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By *iceguy25 OP Man
over a year ago
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Ok I'm probably going to reset asking but, almost everyone is message comes back with "not my type" at first I was thinking fair enough their prpreference, as it appears to be coming from everyone I'm starting to think I look like a monster lol
I know I'm no Brad Pitt but am I that bad :-S ? |
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By *iceguy25 OP Man
over a year ago
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Thanks people, maybe I am too young for them but I go look at their profile and make sure I "fit the bill"
I have had a few meets, I get that get that it may look that I am expecting too much from here, but my last "play" meet was over a year ago and my last social was a few months ago and before that was 6 months before that
Of course I'm greatful for every meet I get and have made some good friends  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its really tough on here for you guys sometimes,I think my confidence would be crushed in a day if I was on here as a man
OP im sure you're lots of peoples types but the numbers of men to women means you're swimming against a tide of 1000s of men all wanting the same |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You get messages back??????? Wow!!!! Most find they just get deleted if they're not the persons type. Whenever I've sent a "not for me" type response mostly I get the wheedling why not?, so don't often bother now  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its really tough on here for you guys sometimes,I think my confidence would be crushed in a day if I was on here as a man
OP im sure you're lots of peoples types but the numbers of men to women means you're swimming against a tide of 1000s of men all wanting the same "
There's no way I would still be on this site if I was a guy - I couldn't take the constant rejection. |
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Just an easy sentence to copy and paste, don't read into it. We often say "thanks, but not what we are looking for" to many people. It's not "directed" at them in particular, it's just a reasonable way to so "no" |
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By *iceguy25 OP Man
over a year ago
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I'm really glad I ain't had " oh another single male moaning" lol
Only ten percent of my messages get a reply lol
I do only message people that I fit their age limit, live close and any other criteria they may have put
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its really tough on here for you guys sometimes,I think my confidence would be crushed in a day if I was on here as a man
OP im sure you're lots of peoples types but the numbers of men to women means you're swimming against a tide of 1000s of men all wanting the same
There's no way I would still be on this site if I was a guy - I couldn't take the constant rejection."
you can see it its their loss instead lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You get a reply. That's mostly more than me. And if I do get a reply it's most often a simple sorry not my type. That's cool, I know I'm not going to be everyone's type.
Some on the replies I've had have gone into detail to tell me everything they think is wrong with me. |
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By *iceguy25 OP Man
over a year ago
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"You get a reply. That's mostly more than me. And if I do get a reply it's most often a simple sorry not my type. That's cool, I know I'm not going to be everyone's type.
Some on the replies I've had have gone into detail to tell me everything they think is wrong with me. "
I probably get roughly the same amount of response as you
In know full well I'm not going to be for everyone and know I'm not gods gift lol
Just wondering if I'm as ugly of a git as I'm starting to feel lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just an easy sentence to copy and paste, don't read into it. We often say "thanks, but not what we are looking for" to many people. It's not "directed" at them in particular, it's just a reasonable way to so "no""
 we do the same |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Saying not my type is fair enough. But going into detail as to why and even critiquing people's looks is a bit much.
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thats right and those who does it generaly dont got a pic in my experience. |
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By *iceguy25 OP Man
over a year ago
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"Saying not my type is fair enough. But going into detail as to why and even critiquing people's looks is a bit much.
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I was once told that because I don't have tattoos they won't meet and demanded I got one lol |
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Nothing seems wrong with the profile or pics, barring a few spelling errors etc but it isn't like it's in text speak. You have put in more effort than a lot do. Congrats.
I must admit, I thought about coming here as a single male before meeting N. Took me about 2 seconds to decide against it lol.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You get a reply. That's mostly more than me. And if I do get a reply it's most often a simple sorry not my type. That's cool, I know I'm not going to be everyone's type.
Some on the replies I've had have gone into detail to tell me everything they think is wrong with me. "
Thats just completely needless  |
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By *iceguy25 OP Man
over a year ago
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"Nothing seems wrong with the profile or pics, barring a few spelling errors etc but it isn't like it's in text speak. You have put in more effort than a lot do. Congrats.
I must admit, I thought about coming here as a single male before meeting N. Took me about 2 seconds to decide against it lol.
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Cheers mate, if I had a lady friend to be on here would don't think it would be much thought needed lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just say to people I'm not interested in that they're not what I'm looking for on here and wish them well. Saying not my type just tends to provoke a why, what's wrong with me or what is my type etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lol I get the same op, women think I spend to much in the gym lol
Do you go to the gym Shag..you've never said  "
Yes I do. I think I said it few times lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lol I get the same op, women think I spend to much in the gym lol
Do you go to the gym Shag..you've never said Yes I do. I think I said it few times lol "
Must have missed those posts |
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By *iceguy25 OP Man
over a year ago
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"You've got veri's so your obviously someone's type. . Patience
Is this a cry for attention or fishing for compliments by any chance?"
Not at all if you look through the whole feed you'd see that I have explained that I have 14 verifications but none in the past year, apart from one social |
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By *iceguy25 OP Man
over a year ago
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""not my type" isn't based on just looks"
I agree but in the first message you don't get much more then a pic and my profile to gauge ever or not to reply
I'd like to think I have a half decent profile, so only leaves the pic lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Think yourself lucky you get that. Nine times out of ten I don't even get a reply. Yes I know that goes with the territory of being a single bloke and no I'm not complaining - just saying  |
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By *iceguy25 OP Man
over a year ago
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"Think yourself lucky you get that. Nine times out of ten I don't even get a reply. Yes I know that goes with the territory of being a single bloke and no I'm not complaining - just saying "
Again I explained that I only get about 10% of my messages replied to and I always get the same " not my type"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Think yourself lucky you get that. Nine times out of ten I don't even get a reply. Yes I know that goes with the territory of being a single bloke and no I'm not complaining - just saying
Again I explained that I only get about 10% of my messages replied to and I always get the same " not my type"
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Out of that 10% you've still had 14 meets which in the great 'single guy' scheme of things is a fairly respectable number |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your profile looks alright. "Not my type" well... it's just down to the patience game really. When the going gets tough the tough gets going! Rock on happy swinging I'm sure your perseverance will pay off for the next couple or woman who looks you up! |
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By *iceguy25 OP Man
over a year ago
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"Think yourself lucky you get that. Nine times out of ten I don't even get a reply. Yes I know that goes with the territory of being a single bloke and no I'm not complaining - just saying
Again I explained that I only get about 10% of my messages replied to and I always get the same " not my type"
Out of that 10% you've still had 14 meets which in the great 'single guy' scheme of things is a fairly respectable number "
Please look 5 posts up ?? |
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By *iceguy25 OP Man
over a year ago
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"Your profile looks alright. "Not my type" well... it's just down to the patience game really. When the going gets tough the tough gets going! Rock on happy swinging I'm sure your perseverance will pay off for the next couple or woman who looks you up! "
Thanks mate |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have turned down more Women then I have met I just try and be honest with them in the first couple of messages, Like other people have already said there are a lot of people on this site some will like you some wont, But look at it another way there will be a lot of Women who are not your type as well,
Good luck with your messages and replies
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lol I get the same op, women think I spend to much in the gym lol
Do you go to the gym Shag..you've never said Yes I do. I think I said it few times lol
Must have missed those posts "
Yes you must of lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Op, blunt opinion I'd say your photos don't show you in the best light/are a bit unflattering try some new pics and you'll probably find your luck improves.
Clearly you've got a decent personality/first message set up as you're actually getting replies rather than just deletes.
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