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What makes you push the 'report' button?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm pretty easy going when it comes down to it, but in the last few days I've pushed 'report' twice. Once because someone was trying to give me money to convince me to meet for coffee, and another because someone send me really foul insults for saying 'I'm sorry, I'm not interested' after sending a dozen messages back and forth.
So what is it that makes you click the 'report to admin' button? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Abusive messages. I was taught that if you didn't have anything nice to say, don't say it.
When I didn't reply to somebody I wasn't interested in this morning, they called me ignorant. I explained the above, and they called me "CUNT FACE!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be fair i have only had to do it a couple of times since joining.
Normally if someone has got personal, one particular lady rained nasty abuse to us for having an opinion in messages.
we are online and adults not kids in a playground for christ sake.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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More inclined to hit report if someone offers us incentives to meet rather than a rare childish insult as we simply just block them.
Have reported a few profiles where the torso shots don't match the head shots after a quick reverse image search revealing the torso belongs to someone else usually a fitness model or pornstar. |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
leeds |
Single men who post photographs in which they hide their own face but clearly show the face of a woman. Not only is this grossly unfair and against Fab rules, it is also potentially breaking the law under the new "revenge porn" laws. |
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Very little but children in photos, people other than the op who can be clearly identified in photos, outright nasty racism and abuse in messages. I rarely report abuse in the forums I think it should remain where it is so that people can see what the person is like. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Pictures nicked from the web drive me insane so I always report those if I come across them
Very rarely needed to report abuse,I have reported for innapropriate messages such as taboo stuff
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nothing anyone says has made me report them,not that I remember anyway. I didn't run to mummy when I was a child,I'm not doing it as an adult. I would report someone who made new profiles to send abuse. Not because the abuse bothers me but to let them know there are consequences for their actions. I have reported a couple of profiles where they have said on here as a single now,don't know how to change from couple to single. Helping them out  |
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"I'm pretty easy going when it comes down to it, but in the last few days I've pushed 'report' twice. Once because someone was trying to give me money to convince me to meet for coffee, and another because someone send me really foul insults for saying 'I'm sorry, I'm not interested' after sending a dozen messages back and forth.
So what is it that makes you click the 'report to admin' button?"
In future, if someone offers you cash to have a coffee with them please direct them to me.
I'm more than happy to be paid to knock back a cappuccino with someone. Travel costs required too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Abusive messages (not tbat we get many). We don't receive messages with incentives to meet!
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Your missing out. Messages like that usually correlate with pub closing time.
Never got round to asking what the incentive is? For risk of feeling undervalued. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm pretty easy going when it comes down to it, but in the last few days I've pushed 'report' twice. Once because someone was trying to give me money to convince me to meet for coffee, and another because someone send me really foul insults for saying 'I'm sorry, I'm not interested' after sending a dozen messages back and forth.
So what is it that makes you click the 'report to admin' button?
In future, if someone offers you cash to have a coffee with them please direct them to me.
I'm more than happy to be paid to knock back a cappuccino with someone. Travel costs required too."
Or she could say ok and you both turn up. If he was serious that would give him a nice shock |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
Net pics irritate me a lot. I found one the other day, where she had a mixture of net pics and one's that may have been genuine. She was meet verified by a few people, so I thought she had improved her look by nicking pics. Reported her. Not gone yet, though. |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
People passing off pictures that aren't them as their own. Guys or 'girls' messaging me from single profiles asking me to meet them as a couple or vice versa. Persistent abuse after I've said no. People offering me financial incentives to meet them. I don't spend my life reporting but I assume if people flout the site rules attempting to contact me then they'll do the same to others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Net pics irritate me a lot. I found one the other day, where she had a mixture of net pics and one's that may have been genuine. She was meet verified by a few people, so I thought she had improved her look by nicking pics. Reported her. Not gone yet, though."
I reported a whole profile as being fake with stolen pics. I knew he was fake as I'd been approached by him years ago on a Facebook app and did my research. He had a whole life around this American body builder,who had a Twitter account and blogged almost daily on his website. I'd forgotten about reporting him,and he was cam verified which made me laugh. He was 150 miles from me according to fab gps,while the real man was tweeting from America that day |
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Only used it a couple of times, the first being where a guy using a fake couples profile posted our username and my place of work in the status update, because Mr hadn't replied to his last couple of messages within half an hour.
The other time was for a fake profile as well, if I remember correctly. Unless messages are ridiculously abusive, we just delete and block |
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I report abusive messages, not because I was affected by it but because I know that there are many out there that aren't as thick skinned as I am, and would take offence if they received something petty. So if I report him (normally a him) then he may be removed before he can abuse someone else.
I have also reported people who send me a private pic with their message which isn't of them (I am pretty sure Prince Harry isn't on here although he did send me his pic) I couldn't report the pic as it wasn't public so I reported the message. |
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By *eithoWoman
over a year ago
Chatham |
Same really. I've got a thick skin but some offensive messages really do warrant a report to admin.
Plus any offers to pay me for sex or if I see anyone offering generally to buy sexual services. |
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The only time I've reported was when someone sent my message wanting to dress me up as a school girl and chase after me in the woods. If I had some kind of kink displayed on my profile that I like to dress up or be "attacked" then fair enough, but I dont.
Just found it creepy. Don't know if anything was done as I blocked him straight away. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Since my profile says that I only go for black men, I get a lot of racist comments/abuse from people who aren't black so I definitely report those type. I also report people who are using fake pictures. |
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I report anything I see as being against the ethos of the site i.e. people choosing the wrong sex, people I suspect are not what they claim to be, photo's stolen from websites.
It's only by us reporting these things that Admin can do anything about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I report anything I see as being against the ethos of the site i.e. people choosing the wrong sex, people I suspect are not what they claim to be, photo's stolen from websites.
It's only by us reporting these things that Admin can do anything about it."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Pictures nicked from the web drive me insane so I always report those if I come across them
Very rarely needed to report abuse,I have reported for innapropriate messages such as taboo stuff
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I've reported three.
All were no shows, one of them after a week of messaging and I went to the expense of a hotel room and he pretended he was coming right up until he was still 'stuck in traffic 15 miles away' an hour after he was supposed to have arrived. Funny how his mobile was within half a mile.
One of the others actually sent me to someone elses hotel room, I think as revenge for them being messed around. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think I've done it yet. Had a few messages calling me a dickhead in responce to forum posts etc but didn't bother reporting.....they were pretty accurate to be fair. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have also reported people who send me a private pic with their message which isn't of them (I am pretty sure Prince Harry isn't on here although he did send me his pic) I couldn't report the pic as it wasn't public so I reported the message."
I bet he is on here. I wouldn't put it past him.  |
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By *-elleWoman
over a year ago
Romford |
"More inclined to hit report if someone offers us incentives to meet rather than a rare childish insult as we simply just block them.
Have reported a few profiles where the torso shots don't match the head shots after a quick reverse image search revealing the torso belongs to someone else usually a fitness model or pornstar. "
I had a friend advise me that someone had a profile with a couple of my fab pics, including a face pic, I reported them and the account was removed same day, but what if my mate never noticed... They could have been getting away with it right now...that felt very odd. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Abusive messages, those who are single but clearly state they only play with their partner present, those who admit they aren't the age their profile says and those who clearly look a whole lot younger than their profile age |
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We have only ever reported one- a "lady" messaged us, but for whatever reason, it just didn't feel right, so I googled their image and found it was a still from a porn film.. Asked them to send us a face pic, and she blocked us!! I made a complaint to admin - the profile is the same, but the photos are now gone x |
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"I report anything I see as being against the ethos of the site i.e. people choosing the wrong sex, people I suspect are not what they claim to be, photo's stolen from websites.
It's only by us reporting these things that Admin can do anything about it."
What do you mean choosing the wrong sex? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I report anything I see as being against the ethos of the site i.e. people choosing the wrong sex, people I suspect are not what they claim to be, photo's stolen from websites.
It's only by us reporting these things that Admin can do anything about it.
What do you mean choosing the wrong sex?"
Claiming to be a single female or couple when really they are a single male |
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I reported someone on another site who was using pictures stolen from the web. I ququickly found they belonged to a Thai model. The person still claimed to be female and that the Thai photos were representative of what they wanted to do. In the end they admitted to being male, I reported them but they are still there!
Nearly reported someone on here for arranging a meet then asking me for £50 "towards car tax". But they had 28 good verifications by meet sp I just put it down to a one off and blocked them. |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"I'm pretty easy going when it comes down to it, but in the last few days I've pushed 'report' twice. Once because someone was trying to give me money to convince me to meet for coffee, and another because someone send me really foul insults for saying 'I'm sorry, I'm not interested' after sending a dozen messages back and forth.
So what is it that makes you click the 'report to admin' button?"
You too?  But mine wasn't after coffee; well atleast I don't think so
Reported him |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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usually report if a profile isnt what it says it is - or in here if its getting out of hand but then i think admin probably get dozens of red lights flashing at the same time - not had to do it often i might add |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I reported someone on another site who was using pictures stolen from the web. I ququickly found they belonged to a Thai model. The person still claimed to be female and that the Thai photos were representative of what they wanted to do. In the end they admitted to being male, I reported them but they are still there!
Nearly reported someone on here for arranging a meet then asking me for £50 "towards car tax". But they had 28 good verifications by meet sp I just put it down to a one off and blocked them."
28 x £50,not a bad little earner. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm pretty easy going when it comes down to it, but in the last few days I've pushed 'report' twice. Once because someone was trying to give me money to convince me to meet for coffee, and another because someone send me really foul insults for saying 'I'm sorry, I'm not interested' after sending a dozen messages back and forth.
So what is it that makes you click the 'report to admin' button?"
Iv not had to report anyone.... Yet |
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"Abusive messages, those who are single but clearly state they only play with their partner present, those who admit they aren't the age their profile says and those who clearly look a whole lot younger than their profile age"
Ha. At least half the profiles would disappear if you were banned for lying about your age. |
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"Nothing anyone says has made me report them,not that I remember anyway. I didn't run to mummy when I was a child,I'm not doing it as an adult. I would report someone who made new profiles to send abuse. Not because the abuse bothers me but to let them know there are consequences for their actions. I have reported a couple of profiles where they have said on here as a single now,don't know how to change from couple to single. Helping them out "
but its not about running to mammy though, its about everyone doing there bit to help the site out, we dont report willy nilly but anything blatantly breaking the rules or abusive or fake we report. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I report anything I see as being against the ethos of the site i.e. people choosing the wrong sex, people I suspect are not what they claim to be, photo's stolen from websites.
It's only by us reporting these things that Admin can do anything about it.
What do you mean choosing the wrong sex?
Claiming to be a single female or couple when really they are a single male"
This. And pics with faces on show (not the profile owner). Haven't reported mail for over a year. I just get nice mail. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Single men who post photographs in which they hide their own face but clearly show the face of a woman. Not only is this grossly unfair and against Fab rules, it is also potentially breaking the law under the new "revenge porn" laws."
Usually fab makes you blur the face out i know it used to in the past esp if its a singles profile |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nothing anyone says has made me report them,not that I remember anyway. I didn't run to mummy when I was a child,I'm not doing it as an adult. I would report someone who made new profiles to send abuse. Not because the abuse bothers me but to let them know there are consequences for their actions. I have reported a couple of profiles where they have said on here as a single now,don't know how to change from couple to single. Helping them out
but its not about running to mammy though, its about everyone doing there bit to help the site out, we dont report willy nilly but anything blatantly breaking the rules or abusive or fake we report."
I'm not talking about abusive messages. I've read of people reporting because they didn't like something they said on the forum. I can let things slide so I would never report for that. When children weren't very nice to me as a child I did the same thing. |
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I ve read a lot of comments saying abusive messages make them click the report button. It must be the anonymity of the Internet that makes them brave enough to Send abusive messages. I wonder how they must behave in their family settings |
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"Nothing anyone says has made me report them,not that I remember anyway. I didn't run to mummy when I was a child,I'm not doing it as an adult. I would report someone who made new profiles to send abuse. Not because the abuse bothers me but to let them know there are consequences for their actions. I have reported a couple of profiles where they have said on here as a single now,don't know how to change from couple to single. Helping them out
but its not about running to mammy though, its about everyone doing there bit to help the site out, we dont report willy nilly but anything blatantly breaking the rules or abusive or fake we report.
I'm not talking about abusive messages. I've read of people reporting because they didn't like something they said on the forum. I can let things slide so I would never report for that. When children weren't very nice to me as a child I did the same thing. "
we can also let little things slide, agree with you there, no need to report every little thing, but if someone is breaking site rules or fake surely its kind of a duty to help the site and report them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've reported once. It was a female with very clear pix of children in the background. I just thought it was wholly inappropriate for this type of site."
we were chatting to some newbies and their pics had large photos on the wall of their children - mentioned it to them and they said oh right - but left them there - |
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By *mooth8Man
over a year ago
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I never used to report anyone even tho some people think it ok to be abusive just because your a guy. I've since started to report 'no shows' abuse and 'dodgy' profiles like the porn site disguised as a single fem who was trying to get guys to put credit card details onto a Web form! Yes really. Apart from that reporting someone is a waste of time as admin are very weak in dealing with the perpetrators but take the easy route and suspend people who retaliate. It's like some teachers... punish the victim and ignore the bully.  |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
I've found Admin to be pretty swift at dealing with issues in the main.
I'm curious at their policy for dealing with partial fakes - those genuine and longstanding profiles, who have just added a few netpics to the true ones. |
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"I've found Admin to be pretty swift at dealing with issues in the main.
I'm curious at their policy for dealing with partial fakes - those genuine and longstanding profiles, who have just added a few netpics to the true ones. "
Oh dear..happened once...the pic is definitely not his, but he is verified by loads of couples by hosting parties.
I still unsure whether to report or not.
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Ive reported those who asked for money. |
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I reported someone who sent us more than one message offering us increasingly rediculous amounts of money for "travel" (and I mean, like, £100-300 - he lived less than 10 miles away).
I don't think anything could be done though because he was smart in how he worded it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not had to report anyone thankfully, but have pressed the block button a few times for people who can't take no for an answer or that have been weird or abusive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have reported a few times a profile who is basically running a prostitution racket. Has his two girls in a flat and charges men £80 to come to his two girl parties. Usually gets 10-20 men turn up. Still there though the last time I looked, still advertising those parties.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Stalkers contacting all my veris telling them I was someone else. Then setting up fake accounts when everyone blocked them and carrying on
One guy regularly insulting some members on here, he wasn't so much naming and shaming as totally slagging them off. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
i'll report anything... lol
abusive status updates...
naming and shaming...
clubs/people who advertise events in the wrong sections...
people who put up meet requests in the wrong section...
if something stands out and screams "wrong" to me... i'll report...
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I've reported people for having pics on their profile which I know aren't them....sometimes because I was present when the pics were taken!
Chancers, fantastists and timewasters...can't be bothered with them.
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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago
Cheshire |
I only click report for illegal suggestions. Which surprisingly, I get a lot of.
Anything abusive or insulting, I just block them. They don't even warrant my energy of filling out a report form.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's only ever men I've clicked the button on, I don't think I've ever had abuse or problems with women or tv/ts
Even as a man, I can honestly say that there's an abundance of dicks on here (at least in my area) and I don't mean the erect kind |
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By *omaMan
over a year ago
Glasgow |
I've hit the report button twice in the last month or so. Once from a guy who got really abusive using the c word aimed at me. All because he didn't like a reply to one of his posts.
The second time was a post containing a very racist remark.
I was surprised at mod hadn't spotted it before I did.
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In seven years I've only reported one message for being abusive. A picture of mine was rejected as too rude: it's similar to my avatar my hand is just lower. So for a day I looked at pictures and reported all that had objects inserted in arses! Petty and childish? You bet, but fair is fair and there should be consistency.
I don't report racist/homophobic etc threads. I like to see the particular moths that flock to the flame. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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obvious fake photos
i reported someone using my pics once and put the profile in status
i was threatened with a ban before the offending pics were removed,balance it is??? |
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"I'm pretty easy going when it comes down to it, but in the last few days I've pushed 'report' twice. Once because someone was trying to give me money to convince me to meet for coffee, and another because someone send me really foul insults for saying 'I'm sorry, I'm not interested' after sending a dozen messages back and forth.
So what is it that makes you click the 'report to admin' button?"
We've reported someone who offered money for sex with Flik...they were also recommending drugs (of the non-prescription/over the counter variety) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They only person I reported was a bloke from Glasgow who copied my pics and put them on his own profile.that was only after me politely asking him to take them down |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i'll report anything... lol
abusive status updates...
naming and shaming...
clubs/people who advertise events in the wrong sections...
people who put up meet requests in the wrong section...
if something stands out and screams "wrong" to me... i'll report...
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Snap! Admin can only change things if they know there is a problem.
I've hardly had any abusive messages since I stopped replying to those I had no interest in so it's been a while since I've needed to report one of those, but anything I see to be fake or misleading gets reported so it can be corrected. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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reported one the other day - single fem - quite new but said had been on before - 3 pics one of a cock - messaged us but said her fella always there and plays hard - so really a couples profile - we did see the cock pic go before she blocked us |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd report if there are other people with faces shown in their photos, especially if they go to the effort of hiding their own.
I also report if I reply to a meet today and suddenly find myself asked if I mind playing with a large group of guys and don't mind paying £50 to cover costs. |
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Surprised to hear how many of you guys have had abusive messages! We haven't had any... yet.
We've reported one profile however that seemed to just have conflicting information all over the place. For example they'd posted a meeting in the southwest where they were usually based despite the fact that they were apparently going to our club in Leeds that night - but we just thought they were a bit dim! They were asking for us to go on skype all day even though we said that we didn't like cams and were busy with family anyway. We also had verifications so we didn't see the point chatting when we were meeting them at a club that we'd pre arranged to go to before we even stared chatting with them. They let us down very last minute (which wasn't an issue for us anyway but still) and then when we'd left the club in the early hours they were still bugging us for skype?? After our report for non-meet (and them just being sooo annoying) we googled their phone number and it was linked to someone who lived in Rochdale. From now on that'll be our first step before meeting someone!  |
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