lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Think we've all been there.... We met a couple in a club some time ago and played basically cause there was no bugger else about and they kinda pounced on us in a room. Normally wouldn't have touched em with a bargepole! Now they keep pestering to meet us again and can't post a meet without them pouncing on it!
Whatsmore, can't block them as we want to be able to keep an eye on what club they'll be in so we know to avoid it!! Lol
I've used all kinds of excuses in the past though, even told one I wasn't playing with him cause i had thrush!?
Although I will just add that my current status is true, I am getting over a minor op lol"
I'm curious as to why you would play with people you say you wouldn't normally touch with a barge pole? I'd rather go without than play with people I'm not into. Maybe if they read this they'll know not to bother you again! |
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By *ouble CCouple
over a year ago
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"How do you tell people you don't want to meet them again because you didn't enjoy fucking them?"
I had this problem early on too. Just didn't 'click' plus he was a chain smoker and I felt queasy after inhaling in 20 fags. Blurgh! He kept sending messages and being needy, 'did u like my sex?' 'Did u fancy me?' Etc etc. In the end I just told him he was nice and I did enjoy the sex but as he was a bit far away I couldn't see it going any further than that one time. He wasn't happy and I got a snotty message back but hey.
Just be honest, I'm sure eventually he will appreciate it. Miss C. Xx |
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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago
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"Think we've all been there.... We met a couple in a club some time ago and played basically cause there was no bugger else about and they kinda pounced on us in a room. Normally wouldn't have touched em with a bargepole! Now they keep pestering to meet us again and can't post a meet without them pouncing on it!
Whatsmore, can't block them as we want to be able to keep an eye on what club they'll be in so we know to avoid it!! Lol
I've used all kinds of excuses in the past though, even told one I wasn't playing with him cause i had thrush!?
Although I will just add that my current status is true, I am getting over a minor op lol
I'm curious as to why you would play with people you say you wouldn't normally touch with a barge pole? I'd rather go without than play with people I'm not into. Maybe if they read this they'll know not to bother you again!"
We were already playing and completely in the zone when they came in the room..... I wasn't even aware they'd walked in when the next thing I knew I was being licked out (and it felt GOOD!!) as i was lay sucking my fella. Didn't want that pleasure to stop so it kinda carried on from there really. It's funny how realisation of WHO hits you though when the fun ends  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Think we've all been there.... We met a couple in a club some time ago and played basically cause there was no bugger else about and they kinda pounced on us in a room. Normally wouldn't have touched em with a bargepole! Now they keep pestering to meet us again and can't post a meet without them pouncing on it!
Whatsmore, can't block them as we want to be able to keep an eye on what club they'll be in so we know to avoid it!! Lol
I've used all kinds of excuses in the past though, even told one I wasn't playing with him cause i had thrush!?
Although I will just add that my current status is true, I am getting over a minor op lol
I'm curious as to why you would play with people you say you wouldn't normally touch with a barge pole? I'd rather go without than play with people I'm not into. Maybe if they read this they'll know not to bother you again!
We were already playing and completely in the zone when they came in the room..... I wasn't even aware they'd walked in when the next thing I knew I was being licked out (and it felt GOOD!!) as i was lay sucking my fella. Didn't want that pleasure to stop so it kinda carried on from there really. It's funny how realisation of WHO hits you though when the fun ends "
Please excuse my ignorance but is it not the done thing in a club to seek some sort of approval or invitation from a person rather than just touching them or starting to play without their permission? This could be your reason to play no further with them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I first joined this site last year I met a guy. Went for a drink and got on really well but came down to the fun bit and I was so disappointed that I couldn't wait to get home, he kept sending me messages asking when he could see me again, in the end I just said as politely as possible that he wasn't what I was looking for in regular fun. |
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"Do you really need to be specific about your reason for not meeting again?
Perhaps saying something like 'on reflection I don't feel that we're really that well suited' would be kinder?"
This or just a polite no thanks is enough. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do you tell people you don't want to meet them again because you didn't enjoy fucking them?"
Be honest and just say thanks for the meet but I don't wish to meet u again |
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I'm amazed at all of the excuses I've seen on this thread. There's no need to be rude but life's too short to be treading on eggshells.
I once made it out to be my fault when I broke up with an ex so as not to hurt his feelings and he got bitter and threw those things at me constantly afterwards until I moved, changed my number, email, facebook, ect. So maybe I just don't have the patience for all this pussy-footing around.
I don't see why a simple "I just don't think we're compatible" wouldn't suffice, and if he throws his toys out of the pram or keeps pestering, just block and delete.
That's his problem, not your's.
- Amy. x |
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"How do you tell people you don't want to meet them again because you didn't enjoy fucking them?"
. People must face reality and accept that not everyone will like them. Simply say that you have no desire to meet them again.
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"How do you tell people you don't want to meet them again because you didn't enjoy fucking them?"
I've got a few ideas...
Fake your own death
Tell him you've got a serious STD so can't fuck him anymore
Say you've found God and he doesn't approve of such things
Tell him you've just realised you're actually a lesbian |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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"Just say that you need some type of connection when you are having sex and although the sex was good, it lacked the connection you crave. Tell him the sex was great but it's an emotional thing.
His feelings aren't hurt and you don't feel awful either, win-win."
This is what I would do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do you tell people you don't want to meet them again because you didn't enjoy fucking them?"
just say thank you but it wasn't my thing. then move on surely just be honest |
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"How do you tell people you don't want to meet them again because you didn't enjoy fucking them?. People must face reality and accept that not everyone will like them. Simply say that you have no desire to meet them again. "
Facing reality is not an option for some people on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honesty is best, but how to phrase it tends to be the problem. No ones here to hurt anyone's feelings I would guess. I made the mistake of giving excuses not to meet so I didn't hurt their feelings, but was only bombarded with follow up questions. I just tell them it didn't work for me and wish them good luck. Seems to work! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yeah one guy i told him i didn't want to see him again, only because he brought up that he wanted to see me again and i said i didn't want to.
Idk why but one guy thinks we're really well suited and although i don't dislike him as a person i just don't enjoy sex with him that much and i can't put up a meet without him messaging me every time so gonna have to tell him. The other doesn't moither as much but i'd rather fuck him off as well.
Just.tell them you prefer not to meet the same person to often x"
We tend to do this, just tell them you dont meet people more than once, if you meet again they feel special and if you dont its nothing unexpected.
Dont see the need to tell the real reason unless you get a kick out of hurting peoples feelings which some on here obviously do! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tell em by messaging them that the meet we had wernt what we expected plus u cant put a bad verification on as Admin dont allow u to slate anyone they only want good feed back not bad |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ive gOT the same prob liked shagging hIm but his cum twasted funny but his askin why I won't meet n I don't wanna offend him
you could just say you don't like anyone cumming in your mouth and you're up for meeting but not doing that? can even make up some excuse like your gums bleed or something.
i'm good at making excuses when on the spot, just not when i over think stuff."
That's an idea thank you
Its just difficult when he already knows my prowess lol  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ive gOT the same prob liked shagging hIm but his cum twasted funny but his askin why I won't meet n I don't wanna offend him
you could just say you don't like anyone cumming in your mouth and you're up for meeting but not doing that? can even make up some excuse like your gums bleed or something.
i'm good at making excuses when on the spot, just not when i over think stuff.
That's an idea thank you
Its just difficult when he already knows my prowess lol "
Yeah disadvantages of getting to know people on here haha.
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Right thanks all, the fun answers made me laugh and i realise it's not the end of the world to tell someone i don't enjoy fucking them so although i'll feel bad telling the guy i don't want to see him again i will just outright tell him that i don't feel the same way he does about the sex we have and i'm not enjoying it. I won't say why, i'll keep it to i'm looking for other things on here.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How about' you are a crap shag, now bugger off and haunt someone else for a change' . Harsh but fair I feel.?? "
Nooooo!! He's a proper nice guy. He just isn't what i want sexually. Would make a good friend though and i respect him as a person.
Have turned him down a few times already, gonna have to 'man up' and just say i am definitely not interested. |
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By *o30Woman
over a year ago
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"How about' you are a crap shag, now bugger off and haunt someone else for a change' . Harsh but fair I feel.??
Nooooo!! He's a proper nice guy. He just isn't what i want sexually. Would make a good friend though and i respect him as a person.
Have turned him down a few times already, gonna have to 'man up' and just say i am definitely not interested."
best to be honest, he might be ok with with just friends. You never know |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honesty is always the best policy. Be truthfull but kind in the way you say it...i don't feel we are sexually compatible, or I don't feel that the chemistry is quite right are phrases ive used and have never offended with but have got the message across xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"He's a proper nice guy. He just isn't what i want sexually. Would make a good friend though and i respect him as a person."
This! Just tell him this! Its perfect x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do you tell people you don't want to meet them again because you didn't enjoy fucking them?"
Tell them you want to marry them and have at least 10 babies, that might put them of  |
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"Honesty is always the best policy. Be truthfull but kind in the way you say it...i don't feel we are sexually compatible, or I don't feel that the chemistry is quite right are phrases ive used and have never offended with but have got the message across xx"
Exactly, I don't see the need to make things up, tell the truth but just be kind about it. I would say sorry, they were not quite what I was looking for or something similar. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You could just ignore them or block them. Ive blocked people I dont want to meet, people ive been chatting to for a while, also suddenly stop chatting, whether we have met or not, seems to be the way to go here lately.
Quick, simple and painless
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"How do you tell people you don't want to meet them again because you didn't enjoy fucking them?"
I wouldnt give a reason why as its not needed and not very nice in my opinion.
I would simply say that while it was a nice evening that I didn't want to repeat it and leave it at that.
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