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Fake Profiles .

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Morning everyone, just wanted to know if you have any tips to tell whether you are chatting with a fake profile i.e. a man pretending to be a women, as i was chatting with women a few days ago and everything was going well , after about five days of chatting she asked to see a face pic of me, i said ok but do you mind sending one first, she then blocked me. is because of the way i said it or was she a fake she had one verification but no pics public or otherwise .

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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A fake profile because she blocked you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

No sorry went a bit of topic , just wanted to know of any tips to sort through who is and isn't, i just found it strange that's all, sorry for confusion

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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That's not strange, people block for many reasons and most of the time you wont know why.

I am not a lover of giving tips of how to spot fakes as it gives the fakes ideas of what not to do....plus, it depends on what peoples definition of fake is.

Whats your definition?

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

"No sorry went a bit of topic , just wanted to know of any tips to sort through who is and isn't, i just found it strange that's all, sorry for confusion "

Ask to speak on the phone at the earliest opportunity. That usually s out the fakes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Fair point, and in my eyes a fake is someone pretending to be someone their not as in a married man/women saying their single or that they have met loads of people before etc ... basically not being honest with them self or the people they chat with, or is the fact that im still sort of new to this making me naive ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We've been accused of being fake for being unable to meet at the drop of a hat . . Everyone's definition is different I guess .

(Her)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No sorry went a bit of topic , just wanted to know of any tips to sort through who is and isn't, i just found it strange that's all, sorry for confusion

Ask to speak on the phone at the earliest opportunity. That usually s out the fakes."

Only some of them . .

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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"Fair point, and in my eyes a fake is someone pretending to be someone their not as in a married man/women saying their single or that they have met loads of people before etc ... basically not being honest with them self or the people they chat with, or is the fact that im still sort of new to this making me naive ? "

I am not sure there are any tips you could have on that as there are lots of people about who don't give too much personal information out or even use different information for their "play" life.

If you are looking for women or couples then I would make sure you get either a phone call to speak to the female or go on cam so they can show you there are females. Then you don't waste your time chatting not knowing if it is just a man getting his rocks off.

The rest is your gut instinct...as you are new you will learn along the way what to look out for, we certainly did after making mistakes at the beginning.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would take that as a fake yeah. She should have sent a face pic before asking really. Don't understand why people expect to remain hidden and everyone else send them stuff first, no need for it.

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

"after about five days of chatting she asked to see a face pic of me, i said ok but do you mind sending one first, she then blocked me. "

She could be fake but if an unverified man responded to my request for a face pic with let me have one first I'd block you too

Doesn't answer your actual question but thought it worth saying anyway

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

"Morning everyone, just wanted to know if you have any tips to tell whether you are chatting with a fake profile i.e. a man pretending to be a women, as i was chatting with women a few days ago and everything was going well , after about five days of chatting she asked to see a face pic of me, i said ok but do you mind sending one first, she then blocked me. is because of the way i said it or was she a fake she had one verification but no pics public or otherwise ."

Actually I can see that a request to see a photo met by a request to show hers first could be regarded as quite irritating, ungallant, and a cause for not wanting to carry on the contact. The easiest way at that stage to prevent any unwelcome comeback is to block.

In that situation it would, in my opinion, have been more gallant to have backed down and sent your face photo first to at least try yo take matters on a little further..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why?

If you want to trade pics then you should offer yours first, i don't get why you think you should have privilege. Makes no sense and is rude to demand something from someone else that you aren't prepared to do yourself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"after about five days of chatting she asked to see a face pic of me, i said ok but do you mind sending one first, she then blocked me.

She could be fake but if an unverified man responded to my request for a face pic with let me have one first I'd block you too

Doesn't answer your actual question but thought it worth saying anyway "

I do understand that and thanks for advice, one thing i might add is she was a friend and could see my private pics which does show a partial face pic if makes sense , but i will take that into account

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By *adybee77Woman over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Go with your gut instinct.

I've been accused of being fake because I wont pic trade early on (certainly not sending my one first), won't do phone calls, cam and don't kik or whatsapp, and I don't meet very quickly either. Guess thats single female prerogative and safety though.

I prefer to chat a while on fab to get a good feeling about the other people... and then take it further.

I'd rather miss a meet than rush into something before I am ready, but if it sounds too good to be true, then go with your instincts.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Go with your gut instinct.

I prefer to chat a while on fab to get a good feeling about the other people... and then take it further.

I'd rather miss a meet than rush into something before I am ready, but if it sounds too good to be true, then go with your instincts."

That's quite helpful I sort of mix though if makes sense (i tend to be polite not necessarily talk about sex but try to get to know the person on a friend level) not sure if you understand but then i can spoil things cus im young and think about my penis before that person but i do try

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By *obbytupperMan over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Chatting five days and won't send her a face pic? She blocked you for being a timewaster I imagine.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

When im meeting all my pics including face pic are on display so if someone wont send theres im not interested

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Chatting five days and won't send her a face pic? She blocked you for being a timewaster I imagine.

Don't think so, as she was the the one how didn't want to right away

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am not sure there are any tips you could have on that as there are lots of people about who don't give too much personal information out or even use different information for their "play" life.

The rest is your gut instinct...as you are new you will learn along the way what to look out for, we certainly did after making mistakes at the beginning.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ah this argument keeps rearing its head

Fake/not fake, genuine/ not genuine i do not think there is any fool proof way of ing them out.

To all the people who state it never happens, stand by as one day it will, and to those who complain it always happens , take heed as a genuine meet will come along.

There endeth todays sermon .

Cam i vidi vici

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think there should be some sort of limit on chat access as well as other restrictions.

For example, so done who is messing about, d*unk, whatever, sets up a fake profile, people chat to who they think it is, maybe even meets arranged etc, then it's a timewaster.

If you can set up a profile and message/chat straight away there is no deterrent. If you have to have been on the site for 24-48-72 hours first,then it would out some of this in my honest opinion.

Just saying.

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By *errygTV/TS over a year ago

denton

as prev posts read between the lines, also if she sent a pic how do you know it is them, it is easy to scan a pic of a female open up a profile and get hundreds of mails, set a second profile different ip address say at macdonalds and verify yourself,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"as prev posts read between the lines, also if she sent a pic how do you know it is them, it is easy to scan a pic of a female open up a profile and get hundreds of mails, set a second profile different ip address say at macdonalds and verify yourself, "

that's true actually.

there's no way of telling a fake profile really, just got to use whatever methods you can and hope they turn up and are who they say they are.

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By *lan43sumMan over a year ago

Leicester

How bad is it on here? I wouldn't mail anyone until they've been on the site for a while and also at least verified. I like to meet ladies and couples but I'm sure some of the couples have been men hoping that their partner will agree to meeting.

The proof of the pudding is in the eating finally and its so tasty that a few fools can't ruin it.

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By *oxesMan over a year ago

Southend, Essex

Ask for a skype call most people will not mind as long as you dont badger them, especially if you say it's just for verification processes. Keep a Swinging skype account.

fake profiles will often get annoyed that you questioned there identity.

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By *oxesMan over a year ago

Southend, Essex

Also any profile with photos with black bits round the outside have cleary been screenshoted.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why?

I think this is important!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Go with your gut instinct.

I've been accused of being fake because I wont pic trade early on ..."
Me too! By a verified couple who contacted me. And I have never even stated I wished to meet anybody online!

As I keep saying, ditch the internet, take yourselves to a club!

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By *oobsandballsMan over a year ago

st andrews

It's all well and good saying meet at a club, but we can't do evenings or weekends for now, don't have much time together and our nearest club is an hour away.

Over the past two weeks we have had two couples say they want to meet, pics have been swapped, date and time is set, and either the day before or on the day when I message them to check we're still good, I got basically put on hold.

They didn't get back to us and left us no time to arrange anything else, so wasted our time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's all well and good saying meet at a club, but we can't do evenings or weekends for now, don't have much time together and our nearest club is an hour away.

They didn't get back to us and left us no time to arrange anything else, so wasted our time

As frustrating as it is you wont stop it happening no matter what measures you put in place, people mention go for verified people we were contacted by a guy who had 37, exchanged pics mailed for 2 weeks all ok and on day didnt answer mails or say changed mind, but the meets we have are great so wont be put off

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

"Chatting five days and won't send her a face pic? She blocked you for being a timewaster I imagine.

Don't think so, as she was the the one how didn't want to right away"

Well that's not exactly true is it?

By your account, you were the one who was reluctant to show yours first...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We believe in sending face pics first if we are the ones asking to meet/interested etc.

If anyone messages us first and asked for face pics without providing their own first - we'd remind them that they are asking to meet us, so should provide pics first.

You get a lot that don't - not saying they are fake, but certainly they are not that interested in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's normal op, many women you chat to that don't got a pic usually will just chat till you mention if they got a pic, few do block or just don't reply anymore loooool.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"..............one thing i might add is she was a friend and could see my private pics which does show a partial face pic............."

You don't have any private pics!!

I don't know why you asked to see her photo first, most other guys on here would have sent one and hoped for one in return, n fact it's politeness to send a face pic with the first message, and I think your reluctance and challenging her to send one first is the reason she blocked you.

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By *iggerooooCouple over a year ago

Conwy

We have been accused of being fake as we are not photo verified on here.

We are just to damn lazy and I also dont see the point ... being a graphics designer, I can honestly get any photo verified on here, too easy.

We are verified by people, surely thats more trustworthy?

We dont care though, dont use this site for meets as most on here are dreamers lol

if you get a gut instinct they are fake ... just go with That.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's all well and good saying meet at a club, but we can't do evenings or weekends for now, don't have much time together and our nearest club is an hour away.

(...) They didn't get back to us and left us no time to arrange anything else, so wasted our time"
My fav clubs are an hour away, but I drive.

Sorry to hear about that couple who let you down. A few years ago I agreed to go out to a popular social nights for Swingers. The woman who ran it kept the address secret, I had followed the desribed procedure for attendees and was confirmed for attending, swapped my shifts with a colleague for the night. Heard NOTHING from the organisers on the day she had promised to send the address out!

So, I know what you are feeling when you say it gives you little opportunity to re-organise when you are suddenly left with a couple of hours instead of a couple of weeks! NOT nice!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You don't have any private pics!"
You can't see if he has any private pics, you can see if he has 'friends only' pics in his PRIVATE gallery.

Private pics can get attached to messages.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Go with your gut instinct.

I prefer to chat a while on fab to get a good feeling about the other people... and then take it further.

I'd rather miss a meet than rush into something before I am ready, but if it sounds too good to be true, then go with your instincts."

Spot on, allways works for me

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By *exWithThePrettyCouple over a year ago

Ilford

I think it's polite & fair that the person who initiates the contact in the first place send their picture first.

But there are a lot of people that seem to send messages out of the blue simply asking for your pictures with no indication of what they look like on their profile.

Damned rude l call it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You don't have any private pics!You can't see if he has any private pics, you can see if he has 'friends only' pics in his PRIVATE gallery.

Private pics can get attached to messages."

I understand that, I was replying to his statement "she was a friend so could see my private pics" which infers the pics that friends can see, not the ones which nobody can see that he attaches to messages.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My profile is completely fake. I made it all up based on who am and what I'm looking for. Feels great to finally come clean. Thanks everyone.

Hugs.xxx

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By *ickawitchCouple over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

Ask to speak on the phone at the earliest opportunity. That usually s out the fakes."

I never speak on the phone, do cam or skype but I have had lots of meets and verifications - I am not fake

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By *qua vitaeWoman over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands

I think you did the right thing by asking for a face pic. It's a cheek really for them to ask and not send theirs or refuse to. Although they are completely within their rights to ask for one in the first instance, those who ask for one, should expect to be ask to send theirs. It doesn't necessarily mean they are fake though - could have been a shy woman or indeed a man portraying himself as one.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

Ask to speak on the phone at the earliest opportunity. That usually s out the fakes.

I never speak on the phone, do cam or skype but I have had lots of meets and verifications - I am not fake

When meeting im the same I dont give out any details I arrange all my meets on here only, if people wish to deem me fake because of it then so be it plenty of people are happy to do things my way and therefore get to meet me.

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By *adybee77Woman over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

"Go with your gut instinct.

I've been accused of being fake because I wont pic trade early on ...Me too! By a verified couple who contacted me. And I have never even stated I wished to meet anybody online!

As I keep saying, ditch the internet, take yourselves to a club!"

My nearest club is an hour away, only runs on certain weekends of the month, and to be honest, is not somewhere I would go. I have been to other clubs in the past - but there is a cost and time implication to travel to a good club, because the local one just doesn't sound like a good place for a single female to me (from what I have heard from good friends)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Answer is how the fuck are we supposed to know

move on

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By *ercy the Park KeeperMan over a year ago

Chester

She asked for a face pic, you declined till she sent one first! I guess she thought you might be a fake avoiding doing so. Looking at what you said and if you are talknig fakes its perfectly feasible to come to that conclusion.

Or it could be she has a lot of offers and couldn't be bothered about someone who wasn't forthcoming with her.

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By *oobsandballsMan over a year ago

st andrews

Ask to speak on the phone at the earliest opportunity. That usually s out the fakes.

I never speak on the phone, do cam or skype but I have had lots of meets and verifications - I am not fake

But why are you sure that those you're meeting are genuine?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The thing with this environment is that there are no barriers of entry; an unregulated market if you like. With that freedom of entry (and exit) you get varying quality of goods, in this case people wanting to procure recreational sex from like minded adults. Speaking with a lady on this site yesterday she told me the second message she had was "Hi I am local can I come to your house and cum on your tits" Where in the real world would that be acceptable behaviour? So I would not analyse, in any great detail, messages sent or received as there is little rhyme or reason to the way some people treat the site and its members. Just put it down to experience and move on!!!!!!!

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By *habsMan over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

In absence of one available I ask for a face pic once. If they say no I respect their decision and move on: I dont do blind dates.

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By *ickawitchCouple over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

Ask to speak on the phone at the earliest opportunity. That usually s out the fakes.

I never speak on the phone, do cam or skype but I have had lots of meets and verifications - I am not fake

But why are you sure that those you're meeting are genuine?"

We have been here over a year and all our meets have worked out fine. We get to know people on here and if we want to meet we do......if I felt unsure about someone or thought they were dodgy I wouldn't arrange a meet

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