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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I don't seem to be getting much joy on here. I have changed my pics as advised but still no response. Any ideas welcome. D

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You've had two ! Most lads can be on a year and get nowt. can you not see them again ?

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

I cant see anything that jumps out at me as being wrong or off putting although I'd change the title asking if anyone fancies you, then I can't see anything that jumps out at me to make me want to take things further.

I don't think its a case of no one liking you it's more that you are one of hundreds and to be noticed you have to be noticeable. How you do that is another story altogether.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Green arrow.

read the advice they gave u last time

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By *oobsandballsMan over a year ago

st andrews

Your profile doesn't really say anything about you or what you have to offer, and I'd hide the cock pics, maybe just keep them to friends only

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Ok will do that thanks x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Checked our hotlist the other day and somehow you had appeared on there OP.

No idea how.

Nice pants.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't seem to be getting much joy on here. I have changed my pics as advised but still no response. Any ideas welcome. D"

Don't we remember a previous post of yours that said you are married but playing away?

That never goes down too well!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Also, you label yourself as straight but two of your meets are TV/TS.

How does that work?

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Also, you label yourself as straight but two of your meets are TV/TS.

How does that work?"

I'm sure the two women who have verified him will be pleased to see this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't seem to be getting much joy on here. I have changed my pics as advised but still no response. Any ideas welcome. D

Don't we remember a previous post of yours that said you are married but playing away?

That never goes down too well!"

Possibly this is what you're doing wrong?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Go to an event. There you could meet local folks and see if they are to your liking. If you are willing to travel, cast your net wider.

Had the same problem when I joined in 2011. By no means prolific, but mingling wouldn't hurt. Even if you don't get lucky at a party, you could leave with a contact or 2.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't seem to be getting much joy on here. I have changed my pics as advised but still no response. Any ideas welcome. D"

It's so obvious - 2 veris from TVs and you are straight looking to meet women and mf couples !

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Go to an event. There you could meet local folks and see if they are to your liking. If you are willing to travel, cast your net wider.

Had the same problem when I joined in 2011. By no means prolific, but mingling wouldn't hurt. Even if you don't get lucky at a party, you could leave with a contact or 2."

Good advice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Go to an event. There you could meet local folks and see if they are to your liking. If you are willing to travel, cast your net wider.

Had the same problem when I joined in 2011. By no means prolific, but mingling wouldn't hurt. Even if you don't get lucky at a party, you could leave with a contact or 2.

Good advice

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By *eithoWoman over a year ago

Chatham

"I don't seem to be getting much joy on here. I have changed my pics as advised but still no response. Any ideas welcome. D

Don't we remember a previous post of yours that said you are married but playing away?

That never goes down too well!"

Just read it. She's 'gone off sex' apparently. Why is that OP? Regardless of the morality of it, it's not a great endorsement for you. Do wives with fantastic lovers who tend to their partner's needs 'go off' sex?

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"I don't seem to be getting much joy on here. I have changed my pics as advised but still no response. Any ideas welcome. D

It's so obvious - 2 veris from TVs and you are straight looking to meet women and mf couples !"

and this is why i don't say anything specific when people ask in these types of threads... because i bet what will happen next is that he'll remove them... and then other people are oblivious to what we saw........

people have to work these things out... and if there are "red flags" i'd rather people were allowed to spot them then the "selective honesty" we are likely to see next......

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple over a year ago

near cardiff

"I don't seem to be getting much joy on here. I have changed my pics as advised but still no response. Any ideas welcome. D"

I'd say its a combination of your shit pics,and uninspiring text in your profile.

Also you say your straight but your meet suggest otherwise....there are TVs and then there are TVs..some are beautiful,and womanly others are fat old blokes in dresses.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't seem to be getting much joy on here. I have changed my pics as advised but still no response. Any ideas welcome. D

I'd say its a combination of your shit pics,and uninspiring text in your profile.

Also you say your straight but your meet suggest otherwise....there are TVs and then there are TVs..some are beautiful,and womanly others are fat old blokes in dresses."

But however beautiful they are, or not, they are still blokes so how therefore can straight be true?

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By *obbytupperMan over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

STRAIGHT but has met two TV's, perhaps honesty is your failing?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't seem to be getting much joy on here. I have changed my pics as advised but still no response. Any ideas welcome. D

I'd say its a combination of your shit pics,and uninspiring text in your profile.

Also you say your straight but your meet suggest otherwise....there are TVs and then there are TVs..some are beautiful,and womanly others are fat old blokes in dresses."

I love you

say it how it is

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"I don't seem to be getting much joy on here. I have changed my pics as advised but still no response. Any ideas welcome. D

It's so obvious - 2 veris from TVs and you are straight looking to meet women and mf couples !"

Blimey! When I looked earlier his veris were from women.

. That wasmighty quick!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't seem to be getting much joy on here. I have changed my pics as advised but still no response. Any ideas welcome. D

Don't we remember a previous post of yours that said you are married but playing away?

That never goes down too well!

Rarely.

Remember though, cheats hardly ever blame themselves.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its a huge male to female ratio, that's about it, good luck.

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple over a year ago

near cardiff

"I don't seem to be getting much joy on here. I have changed my pics as advised but still no response. Any ideas welcome. D

I'd say its a combination of your shit pics,and uninspiring text in your profile.

Also you say your straight but your meet suggest otherwise....there are TVs and then there are TVs..some are beautiful,and womanly others are fat old blokes in dresses.

But however beautiful they are, or not, they are still blokes so how therefore can straight be true?"

I can understand hiding your bi tendencies...nothing wrong with that...

Some TVs though,you look at them and think wow SHE is beautiful..others make you think "dad get out of the dress"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Bit like the guy in Benidorm sitcom lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't seem to be getting much joy on here. I have changed my pics as advised but still no response. Any ideas welcome. D

I'd say its a combination of your shit pics,and uninspiring text in your profile.

Also you say your straight but your meet suggest otherwise....there are TVs and then there are TVs..some are beautiful,and womanly others are fat old blokes in dresses.

But however beautiful they are, or not, they are still blokes so how therefore can straight be true?

I can understand hiding your bi tendencies...nothing wrong with that...

Some TVs though,you look at them and think wow SHE is beautiful..others make you think "dad get out of the dress""

Although you may think SHE is beautiful, SHE is still a HE so how can a description of straight be honest?

PS. Notice the meet numbers have gone from the profile?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I never said I did not want to meet a TV. Did I ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not being funny.

but you asked advice last week and didnt act on it.

So as much as these lovely people giving u advice you will just not act on it and put another thread up in a week

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I never said I did not want to meet a TV. Did I ?"

I think the issue is your sexuality, if people know you're lying about something they tend not to be so trusting as they wonder what else you might lie about.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

You advertise yourselves as a normal couple. So what do you class everyone else as on here. What is normal in your mind?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I never said I did not want to meet a TV. Did I ?"

No, but you do say you are straight.

How do you figure that out?

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"I never said I did not want to meet a TV. Did I ?"

in which case if you put yourself down as straight.... thats..... not entirely true now then is it...

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset

24 words in your opening post.

23 in your profile.

Surely you can think of more to write about yourself and what you want?

At present I suspect most readers will click on to the next, more detailed and informative profile.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"You advertise yourselves as a normal couple. So what do you class everyone else as on here. What is normal in your mind?"

I think they are saying they're just like the rest of us, nothing wrong with that is there?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You advertise yourselves as a normal couple. So what do you class everyone else as on here. What is normal in your mind?"

Normal is what quite a few couples, and singles are.

You got any other thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Poor OP. You have made a rod for your own back though as you have been offered some helpful advice before.

Taking it onboard is up to you but if you don't then why ask for advice?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You advertise yourselves as a normal couple. So what do you class everyone else as on here. What is normal in your mind?

I think they are saying they're just like the rest of us, nothing wrong with that is there?"

Thanks.

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple over a year ago

near cardiff

"I don't seem to be getting much joy on here. I have changed my pics as advised but still no response. Any ideas welcome. D

I'd say its a combination of your shit pics,and uninspiring text in your profile.

Also you say your straight but your meet suggest otherwise....there are TVs and then there are TVs..some are beautiful,and womanly others are fat old blokes in dresses.

But however beautiful they are, or not, they are still blokes so how therefore can straight be true?

I can understand hiding your bi tendencies...nothing wrong with that...

Some TVs though,you look at them and think wow SHE is beautiful..others make you think "dad get out of the dress"

Although you may think SHE is beautiful, SHE is still a HE so how can a description of straight be honest?

PS. Notice the meet numbers have gone from the profile?"

Lol..its pathetically brilliant.i love these posts though..

I'd say you are not straight if you fuck men!no matter how convincing the TV is...

I have bi tendencies,I don't advertise them though,and I would never bum another man in a skirt

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I will take your advise. I appreciate every comment made.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In defence of the OP, not all veri's are playdates............maybe the TV meetings are social. you know............like the one we received.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"In defence of the OP, not all veri's are playdates............maybe the TV meetings are social. you know............like the one we received.

Have a little read of them

but I agree with you in principle most of the verifications we choose to publish are social

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple over a year ago

near cardiff

"In defence of the OP, not all veri's are playdates............maybe the TV meetings are social. you know............like the one we received.

Lol..they could be,although after reading I suspect they were not just a social event

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In defence of the OP, not all veri's are playdates............maybe the TV meetings are social. you know............like the one we received.

Have a little read of them

but I agree with you in principle most of the verifications we choose to publish are social

"
I never got as far as reading the profile to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In defence of the OP, not all veri's are playdates............maybe the TV meetings are social. you know............like the one we received.

'Davina' the TV says he has a very suckable cock.

That sound like a social meeting?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In defence of the OP, not all veri's are playdates............maybe the TV meetings are social. you know............like the one we received.

'Davina' the TV says he has a very suckable cock.

That sound like a social meeting?"

I'd say that was being very sociable

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In defence of the OP, not all veri's are playdates............maybe the TV meetings are social. you know............like the one we received.

'Davina' the TV says he has a very suckable cock.

That sound like a social meeting?"
As above, I never read the profile or the veri's so was just spitballing an idea out there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If a woman or couple met a tv in the same circumstances they wouldn't be hounded like here.. just saying.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In defence of the OP, not all veri's are playdates............maybe the TV meetings are social. you know............like the one we received.

'Davina' the TV says he has a very suckable cock.

That sound like a social meeting?

I'd say that was being very sociable

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If a woman or couple met a tv in the same circumstances they wouldn't be hounded like here.. just saying."

Depends on what they said their sexuality is..also just saying.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In defence of the OP, not all veri's are playdates............maybe the TV meetings are social. you know............like the one we received.

'Davina' the TV says he has a very suckable cock.

That sound like a social meeting?

I'd say that was being very sociable

Now now cheeky!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If a woman or couple met a tv in the same circumstances they wouldn't be hounded like here.. just saying.

Depends on what they said their sexuality is..also just saying."
Yes but still they would be nicer about it lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Look guys am sorry that I am not perfect like the "normal" couple on here. And I apologise if I have not told you everything about my Sexuality. I did not realise I was auditioning for prime suspect. Thank you for the genuine genuine information.

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

" And I apologise if I have not told you everything about my Sexuality. I did not realise I was auditioning for prime suspect. Thank you for the genuine genuine information. "

you might not be auditioning for prime suspect but what you seem to fail to realise is that you are actually in a sense auditioning for potential meets... (otherwise you would never have started this thread)

so if you can't tell the truth with something as basic as your sexuality.... why should people believe a single thing you say... or type...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Look guys am sorry that I am not perfect like the "normal" couple on here. And I apologise if I have not told you everything about my Sexuality. I did not realise I was auditioning for prime suspect. Thank you for the genuine genuine information. "

Some folk will try and help, some get off on picking holes and nastyness to newbies, especially men.

For what it's worth, be honest cos it'll get sniffed out quick and best of luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you cannot be open and honest about your sexuality on an adult site where people meet for sexual encounters, where can you be?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You ask for advice on here prepare to get it full and frank. No punches pulled! People will pick up anything and everything.