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I can't seem to get the idea of cuckolding out of my head  !
As a newbie to all this, I can't seem to find much advice for where to start as a bull or 'young stud', although I have looked around!
So what do you guys look for when picking someone and what sort of things do you expect from them? Or does it all just depend on the mood on the night?  x |
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over a year ago
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Respect & patience before fun....remember its about the couples experience before your own.
This doesn't mean you won't get to experience some of the most mindblowing intense feelings ever...once a fully cuckold relationship developes......
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"Respect & patience before fun....remember its about the couples experience before your own
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I'm definitely 100% with that, I'm an addition to THEIR relationship and it's only about me when they say so is there anything couples tend to look for in a bull?? Is it an age/size thing or more about types of people? Although I suppose it depends on the couple!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Respect & patience before fun....remember its about the couples experience before your own
I'm definitely 100% with that, I'm an addition to THEIR relationship and it's only about me when they say so is there anything couples tend to look for in a bull?? Is it an age/size thing or more about types of people? Although I suppose it depends on the couple!
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It will depend hugely on what the couple are looking for. We want someone older with experience who understands that it's very much relationship between 3 people and that it is rarely the bull that is in control. And he needs to look good when he's fucking me   |
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It will depend hugely on what the couple are looking for. We want someone older with experience who understands that it's very much relationship between 3 people and that it is rarely the bull that is in control. And he needs to look good when he's fucking me "
The blog makes it seem quite different! I always thought I should take a shadow role in it all while the Mrs controls the pace and intensity as she knows what the husband is up for! Does that sound about right or am I still missing something? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can't get cuckolding out of my head either.
difference is I want to be the cuckold.
You do seem like you'd make a good bull, you sound polite and very respectful which is very important if I was going to suggest to the woman I love that she give herself to you for the things I can't give her.
Obviously there can be a lot of role-play involved, personally I'd love you and my fictional girlfriend humiliating me and stuff, maybe even degrading her and fucking her like some "dirty slut".
But outside of all that I'd expect you to be a nice, respectful guy who I know will give my partner the good time she deserves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your questioning attitude is commendable Young man. Too many wannabe "bulls" go at it literally as though they are in a china shop..... Thinking it has to be about them being Dom......how very wrong of them.
The only possible problem I see is your age. As has been mentioned on here the normal preference is for a mature and experienced man.....you will get the latter I'm sure...the former you will have to wait for. |
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over a year ago
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The thing to remember is not every cuckold couple is the same so to be a proper bull you must learn what it is their looking for and whether you can fit into that. |
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I cannot speak from experience, but I imagine every person will have their own perceptions regarding this. I think it comes down to needs fulfillment and a couple would really need to talk about just what they want out of the whole experience. Perhaps a full on cuckold may be too much for a couple. But understanding their own needs and complete honesty would enable them to both get what they want out of it. Me thinks the 'bull' would need to then accept and appreciate his requirements and be fully behind them on it. The key is, as with all swinging, honesty. Otherwise it could be disastrous for their relationship. I hope you find what you are looking for. |
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over a year ago
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Well we discovered our preference for a cuckold relationship having dipped our tow into alternative lifestyles and can safely say it suits us perfectly. The main trouble we have is finding someone we can progress our journey with as a regular thing.
A lot of men just don't understand the dynamics required for a successful cuckold relationship and that's what it is when it all works in harmony - basically a three way relationship where each person is getting their own needs met.
For us we need the passion and chemistry as without this my wife doesn't feel the connection when making love and I don't feel truly submissive unless she is bonding deeply with her lover.
We also like to add bisexual play into the mix so I guess we seek the submissive play too but don't really go in for the humiliation even though it is something I would personally like to try, my wife just doesn't feel comfortable doing it.
Everyone is different with what they look for, when you find the situation that suits though the results are electric. |
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"Well we discovered our preference for a cuckold relationship having dipped our tow into alternative lifestyles and can safely say it suits us perfectly. The main trouble we have is finding someone we can progress our journey with as a regular thing.
A lot of men just don't understand the dynamics required for a successful cuckold relationship and that's what it is when it all works in harmony - basically a three way relationship where each person is getting their own needs met.
For us we need the passion and chemistry as without this my wife doesn't feel the connection when making love and I don't feel truly submissive unless she is bonding deeply with her lover.
We also like to add bisexual play into the mix so I guess we seek the submissive play too but don't really go
in for the humiliation even though it is something I would personally like to try, my wife just doesn't feel comfortable doing it.
Everyone is different with what they look for, when you find the situation that suits though the results are electric."
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From our perspective we think you should first be very clear what it is you want and then find people that have common interests.
Bev and i made a mistake initially thinking we were a cuckold couple, but soon realised were not, we hate the whole bull sissy humiliation scenario but enjoy Bev just meeting guys to fuck while i watch on cam and found out this was hot wifeing not cuckolding so just be sure what you want |
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"From our perspective we think you should first be very clear what it is you want and then find people that have common interests.
Bev and i made a mistake initially thinking we were a cuckold couple, but soon realised were not, we hate the whole bull sissy humiliation scenario but enjoy Bev just meeting guys to fuck while i watch on cam and found out this was hot wifeing not cuckolding so just be sure what you want"
I have to agree with this. So many think they want a cuckold relationship, yet when it comes down to it, the male just enjoys watching the female enjoy herself with other men. This is not a cuckold relationship and many get the two mixed up.
The other point I would comment on, is the op asked how he should pick the couple? I think he may find although he may be the bull, it is the couple that will find him. |
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The blog makes it seem quite different! I always thought I should take a shadow role in it all while the Mrs controls the pace and intensity as she knows what the husband is up for! Does that sound about right or am I still missing something? "
The blog isn't a guide for all cuckold couples, it's written by a man, from a male perspective of what some couples want
In a female led relationship, the blog isn't applicable as it's the female taking the lead, not a bull, lover or anyone else
Most of what I've read in that blog wouldn't be applicable to me and who I seek,
So take influence from it by all means, but don't use it as a step by step guide of what to do, as it won't work with many of the female led cuckold relationships out there |
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"From our perspective we think you should first be very clear what it is you want and then find people that have common interests.
Bev and i made a mistake initially thinking we were a cuckold couple, but soon realised were not, we hate the whole bull sissy humiliation scenario but enjoy Bev just meeting guys to fuck while i watch on cam and found out this was hot wifeing not cuckolding so just be sure what you want"
Humiliation and sissification are just aspects, they aren't applicable to all
Cuckolding takes many forms, it's true nature isn't that what is often portrayed in porn
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The blog makes it seem quite different! I always thought I should take a shadow role in it all while the Mrs controls the pace and intensity as she knows what the husband is up for! Does that sound about right or am I still missing something?
The blog isn't a guide for all cuckold couples, it's written by a man, from a male perspective of what some couples want
In a female led relationship, the blog isn't applicable as it's the female taking the lead, not a bull, lover or anyone else
Most of what I've read in that blog wouldn't be applicable to me and who I seek,
So take influence from it by all means, but don't use it as a step by step guide of what to do, as it won't work with many of the female led cuckold relationships out there "
I agree, not sure how useful this blog is. We would not want a Bull/Lover coming into our relationship with this view |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have been a cuck for over 25 years and the one thing I have learnt is there are possibly 10 levels to cuckolding. It's a hugely diverse kink that more than anything stimulates the mind. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"try the attached
http://lifeasabull.blogspot.co.uk/2012/10/conditioning-hotwife-for-bull.html"
Excellent set of blogs, that guy knows what he is talking about!!  |
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"From our perspective we think you should first be very clear what it is you want and then find people that have common interests.
Bev and i made a mistake initially thinking we were a cuckold couple, but soon realised were not, we hate the whole bull sissy humiliation scenario but enjoy Bev just meeting guys to fuck while i watch on cam and found out this was hot wifeing not cuckolding so just be sure what you want"
That is cuckolding close to it's real steps and definition. All the sissy/humiliation rubbish is just that and really classes as a fetish although others see it as 'further levels' of cuckoldry.
I(busty) would not say my husband is a sissy, humiliation loving Cuck. Nor would he. Anyone tried that and they'd be thrown clean out of any fun by is both, no questions asked. He is however, happy for me to take a regular 'lover' or 'lovers' and watch, listen and enjoy the experience though. That is cuckoldry. Isn't it? |
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By *urycpl14Couple
over a year ago
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With a little experience of being a bull under my belt I would have to say honesty And openness will be your best friends in this scene. Open enough to clearly discuss expectation and limitation of the couple and respectful enough to obide by pre discussed limits etc.
Thinking your gonna fuck the life out of someone's wife without regard for the couples feelings will soon cause you problems. Always remember he wants to watch her enjoying herself, she wants to enjoy herself and you are their to help provide that fun for them.
Bear these points in mind and I'm sure you will have plenty of requests for your services as long as you can walk the walk that is lol |
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