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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So ive got a new playmate. shes great, young, sexy with a nice body and decent crack. Trouble is I can seem to cum when im with her. I do wank quite a lot and I think this is big factor. im trying to cut down but its hard not to nip off for a wank when I feel like one.
I know its sounds abit stupid but I don't want her to think its something shes doing wrong or that I don't find her attractive. any one else have any similar problems and more importantly any solutions?
Any help/advice would be great. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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bit of both. shes not too keen on blow jobs I don't think. it is a fairly new relationship. could be just trying to find out what we both like. she cums loads however which I find a turn on! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I struggle to grasp concept of goin for a quick wank! Do men actually find this a necessity!
I have a high sexdrive but never contemplate just nipping off for one..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So ive got a new playmate. shes great, young, sexy with a nice body and decent crack. Trouble is I can seem to cum when im with her. I do wank quite a lot and I think this is big factor. im trying to cut down but its hard not to nip off for a wank when I feel like one.
I know its sounds abit stupid but I don't want her to think its something shes doing wrong or that I don't find her attractive. any one else have any similar problems and more importantly any solutions?
Any help/advice would be great."
Been there mate. You already know what you need to do; Stop jerkin' it. It normally takes a couple of weeks for your sensitivity to return to normal. That's the physical side of it, anyway.
It might be worth thinking about why your struggling to stop, as well. There is absolutely nothing wrong with masturbation, but if your doing it to the extent that its deadening sensation in your cock, it's a sign that your maybe using it as a crutch for something beyond the normal 'Me horny, me want to cum' impulse we all get.
For me, it was a stress relief thing - I work in marketing, and it can be a long hours, high stress gig at times and I'm the sort of person who tends to bring his work home with him psychologically. I realised that I was using porn + mastubation as a way to shut off my stupid noisy whiny brain - masturbating too much was the symptom, not the problem. I changed jobs, and the effect on my sex life sort of resolved itself (after a while, it took a bit of time and effort to break the habit)
Obviously, that was just my personal trigger, but hope it gives you something to think about  |
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"So ive got a new playmate. shes great, young, sexy with a nice body and decent crack. Trouble is I can seem to cum when im with her. I do wank quite a lot and I think this is big factor. im trying to cut down but its hard not to nip off for a wank when I feel like one.
I know its sounds abit stupid but I don't want her to think its something shes doing wrong or that I don't find her attractive. any one else have any similar problems and more importantly any solutions?
Any help/advice would be great.
Been there mate. You already know what you need to do; Stop jerkin' it. It normally takes a couple of weeks for your sensitivity to return to normal. That's the physical side of it, anyway.
It might be worth thinking about why your struggling to stop, as well. There is absolutely nothing wrong with masturbation, but if your doing it to the extent that its deadening sensation in your cock, it's a sign that your maybe using it as a crutch for something beyond the normal 'Me horny, me want to cum' impulse we all get.
For me, it was a stress relief thing - I work in marketing, and it can be a long hours, high stress gig at times and I'm the sort of person who tends to bring his work home with him psychologically. I realised that I was using porn + mastubation as a way to shut off my stupid noisy whiny brain - masturbating too much was the symptom, not the problem. I changed jobs, and the effect on my sex life sort of resolved itself (after a while, it took a bit of time and effort to break the habit)
Obviously, that was just my personal trigger, but hope it gives you something to think about "
it will some!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So ive got a new playmate. shes great, young, sexy with a nice body and decent crack. Trouble is I can seem to cum when im with her. I do wank quite a lot and I think this is big factor. im trying to cut down but its hard not to nip off for a wank when I feel like one.
I know its sounds abit stupid but I don't want her to think its something shes doing wrong or that I don't find her attractive. any one else have any similar problems and more importantly any solutions?
Any help/advice would be great.
Been there mate. You already know what you need to do; Stop jerkin' it. It normally takes a couple of weeks for your sensitivity to return to normal. That's the physical side of it, anyway.
It might be worth thinking about why your struggling to stop, as well. There is absolutely nothing wrong with masturbation, but if your doing it to the extent that its deadening sensation in your cock, it's a sign that your maybe using it as a crutch for something beyond the normal 'Me horny, me want to cum' impulse we all get.
For me, it was a stress relief thing - I work in marketing, and it can be a long hours, high stress gig at times and I'm the sort of person who tends to bring his work home with him psychologically. I realised that I was using porn + mastubation as a way to shut off my stupid noisy whiny brain - masturbating too much was the symptom, not the problem. I changed jobs, and the effect on my sex life sort of resolved itself (after a while, it took a bit of time and effort to break the habit)
Obviously, that was just my personal trigger, but hope it gives you something to think about "
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"So ive got a new playmate. shes great, young, sexy with a nice body and decent crack. Trouble is I can seem to cum when im with her. I do wank quite a lot and I think this is big factor. im trying to cut down but its hard not to nip off for a wank when I feel like one.
I know its sounds abit stupid but I don't want her to think its something shes doing wrong or that I don't find her attractive. any one else have any similar problems and more importantly any solutions?
Any help/advice would be great."
The more you worry about it - the worse it will get.
A solution: If you have to - fake it.
A couple of women I've met have never cum - by my actions or theirs - it's something you've just got to accept. I rarely cum theough BJs - doesn't worry me - and they know I don't - so it reduces the pressure on 'performing' to 'expectations'.
Sex is (or should be) fun. Don't get all het up about not everything being 'ideal'. |
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"So ive got a new playmate. shes great, young, sexy with a nice body and decent crack. Trouble is I can seem to cum when im with her. I do wank quite a lot and I think this is big factor. im trying to cut down but its hard not to nip off for a wank when I feel like one.
I know its sounds abit stupid but I don't want her to think its something shes doing wrong or that I don't find her attractive. any one else have any similar problems and more importantly any solutions?
Any help/advice would be great.
Been there mate. You already know what you need to do; Stop jerkin' it. It normally takes a couple of weeks for your sensitivity to return to normal. That's the physical side of it, anyway.
It might be worth thinking about why your struggling to stop, as well. There is absolutely nothing wrong with masturbation, but if your doing it to the extent that its deadening sensation in your cock, it's a sign that your maybe using it as a crutch for something beyond the normal 'Me horny, me want to cum' impulse we all get.
For me, it was a stress relief thing - I work in marketing, and it can be a long hours, high stress gig at times and I'm the sort of person who tends to bring his work home with him psychologically. I realised that I was using porn + mastubation as a way to shut off my stupid noisy whiny brain - masturbating too much was the symptom, not the problem. I changed jobs, and the effect on my sex life sort of resolved itself (after a while, it took a bit of time and effort to break the habit)
Obviously, that was just my personal trigger, but hope it gives you something to think about
Great contribution "
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I have the same problem but since we've started swinging its stopped but thing was more a mental thing because as soon as ginger starts cumming all I can think of is that next time it might be someone else making her cum and she often helps things by talking dirty about her past or future meets with the guys we've met |
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