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Seems to be we may be hitting retirement age quicker than we thought Not much advice to give us in this case I'm sure, but it sure does feel like it's time to hang up our swinging boots!
I guess we wouldn't feel so torn if it wasn't for that one couple in Xtasia... I wouldn't even care, but we not only didn't play with them (they were playing with an old lady and her recently deceased husband most of the night from what we saw) but we also hadn't spoke to them, making the whole "let's laugh, point, then procede to talk to another couple about them" routine such a downer... It's totally destroyed my body confidence
I do hope we get another social/meet soon, as we are looking for a new club and/or social. It's time we had some more sexy fun with a girl (or fun couple!).
Hopefully soon because we have a week off from teaching on the 13th and it would be a shame to waste it!
Anybody else ever suffer the horrible shit that is being laughed at for (what you can see) no reason?
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Was one of those nights where we came home and ever since haven't been able to get anywhere, can't even strike up a decent convo now
Totally at a loss as to where to go next, but we both are seriously thinking that after a few years maybe enough is enough and we moved on. Which is a shame as we both love our fun little meets C x | |||
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"Are you sure they were laughing at you? You look like you have an amazing body. Can't imagine that you draw the laughs in a club, really! Still, if they were trying to put you down, that says more about them really than anything else. Shrug it off, and move on."  | |||
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"If you get laughed at there's no hope for the rest of us. Hope your luck changes x" | |||
"If you get laughed at there's no hope for the rest of us. " Exactly what I was thinking. Both M&F looking pretty good to me. | |||
"Seems we have hit one of those famed "bad patches" where you can't seem to catch a break or get anything right :p No meets in a long time, no socials, and worse still last time we went to a club we were laughed at and made to feel humiliated by a fat old ginger git and his odd Barbie lookalike younger girlfriend... And we never even played with them or knew them
Seems to be we may be hitting retirement age quicker than we thought Not much advice to give us in this case I'm sure, but it sure does feel like it's time to hang up our swinging boots!
I guess we wouldn't feel so torn if it wasn't for that one couple in Xtasia... I wouldn't even care, but we not only didn't play with them (they were playing with an old lady and her recently deceased husband most of the night from what we saw) but we also hadn't spoke to them, making the whole "let's laugh, point, then procede to talk to another couple about them" routine such a downer... It's totally destroyed my body confidence
I do hope we get another social/meet soon, as we are looking for a new club and/or social. It's time we had some more sexy fun with a girl (or fun couple!).
Hopefully soon because we have a week off from teaching on the 13th and it would be a shame to waste it!
Anybody else ever suffer the horrible shit that is being laughed at for (what you can see) no reason?
C xx ". There are lots of other people apart from the couple that laughed at you. Decent people laugh with each other , not at others . Why bother about two individuals , there are plenty of fish in the sea . You just have to accept that swinging can on occasions be heartless and ruthless and adapt accordingly . Do not worry too much about what others either say or think. | |||
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"Seems we have hit one of those famed "bad patches" where you can't seem to catch a break or get anything right :p No meets in a long time, no socials, and worse still last time we went to a club we were laughed at and made to feel humiliated by a fat old ginger git and his odd Barbie lookalike younger girlfriend... And we never even played with them or knew them
Come to paradise in Bournemouth, we are a friendly group and is great at weekends, friendly and fun.
Seems to be we may be hitting retirement age quicker than we thought Not much advice to give us in this case I'm sure, but it sure does feel like it's time to hang up our swinging boots!
I guess we wouldn't feel so torn if it wasn't for that one couple in Xtasia... I wouldn't even care, but we not only didn't play with them (they were playing with an old lady and her recently deceased husband most of the night from what we saw) but we also hadn't spoke to them, making the whole "let's laugh, point, then procede to talk to another couple about them" routine such a downer... It's totally destroyed my body confidence
I do hope we get another social/meet soon, as we are looking for a new club and/or social. It's time we had some more sexy fun with a girl (or fun couple!).
Hopefully soon because we have a week off from teaching on the 13th and it would be a shame to waste it!
Anybody else ever suffer the horrible shit that is being laughed at for (what you can see) no reason?
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"Perhaps they heard you calling them a sad old ginger git/ recently deceased/ ugly Barbie doll etc etc? "Just what I was thinking ... | |||
"Perhaps they heard you calling them a sad old ginger git/ recently deceased/ ugly Barbie doll etc etc?
Just what I was thinking ... " | |||
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"You shouldn't worry or care what others think, if in a busy club only one set of couples laugh at you then well at least they were entertained by you so you were important in their lives for a little while. Many of us suffer with body confidence but at the same time want to express ourselves, the club in question is one my partner and I attend, both of us are body conscious but it doesn't stop us getting naked at events especially Mo who is usually naked within an hour of arriving. Where ever you go in life someone will need to crtisise what they see not because they are looking at something particularly bad but because they need to make themselves feel better, it's in most peoples nature to do it, infact you have done it in your own post big fat fingers have souls too and I hope to still be swinging when I have one foot in the grave. By what you have said it seems your a little extra sensitive because you were ridiculed what you are in a lull in your swinging life, you were kicked when you were already down and that is when it hurts the most. Your both hotties and im not sure the Dr designed a sonic screwdriver for the purposes your using it for, but maybe some time out will do you good my partner and I left the swinging world for a few months before Christmas and we are back with a new passion for it. Consentrait on each other for a bit and come back with a vengeance. Good luck whatever you do. "* Gingers not fingers lol  | |||
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"So you can bad mouth them to all and sundry because of how they and the people they chose to play with look..."recently deceased husband" really?.....because you perceive that they were laughing at you? I think you might need to step away from this and concentrate on other things." | |||
"How could you have been laughed at you have a great profile great pics and you seem to be very respectful and well mannered x we can't seem to find any sort of meet at the min x but don't give up good things come to those who wait "You think the OP was respectful and well mannered? Is that sarcasm? | |||
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"Your pics are hot and you're very sexy - shame we weren't closer. We've had a dry spell too not had a meet since March, keep getting let down. " Doh not had a meet since November - was let down last night. | |||
"What do you mean by a bad patch? You've had meets in the last month? How is that a bad patch? And the way that you have described this couple and their friends is in pretty poor taste, and just makes you as bad as them for laughing at you, if in fact they were laughing at you. Your in a swinging hot spot, so really can't believe that your not getting meets, are you actively looking by sending messages out? " They have achieved what they set out to do I suspect. | |||
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"Perhaps they heard you calling them a sad old ginger git/ recently deceased/ ugly Barbie doll etc etc? "Em, theyve only said that in here AFTER the event. Im pretty sure they didnt talk about them like that in the club... | |||
"Perhaps they heard you calling them a sad old ginger git/ recently deceased/ ugly Barbie doll etc etc?
Em, theyve only said that in here AFTER the event. Im pretty sure they didnt talk about them like that in the club..."How do you know they didn't? | |||
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when I was at Xtasia recently I was chatting to a lovely lady and some troll I won't say woman said she looked fat in her clingy dress luckily she just shrugged it off there really are some horrible fuckers about. | |||
"The only thing we can think of is they MAY have thought we wanted tonokay with them, but really if you saw the male you would have to ask why anybody would, he looked like Edd Sheran after a night on the piss" sticks and stones wont make it right | |||
"You get arseholes everywhere when I was at Xtasia recently I was chatting to a lovely lady and some troll I won't say woman said she looked fat in her clingy dress luckily she just shrugged it off there really are some horrible fuckers about."troll? | |||
"Perhaps they heard you calling them a sad old ginger git/ recently deceased/ ugly Barbie doll etc etc?
Em, theyve only said that in here AFTER the event. Im pretty sure they didnt talk about them like that in the club...
How do you know they didn't?"Well, because they havent said they did, so i have no reason to think they did | |||
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"You get arseholes everywhere when I was at Xtasia recently I was chatting to a lovely lady and some troll I won't say woman said she looked fat in her clingy dress luckily she just shrugged it off there really are some horrible fuckers about.
troll?"A horrible person then | |||
"You get arseholes everywhere when I was at Xtasia recently I was chatting to a lovely lady and some troll I won't say woman said she looked fat in her clingy dress luckily she just shrugged it off there really are some horrible fuckers about.
troll?
A horrible person then"i hope she doesnt read that she was fat and looked a mess in a clingy dress | |||
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"You get arseholes everywhere when I was at Xtasia recently I was chatting to a lovely lady and some troll I won't say woman said she looked fat in her clingy dress luckily she just shrugged it off there really are some horrible fuckers about.
troll?
A horrible person then
i hope she doesnt read that she was fat and looked a mess in a clingy dress"What are you on about? | |||
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"You get arseholes everywhere when I was at Xtasia recently I was chatting to a lovely lady and some troll I won't say woman said she looked fat in her clingy dress luckily she just shrugged it off there really are some horrible fuckers about.
troll?
A horrible person then
i hope she doesnt read that she was fat and looked a mess in a clingy dress
What are you on about?"
The woman said she looked fat in front of so I think she already knows??
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"You get arseholes everywhere when I was at Xtasia recently I was chatting to a lovely lady and some troll I won't say woman said she looked fat in her clingy dress luckily she just shrugged it off there really are some horrible fuckers about.
troll?
A horrible person then
i hope she doesnt read that she was fat and looked a mess in a clingy dress
What are you on about?
The woman said she looked fat in front of so I think she already knows??
"ahh i need more coffee lol sorry! | |||
"This post is a wind up obviously " | |||
"You get arseholes everywhere when I was at Xtasia recently I was chatting to a lovely lady and some troll I won't say woman said she looked fat in her clingy dress luckily she just shrugged it off there really are some horrible fuckers about.
troll?
A horrible person then
i hope she doesnt read that she was fat and looked a mess in a clingy dress
What are you on about?
The woman said she looked fat in front of so I think she already knows??
"The woman I was talking to got insulted she was neither fat or ugly pay attention  | |||
"This post is a wind up obviously "Im starting to think you might be right actually. | |||
"Perhaps they heard you calling them a sad old ginger git/ recently deceased/ ugly Barbie doll etc etc?
Em, theyve only said that in here AFTER the event. Im pretty sure they didnt talk about them like that in the club..."Does that not make it even worse ? If someone is recently deceased it is in very poor taste to make any derogatory comments about them . Age or looks should not be a barrier to enjoying yourself | |||
"Perhaps they heard you calling them a sad old ginger git/ recently deceased/ ugly Barbie doll etc etc?
Em, theyve only said that in here AFTER the event. Im pretty sure they didnt talk about them like that in the club... Does that not make it even worse ? If someone is recently deceased it is in very poor taste to make any derogatory comments about them . Age or looks should not be a barrier to enjoying yourself "They meant that the husband was so old he looked as if he was recently deceased. which is worse really the poor chap. | |||
"This post is a wind up obviously
"Or maybe just an attempt to obtain profile views | |||
"Perhaps they heard you calling them a sad old ginger git/ recently deceased/ ugly Barbie doll etc etc?
Em, theyve only said that in here AFTER the event. Im pretty sure they didnt talk about them like that in the club... Does that not make it even worse ? If someone is recently deceased it is in very poor taste to make any derogatory comments about them . Age or looks should not be a barrier to enjoying yourself "How did they make any derogatory comments about the recently deceased person? | |||
"You get arseholes everywhere when I was at Xtasia recently I was chatting to a lovely lady and some troll I won't say woman said she looked fat in her clingy dress luckily she just shrugged it off there really are some horrible fuckers about.
troll?
A horrible person then
i hope she doesnt read that she was fat and looked a mess in a clingy dress
What are you on about?
The woman said she looked fat in front of so I think she already knows??
The woman I was talking to got insulted she was neither fat or ugly pay attention "I meant she already knows the other woman said she was fat, pay attention yourself | |||
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"They obviusly said "We should invite them to play with us, we are obviously their type" Then fell about laughing at themselves for being so sad and awful. I have had a "bad patch" For the last 7 months, so frustrating !! X" I think the point is that none of us know exactly what went on or what was going through the minds of these unfortunate club goers. However honour is restored and self esteem boosted by all the people who don't know what went on sympathising | |||
"Ironically, being ignored has a similar effect. Imagine you recently joined a swinging site and had received a reply from every single message you'd sent - not that you'd sent many, mind. Then one day, whilst having a happy half hour in the forum, you message a couple. And they totally blank you. And 2 years later you look on their profile and you can see that you'd messaged them and they hadn't replied. For a while, it made that guy feel really bad about himself. Then he sat back and thought 'one day, they will feel as bad as I did' and he forgot about them. " Why would anyone expect to receive a reply to every message that they send ? Surely a reply is only necessary if the message is of interest to the recipient . Sending messages is not like giving a present and expecting someone to say thank you . ( same principle applies when opening the door to someone ) . We are in cyber world where a oompletely different set of rules apply | |||
"But that's the point she didn't know her and she was pissed off that said woman said it and it upset her "Not surprised. But I was referring to the post from the other poster who said that the insulted women may read about it here and get upset. I was pointing out that she already knew the woman said it as it was said in front of her | |||
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"Perhaps they heard you calling them a sad old ginger git/ recently deceased/ ugly Barbie doll etc etc?
Em, theyve only said that in here AFTER the event. Im pretty sure they didnt talk about them like that in the club... Does that not make it even worse ? If someone is recently deceased it is in very poor taste to make any derogatory comments about them . Age or looks should not be a barrier to enjoying yourself
They meant that the husband was so old he looked as if he was recently deceased. which is worse really the poor chap."That bit made me snigger. I'm a bad person.  | |||
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"Hmmmm I wonder how much the club charged the dead guy to get in? "they let him in free because he was guaranteed to remain stiff all night  | |||
"Perhaps they heard you calling them a sad old ginger git/ recently deceased/ ugly Barbie doll etc etc?
Em, theyve only said that in here AFTER the event. Im pretty sure they didnt talk about them like that in the club... Does that not make it even worse ? If someone is recently deceased it is in very poor taste to make any derogatory comments about them . Age or looks should not be a barrier to enjoying yourself
They meant that the husband was so old he looked as if he was recently deceased. which is worse really the poor chap.
That bit made me snigger. I'm a bad person. "You are very bad indeed | |||
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"I won’t continue to post in this thread other than to clear up a few things. 1) We actively search, message, chat, and are polite. 2) We never bad mouth other couples, its just not on. However in this case we have without naming them, without even saying they are on FAB. 3) We never speak with this couple, never have any intention of meeting, and don't really want to. Its not a "meet gone wrong". 4) We were pointed and laughed at first. That may seem like "playground rules", but when you get laughed at for no reason in a swinging club, a place designed solely for that to NOT happen, it gets at you. Even more so that now we don't know if we are going back. 5) Debs, are expectations are that we are here to social, with a view to meet later on if possible. We are here to make friends, not enemies. We don't actively search for people to piss off, annoy, hurt or make them feel small. Sadly this site has a LOT of those people. Its hard finding normal couples/singles on here, even harder when you have set check lists of your own that has to match. 6) On the subject of replies, we aim to reply to as many as we can, but sometimes its just not possible. We have over 100 messages a day, most of which are badly typed, pointless messages. Sadly the few that are nicely written are from people who don't even read our profile and see they are out of our age range or what we are looking for. Even then we do TRY and reply, but that’s not always possible. 7) Finally in closing, sticks and stones won't make anything right or change. But I can promise you, the only time we laughed at anything that night was in the chill out room because as usual the porn on the TV was AWFUL. We sat there for a good 10 minutes laughing because we wasn't sure if the woman had an "innie" or an "outie" belly button, because with every thrust it would pop in, then pop out... We have never laughed at a single person in any club, never would. We are both VERY insecure people, and we value our friendships far more than getting our ends away. We love the social side of things and will happily chat with people who are not anywhere near close to what we want in the bedroom simply because its polite. So to be stood there, minding our own business, and have people POINT, LAUGH and TALK about you, then proceed to tell another couple, who DO THE SAME THING... All while you are stood there in this: http://www.fabswingers.com/profile/telfordcouple86/display/021b31c6-7253-4d35-b6b4-770d46b40542 IS VERY DIFFICULT... Its damn near impossible. In fact we left the club a few minutes later after getting changed because that was the first time we had ever seen this happen. One last time, for the sake of those who can't/won't read: WE WOULD NEVER DO SUCH A THING. We only felt the need to insult to let off some steam. Hell, they really are far, far from the nicest looking people on the planet, and the fact they feel they could laugh at another couple shows that they are really shallow, ugly people, regardless of looks. So if I can't do a retrospect insult at them after they made us feel so bad we had to leave a club and drive 40 miles home, then I'm ever so sorry. C xx" Honestly and with the best possible intent you need to step back from this. Read your last paragraph back to yourself. For your own peace of mind, self esteem and sanity take a bit of a break. I wish you luck and peace of mind. x | |||
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"Oh indeed, I know... But seeing as I can't/Don't drink, this was the next best thing... Its a pitty really... I really like Ed Sheeran C x"Eh? | |||
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"Perhaps they heard you calling them a sad old ginger git/ recently deceased/ ugly Barbie doll etc etc? "Yep, the irony didn't evade me either. | |||
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"Oh indeed, I know... But seeing as I can't/Don't drink, this was the next best thing... Its a pitty really... I really like Ed Sheeran C x"Ahh now we get to the crux of the problem. They were obviously pointing and laughing at you because they heard that you like Ed Sheeran. Dump the Cheesy stuff n go out and buy some Springsteen and Stones..Problem solved
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"So you can bad mouth them to all and sundry because of how they and the people they chose to play with look..."recently deceased husband" really?.....because you perceive that they were laughing at you? I think you might need to step away from this and concentrate on other things." exactly this | |||
"To be honest how one incident can provoke such a reaction in someone. There has to be a deeper issue here because if you were that insecure you would never set foot into a club or be swinging at all. As I said your in a bit of a lull at the moment so not feeling great so this insident has touched an already raw nerve. I can not imagine this sort of playground stuff provoking such a reaction from adults in the right state of mind. State of mind is the issue here and looking at the big picture it sounds like you felt like everyone was against you, surely you had people in there that you knew to reassure you? The best advise I can see you have already been given here is take time out off the scene concentrate on each other make yourselves feel good again and then if you still want to come back. " | |||
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"Seems we have hit one of those famed "bad patches" where you can't seem to catch a break or get anything right :p No meets in a long time, no socials, and worse still last time we went to a club we were laughed at and made to feel humiliated by a fat old ginger git and his odd Barbie lookalike younger girlfriend... And we never even played with them or knew them
Seems to be we may be hitting retirement age quicker than we thought Not much advice to give us in this case I'm sure, but it sure does feel like it's time to hang up our swinging boots!
I guess we wouldn't feel so torn if it wasn't for that one couple in Xtasia... I wouldn't even care, but we not only didn't play with them (they were playing with an old lady and her recently deceased husband most of the night from what we saw) but we also hadn't spoke to them, making the whole "let's laugh, point, then procede to talk to another couple about them" routine such a downer... It's totally destroyed my body confidence
I do hope we get another social/meet soon, as we are looking for a new club and/or social. It's time we had some more sexy fun with a girl (or fun couple!).
Hopefully soon because we have a week off from teaching on the 13th and it would be a shame to waste it!
Anybody else ever suffer the horrible shit that is being laughed at for (what you can see) no reason?
C xx "No we have never had this... Any laughing at clubs is usually with all we meet and have a laugh with .. To be honest No one would ever make me/ us feel bad in the way you are describing... If ever any anamosity was felt.. It would be delt with there n then. The way you describe events, what do you think they were laughing at? And is it not possible they were just laughing and you just thought it was at you? People can only make us feel inferia if we ourselves allow that.... Expressing how bad they made you feel by then totaly picking em apart and being quite nasty about em to justify how they made you feel is crazy! Aint that just as bad? Someone laughing , and you assume it was AT you ... And it's now ' destroyed your confidence' is possibly something you need look at closer as to why that effected you in this way? | |||
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"Seems we have hit one of those famed "bad patches" where you can't seem to catch a break or get anything right :p No meets in a long time, no socials, and worse still last time we went to a club we were laughed at and made to feel humiliated by a fat old ginger git and his odd Barbie lookalike younger girlfriend... And we never even played with them or knew them
Seems to be we may be hitting retirement age quicker than we thought Not much advice to give us in this case I'm sure, but it sure does feel like it's time to hang up our swinging boots!
I guess we wouldn't feel so torn if it wasn't for that one couple in Xtasia... I wouldn't even care, but we not only didn't play with them (they were playing with an old lady and her recently deceased husband most of the night from what we saw) but we also hadn't spoke to them, making the whole "let's laugh, point, then procede to talk to another couple about them" routine such a downer... It's totally destroyed my body confidence
I do hope we get another social/meet soon, as we are looking for a new club and/or social. It's time we had some more sexy fun with a girl (or fun couple!).
Hopefully soon because we have a week off from teaching on the 13th and it would be a shame to waste it!
Anybody else ever suffer the horrible shit that is being laughed at for (what you can see) no reason?
C xx No we have never had this... Any laughing at clubs is usually with all we meet and have a laugh with .. To be honest No one would ever make me/ us feel bad in the way you are describing... If ever any anamosity was felt.. It would be delt with there n then. The way you describe events, what do you think they were laughing at? And is it not possible they were just laughing and you just thought it was at you? People can only make us feel inferia if we ourselves allow that.... Expressing how bad they made you feel by then totaly picking em apart and being quite nasty about em to justify how they made you feel is crazy! Aint that just as bad? Someone laughing , and you assume it was AT you ... And it's now ' destroyed your confidence' is possibly something you need look at closer as to why that effected you in this way? "Yes ! | |||
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"You wrote 'We are both very insecure people' and that, my lovely friends would seem to be the problem. Insecurities are a bitch to get rid of and we've all got them, but honestly, it's time to shrug them off and have go have some fun. Party like nothing matters. " We both are, sure, but not in swinging, its the one area we are confident. But when you get pointed at and laughed at and its clearly NOT just your mind playing tricks, it makes things a whole lot worse. C x | |||
"You wrote 'We are both very insecure people' and that, my lovely friends would seem to be the problem. Insecurities are a bitch to get rid of and we've all got them, but honestly, it's time to shrug them off and have go have some fun. Party like nothing matters. We both are, sure, but not in swinging, its the one area we are confident. But when you get pointed at and laughed at and its clearly NOT just your mind playing tricks, it makes things a whole lot worse. C x" You might want to look at all the positive comments you have had here..and ignored! Take those on board, they are by far the majority but you choose to concentrate on the negative. That way lies madness and it will do you no good at all. | |||
"You wrote 'We are both very insecure people' and that, my lovely friends would seem to be the problem. Insecurities are a bitch to get rid of and we've all got them, but honestly, it's time to shrug them off and have go have some fun. Party like nothing matters. We both are, sure, but not in swinging, its the one area we are confident. But when you get pointed at and laughed at and its clearly NOT just your mind playing tricks, it makes things a whole lot worse. C x You might want to look at all the positive comments you have had here..and ignored! Take those on board, they are by far the majority but you choose to concentrate on the negative. That way lies madness and it will do you no good at all."
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"You wrote 'We are both very insecure people' and that, my lovely friends would seem to be the problem. Insecurities are a bitch to get rid of and we've all got them, but honestly, it's time to shrug them off and have go have some fun. Party like nothing matters. We both are, sure, but not in swinging, its the one area we are confident. But when you get pointed at and laughed at and its clearly NOT just your mind playing tricks, it makes things a whole lot worse. C x You might want to look at all the positive comments you have had here..and ignored! Take those on board, they are by far the majority but you choose to concentrate on the negative. That way lies madness and it will do you no good at all." Trust us, we are, belie e me we are? We have had a few lovely messages from amazing people too! I just don't want people think think we are mean all the time that's all! We just had a momentally lapse of judgement was all (the negative words) C x | |||
"Seems we have hit one of those famed "bad patches" where you can't seem to catch a break or get anything right :p No meets in a long time, no socials, and worse still last time we went to a club we were laughed at and made to feel humiliated by a fat old ginger git and his odd Barbie lookalike younger girlfriend... And we never even played with them or knew them
Seems to be we may be hitting retirement age quicker than we thought Not much advice to give us in this case I'm sure, but it sure does feel like it's time to hang up our swinging boots!
I guess we wouldn't feel so torn if it wasn't for that one couple in Xtasia... I wouldn't even care, but we not only didn't play with them (they were playing with an old lady and her recently deceased husband most of the night from what we saw) but we also hadn't spoke to them, making the whole "let's laugh, point, then procede to talk to another couple about them" routine such a downer... It's totally destroyed my body confidence
I do hope we get another social/meet soon, as we are looking for a new club and/or social. It's time we had some more sexy fun with a girl (or fun couple!).
Hopefully soon because we have a week off from teaching on the 13th and it would be a shame to waste it!
Anybody else ever suffer the horrible shit that is being laughed at for (what you can see) no reason?
C xx "Do you think you are maybe overthinking things? Without sounding like a brown noser you are obviously a very sexy woman with a great body. I seriously doubt they were laughing at you. If they were laughing at you then they need to go to specsavers. | |||
"Seems we have hit one of those famed "bad patches" where you can't seem to catch a break or get anything right :p No meets in a long time, no socials, and worse still last time we went to a club we were laughed at and made to feel humiliated by a fat old ginger git and his odd Barbie lookalike younger girlfriend... And we never even played with them or knew them
Seems to be we may be hitting retirement age quicker than we thought Not much advice to give us in this case I'm sure, but it sure does feel like it's time to hang up our swinging boots!
I guess we wouldn't feel so torn if it wasn't for that one couple in Xtasia... I wouldn't even care, but we not only didn't play with them (they were playing with an old lady and her recently deceased husband most of the night from what we saw) but we also hadn't spoke to them, making the whole "let's laugh, point, then procede to talk to another couple about them" routine such a downer... It's totally destroyed my body confidence
I do hope we get another social/meet soon, as we are looking for a new club and/or social. It's time we had some more sexy fun with a girl (or fun couple!).
Hopefully soon because we have a week off from teaching on the 13th and it would be a shame to waste it!
Anybody else ever suffer the horrible shit that is being laughed at for (what you can see) no reason?
C xx
Do you think you are maybe overthinking things? Without sounding like a brown noser you are obviously a very sexy woman with a great body. I seriously doubt they were laughing at you. If they were laughing at you then they need to go to specsavers. "Gav and I were talking about it last night, and the only thing we can think of that would have anything even remotely to do with it was that at one point we played with each other (alone) in the dungeon, and they were there near. We moved to the bed from the chairs, which was close to where they were, but moved back once we saw there was very little room anyway, but they were not on the bed anyway... But that's the only time we were even near them. When we were laughing at the tv upstairs they never even entered the room. Of course now gavs paranoid that it's his size, because his ex used to take the mick out of him as well. Im not exactly body confident at all, but both of us when out swinging usually are very good, we put it all aside and dont worry at all. But this time it was just way too obvious t was us that was being laughed at and pointed at, mainly because there was nobody near us when it was happening. For all those saying get over it, grow up, move on... We actually have, trust me. I'm only replying to this now as its an ongoing point. But I bet you would have your confidence knocked as well if it happened to you. Since this post went live we have had three different couples not only ask, but also tell us about this same couple by describing them, but not on the same night. That's why we don't care anymore. This couple clearly has an ego, and they don't mind showing it! To be told they have been rude to a few people just shows it's not us! We ARE over it! Believe me! But man, what an awful attitude this couple must have! C x | |||
"Perhaps they heard you calling them a sad old ginger git/ recently deceased/ ugly Barbie doll etc etc? " | |||
"Perhaps they heard you calling them a sad old ginger git/ recently deceased/ ugly Barbie doll etc etc?
"Once again... This was said in anger a few days after everything happened, after everything was done from their end, not ours. If you read the thread it doesn't take much to figure that out. C x | |||
"Perhaps they heard you calling them a sad old ginger git/ recently deceased/ ugly Barbie doll etc etc?
Once again... This was said in anger a few days after everything happened, after everything was done from their end, not ours. If you read the thread it doesn't take much to figure that out. C x"just let it go move on and have fun | |||
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"Seems we have hit one of those famed "bad patches" where you can't seem to catch a break or get anything right :p No meets in a long time, no socials, and worse still last time we went to a club we were laughed at and made to feel humiliated by a fat old ginger git and his odd Barbie lookalike younger girlfriend... And we never even played with them or knew them
Seems to be we may be hitting retirement age quicker than we thought Not much advice to give us in this case I'm sure, but it sure does feel like it's time to hang up our swinging boots!
I guess we wouldn't feel so torn if it wasn't for that one couple in Xtasia... I wouldn't even care, but we not only didn't play with them (they were playing with an old lady and her recently deceased husband most of the night from what we saw) but we also hadn't spoke to them, making the whole "let's laugh, point, then procede to talk to another couple about them" routine such a downer... It's totally destroyed my body confidence
I do hope we get another social/meet soon, as we are looking for a new club and/or social. It's time we had some more sexy fun with a girl (or fun couple!).
Hopefully soon because we have a week off from teaching on the 13th and it would be a shame to waste it!
Anybody else ever suffer the horrible shit that is being laughed at for (what you can see) no reason?
C xx ". Your status update states that you are teachers . I would have thought that as a teacher you would appreciate that it is completely unacceptable to describe someone as a sad old git . Posts on these forums are a good indication of peoples attitude towards others . General it is best to treat others as you would wish to be treated and to refrain from making derogatory comments. | |||
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