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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hiya guys
Just wondering if I'm a freak of nature 
Iv only ever cum once from a blowjob
Don't get me wrong I love the sensation and it really gets me going but never to the point of cumming 
Anyone else have this problem ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No your not a freak.
Ive had loads of blowjobs over the years and only came close to cumming one and that was when she wanked me for 5 mins as well as sucking.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Interesting comments
I just find it strange as I really enjoy it but also feel a bit guilty when a ladies trying to finish you off and after 10 mins iv got to say look no offence but it's not going to happen
Some girls have even being angry |
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"Interesting comments
I just find it strange as I really enjoy it but also feel a bit guilty when a ladies trying to finish you off and after 10 mins iv got to say look no offence but it's not going to happen
Some girls have even being angry "
Then you're shagging the wrong girls. Sex is not a race or a competition and if the person you're with does not like the way you react, they are not worth meeting again. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Interesting comments
I just find it strange as I really enjoy it but also feel a bit guilty when a ladies trying to finish you off and after 10 mins iv got to say look no offence but it's not going to happen
Some girls have even being angry
Then you're shagging the wrong girls. Sex is not a race or a competition and if the person you're with does not like the way you react, they are not worth meeting again."
 I agree with what your saying
But it's almost like a challenge and then when they can't make me cum they don't like it ha ha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Interesting comments
I just find it strange as I really enjoy it but also feel a bit guilty when a ladies trying to finish you off and after 10 mins iv got to say look no offence but it's not going to happen
Some girls have even being angry
Then you're shagging the wrong girls. Sex is not a race or a competition and if the person you're with does not like the way you react, they are not worth meeting again.
I agree with what your saying
But it's almost like a challenge and then when they can't make me cum they don't like it ha ha "
Welcome to my world. I rarely come from oral, only ever with my husband a handful of times. You would not believe the huffing and harrumphing that goes on when they've been at it for a couple of minutes and I've still not cum. Even from the blokes who claim they could lick pussy all night. In my experience about ten mins is the max and they give up.  |
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By *ackspopCouple
over a year ago
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" Welcome to my world. I rarely come from oral, only ever with my husband a handful of times. You would not believe the huffing and harrumphing that goes on when they've been at it for a couple of minutes and I've still not cum. Even from the blokes who claim they could lick pussy all night. In my experience about ten mins is the max and they give up. "
10 mins? Just getting warmed up.
As for OP's point, bj oral feels different and personally it takes me longer to cum with oral than it does penetrative sex. Saying that, I like it, Jacky likes to do it so we're all winners. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Interesting comments
I just find it strange as I really enjoy it but also feel a bit guilty when a ladies trying to finish you off and after 10 mins iv got to say look no offence but it's not going to happen
Some girls have even being angry
Then you're shagging the wrong girls. Sex is not a race or a competition and if the person you're with does not like the way you react, they are not worth meeting again.
I agree with what your saying
But it's almost like a challenge and then when they can't make me cum they don't like it ha ha
Welcome to my world. I rarely come from oral, only ever with my husband a handful of times. You would not believe the huffing and harrumphing that goes on when they've been at it for a couple of minutes and I've still not cum. Even from the blokes who claim they could lick pussy all night. In my experience about ten mins is the max and they give up. "
I think its because some people can cum very easy and others need a little more work
A previous partner needed to be stimulated in her mind before I even touched her body as other wise it was a waste of time |
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"Interesting comments
I just find it strange as I really enjoy it but also feel a bit guilty when a ladies trying to finish you off and after 10 mins iv got to say look no offence but it's not going to happen
Some girls have even being angry
Then you're shagging the wrong girls. Sex is not a race or a competition and if the person you're with does not like the way you react, they are not worth meeting again.
I agree with what your saying
But it's almost like a challenge and then when they can't make me cum they don't like it ha ha
Welcome to my world. I rarely come from oral, only ever with my husband a handful of times. You would not believe the huffing and harrumphing that goes on when they've been at it for a couple of minutes and I've still not cum. Even from the blokes who claim they could lick pussy all night. In my experience about ten mins is the max and they give up.
I think its because some people can cum very easy and others need a little more work
A previous partner needed to be stimulated in her mind before I even touched her body as other wise it was a waste of time "
I would argue that applies for most people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Didn't I guess there would be that response?? The number of blokes that have boasted about their determination and then start moaning about how long after a few minutes is much higher that you would think. Try timing yourself, ten minutes is a long time with your neck in an unsupported position and your breathing impaired  |
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"Interesting comments
I just find it strange as I really enjoy it but also feel a bit guilty when a ladies trying to finish you off and after 10 mins iv got to say look no offence but it's not going to happen
Some girls have even being angry
Then you're shagging the wrong girls. Sex is not a race or a competition and if the person you're with does not like the way you react, they are not worth meeting again.
I agree with what your saying
But it's almost like a challenge and then when they can't make me cum they don't like it ha ha
Welcome to my world. I rarely come from oral, only ever with my husband a handful of times. You would not believe the huffing and harrumphing that goes on when they've been at it for a couple of minutes and I've still not cum. Even from the blokes who claim they could lick pussy all night. In my experience about ten mins is the max and they give up. "
10 minutes max! You have definitely met the wrong guys!
When I get tucked into a sweet pussy I just can't stop. Honestly. It's as if it takes me somewhere... sexual heaven perhaps...!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Didn't I guess there would be that response?? The number of blokes that have boasted about their determination and then start moaning about how long after a few minutes is much higher that you would think. Try timing yourself, ten minutes is a long time with your neck in an unsupported position and your breathing impaired "
I take ages to cum. And I wonder how often women have faked it, making men feel like they only need to do a couple of licks and that's it? I'm sure some cum easily and I'm jealous. 
I'm happy just playing, cumming isn't my end game. But if I feel pressure to cum, then it isn't going to happen, annoyingly! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hiya guys
Just wondering if I'm a freak of nature
Iv only ever cum once from a blowjob
Don't get me wrong I love the sensation and it really gets me going but never to the point of cumming
Anyone else have this problem ?
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I have never had this problem with any of my partners...  |
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Crazyxtc (Woman) said above "I take ages to cum. I'm happy just playing, cumming isn't my end game"
Forgive the editing, but I'm exactly the same. I love giving and receiving pleasure and it doesn't matter in the slightest to me whether I cum or not. Some ladies think there's something wrong with me, but are happy that I can keep going all night, whilst others are just happy that I can keep going all night lol!
To be fair I have also met a few ladies who are more into sprints than marathons in which case I'm not for them.
Sex for me is not all about the last 10 seconds, it's about the whole experience of mutually pleasuring each other. |
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I love a bj for a warm up or between a sesh for a tease, most women don't love giving a bj...... They just go through the motions
Find someone that loves sucking cock and you'll be in bj heaven.
I've only found 2 women in my life that have given a great, mind blowing bj....... 1 even made me dry cum last year mmmmm  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hiya guys
Just wondering if I'm a freak of nature
Iv only ever cum once from a blowjob
Don't get me wrong I love the sensation and it really gets me going but never to the point of cumming
Anyone else have this problem ?
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If you mean a blowjob where the woman is using her mouth only, then my guess is that most men can't come this way, as there's just not enough grip. Introduce a hand, and it's a whole different matter |
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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago
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I think you are worrying too much about it..
I enjoy giving guys oral, But I don't just concentrate on their cock, guys have got bollocks too which need licking/sucking. Wether they cum or not does not bother me, to hear that first sigh as I go down for that deep throat shows they are enjoyin it.
If girls get angry then they aint worth it... that is just bad manners.
So relax & enjoy the moment |
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I don't have this "problem" (quote because it's not a problem) but I do think that sometimes the problem with blowjobs is that your mind gets distracted.
Often the giver is just out of reach so touching etc is impossible, watching excitement doesn't last forever and so you can end up... somewhere else, simply. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Interesting comments
I just find it strange as I really enjoy it but also feel a bit guilty when a ladies trying to finish you off and after 10 mins iv got to say look no offence but it's not going to happen
Some girls have even being angry
Then you're shagging the wrong girls. Sex is not a race or a competition and if the person you're with does not like the way you react, they are not worth meeting again.
I agree with what your saying
But it's almost like a challenge and then when they can't make me cum they don't like it ha ha "
I've had the same with men giving me oral, it feels nice but it never gets me orgasming |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm very much the same I barely ever cum through a blowie. I have always put it down to a psychological block from being a young teenager and being told that I'd better not cum in her mouth as its disgusting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Interesting comments
I just find it strange as I really enjoy it but also feel a bit guilty when a ladies trying to finish you off and after 10 mins iv got to say look no offence but it's not going to happen
Some girls have even being angry
Then you're shagging the wrong girls. Sex is not a race or a competition and if the person you're with does not like the way you react, they are not worth meeting again.
I agree with what your saying
But it's almost like a challenge and then when they can't make me cum they don't like it ha ha
I've had the same with men giving me oral, it feels nice but it never gets me orgasming"
Shame that but I'd happily give it a go for you!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm very much the same I barely ever cum through a blowie. I have always put it down to a psychological block from being a young teenager and being told that I'd better not cum in her mouth as its disgusting. "
Since posting this I'm finding its a lot of mental blockage instead of physical contact the women aren't doing anything wrong it's just my ( the guys ) head isn't in the right place ie worrying about cumming or other factors |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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After reading all these comments, I've given myself a bit of a big head, ( and a pat on the back lol) as nearly all the guys I've played with have cum from me giving head, lol I love giving guys oral lol
Me on the other hand, I nearly never cum from oral, can count on my hand in the three years we've been swinging the guys who've made me cum, Paul's the same he takes ages to cum, but this we don't mind, as when we play Its more of a warm up for us, we have our fun after and get each other off
Her xx
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I love a bj for a warm up or between a sesh for a tease, most women don't love giving a bj...... They just go through the motions
Find someone that loves sucking cock and you'll be in bj heaven.
I've only found 2 women in my life that have given a great, mind blowing bj....... 1 even made me dry cum last year
mmmmm "
Totally agree if your partner isn't enjoying giving oral and just going through the motions no amount of licking / sucking is gonna bring you off .. I love giving blow jobs and to be honest I'm just lost in the act and teasing the entire area and hearing their different moans and groans when I try something new then getting a mouth full .. Nothing worse than thinking your partner is getting bored to put you off cumming
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By (user no longer on site)
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There's times I've had a blow job and I've actually had the coming feeling for about 3 or 4 minutes but I havnt actually come ! Has anyone else had that before ?
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"Thanks there some great answers and examples and it's nice to no I'm not alone in being hard to please
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I don't think you're getting it. You don't have a problem, neither are you hard to please. Not cumming when you are being blown is normal. |
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Came from a blow job once at about 18/19.
Came close about 2/3 times. My Mrs don't like cum in her mouth or on her face so I respect that. Was bloody close though.
I used to feel weird about it because previous partners/conquests felt like it was their fault. Ah well |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Came from a blow job once at about 18/19.
Came close about 2/3 times. My Mrs don't like cum in her mouth or on her face so I respect that. Was bloody close though.
I used to feel weird about it because previous partners/conquests felt like it was their fault. Ah well"
Must admit feel so much better now iv read all these responses |
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I'm the opposite! The moment I get a pair of lips near my cock I have to close my eyes and think of bag fulls of puppies being dumped in the canal else I'm done. I have an inbuilt love of facials and bjs so maybe it's a mental thing lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hiya guys
Just wondering if I'm a freak of nature
Iv only ever cum once from a blowjob
Don't get me wrong I love the sensation and it really gets me going but never to the point of cumming
Anyone else have this problem ?
If you mean a blowjob where the woman is using her mouth only, then my guess is that most men can't come this way, as there's just not enough grip. Introduce a hand, and it's a whole different matter "
Read my mind, a blow job isn't just a woman bobbing her head up and down your cock. It's the full experience fingers, hands, mouth and tongue working your balls, shaft and head with a few bum and belly scratches along the way.
If your still struggling after all that. Then I'd say your with the wrong girl or or your wanking too hard and used to your own methods lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Very few women have made me cum through bj alone. All down to the tongue action. "
describe please, I can get my man to cum most times, but always open to suggestions |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Came from a blow job once at about 18/19.
Came close about 2/3 times. My Mrs don't like cum in her mouth or on her face so I respect that. Was bloody close though.
I used to feel weird about it because previous partners/conquests felt like it was their fault. Ah well"
Gotta love to make a mess, in the mouth doesn't do much for me personally. Seems almost like your wasting it unless she is willing to let it spill down her chin. Agree? |
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Im glad im not the only one, i have never cum from oral but like you i like resiving it
Everyone i have met with i have told that a cant and they just see it as a challenge lol
One meet i had with this great girl spent ages ( about an hour) and was still a great meet as i was giving oral to ( it was a soft meet/) though she was the only one to deepthroat me now that was a great feeling
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some men do some dont.
All this down to how it is done to the tongue action or female / male ability to produce it, incapablities is rubbish.
I have face fucked, deep throat to the slow and sensual, and have achieved it and not.
My reckoning if the man is happy not coming this way then here is to the blow job.
Two people enjoying it with no pressure.
Rant over
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No. Loads of men don't. And I'd rather they didn't anyway, because I'd like to have sex with them too."
Cumming from a blowjob during foreplay doesn't stop them from having sex. Men can cum more than once. Shouldn't take more than a minute or two for most men to get hard again |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think a blow job alone isn't enough for me to cum, but masturbation and blow job can do it no problem!! I suppose the cock is hardly crammed full of nerve ending unlike the clitoris. And the extra stimulation of masturbation is the only sure way of making it happen. That said, I would rather not cum during fore play, that just wouldn't be cricket sir |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No. Loads of men don't. And I'd rather they didn't anyway, because I'd like to have sex with them too.
Cumming from a blowjob during foreplay doesn't stop them from having sex. Men can cum more than once. Shouldn't take more than a minute or two for most men to get hard again"
I've heard about this fairytale :P lol
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No. Loads of men don't. And I'd rather they didn't anyway, because I'd like to have sex with them too.
Cumming from a blowjob during foreplay doesn't stop them from having sex. Men can cum more than once. Shouldn't take more than a minute or two for most men to get hard again"
Really ? Jeez I'm obviously lacking then
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By (user no longer on site)
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I won't say I'm fantastic at it but there is not many I haven't made cum through a bj. I love giving them and I think that's what makes a great bj a lady who loves giving them.
On the other hand I'm very hard to please when receiving lol x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I won't say I'm fantastic at it but there is not many I haven't made cum through a bj. I love giving them and I think that's what makes a great bj a lady who loves giving them.
On the other hand I'm very hard to please when receiving lol x"
It's a 2 way street. Help them help you... Works wonders lol lovely pics btw |
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"I won't say I'm fantastic at it but there is not many I haven't made cum through a bj. I love giving them and I think that's what makes a great bj a lady who loves giving them.
On the other hand I'm very hard to please when receiving lol x
It's a 2 way street. Help them help you... Works wonders lol lovely pics btw "
Indeed it is thankyou x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There's times I've had a blow job and I've actually had the coming feeling for about 3 or 4 minutes but I havnt actually come ! Has anyone else had that before ?
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Then get your arse back there....
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No. Loads of men don't. And I'd rather they didn't anyway, because I'd like to have sex with them too.
Cumming from a blowjob during foreplay doesn't stop them from having sex. Men can cum more than once. Shouldn't take more than a minute or two for most men to get hard again"
24 and your years of experience in fucking men has told you this has it? What a load of bollocks, some men may be able to cum again within minutes, most will not and many can't for hours. And this is from my forty years experience of having sex with men |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No. Loads of men don't. And I'd rather they didn't anyway, because I'd like to have sex with them too.
Cumming from a blowjob during foreplay doesn't stop them from having sex. Men can cum more than once. Shouldn't take more than a minute or two for most men to get hard again
24 and your years of experience in fucking men has told you this has it? What a load of bollocks, some men may be able to cum again within minutes, most will not and many can't for hours. And this is from my forty years experience of having sex with men "
Fair enough, I shouldn't speak for most men when I'm only basing it on my own experience. Generally doesn't take me long to get hard again after I cum. At least not for the first one or two times. Just assumed the same would be true for most guys. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Interesting comments
I just find it strange as I really enjoy it but also feel a bit guilty when a ladies trying to finish you off and after 10 mins iv got to say look no offence but it's not going to happen
Some girls have even being angry
Then you're shagging the wrong girls. Sex is not a race or a competition and if the person you're with does not like the way you react, they are not worth meeting again.
I agree with what your saying
But it's almost like a challenge and then when they can't make me cum they don't like it ha ha "
A guy that doesn't cum n stays hard..... Omg heaven  x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Interesting comments
I just find it strange as I really enjoy it but also feel a bit guilty when a ladies trying to finish you off and after 10 mins iv got to say look no offence but it's not going to happen
Some girls have even being angry
Then you're shagging the wrong girls. Sex is not a race or a competition and if the person you're with does not like the way you react, they are not worth meeting again.
I agree with what your saying
But it's almost like a challenge and then when they can't make me cum they don't like it ha ha
A guy that doesn't cum n stays hard..... Omg heaven x"
I suppose it does have its plus side |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I find it hard to cum from just a blowjob myself. But there are times I have and I think its down to several factors....
Theres lots of people out there who are bad at oral. Or maybe not bad, but have a preconcieved "technique" that they stick to regardless. Everyone is different and likes different things. I hate having my balls sucked for example and someone on here mentioned teeth?? Well not for me thanks. I want to be pleasured not mauled!! So a good partner is one who can learn what you like and dont like and adjust to help you.
Also wanking a lot desensities your cock from both oral and sex and can make it harder to cum. As neither can match the tightness a hand is capable of.
Mental stimulation is important too. Have to get each other turned on and relaxed. Neither stressing about will you cum or wont you. Just give into the moment and what happens, happens.
Lastly, dont be afraid to ask, or tell each other whats working and what doesnt. Also if its not going to happen then say and dont leave your partner stressing trying to get you there. Stop and leave it for later to try again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I had a G/F who loved giving headers and always wanted me to cum in her mouth which I found difficult, so it was her pants down, bend over, shag her till I was about to pop, then in her mouth and big smiles all round |
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Yeah there is a reason its called 'foreplay', its a taster with full penetration anal or vaginal the main course!!!! Ofcourse it seems to be enough for a lot of people. My lt partner never liked oral so snogging and loving up her big tits used to be foreplay for us. |
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