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Am I doing things wrong?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hey guys,

I'm wondering if anyone can help.

I'm not usually one to question my profiles or ask for help but this site just doesn't seem to work for me and I'm not sure why.

I message a lot of women on here from all physical backgrounds and almost all of my messages go I replied.

When sending a message, I always read the profile first, never mention a hook up and introduce myself as well as including a face pic.

Anyone able to advise on how I can improve my chances?

Thanks,

Liam.

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By *histler21Man over a year ago

Ipswich

Maybe people aren't interested in your limited availability. Not everyone find the back of a car comfortable.

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By *onnie and JohnCouple over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

be quick and delete your post...then use the search loads of profile help to be found.. Connie x

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

Non judgemental post alert just saying what I see.

Your profile screams attached and if your cock is all you're going to show better make the pictures really good.

Hope things improve for you.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

Most people will look at/read your profile first and not even.bother with the message if the profiles not whwt their looking for.

All your public pics are of your cock most women dont want to see it and the ones that do will ask for it. Nice torso and a good bum pic seems to be the most requested and pleasing pics to women.

Now to be blunt, the Fact you were supposedly "on the site before and had lots of verifications" so you should know how to make it work, but youve been on here over a year without a single verification that seriously makes me question how honest that line in your profile is, especially at the age of 24 when most peoples minimum age requirement seems to be 25.

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By *organ and rob zombieCouple over a year ago

bradford

I wouldn't meet anyone for just an hour, we prefer to meet on a weekend and make a night of it.....

Don't want to be just someones hard on relief

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By *dventuroususCouple over a year ago

sunderland

As said your profile screams that you are hiding this from another half, also you state you had verifications before, maybe do what you did to get them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

From a female perspective, I'd say you sound way more interested in cock than anything else - and even if you are honestly bi (rather than gay and in denial, which is honestly and with all due respect, the impression that I am getting from the profile), a lot of women aren't going anywhere near you.

Sexual orientation aside, you sound like a married guy looking for something on the side.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

Also your a bi guy and you havent managed to even meet a guy to get verofied in over a year!? , even if you prefer women i highly doubt you havent managed a male meet to get verified and I would say with your very limited times to meet its even more likely youd meet a guy than a woman. Dont get me wrong a quickie is sometimes great and just what you both need but generally swingers like time to enjoy a social andd sexual experience not much time to do that in the back of a car for an hour

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"From a female perspective, I'd say you sound way more interested in cock than anything else - and even if you are honestly bi (rather than gay and in denial, which is honestly and with all due respect, the impression that I am getting from the profile), a lot of women aren't going anywhere near you.

Was about to post exactly this ^^^^^^

Sexual orientation aside, you sound like a married guy looking for something on the side.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe people aren't interested in your limited availability. Not everyone find the back of a car comfortable."

OP what you are offering is probably not going to appeal to many people.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan over a year ago

Widnes

Going against you:-

Too many cock pics.

Nothing about who you really are and what you really want.

Coming across as desperate for sex, any sex.

Inconsistencies in your profile.

Starting this thread.

Going for you:-

You're alive.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As a single woman this profile says "im looking for cock"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

quick fumble on the back seat ? limited time ? #married

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By *nleashedCrakenMan over a year ago

Widnes

"As a single woman this profile says "im looking for cock""

Loving the 'tribute' pic. LOL

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As a single woman this profile says "im looking for cock"

Loving the 'tribute' pic. LOL"

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What sort of "crazy busy schedule" limits meeting times to an hour? Do you not sleep at all? If you are married or attached, you are better off stating it. Sure, it will put some people off but better than giving an impression of dishonesty which will put everyone off.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Op,if you are attachted put it in ur profile so folks know from the off and can judge you for your honesty,otherwise its going against you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks everyone for the feedback.

I'll fix up the images as I see what you mean.

As for the verifications, yeah, I had (I think) two last time I was here I was away from the scene for a little while, I only just became active again on this account recently a few months back.

I've had one meet but no verification was left.

As for the suspicious work schedule, haha I see what you mean but no, my intentions are innocent. See, I work for 7.5 hours 7 days a week, and then spend three hours (each way) travelling to and from work so when I finally get home, I'm that out of it, I'm in no fit state for a hookup.

Hope this cleared some stuff up.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i wouldnt meet someone for an hr for sex

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I wonder, would it be wise to just delete this account and start from scratch?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I wonder, would it be wise to just delete this account and start from scratch?"

no start again

delete the profile text

write what you are looking for and what you want out of fab

honesty is the best policy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks everyone for the feedback.

I'll fix up the images as I see what you mean.

As for the verifications, yeah, I had (I think) two last time I was here I was away from the scene for a little while, I only just became active again on this account recently a few months back.

I've had one meet but no verification was left.

Hope this cleared some stuff up."

Then why are you looking for a meeting? It doesn't sound like you have time to eat, let alone anything else.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I wonder, would it be wise to just delete this account and start from scratch?

no start again

delete the profile text

write what you are looking for and what you want out of fab

honesty is the best policy "

Alrighty then, I'll do just that.

Thanks for the feedback

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Thanks everyone for the feedback.

I'll fix up the images as I see what you mean.

As for the verifications, yeah, I had (I think) two last time I was here I was away from the scene for a little while, I only just became active again on this account recently a few months back.

I've had one meet but no verification was left.

Hope this cleared some stuff up.

Then why are you looking for a meeting? It doesn't sound like you have time to eat, let alone anything else."

Haha I see what you're saying, but a man's gotta have some fun to break up the early starts and late finishes lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If they read the time frame thing I agree they (men, women and couples) might assume you want a fuck n go

Most people have commented on that... It's not very friendly all be it honest but

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By *andomfodCouple over a year ago

walsall

Echoing the above really. Whether or not you are, the profile reads that you are playing away or hiding this from someone. We wouldnt message you back personally. Hopefully this hasn't come across harsh

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Echoing the above really. Whether or not you are, the profile reads that you are playing away or hiding this from someone. We wouldnt message you back personally. Hopefully this hasn't come across harsh

No, not at all. I appreciate the honest feedback. No use sugar coating it as it won't help in the end.

Thanks a lot.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If they read the time frame thing I agree they (men, women and couples) might assume you want a fuck n go

Most people have commented on that... It's not very friendly all be it honest but"

time and a place for quickies but i like my fun unrushed and sensual

no point me spending time getting ready underwear shoes and stuff for a quickie

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Then why are you looking for a meeting? It doesn't sound like you have time to eat, let alone anything else.

Haha I see what you're saying, but a man's gotta have some fun to break up the early starts and late finishes lol"

There are not many folk who would want to meet for such a limited time. There will be some, I am sure, but you are narrowing the field dramatically. Most people would prefer a more relaxed setting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Then why are you looking for a meeting? It doesn't sound like you have time to eat, let alone anything else.

Haha I see what you're saying, but a man's gotta have some fun to break up the early starts and late finishes lol

Yeah I can definitely understand that, and thought that might be the case. Just a shame work takes up so much of my time.

There are not many folk who would want to meet for such a limited time. There will be some, I am sure, but you are narrowing the field dramatically. Most people would prefer a more relaxed setting."

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If they read the time frame thing I agree they (men, women and couples) might assume you want a fuck n go

Most people have commented on that... It's not very friendly all be it honest but

time and a place for quickies but i like my fun unrushed and sensual

no point me spending time getting ready underwear shoes and stuff for a quickie "

Oh you and I both, typically I prefer to have a drink or coffee beforehand but work seems to remove that possibility.

Perhaps I should just wait until there comes a time when I have more free time on my hands.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Also your a bi guy and you havent managed to even meet a guy to get verofied in over a year!? , even if you prefer women i highly doubt you havent managed a male meet to get verified and I would say with your very limited times to meet its even more likely youd meet a guy than a woman. Dont get me wrong a quickie is sometimes great and just what you both need but generally swingers like time to enjoy a social andd sexual experience not much time to do that in the back of a car for an hour

Are you suggesting bi guys are easy?

I'll have you know; I'm Fricking hard work!

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

Are you suggesting bi guys are easy?

I'll have you know; I'm Fricking hard work!

No im not saying all bi guys are easy but i can understand why you would read it that way

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They are pretty easy to be fair. Men are pretty easy.

Tgirls are pretty hard work though. Pretentious divas.

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By *oveSlutForUseCouple over a year ago

Brighton

"Hey guys,

I'm wondering if anyone can help.

I'm not usually one to question my profiles or ask for help but this site just doesn't seem to work for me and I'm not sure why.

I message a lot of women on here from all physical backgrounds and almost all of my messages go I replied.

When sending a message, I always read the profile first, never mention a hook up and introduce myself as well as including a face pic.

Anyone able to advise on how I can improve my chances?

Thanks,

Liam."

You can only get a quick meet on the way home from work between the office and your missus.

I think that sums it up.

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By *isexmistressWoman over a year ago

Prestwich

"Hey guys,

I'm wondering if anyone can help.

I'm not usually one to question my profiles or ask for help but this site just doesn't seem to work for me and I'm not sure why.

I message a lot of women on here from all physical backgrounds and almost all of my messages go I replied.

When sending a message, I always read the profile first, never mention a hook up and introduce myself as well as including a face pic.

Anyone able to advise on how I can improve my chances?

Thanks,

Liam."

You sound nice enough but;

no pics..no one is gonna buy a car without viewing it.Ever.

Profile.Not everyone knows the term top/bottom..You may as well be speaking Klingon.

`Busy guy with a busy mouth`..being busy jogged past...Nobody cares if your a busy guy.. that you have a `busy mouth` might count against you

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hey guys,

I'm wondering if anyone can help.

I'm not usually one to question my profiles or ask for help but this site just doesn't seem to work for me and I'm not sure why.

I message a lot of women on here from all physical backgrounds and almost all of my messages go I replied.

When sending a message, I always read the profile first, never mention a hook up and introduce myself as well as including a face pic.

Anyone able to advise on how I can improve my chances?

Thanks,

Liam.

You sound nice enough but;

no pics..no one is gonna buy a car without viewing it.Ever.

Profile.Not everyone knows the term top/bottom..You may as well be speaking Klingon.

`Busy guy with a busy mouth`..being busy jogged past...Nobody cares if your a busy guy.. that you have a `busy mouth` might count against you

Thanks,

I do have pics or do you mean face pics?

Ohh is that right? Huh, I always thought that was a well-known term haha.

Yeah I thought that sounded not-so-great but I was seriously stuck for words haha.

Thanks for the feedback

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By *nleashedCrakenMan over a year ago

Widnes

"Hey guys,

I'm wondering if anyone can help.

I'm not usually one to question my profiles or ask for help but this site just doesn't seem to work for me and I'm not sure why.

I message a lot of women on here from all physical backgrounds and almost all of my messages go I replied.

When sending a message, I always read the profile first, never mention a hook up and introduce myself as well as including a face pic.

Anyone able to advise on how I can improve my chances?

Thanks,

Liam.

You sound nice enough but;

no pics..no one is gonna buy a car without viewing it.Ever.

Profile.Not everyone knows the term top/bottom..You may as well be speaking Klingon.

`Busy guy with a busy mouth`..being busy jogged past...Nobody cares if your a busy guy.. that you have a `busy mouth` might count against you

Thanks,

I do have pics or do you mean face pics?

Ohh is that right? Huh, I always thought that was a well-known term haha.

Yeah I thought that sounded not-so-great but I was seriously stuck for words haha.

Thanks for the feedback

I still don't know what the term 'top/bottom' means! Can someone tell me please?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its easy, the ratio is 100 men to 1 woman and its a big que, its normal to wait few years.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just put some nice heels on; the ladies love heels and message regularly

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By *ethodManMan over a year ago

Glasgow

Its nothing to do with your availability mate,its just this site is full of ignoramouses, not even got the decency to reply,karma is a bitch lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Its nothing to do with your availability mate,its just this site is full of ignoramouses, not even got the decency to reply,karma is a bitch lol"

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Its nothing to do with your availability mate,its just this site is full of ignoramouses, not even got the decency to reply,karma is a bitch lol"

Ooo what have you done wrong to deserve that sort of karma?

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Its nothing to do with your availability mate,its just this site is full of ignoramouses, not even got the decency to reply,karma is a bitch lol"

I think it is more likely the lack of effort a lot of men make on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Its nothing to do with your availability mate,its just this site is full of ignoramouses, not even got the decency to reply,karma is a bitch lol"

What's an ignoramouse, is it like a hippopotomouse??!

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

"Its nothing to do with your availability mate,its just this site is full of ignoramouses, not even got the decency to reply,karma is a bitch lol"

Reading subtly between the lines, I'd say you aren't doing terribly well on the site either....

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Its nothing to do with your availability mate,its just this site is full of ignoramouses, not even got the decency to reply,karma is a bitch lol

What's an ignoramouse, is it like a hippopotomouse??!"

It's when you see a mouse in the kitchen and ignore it hoping it will go away, it's the humane way to deal with them apparently.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

There's a distinct lack of references to 'The Dambusters' in your profile, mate, which will have a negative impact (boom!) on your ability to attract the ladies who are into war filmage.

Worked for me till just recently when I did a complete and utterly total rewrite.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just from my perspective;

Too young

Smoker

Attached

No pictutes

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By *omolfc8Man over a year ago

merseyside

"Just from my perspective;

Too young

Smoker

Attached

No pictutes

X"
any ideas of making mine any better ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just from my perspective;

Too young

Smoker

Attached

No pictutes

Xany ideas of making mine any better ?"

Post your own thread. Pop a tin hat on and await the, er, guidance

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just from my perspective;

Too young

Smoker

Attached

No pictutes

Xany ideas of making mine any better ?"

Have some public pics and get rid of the cock profile pic, many women will just delete your message based on it.

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By *omolfc8Man over a year ago

merseyside

"Just from my perspective;

Too young

Smoker

Attached

No pictutes

Xany ideas of making mine any better ?

Have some public pics and get rid of the cock profile pic, many women will just delete your message based on it. "
well I can't do face pics due to my job so what public pics do you mean ?

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By *nleashedCrakenMan over a year ago

Widnes

"Its nothing to do with your availability mate,its just this site is full of ignoramouses, not even got the decency to reply,karma is a bitch lol

What's an ignoramouse, is it like a hippopotomouse??!

It's when you see a mouse in the kitchen and ignore it hoping it will go away, it's the humane way to deal with them apparently.

Excellent!!

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By *nleashedCrakenMan over a year ago

Widnes

"Its nothing to do with your availability mate,its just this site is full of ignoramouses, not even got the decency to reply,karma is a bitch lol"

I see this sort of comment often on here. All I can say is it's not my experience. Maybe it's got something to do with effort in results out.

And do you really want your inbox filled with 'thanks but no thanks' messages?

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By *nleashedCrakenMan over a year ago

Widnes

"Just from my perspective;

Too young

Smoker

Attached

No pictutes

Xany ideas of making mine any better ?

Have some public pics and get rid of the cock profile pic, many women will just delete your message based on it. well I can't do face pics due to my job so what public pics do you mean ?"

There id more to you and your body than ever your cock or your face but anything, even just cock shots will work better than nothing.

Also your text is difficult to read, although when the effort is made, some of it is not bad. Try breaking it up into separate paragraphs. But CAPITAL letters at the start of sentences. It all helps in making it easier to read, which is what you want.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan over a year ago

Widnes

And I'm still hoping someone will tell me what 'top/bottom' actually means or is.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Its nothing to do with your availability mate,its just this site is full of ignoramouses, not even got the decency to reply,karma is a bitch lol"

Its not rude not to reply, they obviously aren't interested

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