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"Sorry if this goes abit too much into detail, any advice is welcomed!!! So, my lady time was due on The 7th of this month and hasnt showed up yet. I have a calander on my phone that shows when im fertile and things, so i put in when i have sex, if it was protective sex or not and things like that. Im seeing a guy an have been for a fair few months so we dont tend to use protection much as he cums on me and not in me. I didnt realise but we had unprotective sex on the day i was ovulating and a few days around that date, but he didnt cum in me. Now, im 7 days late (always on time each month) and have been getting negative pregnancy test results. Today at work i noticed i had a few tiny spots of blood, i dont feel as tho im coming on, i have really bad heart burn, tired , feeling sick, all the symptons of being pregnant but tests showing negative. Anyone else been on this position? "Being stressed (because you've not had your period) can stop your period. | |||
"Sorry if this goes abit too much into detail, any advice is welcomed!!! So, my lady time was due on The 7th of this month and hasnt showed up yet. I have a calander on my phone that shows when im fertile and things, so i put in when i have sex, if it was protective sex or not and things like that. Im seeing a guy an have been for a fair few months so we dont tend to use protection much as he cums on me and not in me. I didnt realise but we had unprotective sex on the day i was ovulating and a few days around that date, but he didnt cum in me. Now, im 7 days late (always on time each month) and have been getting negative pregnancy test results. Today at work i noticed i had a few tiny spots of blood, i dont feel as tho im coming on, i have really bad heart burn, tired , feeling sick, all the symptons of being pregnant but tests showing negative. Anyone else been on this position?
Being stressed (because you've not had your period) can stop your period."Im not stress over it. I know itl just delay it more so im trying not to think about it x | |||
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"STDs can mess up your periods as well." I got checked last week and all clear | |||
"STDs can mess up your periods as well. I got checked last week and all clear "One less thing to worry about then. Tbh if it was me i'd rather have an STD than the alternative.  | |||
"If you're only 7 days late then if you are preg there may not be enough of the hormones showing up in your pee for the home kits." some of them work before you even miss a period.... | |||
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"so why aren't you using another form of contraception if you aren't planning on getting pregnant? if you are sensible enough.to get tested you should be smart enough to do all you can to prevent pregnancy."  | |||
"Sorry if this goes abit too much into detail, any advice is welcomed!!! So, my lady time was due on The 7th of this month and hasnt showed up yet. I have a calander on my phone that shows when im fertile and things, so i put in when i have sex, if it was protective sex or not and things like that. Im seeing a guy an have been for a fair few months so we dont tend to use protection much as he cums on me and not in me. I didnt realise but we had unprotective sex on the day i was ovulating and a few days around that date, but he didnt cum in me. Now, im 7 days late (always on time each month) and have been getting negative pregnancy test results. Today at work i noticed i had a few tiny spots of blood, i dont feel as tho im coming on, i have really bad heart burn, tired , feeling sick, all the symptons of being pregnant but tests showing negative. Anyone else been on this position? "If your having unprotected sex and not on the pill there is a good chance your pregnant, you don't have to cum in someone, small amounts can be released during sex before the guy actually cums | |||
"so why aren't you using another form of contraception if you aren't planning on getting pregnant? if you are sensible enough.to get tested you should be smart enough to do all you can to prevent pregnancy." Im not on contraception due to loosing a pregnancy 2 years ago, if it happends then it happends. Wer always careful just dont always use a condom due to him pulling out x | |||
"so why aren't you using another form of contraception if you aren't planning on getting pregnant? if you are sensible enough.to get tested you should be smart enough to do all you can to prevent pregnancy. Im not on contraception due to loosing a pregnancy 2 years ago, if it happends then it happends. Wer always careful just dont always use a condom due to him pulling out x" what the actual fuck???  | |||
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"so why aren't you using another form of contraception if you aren't planning on getting pregnant? if you are sensible enough.to get tested you should be smart enough to do all you can to prevent pregnancy. Im not on contraception due to loosing a pregnancy 2 years ago, if it happends then it happends. Wer always careful just dont always use a condom due to him pulling out x" Erm....that doesn't sound particularly careful to me, or am I missing something? | |||
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"so why aren't you using another form of contraception if you aren't planning on getting pregnant? if you are sensible enough.to get tested you should be smart enough to do all you can to prevent pregnancy. Im not on contraception due to loosing a pregnancy 2 years ago, if it happends then it happends. Wer always careful just dont always use a condom due to him pulling out x what the actual fuck??? "That didnt come across how i wanted it too! Due to me loosing the baby, and being on contraception befor it messed up my cycle and i like knowing when im due on and things like that. | |||
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"so why aren't you using another form of contraception if you aren't planning on getting pregnant? if you are sensible enough.to get tested you should be smart enough to do all you can to prevent pregnancy. Im not on contraception due to loosing a pregnancy 2 years ago, if it happends then it happends. Wer always careful just dont always use a condom due to him pulling out x what the actual fuck???
That didnt come across how i wanted it too! Due to me loosing the baby, and being on contraception befor it messed up my cycle and i like knowing when im due on and things like that. "Nothing's set in stone? Surely you're not that naive? | |||
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"Gaah this hasnt come across how i meant it! I was just asking if any other women had been late but had negative tests and what they did x" I gave birth 5 months later | |||
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"Gaah this hasnt come across how i meant it! I was just asking if any other women had been late but had negative tests and what they did x" go see your gp and get contraception advice while you're there | |||
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"Gaah this hasnt come across how i meant it! I was just asking if any other women had been late but had negative tests and what they did x" When I was still fecund I had a late period with negative tests that then went to positive a few days later. I miscarried. If you want to be pregnant then congratulations if you are. If you don't then go and get a blood test, although you would be 21 days along now so a stick test should work if you are doing it properly. Are you using the stick test mid flow on your first pee of the day for maximum effect? | |||
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"Little spots of blood can mean implantation. " It can also mean twins. Good luck OP! | |||
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"Are you not using any form of contraception ? if not why are you having unprotected sex ? "I could of course be wrong, but Generally the only logical answer I have to this is that she wants to be pregnant, especially since shes tracking when shes ovulating and playing around those times | |||
"I'll give Jeremy Kyle a ring." | |||
"so why aren't you using another form of contraception if you aren't planning on getting pregnant? if you are sensible enough.to get tested you should be smart enough to do all you can to prevent pregnancy. Im not on contraception due to loosing a pregnancy 2 years ago, if it happends then it happends. Wer always careful just dont always use a condom due to him pulling out x what the actual fuck??? "My thoughts exactly and I thought the younger generation today were more than clued up but obviously not all are | |||
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"And if you're not wanting to be pregnant get the morning after pill." Its gone beyond that point now | |||
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"Shaking my head, playing with a babies life.
Her"How is she? All she has asked is if anyone else has been in the same position regarding late periods and negative pregnancy tests For all you know she may be over the moon if she was pregnant | |||
"Shaking my head, playing with a babies life.
Her"At this stage there is no baby, it's a late period. Playing with her own life and that of her regular partner for sure. Potentially with everyone else they have sex with (although she says she is tested regularly) but mainly her own life. Pregnancy is a side effect of sex, particularly risky unprotected sex. | |||
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"Shaking my head, playing with a babies life.
Her
At this stage there is no baby, it's a late period.
Playing with her own life and that of her regular partner for sure. Potentially with everyone else they have sex with (although she says she is tested regularly) but mainly her own life.
Pregnancy is a side effect of sex, particularly risky unprotected sex.
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"Woman normally shout from the rooftops..thats why. Her" She has got a late period,that is all | |||
"Woman normally shout from the rooftops..thats why. Her She has got a late period,that is all" Look at the rest of the comments..drop your rattle Her | |||
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"so why aren't you using another form of contraception if you aren't planning on getting pregnant? if you are sensible enough.to get tested you should be smart enough to do all you can to prevent pregnancy. Im not on contraception due to loosing a pregnancy 2 years ago, if it happends then it happends. Wer always careful just dont always use a condom due to him pulling out x what the actual fuck??? My thoughts exactly and I thought the younger generation today were more than clued up but obviously not all are " | |||
"STDs can mess up your periods as well. I got checked last week and all clear
One less thing to worry about then. Tbh if it was me i'd rather have an STD than the alternative. "Usually as part of my STD check I'm also checked for pregnancy too,, trip to the nurse at the docs will put your mind at rest | |||
"so why aren't you using another form of contraception if you aren't planning on getting pregnant? if you are sensible enough.to get tested you should be smart enough to do all you can to prevent pregnancy. Im not on contraception due to loosing a pregnancy 2 years ago, if it happends then it happends. Wer always careful just dont always use a condom due to him pulling out x what the actual fuck??? "Lmao.pulling out is NOT contraception | |||
"so why aren't you using another form of contraception if you aren't planning on getting pregnant? if you are sensible enough.to get tested you should be smart enough to do all you can to prevent pregnancy. Im not on contraception due to loosing a pregnancy 2 years ago, if it happends then it happends. Wer always careful just dont always use a condom due to him pulling out x what the actual fuck???
Lmao.pulling out is NOT contraception " | |||
"so why aren't you using another form of contraception if you aren't planning on getting pregnant? if you are sensible enough.to get tested you should be smart enough to do all you can to prevent pregnancy. Im not on contraception due to loosing a pregnancy 2 years ago, if it happends then it happends. Wer always careful just dont always use a condom due to him pulling out x what the actual fuck???
Lmao.pulling out is NOT contraception "Unless ur catholic and know the rythem method? That or up the bum no babies??? | |||
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"so why aren't you using another form of contraception if you aren't planning on getting pregnant? if you are sensible enough.to get tested you should be smart enough to do all you can to prevent pregnancy. Im not on contraception due to loosing a pregnancy 2 years ago, if it happends then it happends. Wer always careful just dont always use a condom due to him pulling out x what the actual fuck???
Lmao.pulling out is NOT contraception
Unless ur catholic and know the rythem method? That or up the bum no babies???"You can still get pregnant by anal, the cum dripping out and down on to the vagina | |||
"so why aren't you using another form of contraception if you aren't planning on getting pregnant? if you are sensible enough.to get tested you should be smart enough to do all you can to prevent pregnancy. Im not on contraception due to loosing a pregnancy 2 years ago, if it happends then it happends. Wer always careful just dont always use a condom due to him pulling out x what the actual fuck??? My thoughts exactly and I thought the younger generation today were more than clued up but obviously not all are "Not all schools get taught sex education | |||
"so why aren't you using another form of contraception if you aren't planning on getting pregnant? if you are sensible enough.to get tested you should be smart enough to do all you can to prevent pregnancy. Im not on contraception due to loosing a pregnancy 2 years ago, if it happends then it happends. Wer always careful just dont always use a condom due to him pulling out x what the actual fuck???
Lmao.pulling out is NOT contraception
Unless ur catholic and know the rythem method? That or up the bum no babies???
You can still get pregnant by anal, the cum dripping out and down on to the vagina"Think we should hold an Olympics for sperm | |||
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"Happy mothers day OP :D, Seriously in the biology course (in which I had excellent grade lol) as I remember, even if the guy come on you (outside your vagina) not necessarily in you, the little swimers (Spermatozoids) wd swim in as soon as they come in contact with the vaginal fluid, following the scent of the egg. So there is still a chance you get pregnant from that. Unless ofcourse he shoots away from your vagina. " Really!!!! | |||
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"I'm so glad I'm not a lady "Are you? Really? If you were involved in this scenario, and the woman turned out to be pregnant, you wouldn't necessarily have any say in whether to keep the baby but you would still be financially responsible. At least a woman gets to make that choice. It's a joint responsibility to use contraception unless a pregnancy is a desirable outcome, so men should be insisting on it as much as the women. Once a pregnancy occurs though, rightly or wrongly, decisions tend to be out of the hands of men, yet responsibility remains. And remember, women can lie about being on contraception, they can use it incorrectly so it is ineffective and sometimes pregnancies occur even when contraception is used. | |||
"Woman normally shout from the rooftops..thats why. Her She has got a late period,that is allLook at the rest of the comments..drop your rattle Her" And you get off your high moral assumptive horse Me | |||
"I'm so glad I'm not a lady
Are you? Really?
If you were involved in this scenario, and the woman turned out to be pregnant, you wouldn't necessarily have any say in whether to keep the baby but you would still be financially responsible.
At least a woman gets to make that choice.
It's a joint responsibility to use contraception unless a pregnancy is a desirable outcome, so men should be insisting on it as much as the women.
Once a pregnancy occurs though, rightly or wrongly, decisions tend to be out of the hands of men, yet responsibility remains.
And remember, women can lie about being on contraception, they can use it incorrectly so it is ineffective and sometimes pregnancies occur even when contraception is used."Here's hoping they both want a pregnancy to happen if they're relying on pulling out and 'sometimes' using a condom, otherwise he's showing about as much responsibility as she is. | |||
"Woman normally shout from the rooftops..thats why. Her" I'd be shouting from the rooftops "Where's the nearest abortion clinic" if I had half a thought that I may be up the duff...I realise it'd be very unlikely at my age, but one of my mates is a menopause baby (her mam being same age as me when she got pregnant, although she'd had 5 kids previously) I'm always careful nowadays, but in my younger days, I often forgot to take my pill so I've no idea whether I was ever fertile or not - as I've never wanted kids, it would have been a disaster for me, and back then, a late period sent me to the quack rather than depend on a home pregnancy test (although I believe they can be pretty reliable) OP - my recommendation would be to get appointment with doctor and do whatever the current test is - if you are pregnant, best wishes or commiserations (delete as appropriate) and deal with as appropriate. I also believe both parties have behaved irresponsibly with regards to contraception | |||
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"so why aren't you using another form of contraception if you aren't planning on getting pregnant? if you are sensible enough.to get tested you should be smart enough to do all you can to prevent pregnancy. Im not on contraception due to loosing a pregnancy 2 years ago, if it happends then it happends. Wer always careful just dont always use a condom due to him pulling out x what the actual fuck???
That didnt come across how i wanted it too! Due to me loosing the baby, and being on contraception befor it messed up my cycle and i like knowing when im due on and things like that. "So go on a pill like im on... I know exactly when i will come on!!! You clearly are not 'always' careful or you wouldnt of opened this post. | |||
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"If you're only 7 days late then if you are preg there may not be enough of the hormones showing up in your pee for the home kits." True. Try not to worry as that won't help at all. I find a hot hot bath helps bring mine on. Xx | |||
"There's a thing called pre cum that's actually more likely to get you pregnant than a full load "Sperm have one job and they are determined to do it! Unprotected anal does not prevent pregnancy, and is riskier sex. Cumming near the vagina does not prevent pregnancy. They reduce the risk a bit but that's all. Young and risky behaviour is almost a given (I remember 19) but decide which risks you take for yourself and others and be prepared to live with the consequences. Abortion, miscarriage, having the baby are not easy things to live with. OP, as I have said before I hope you get the outcome you want. | |||
"I was almost 12 weeks before the hormone tests confirmed I was pregnant. I'd been trying though so knew I was but getting confirmation had to be done via the doctor because it takes so long for my hormone levels to be high enough in my wee Blood test is only way that works in first few weeks for me So op, your original question is yes, many get false negative negatives when using home kits Go to your docs if you think you are as they can check for other causes if you aren't " I found out I was pregnant after a week using a electronic clear blue pregnancy test | |||
"Sorry if this goes abit too much into detail, any advice is welcomed!!! So, my lady time was due on The 7th of this month and hasnt showed up yet. I have a calander on my phone that shows when im fertile and things, so i put in when i have sex, if it was protective sex or not and things like that. Im seeing a guy an have been for a fair few months so we dont tend to use protection much as he cums on me and not in me. I didnt realise but we had unprotective sex on the day i was ovulating and a few days around that date, but he didnt cum in me. Now, im 7 days late (always on time each month) and have been getting negative pregnancy test results. Today at work i noticed i had a few tiny spots of blood, i dont feel as tho im coming on, i have really bad heart burn, tired , feeling sick, all the symptons of being pregnant but tests showing negative. Anyone else been on this position? "I haven't but I've always used contraception till I wanted kids. Came off the pill and got pregnant very quickly both times, so as you aren't using anything. I wouldn't be surprised if you weren't pregnant. If you are and you are happy, congratulations. But if not, I'd start using something or get him to, they should be responsible as well | |||
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"so why aren't you using another form of contraception if you aren't planning on getting pregnant? if you are sensible enough.to get tested you should be smart enough to do all you can to prevent pregnancy. Im not on contraception due to loosing a pregnancy 2 years ago, if it happends then it happends. Wer always careful just dont always use a condom due to him pulling out x what the actual fuck??? " I know...I was thinking that from the get go! | |||
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"you went to clinic last week? you made an appointment/went, when your usually regular period was due? ". They can still do all the tests even If your on | |||
"you went to clinic last week? you made an appointment/went, when your usually regular period was due? . They can still do all the tests even If your on "told at mine to cancel if on, and rebook for when finished. | |||
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"Happy mothers day OP :D, Seriously in the biology course (in which I had excellent grade lol) as I remember, even if the guy come on you (outside your vagina) not necessarily in you, the little swimers (Spermatozoids) wd swim in as soon as they come in contact with the vaginal fluid, following the scent of the egg. So there is still a chance you get pregnant from that. Unless ofcourse he shoots away from your vagina. Really!!!! " Well I believe so. Thats what explains the cases of girls who get pregnant and yet they are physically still virgins. No penetration occured but the little swimmers penetrated from outside. These cases exist. | |||
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"so why aren't you using another form of contraception if you aren't planning on getting pregnant? if you are sensible enough.to get tested you should be smart enough to do all you can to prevent pregnancy. Im not on contraception due to loosing a pregnancy 2 years ago, if it happends then it happends. Wer always careful just dont always use a condom due to him pulling out x what the actual fuck???
Lmao.pulling out is NOT contraception "pre-cum contains sperm....anal can be fine but still need to be careful as any leaking cum can still into the vag lol | |||
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"Wowzer plz forgive me if i offend anyone but this thread has me scratchin my head and thinking of the phrase YOUNG DUMB N FULL OF CUM all the major points have been made n covered n great advice has given by many posters As a childless woman ( 2 still births n 1 medical advised termination due to deformity) who feels she has missed out this mothers day i cant believe a young woman intelligent enough to understand n follow an ovulation calender thought the PULL OUT N HOPE FOR THE BEST method was actually an intelligent decision I am now going to ask the missing question from this thread IS THE PARTNER INVOLVED OK WITH AND READY FOR THE RESPONSIBILITY OF A CHILD? sorry but at a young age many men are just big kids themselves n men do tend to look to us ladies to handle the whole unwanted pregnancy issues If both parties are ok n ready for a baby if it happens then i wish you all the luck in the world IF NOT plz for gods sake head the advice given so you dont end up on jeremy kyle or spend the next 18 yrs of your life regretting a foolish decision you made in your youth "
I was thinking the same, does said partner know he's at high risk of becoming yo' Baby Daddy?
We all know the risks of barebacking anyway but does he think you're using another form of contraception or is he ok with the whole "if it happens, it happens" plan? | |||
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"Give the girl a break. She's 19, knows nowt. She'll learn. Possibly the hard way." If you're old enough to be having sex you're old enough to understand the facts of life. Age is no excuse whatsoever. | |||
"OP, if you are still checking the thread then please get yourself a blood test today if your period hasn't started. Good luck. " | |||
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"Give the girl a break. She's 19, knows nowt. She'll learn. Possibly the hard way. If you're old enough to be having sex you're old enough to understand the facts of life. Age is no excuse whatsoever. " | |||
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"Give the girl a break. She's 19, knows nowt. She'll learn. Possibly the hard way. If you're old enough to be having sex you're old enough to understand the facts of life. Age is no excuse whatsoever. "I've just turned 19 and I know all about the risks of sex and the precautions you have to take especially if it is someone who I do not want a baby with. As said before, if you're old enough to be engaging in sexual activities you're old enough to know... To the OP, I'd suggest booking a doctor's appointment to be on the safe side and if you aren't pregnant (and by unprotected you meant you also don't take any forms of birth control) then you should probably discuss that too. You must look after yourself. Good luck.  | |||
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"Sorry if this goes abit too much into detail, any advice is welcomed!!! So, my lady time was due on The 7th of this month and hasnt showed up yet. I have a calander on my phone that shows when im fertile and things, so i put in when i have sex, if it was protective sex or not and things like that. Im seeing a guy an have been for a fair few months so we dont tend to use protection much as he cums on me and not in me. I didnt realise but we had unprotective sex on the day i was ovulating and a few days around that date, but he didnt cum in me. Now, im 7 days late (always on time each month) and have been getting negative pregnancy test results. Today at work i noticed i had a few tiny spots of blood, i dont feel as tho im coming on, i have really bad heart burn, tired , feeling sick, all the symptons of being pregnant but tests showing negative. Anyone else been on this position?
If your having unprotected sex and not on the pill there is a good chance your pregnant, you don't have to cum in someone, small amounts can be released during sex before the guy actually cums "That's the pre-cum. There's swimmers in there! | |||
"Give the girl a break. She's 19, knows nowt. She'll learn. Possibly the hard way. If you're old enough to be having sex you're old enough to understand the facts of life. Age is no excuse whatsoever. " Really? So all these underage pregnancies know exactly what they're are doing? Immature and irresponsible people never have sex then? | |||
"Give the girl a break. She's 19, knows nowt. She'll learn. Possibly the hard way. If you're old enough to be having sex you're old enough to understand the facts of life. Age is no excuse whatsoever. Really? So all these underage pregnancies know exactly what they're are doing? Immature and irresponsible people never have sex then?" Since when is 19 underage? If you're old enough to vote, get married, be in the army, join the police, get a mortgage or even meet people off the internet for sex then yeah, I think you're old enough to be expected to know that pulling out isn't adequate contraception. | |||
"Since when is 19 underage? If you're old enough to vote, get married, be in the army, join the police, get a mortgage or even meet people off the internet for sex then yeah, I think you're old enough to be expected to know that pulling out isn't adequate contraception." Yep, it is called education.... | |||
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"Why the hell has he not had a vasectomy, if he is a swinger! I had my vasectomy done years ago, dead easy, quick and painless, so now there is a lot less for me and my swinging partners to worry about! Man up guys and take the snip! "wt holy fk | |||
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"Why the hell has he not had a vasectomy, if he is a swinger! I had my vasectomy done years ago, dead easy, quick and painless, so now there is a lot less for me and my swinging partners to worry about! Man up guys and take the snip!
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"Why the hell has he not had a vasectomy, if he is a swinger! I had my vasectomy done years ago, dead easy, quick and painless, so now there is a lot less for me and my swinging partners to worry about! Man up guys and take the snip! "Yeah sure, these swingers who may meet a lovely woman in the future with whom they want children with should have a vasectomy because some females don't use birth control | |||
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"Shaking my head, playing with a babies life.
Her
How is she?
All she has asked is if anyone else has been in the same position regarding late periods and negative pregnancy tests
For all you know she may be over the moon if she was pregnant"That's true but will he be over the moon to? | |||
"so why aren't you using another form of contraception if you aren't planning on getting pregnant? if you are sensible enough.to get tested you should be smart enough to do all you can to prevent pregnancy. Im not on contraception due to loosing a pregnancy 2 years ago, if it happends then it happends. Wer always careful just dont always use a condom due to him pulling out x what the actual fuck???
Lmao.pulling out is NOT contraception
Unless ur catholic and know the rythem method? That or up the bum no babies???"I think you'll find that, even if you're Catholic, the rhythm method and pulling out 'just-in-time' is not a very effective from of birth control. | |||
"I'm so glad I'm not a lady
Are you? Really?
If you were involved in this scenario, and the woman turned out to be pregnant, you wouldn't necessarily have any say in whether to keep the baby but you would still be financially responsible.
At least a woman gets to make that choice.
It's a joint responsibility to use contraception unless a pregnancy is a desirable outcome, so men should be insisting on it as much as the women.
Once a pregnancy occurs though, rightly or wrongly, decisions tend to be out of the hands of men, yet responsibility remains.
"Been there, done that. Caused nothing but problems for years. It's no fun trying to be a father to a child you never expected to have with a woman you never expected to have a life long relationship with. If, as the guy, you don't take a little responsibility now, you can end up with a lot more responsibility than you bargained for 9 month down the line. That being said 20 years later, I love that kid to bits and am looking forward to being at his graduation in few years time. " And remember, women can lie about being on contraception, they can use it incorrectly so it is ineffective and sometimes pregnancies occur even when contraception is used." | |||
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"Give the girl a break. She's 19, knows nowt. She'll learn. Possibly the hard way. If you're old enough to be having sex you're old enough to understand the facts of life. Age is no excuse whatsoever. Really? So all these underage pregnancies know exactly what they're are doing? Immature and irresponsible people never have sex then? Since when is 19 underage? If you're old enough to vote, get married, be in the army, join the police, get a mortgage or even meet people off the internet for sex then yeah, I think you're old enough to be expected to know that pulling out isn't adequate contraception." I wasn't saying 19 is underage. I was trying to say that that many people have sex that aren't ready for it and you stating "If you're old enough to be having sex you're old enough to understand the facts of life" obviously isn't true for many. | |||
"Give the girl a break. She's 19, knows nowt. She'll learn. Possibly the hard way. If you're old enough to be having sex you're old enough to understand the facts of life. Age is no excuse whatsoever. Really? So all these underage pregnancies know exactly what they're are doing? Immature and irresponsible people never have sex then? Since when is 19 underage? If you're old enough to vote, get married, be in the army, join the police, get a mortgage or even meet people off the internet for sex then yeah, I think you're old enough to be expected to know that pulling out isn't adequate contraception. I wasn't saying 19 is underage. I was trying to say that that many people have sex that aren't ready for it and you stating "If you're old enough to be having sex you're old enough to understand the facts of life" obviously isn't true for many." I went to a catholic school where the sex education was at best dicey, and even I understood from the age of about 13 that that's not a proper contraceptive method Perhaps I should have put a more judgemental slant on it: age isn't an excuse for irresponsibility (unless of course she wants to be pregnant, in which case good luck to them both). | |||
"Why the hell has he not had a vasectomy, if he is a swinger! I had my vasectomy done years ago, dead easy, quick and painless, so now there is a lot less for me and my swinging partners to worry about! Man up guys and take the snip! "What a ridiculous comment. We're 23 and 24, and would like the option of having children in the future. | |||
"so why aren't you using another form of contraception if you aren't planning on getting pregnant? if you are sensible enough.to get tested you should be smart enough to do all you can to prevent pregnancy. Im not on contraception due to loosing a pregnancy 2 years ago, if it happends then it happends. Wer always careful just dont always use a condom due to him pulling out x what the actual fuck???
Lmao.pulling out is NOT contraception " | |||
"Why the hell has he not had a vasectomy, if he is a swinger! I had my vasectomy done years ago, dead easy, quick and painless, so now there is a lot less for me and my swinging partners to worry about! Man up guys and take the snip! "Vasectomy doesn't prevent STIs though... scary the number of guys that expect me to believe they have had the snip and are ok to bareback... honestly pregnancy is way down the list of my worries from swinging - not that I ever plan to have more children. Man up and wrap it up - learn about proper contraception - it may just save your life. | |||
"Had three negative pregnancy tests when I was pregnant plus periods so was shocked to find out I was 15 weeks pregnant "and I did too x | |||
"Just to let you know babies and children aren't magical creatures that give you endless love and happiness. If your in a settled relationship they are bloody hard work but if your on your own it can be hell at times when your stuck in on your own for what feels like every night of your life while your friends move on and forget about you. Babies don't give you much apart from shitty nappies, bags under your eyes and stretch marks Enjoy your life for a few years before you have kids " As a mother, I resent that comment, as much as I respect your right to say it (but I also understand you may just be trying to make just how much of a change and commitment it is hit home). I may feel tired most of the time but the satisfaction and rewards far outweigh the bad times. (And with a baby who suffers from constipation, I get way more excited than I should over shitty nappies).
Ok, maybe she has a point. What has my life become? Lol.
- Amy. x | |||
"Just to let you know babies and children aren't magical creatures that give you endless love and happiness. If your in a settled relationship they are bloody hard work but if your on your own it can be hell at times when your stuck in on your own for what feels like every night of your life while your friends move on and forget about you. Babies don't give you much apart from shitty nappies, bags under your eyes and stretch marks Enjoy your life for a few years before you have kids As a mother, I resent that comment, as much as I respect your right to say it (but I also understand you may just be trying to make just how much of a change and commitment it is hit home). I may feel tired most of the time but the satisfaction and rewards far outweigh the bad times. (And with a baby who suffers from constipation, I get way more excited than I should over shitty nappies).
Ok, maybe she has a point. What has my life become? Lol.
- Amy. x"I'm a mother of two. My first child I had when I was 21 with my boyfriend of a year who quickly realised the party is over and we split up. I was on my own with my oldest for 2 years before I met my now husband and we had a baby because we were both ready. So I do know what I'm talking about on both sides. My children are my world but I wouldn't for one minute sugar coat what it's like to bring them up. It is bloody hard work at all stages they go through and my children are good, well behaved children that I'm very proud of So for the op to be so blasé about having one in my opinion is very naive. So if you want to take offence at what I said then feel free that's your choice but you don't need to because you know as well as I do how much they change your life and how hard a work they are never mind the expense. X | |||
"Just to let you know babies and children aren't magical creatures that give you endless love and happiness. If your in a settled relationship they are bloody hard work but if your on your own it can be hell at times when your stuck in on your own for what feels like every night of your life while your friends move on and forget about you. Babies don't give you much apart from shitty nappies, bags under your eyes and stretch marks Enjoy your life for a few years before you have kids As a mother, I resent that comment, as much as I respect your right to say it (but I also understand you may just be trying to make just how much of a change and commitment it is hit home). I may feel tired most of the time but the satisfaction and rewards far outweigh the bad times. (And with a baby who suffers from constipation, I get way more excited than I should over shitty nappies).
Ok, maybe she has a point. What has my life become? Lol.
- Amy. x
I'm a mother of two. My first child I had when I was 21 with my boyfriend of a year who quickly realised the party is over and we split up. I was on my own with my oldest for 2 years before I met my now husband and we had a baby because we were both ready. So I do know what I'm talking about on both sides.
My children are my world but I wouldn't for one minute sugar coat what it's like to bring them up. It is bloody hard work at all stages they go through and my children are good, well behaved children that I'm very proud of So for the op to be so blasé about having one in my opinion is very naive.
So if you want to take offence at what I said then feel free that's your choice but you don't need to because you know as well as I do how much they change your life and how hard a work they are never mind the expense. X"I didn't take offence, but the OP might actually enjoy becoming a mum and not care about the stuff that bothered you? Yeah it can be hard work at certain stages of your childs life, especially if you value your sleep and freedom it will be even harder, but plenty of women just enjoy the responsibility of parenthood and thrive off it. Some (single) people i know love that their life revolves around their kids and are happy for it to be that way, if the OP is like this then she'll love having a child. I was 100% wild, loved my freedom, loved being able to do whatever i wanted when i wanted, never wanted kids at all. Got pregnant, had my son. Took to motherhood naturally and having him was one of the best things i have ever done, especially as it was by accident. I'm not saying it was easy, i had no support from his dad (if anything he made things harder for me) and no support from family, but i got my shit together and became a different person because i had to and yes it changed my life, yes it was hard at times, but mostly i enjoyed it all. Now all my kids are older (i have 4 now) i don't feel much like a mum coz they don't need anything, so my life is changing again to being back to being able to be selfish, i do like this if i'm honest but i would do it all again if i had to, don't really want to but then again i didn't want to in the first place but coped. Not everyone experiences motherhood the same way. OP has a right to have a family if she wants to, whatever way she has one it will cause problems or not, depends on loads of things. We don't know her, we don't know most people we judge and that's why we judge them. | |||
" Not everyone experiences motherhood the same way. OP has a right to have a family if she wants to, whatever way she has one it will cause problems or not, depends on loads of things. We don't know her, we don't know most people we judge and that's why we judge them." I didn't say she didn't have a right to have a child. I was only explaining that having children isn't always what you imagine. It's better to give the facts to a young woman than to tell her how wonderful it is. | |||
" Not everyone experiences motherhood the same way. OP has a right to have a family if she wants to, whatever way she has one it will cause problems or not, depends on loads of things. We don't know her, we don't know most people we judge and that's why we judge them. I didn't say she didn't have a right to have a child. I was only explaining that having children isn't always what you imagine. It's better to give the facts to a young woman than to tell her how wonderful it is. " Think the point she was trying to make is you have given the "facts" based on your own experiences, remember every bodies experience of motherhood is as different and individual as the person is themselves. | |||
" Not everyone experiences motherhood the same way. OP has a right to have a family if she wants to, whatever way she has one it will cause problems or not, depends on loads of things. We don't know her, we don't know most people we judge and that's why we judge them. I didn't say she didn't have a right to have a child. I was only explaining that having children isn't always what you imagine. It's better to give the facts to a young woman than to tell her how wonderful it is. Think the point she was trying to make is you have given the "facts" based on your own experiences, remember every bodies experience of motherhood is as different and individual as the person is themselves. " I understand that. All I was doing was giving a 19 year old woman the best advice which is kids change your life. At her age she has plenty of time to have children. I really don't know anyone that wouldn't give that advice to someone so young. Anyway the advice was directed to the op. I have explained myself and the reason why I said what I did. | |||
"I went to a catholic school where the sex education was at best dicey, and even I understood from the age of about 13 that that's not a proper contraceptive method Perhaps I should have put a more judgemental slant on it: age isn't an excuse for irresponsibility (unless of course she wants to be pregnant, in which case good luck to them both). "You're judging people by your own standard of intelligence, common sense and education. Surely you know better than to do that? | |||
"Sorry if this goes abit too much into detail, any advice is welcomed!!! So, my lady time was due on The 7th of this month and hasnt showed up yet. I have a calander on my phone that shows when im fertile and things, so i put in when i have sex, if it was protective sex or not and things like that. Im seeing a guy an have been for a fair few months so we dont tend to use protection much as he cums on me and not in me. I didnt realise but we had unprotective sex on the day i was ovulating and a few days around that date, but he didnt cum in me. Now, im 7 days late (always on time each month) and have been getting negative pregnancy test results. Today at work i noticed i had a few tiny spots of blood, i dont feel as tho im coming on, i have really bad heart burn, tired , feeling sick, all the symptons of being pregnant but tests showing negative. Anyone else been on this position? "Even if a man does not evacuate inside you you can still conceive. I'd get to the doc's for a more rigorous test. | |||
"Sorry if this goes abit too much into detail, any advice is welcomed!!! So, my lady time was due on The 7th of this month and hasnt showed up yet. I have a calander on my phone that shows when im fertile and things, so i put in when i have sex, if it was protective sex or not and things like that. Im seeing a guy an have been for a fair few months so we dont tend to use protection much as he cums on me and not in me. I didnt realise but we had unprotective sex on the day i was ovulating and a few days around that date, but he didnt cum in me. Now, im 7 days late (always on time each month) and have been getting negative pregnancy test results. Today at work i noticed i had a few tiny spots of blood, i dont feel as tho im coming on, i have really bad heart burn, tired , feeling sick, all the symptons of being pregnant but tests showing negative. Anyone else been on this position?
Even if a man does not evacuate inside you you can still conceive.
I'd get to the doc's for a more rigorous test."*ejaculate - bloody predictive text! | |||
"Even if a man does not evacuate inside you you can still conceive. I'd get to the doc's for a more rigorous test. *ejaculate - bloody predictive text!" Lol "evacuate" works too | |||
"Even if a man does not evacuate inside you you can still conceive. I'd get to the doc's for a more rigorous test. *ejaculate - bloody predictive text! Lol "evacuate" works too "Hm not so much!  | |||
"Even if a man does not evacuate inside you you can still conceive. I'd get to the doc's for a more rigorous test. *ejaculate - bloody predictive text! Lol "evacuate" works too
Hm not so much! "I thought evacuate seemed very posh, has one evacuated yet! | |||
"Even if a man does not evacuate inside you you can still conceive. I'd get to the doc's for a more rigorous test. *ejaculate - bloody predictive text! Lol "evacuate" works too
Hm not so much!
I thought evacuate seemed very posh, has one evacuated yet!
"True but it's posh for a bowel movement. I wasn't trying to infer that the op was full of shit. | |||
"Gaah this hasnt come across how i meant it! I was just asking if any other women had been late but had negative tests and what they did x" Yes - we have! Lots of us will have anyway! Not read the whole thread op - and not going to give you a hard time - but you need to get your head around the fact that you MAY be pregnant - and how you feel about that! Ie - is it a disaster that needs to lead to termination - or could you and your partner contemplate becoming parents? Many pregnancies these days are still unplanned! Two of my three children were unplanned - but I love them all dearly and couldn't imagine life without them! Whatever happens - good luck. If you find you're not pregnant and the prospect of motherhood appalled you, however, then you clearly need to take steps to make sure this doesn't happen again! Xx | |||
" Not everyone experiences motherhood the same way. OP has a right to have a family if she wants to, whatever way she has one it will cause problems or not, depends on loads of things. We don't know her, we don't know most people we judge and that's why we judge them. I didn't say she didn't have a right to have a child. I was only explaining that having children isn't always what you imagine. It's better to give the facts to a young woman than to tell her how wonderful it is. Think the point she was trying to make is you have given the "facts" based on your own experiences, remember every bodies experience of motherhood is as different and individual as the person is themselves. I understand that. All I was doing was giving a 19 year old woman the best advice which is kids change your life. At her age she has plenty of time to have children. I really don't know anyone that wouldn't give that advice to someone so young. Anyway the advice was directed to the op. I have explained myself and the reason why I said what I did. " Yes i was basically saying that what one person thinks is the truth is not the truth for others and they will experience similar things in different ways and the whole experience will affect them differently. Well yeah you said to her to wait a few years, but if she wants a family right now that's up to her really. I don't think you were being malicious or anything like that and were just giving advice based on your own experience, which is why i gave a different story. | |||
"Even if a man does not evacuate inside you you can still conceive. I'd get to the doc's for a more rigorous test. *ejaculate - bloody predictive text! Lol "evacuate" works too "haha evacuate - then when the all clear sounds - get out | |||
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"Why the hell has he not had a vasectomy, if he is a swinger! I had my vasectomy done years ago, dead easy, quick and painless, so now there is a lot less for me and my swinging partners to worry about! Man up guys and take the snip! "This has to go down in my top ten Fab moments 
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"Why the hell has he not had a vasectomy, if he is a swinger! I had my vasectomy done years ago, dead easy, quick and painless, so now there is a lot less for me and my swinging partners to worry about! Man up guys and take the snip! " - great advice. If we all did this there would be nothing for any of us to worry about would there! | |||
