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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So, I ask you this... How does one get verified, if no one will meet you without a verification, if no one will meet you without a verification, how does one get verified.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"well its not rocket science, or maybe it is to some people, go to a club or social and get yourself verified that way"
Socials accessible to me in Ireland seem to be at least a month more away, a long month when no one give you the time of day due to verification.... I'm a nice guy god dammit lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"well its not rocket science, or maybe it is to some people, go to a club or social and get yourself verified that way
Socials accessible to me in Ireland seem to be at least a month more away, a long month when no one give you the time of day due to verification.... I'm a nice guy god dammit lol "
I've been here since December and haven't met anyone yet. Learn patience  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Personally, I find long lists of veris a turn off, - if I met a girl in a bar & she produced a long list of veris from her handbag - (are you allowed to say handbag in today's PC world? -  )"
I'm almost certain no member of staff in a PC World will ask you to leave for saying handbag. I reckon you could get away with sayin' ballbag. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"well its not rocket science, or maybe it is to some people, go to a club or social and get yourself verified that way
Socials accessible to me in Ireland seem to be at least a month more away, a long month when no one give you the time of day due to verification.... I'm a nice guy god dammit lol "
What makes you think that it is the lack of verifications stopping you getting a meet? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"well its not rocket science, or maybe it is to some people, go to a club or social and get yourself verified that way
Socials accessible to me in Ireland seem to be at least a month more away, a long month when no one give you the time of day due to verification.... I'm a nice guy god dammit lol
What makes you think that it is the lack of verifications stopping you getting a meet? "
Sone women like to get to know a man first before meeting to make sure hes safe and what she wants And that can take a long time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"well its not rocket science, or maybe it is to some people, go to a club or social and get yourself verified that way
Socials accessible to me in Ireland seem to be at least a month more away, a long month when no one give you the time of day due to verification.... I'm a nice guy god dammit lol "
You have been on here three weeks and can't wait for a month for a social??! You have been given good advise but I doubt you will take it. I don't think you understand the lifestyle and just see this site as instashag.
If you are not prepared to put effort in you are going to he very frustrated. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd also look at improving your profile.
Text is shorter than your post......no public pics....avatar seems to be your armpit?
Would that attract you to a profile?
What does it say about your effort?
Your profile is your "advert". People will judge you on this before deciding to even reply, never mind meet.
What is/are your USP(s)? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"well its not rocket science, or maybe it is to some people, go to a club or social and get yourself verified that way
Socials accessible to me in Ireland seem to be at least a month more away, a long month when no one give you the time of day due to verification.... I'm a nice guy god dammit lol
You have been on here three weeks and can't wait for a month for a social??! You have been given good advise but I doubt you will take it. I don't think you understand the lifestyle and just see this site as instashag.
If you are not prepared to put effort in you are going to he very frustrated."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"well its not rocket science, or maybe it is to some people, go to a club or social and get yourself verified that way
Socials accessible to me in Ireland seem to be at least a month more away, a long month when no one give you the time of day due to verification.... I'm a nice guy god dammit lol
You have been on here three weeks and can't wait for a month for a social??! You have been given good advise but I doubt you will take it. I don't think you understand the lifestyle and just see this site as instashag.
If you are not prepared to put effort in you are going to he very frustrated.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you're really in need of a veri, why not go into the chat room, turn on your cam and ask someone in the room to verify you."
But don't sit there with your knob out, they cant exactly verify a knob. Ask one of the mods to ask you to wave on cam, so they can prove you're not a video (yes that has been done in the past) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A veri doesn't change anything.....it still takes the same level of effort once you've got one.......
Imagine someone fancied you, but you weren't interested, would you change your mind if they produced a letter from someone else saying how great they were? I'd think not....
Yeah there are one or two folk who won't meet if you don't have them but they're a minority....
Everyone else with a veri had to get that initial one.....so I suggest, as has been mentioned above, improve your profile, have a look at your approach and see if you can improve your chances that way...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Unless I'm very mistaken guys cannot be verified by cam. That's ladies only. Men by meets only."
I just checked....that's wrong....I followed the steps to verify you and it gave the option to verify by cam... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Unless I'm very mistaken guys cannot be verified by cam. That's ladies only. Men by meets only."
That rule doesn't exist, everyone can get verified by cam |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hmm I'm sure I've read that was ladies only. I'm off to check the rules. Prefer to have a proper meet anyways obviously."
Come back with what the rules say....I'd be interested to know, but I'm too damn lazy to go and look....
I'm fairly sure I've seen guys verified by cam though...hmm...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Right in the faq it says couples and single fems can be verified by cam. Single males have to be verified by meet. Clearly if the option is there when you looked at me they have not taken the function away despite that being in the faq. Interesting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What point does a cam verification for a single man serve? Do you get many fake men?"
That's a good point. I guess so that any pictures on my profile are really me. Only a meet veri shows I turn up Which I assume was your point. That goes for all of course. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Right in the faq it says couples and single fems can be verified by cam. Single males have to be verified by meet. Clearly if the option is there when you looked at me they have not taken the function away despite that being in the faq. Interesting."
That's odd.....sure I've seen guys with cam veris....and the option is there...I clicked through the steps to verify you, just out of interest, and the option was there....strange. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Right in the faq it says couples and single fems can be verified by cam. Single males have to be verified by meet. Clearly if the option is there when you looked at me they have not taken the function away despite that being in the faq. Interesting.
That's odd.....sure I've seen guys with cam veris....and the option is there...I clicked through the steps to verify you, just out of interest, and the option was there....strange. "
The rules are out of date - admin have said this before.
Anyone can be verified by cam - but it won't change anything. A cam veri to most means little, just that someone can sit in front of a webcam.
As others have said OP - maybe making your profile a lite more user friendly (visible pics, a few more words in the text) and interesting will improve your chances of a face to face meet, either social or play.
And as a result get that veri you seek!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some of us do mean unverified people
Mean or meet?
Nice profile by the Way, I might have had a sneaky peek 
oops meet "
Shame I don't meet a lot of your criteria in that case lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Right in the faq it says couples and single fems can be verified by cam. Single males have to be verified by meet. Clearly if the option is there when you looked at me they have not taken the function away despite that being in the faq. Interesting.
That's odd.....sure I've seen guys with cam veris....and the option is there...I clicked through the steps to verify you, just out of interest, and the option was there....strange.
The rules are out of date - admin have said this before.
Anyone can be verified by cam - but it won't change anything. A cam veri to most means little, just that someone can sit in front of a webcam.
As others have said OP - maybe making your profile a lite more user friendly (visible pics, a few more words in the text) and interesting will improve your chances of a face to face meet, either social or play.
And as a result get that veri you seek!
A"
Ah thanks for clearing that up.
If i can get a cam verification that would enable me to verify someone who I have met who is also not verified. Is that acceptable practice? |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Right in the faq it says couples and single fems can be verified by cam. Single males have to be verified by meet. Clearly if the option is there when you looked at me they have not taken the function away despite that being in the faq. Interesting.
That's odd.....sure I've seen guys with cam veris....and the option is there...I clicked through the steps to verify you, just out of interest, and the option was there....strange.
The rules are out of date - admin have said this before.
Anyone can be verified by cam - but it won't change anything. A cam veri to most means little, just that someone can sit in front of a webcam.
As others have said OP - maybe making your profile a lite more user friendly (visible pics, a few more words in the text) and interesting will improve your chances of a face to face meet, either social or play.
And as a result get that veri you seek!
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Ah thanks for clearing that up.
If i can get a cam verification that would enable me to verify someone who I have met who is also not verified. Is that acceptable practice?"
Perfectly acceptable!
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"So, I ask you this... How does one get verified, if no one will meet you without a verification, if no one will meet you without a verification, how does one get verified. "
Not exactly a full profile to attract interest there? Make makes you stand out from the thousands of others on here? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"well its not rocket science, or maybe it is to some people, go to a club or social and get yourself verified that way
Socials accessible to me in Ireland seem to be at least a month more away, a long month when no one give you the time of day due to verification.... I'm a nice guy god dammit lol
What makes you think that it is the lack of verifications stopping you getting a meet? "
I have been told many times, in Ireland its a big thing! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We went off to a house party and came back with a few 
Her
If only I had an invite to that hp i would be one too lol"
look around and message asking nicely if you could go to a club.
Her |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We went off to a house party and came back with a few
Her
If only I had an invite to that hp i would be one too lollook around and message asking nicely if you could go to a club.
Her"
No clubs or interest in my area, only 5 or 6 regular onliners and no interest in single guys there, m&g comming up next month so thats a plus but first one in a long time so i guess ill have to give up or move lol
Or try and find people interested in camming |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I saw the verification system as a massive plus. So many other sites are full of timewasters and wannabees. Actually having the members verify other members is a stroke of genius and such a simple solution.
So, no brainer and I'm in.
And at this point I hit the same wall as the OP. I was actually told by a couple of people that they wouldn't dream of "chatting" to someone with no verifications.
I looked in the forums, lots of people offering great advice.
I changed my profile, tuned and tweaked it, I'm still tweaking it now, I'm not sure it will ever be "right" but I hope it's improving and being more representative of me and what I have to offer.
I now have a couple of verifications, but I really have no idea if they are helping or make a difference.
Next step, try out a few clubs and make some new friends.
I hope the feedback you've had helps.
Off to read my profile again......
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