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...... but after 3 weeks back we can't take any more impolite or silly messagee from single guys who seem to think of Fab as a guaranteed shag rather than a swingers site lol !!
So we've stopped single guys from contacting us in our filters
Its a shame as it spoils it for the minority of decent single guys on here......  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry to hear that. It does reflect badly on the decent, polite and friendly guys on here. Unfortunately there will always be some muppets that spoil it for you and everybody else. X |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
i have always said that if you are out there looking for a specific type of person.... then why on earth are you expecting the mountain to come to you!!! 
if you are after a specific person then go out there, get off your asses, and be the hunters as opposed to the hunted!!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Two messages in a row this morning with pics too good to be true. A quick Tin Eye search revealed that they were ripped off various different porn and fitness sites.
Such a shame we don't subscribe to single guy bashing as the majority are awesome. However after our first load of abusive messages this weekend for a while and a load of fake pics this morning you become somewhat jaded by the experience.
Time to be the hunter. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Sorry to hear that. It does reflect badly on the decent, polite and friendly guys on here. Unfortunately there will always be some muppets that spoil it for you and everybody else. X"
no no no no no no no.........
you don't reflect on me and I certainly don't reflect on you!!!!
people are going to be asses regardless of if they happen to a single bloke, a couple, or heaven forbid a single lady...
but i am not going to generalise on people based on a small subsection....
I determine my fate on here... no one else, and to blame others is a kop out
"........but i am all innocent and blameless, and its all them others nasty pasties fault!".....
nope!!!!! |
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Sadly the only way to tackle this is for you to block all single guys and then contact the ones which you find suitable, directly. Which is a great pity but a fact of life when the testosterone is high.
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Two messages in a row this morning with pics too good to be true. A quick Tin Eye search revealed that they were ripped off various different porn and fitness sites.
Such a shame we don't subscribe to single guy bashing as the majority are awesome. However after our first load of abusive messages this weekend for a while and a load of fake pics this morning you become somewhat jaded by the experience.
Time to be the hunter. "
Best way to be! 
There's no point in slagging of guys - particularly in the forums - as the type of guy that interacts this way will never read your gripe.
Just filter them out - and search yourself.
There are idiots of all genders and a fair few couples who behave in the same way. It's not unique to guys.
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"So that's why I'm struggling to find a decent couple, we aren't all like that but it's a shame these idiots spoil it for the rest!!! "
trust me.... that aint the reason you are struggling.... but if that is the excuse you want to put into your head after the thread you started, you think that!!! |
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"...... but after 3 weeks back we can't take any more impolite or silly messagee from single guys who seem to think of Fab as a guaranteed shag rather than a swingers site lol !!
So we've stopped single guys from contacting us in our filters
Its a shame as it spoils it for the minority of decent single guys on here...... "
Gutted! 
Sorry, who are you again?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Two messages in a row this morning with pics too good to be true. A quick Tin Eye search revealed that they were ripped off various different porn and fitness sites.
Such a shame we don't subscribe to single guy bashing as the majority are awesome. However after our first load of abusive messages this weekend for a while and a load of fake pics this morning you become somewhat jaded by the experience.
Time to be the hunter. "
I know you can report pics and profiles for what you describe. Admin will take down the pics etc. Sometimes (though I believe rarely) they will remove the profile.
I feel that, if possible, where pics are clearly fake/ripped off from websites etc, and this is proved then the IP address should be blocked so these spoilers can never darken our swinging doors again. Is this possible ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So that's why I'm struggling to find a decent couple, we aren't all like that but it's a shame these idiots spoil it for the rest!!!
trust me.... that aint the reason you are struggling.... but if that is the excuse you want to put into your head after the thread you started, you think that!!!"
Ha seems you have a problem with me!! I've seen loads of profiles and pics from guys with loads of verifications which are very similar to mine!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We're not slagging off single guys, we just made the point that the silly ones spoil it for the decent ones. And it's gets tiring being bombarded by impolite messages. "
Disagree. They haven't spoilt it for the single guys i chat to and meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sorry to hear that. It does reflect badly on the decent, polite and friendly guys on here. Unfortunately there will always be some muppets that spoil it for you and everybody else. X
no no no no no no no.........
you don't reflect on me and I certainly don't reflect on you!!!!
people are going to be asses regardless of if they happen to a single bloke, a couple, or heaven forbid a single lady...
but i am not going to generalise on people based on a small subsection....
I determine my fate on here... no one else, and to blame others is a kop out
"........but i am all innocent and blameless, and its all them others nasty pasties fault!".....
nope!!!!! "
I agree about determining your on fate. I'm having a great time on here and have had some great meets already because I put the effort it and send nice polite messages. My point is how many couples on here will not allow single men to message them because of idiots but would consider meeting a single guy. Thats how it spoils it for the decent guys. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Two messages in a row this morning with pics too good to be true. A quick Tin Eye search revealed that they were ripped off various different porn and fitness sites.
Such a shame we don't subscribe to single guy bashing as the majority are awesome. However after our first load of abusive messages this weekend for a while and a load of fake pics this morning you become somewhat jaded by the experience.
Time to be the hunter.
I know you can report pics and profiles for what you describe. Admin will take down the pics etc. Sometimes (though I believe rarely) they will remove the profile.
I feel that, if possible, where pics are clearly fake/ripped off from websites etc, and this is proved then the IP address should be blocked so these spoilers can never darken our swinging doors again. Is this possible ? "
I had one reported and removed not so long ago. It was a joke pic of a bloke trapping his knackers in some patio doors. I blatantly wasn't trying to pass it off as myself but put it up because I found it funny. I wouldn't like to think I could be banned for that. |
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"My point is how many couples on here will not allow single men to message them because of idiots but would consider meeting a single guy. Thats how it spoils it for the decent guys. "
That was exactly the point we were making thank you. nothing to do with bashing the decent guys at all.
Yes for sure we will go hunting for ourselves when we want to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Another tick in the even harder for genuine single blokes box!! I write nice message and not rude just polite. I will send face pics on request but still nothing. It's virtually impossible to get going  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lol op so I gues its ok for single women to use the site for casual sex and u look for them as well no suprice there. Alwais single men aint it lol."
Yeah sorry I can't help myself  |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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I agree about determining your on fate. I'm having a great time on here and have had some great meets already because I put the effort it and send nice polite messages. My point is how many couples on here will not allow single men to message them because of idiots but would consider meeting a single guy. Thats how it spoils it for the decent guys. "
but it doesn't spoil it because you are already finding ways in yourself to stand out.....
couples will work out which single guys stand out and put in effort... and which are just general arses... or moan because they dont get meets and there expectations are way off kilter with reality.... or fence sit and say what people want to hear whilst riding the fabled white horse.... ect ect ect
I would have hoped the people who met me did their due diligence before deciding "actually.. i'd like to get to know him a little" before jumping in with both feet......
for example, i hope that you would talk to people at clubs... or at socials.. before thinking, yeah!!!!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Another tick in the even harder for genuine single blokes box!! I write nice message and not rude just polite. I will send face pics on request but still nothing. It's virtually impossible to get going "
Totally agree mate, then get told I haven't written enough in profile or pics wrong, give us a shout if you find anyone, good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Leave all the 'looking for' _oxes unticked and go out hunting. It works for us and we're rarely bothered by unsolicited messages."
Thats pretty much how we do it also..
you don't really appear on searches, and people are warned before messaging.
BTW OP it's not just single guys that send inappropriate, or crap, or rude messages, "some" couples and single girls do it also.
It's the type of person thats sending them, not the type of profile.
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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jesus.. this is bringing out the "oh woe is me" single guys out in force....
stop feeling sorry for yourselfs... the site give you the tools to make it work and to make yourself stand out... use all/some/none of them but at the end of the day, thats on you.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I agree about determining your on fate. I'm having a great time on here and have had some great meets already because I put the effort it and send nice polite messages. My point is how many couples on here will not allow single men to message them because of idiots but would consider meeting a single guy. Thats how it spoils it for the decent guys.
but it doesn't spoil it because you are already finding ways in yourself to stand out.....
couples will work out which single guys stand out and put in effort... and which are just general arses... or moan because they dont get meets and there expectations are way off kilter with reality.... or fence sit and say what people want to hear whilst riding the fabled white horse.... ect ect ect
I would have hoped the people who met me did their due diligence before deciding "actually.. i'd like to get to know him a little" before jumping in with both feet......
for example, i hope that you would talk to people at clubs... or at socials.. before thinking, yeah!!!!
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Yeah thats a fair point mate. I don't play without a social meet first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm quite proud to say I've never messeged anyone saying I want to fuck you your hot .its impolite and rude  "
I mean...you could have at least winked first!! |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
Up on them there hills |
By the amount of posts on this subject, I'm fairly sure this single person scenario happens quiet a lot (we have experienced it).
However, I suspect the majority who do send unproductive messages are possibly not on the forums.
That, or it says something about some of the people who frequent the site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not feeling sorry for myself _abio just stating facts! Yes I agree with your other post also about chatting if your in a bar etc. as in my messages I always say I'm happy to meet for a coffee first . |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"So that's why I'm struggling to find a decent couple, we aren't all like that but it's a shame these idiots spoil it for the rest!!!
trust me.... that aint the reason you are struggling.... but if that is the excuse you want to put into your head after the thread you started, you think that!!!"
^^^Agree
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"So why do you agree, enlighten me?!"
Because a lot of men come on the forums moaning and then never take any of the advise given!
I want a profile to entice and invite me and having a few lines as a blurb and unattractive pics is not going to do that (for me anyway!) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sadly the only way to tackle this is for you to block all single guys and then contact the ones which you find suitable, directly. Which is a great pity but a fact of life when the testosterone is high.
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Why sadly and why a pity? If you want something specific you go look for it. I'm lazy when it comes to looking for men on here,plus it gives me eye ache scrolling through hundreds I don't want. I let them come to me and filter out by saying no thank you. It's so much easier |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So why do you agree, enlighten me?!
Because a lot of men come on the forums moaning and then never take any of the advise given!
I want a profile to entice and invite me and having a few lines as a blurb and unattractive pics is not going to do that (for me anyway!)"
Compared to the amount of single men on here it's not really a lot that come on the forums asking for help. Some do take the advice given and still don't fare any better |
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How do people come to the conclusion that saying one line messages get them anywhere with
people on here. If it is guy to guy I can understand it from much experience but sure it takes ages to vraft a message to the many many people on here but if you want something you gotta put the time in and avoid disheartening, keep positive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is cut88 SINGLE ? 42 and a can't accommodate ,raises our suspicions straight off"
Yep cut88 is single and Yep he is 42 and yep he also rents a room in a big shared house with 3 others! Funny that isn't it, someone living in shared house!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is cut88 SINGLE ? 42 and a can't accommodate ,raises our suspicions straight off"
I'm 39 and can't accommodate, what's age got to do with not wanting strangers in your house |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Not everyone can be categorised .
We prefer a quick message and a pic ... All good , meet , have fun and it suits us and plenty of guys on fab .
Long winded messages and polite niceties bore us ... fancy a fuck works well .
So dont put us all in the same boat - if we fancied a coffee we would have one with vanilla friends .
We are here to have sexy times - simple |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"CanIs cut88 SINGLE ? 42 and a can't accommodate ,raises our suspicions straight off
I'm 39 and can't accommodate, what's age got to do with not wanting strangers in your house"
I think its more aimed at single guys, its ok for women to not lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is cut88 SINGLE ? 42 and a can't accommodate ,raises our suspicions straight off"
I'm 49,single and can't accommodate,does that make you suspicious of me? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is cut88 SINGLE ? 42 and a can't accommodate ,raises our suspicions straight off
Yep cut88 is single and Yep he is 42 and yep he also rents a room in a big shared house with 3 others! Funny that isn't it, someone living in shared house!!"
Unheard of! Can you sneak me in the window? Promise I'll be quiet |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"jesus.. this is bringing out the "oh woe is me" single guys out in force....
stop feeling sorry for yourselfs... the site give you the tools to make it work and to make yourself stand out... use all/some/none of them but at the end of the day, thats on you...."
Ser your feeling better Fabio, or it sounds like your a bit more yourself |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not everyone can be categorised .
We prefer a quick message and a pic ... All good , meet , have fun and it suits us and plenty of guys on fab .
Long winded messages and polite niceties bore us ... fancy a fuck works well .
So dont put us all in the same
boat - if we fancied a coffee we would have one with vanilla friends .
We are here to have sexy times - simple "
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
It was due, the single males have done,,...this!!! must have been at least three days...
As others have said search for what you require... Control the controllable.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I suppose the only way to experience what it's like to be a woman on here, would be for a bloke to create a female profile, mmmm I wonder does that ever happen !!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We're not slagging off single guys, we just made the point that the silly ones spoil it for the decent ones. And it's gets tiring being bombarded by impolite messages. "
Why feel the need to talk openly about it ,why not just filter them out and get on with fab ...quite sure most wont give a flying fuck really as no one gives arseholes who write shit messages the time of day...they just block and move on |
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Blimey we pop out for the day and it's all kicked off lol !!
" Why feel the need to talk openly about it ,why not just filter them out and get on with fab"
Well it's why this section of the forum exists ... Would be quiet in here if there were no posts lol !! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nanna your not a man
hy does that make her less suspicious? double standards yet again on fab. Women can NEVER be cheating on their partner can they?!??! "
of course they can't! (I'm not by the way) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"jesus.. this is bringing out the "oh woe is me" single guys out in force....
stop feeling sorry for yourselfs... the site give you the tools to make it work and to make yourself stand out... use all/some/none of them but at the end of the day, thats on you...."
Amen to that. I do fine and there's nothing special about me! |
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"Sorry to hear that. It does reflect badly on the decent, polite and friendly guys on here. Unfortunately there will always be some muppets that spoil it for you and everybody else. X
no no no no no no no.........
you don't reflect on me and I certainly don't reflect on you!!!!
people are going to be asses regardless of if they happen to a single bloke, a couple, or heaven forbid a single lady...
but i am not going to generalise on people based on a small subsection....
I determine my fate on here... no one else, and to blame others is a kop out
"........but i am all innocent and blameless, and its all them others nasty pasties fault!".....
nope!!!!! "
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By (user no longer on site)
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Its a shame we don't have a scale by the side of our profilres that show if we are polite or agressive, everyone could leave thier count after each message?/ |
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"So that's why I'm struggling to find a decent couple, we aren't all like that but it's a shame these idiots spoil it for the rest!!!
trust me.... that aint the reason you are struggling.... but if that is the excuse you want to put into your head after the thread you started, you think that!!!"
I so agree with this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"...... but after 3 weeks back we can't take any more impolite or silly messagee from single guys who seem to think of Fab as a guaranteed shag rather than a swingers site lol !!
So we've stopped single guys from contacting us in our filters
Its a shame as it spoils it for the minority of decent single guys on here...... "
Nice... |
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By *pice of life 79Man
over a year ago
lincoln, sleaford , grantham , nottingham |
"Two messages in a row this morning with pics too good to be true. A quick Tin Eye search revealed that they were ripped off various different porn and fitness sites.
Such a shame we don't subscribe to single guy bashing as the majority are awesome. However after our first load of abusive messages this weekend for a while and a load of fake pics this morning you become somewhat jaded by the experience.
Time to be the hunter.
Best way to be!
There's no point in slagging of guys - particularly in the forums - as the type of guy that interacts this way will never read your gripe.
Just filter them out - and search yourself.
There are idiots of all genders and a fair few couples who behave in the same way. It's not unique to guys.
A"
Fuck your photos are hot ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think all the stupid and rude single guys are a good thing makes us nice, polite and genuine single guys stand out more."
Well, assuming that the single ladies you're messaging are, nice, polite and genuine enough in return to plough through several 100 messages in order to reach yours.
Instead of just hitting the bulk delete button. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think all the stupid and rude single guys are a good thing makes us nice, polite and genuine single guys stand out more.
Well, assuming that the single ladies you're messaging are, nice, polite and genuine enough in return to plough through several 100 messages in order to reach yours.
Instead of just hitting the bulk delete button. "
Who cares if they do plenty more fish in the sea. |
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"I think all the stupid and rude single guys are a good thing makes us nice, polite and genuine single guys stand out more.
Well, assuming that the single ladies you're messaging are, nice, polite and genuine enough in return to plough through several 100 messages in order to reach yours.
Instead of just hitting the bulk delete button. "
There's a bulk delete button, why do I not know that!! |
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"i have always said that if you are out there looking for a specific type of person.... then why on earth are you expecting the mountain to come to you!!!
if you are after a specific person then go out there, get off your asses, and be the hunters as opposed to the hunted!!!! "
something I've never understood. Perhaps people are scare of rejection. I prefer to hunt, have done since joining the site 3 years ago. Far more successful that way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think all the stupid and rude single guys are a good thing makes us nice, polite and genuine single guys stand out more.
Well, assuming that the single ladies you're messaging are, nice, polite and genuine enough in return to plough through several 100 messages in order to reach yours.
Instead of just hitting the bulk delete button.
Who cares if they do plenty more fish in the sea."
Best just hope your hook has a bigger worm on it than the thousands of others trying to catch them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The real sad thing is that there are a lot of idiots, who have no thoughts about their actions and how it ruins the concept of the site for the real genuine people on here just wanting to have fun.
Totally understand why guys get blocked but unfortunately these idiots will continue to cause problems by their stupid thought process of thinking it is an easy lay site.
All I can say is that some of us are here, who are respectful from start to finish and take great pride in showing we are very worthy of being invited into your bedroom, hopefully leading to many meets. |
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"The real sad thing is that there are a lot of idiots, who have no thoughts about their actions and how it ruins the concept of the site for the real genuine people on here just wanting to have fun.
Totally understand why guys get blocked but unfortunately these idiots will continue to cause problems by their stupid thought process of thinking it is an easy lay site.
All I can say is that some of us are here, who are respectful from start to finish and take great pride in showing we are very worthy of being invited into your bedroom, hopefully leading to many meets. "
Hence why I always say, there should be multiple categories of single males. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Instead of just hitting the bulk delete button.
There's a bulk delete button, why do I not know that!! "
It's just on the pc/desktop site, not mobile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think all the stupid and rude single guys are a good thing makes us nice, polite and genuine single guys stand out more.
Well, assuming that the single ladies you're messaging are, nice, polite and genuine enough in return to plough through several 100 messages in order to reach yours.
Instead of just hitting the bulk delete button.
Who cares if they do plenty more fish in the sea.
Best just hope your hook has a bigger worm on it than the thousands of others trying to catch them."
Its not got anything to do with the size of the worm its how you dangle it |
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"I think all the stupid and rude single guys are a good thing makes us nice, polite and genuine single guys stand out more.
Well, assuming that the single ladies you're messaging are, nice, polite and genuine enough in return to plough through several 100 messages in order to reach yours.
Instead of just hitting the bulk delete button.
Who cares if they do plenty more fish in the sea.
Best just hope your hook has a bigger worm on it than the thousands of others trying to catch them.
Its not got anything to do with the size of the worm its how you dangle it"
That wasn't a penis analogy. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"The real sad thing is that there are a lot of idiots, who have no thoughts about their actions and how it ruins the concept of the site for the real genuine people on here just wanting to have fun.
Totally understand why guys get blocked but unfortunately these idiots will continue to cause problems by their stupid thought process of thinking it is an easy lay site.
All I can say is that some of us are here, who are respectful from start to finish and take great pride in showing we are very worthy of being invited into your bedroom, hopefully leading to many meets.
Hence why I always say, there should be multiple categories of single males. "
Such as?
New to the site, just getting settled in but a great guy who'll go down well with members eventually but needs time to gets used to the way Fab works, puts in the effort and is polite - but will be penalised under a 'two tier' system.
And long term Fab member who has a few veri's and a well constructed profile with ok pics who despite plenty of advice on the forums want an advantage over other members to improve their chances of standing out even though this will probably make sod all difference.
Who decides who goes in which 'league' ?
There are as many great newcomers to the site as there are long standing, verified people who blame everything but themselves, including the actions of other site users, and who think the site should adjust to work in their favour rather than change their own approach.
* these are of course generalisations.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do not see point of the o p as you made choice re filters which makes sense with you not wanting single guys so why raise if as an issue if not an issue now.
Just another single guy bashing post maybe?
I respect peoples choices so makes no odds to me. |
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"Do not see point of the o p as you made choice re filters which makes sense with you not wanting single guys so why raise if as an issue if not an issue now.
Just another single guy bashing post maybe?
I respect peoples choices so makes no odds to me."
Cant see where we bashed single guys, just made the point it was a total pain letting them message us which is a shame for the decent guys. We will go find em instead now. |
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over a year ago
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"Sorry to hear that. It does reflect badly on the decent, polite and friendly guys on here. Unfortunately there will always be some muppets that spoil it for you and everybody else. X"
i totally agree. massive shame for all the decent guys |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do not see point of the o p as you made choice re filters which makes sense with you not wanting single guys so why raise if as an issue if not an issue now.
Just another single guy bashing post maybe?
I respect peoples choices so makes no odds to me.
Cant see where we bashed single guys, just made the point it was a total pain letting them message us which is a shame for the decent guys. We will go find em instead now. "
But.... Did you have to make a public service announcement about it? You could have just let ppl find out by looking on your profile.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People who do not have sufficient social graces or behave like a horny teenager aren't necessarily idiots, just behave in an idiotic manner.
Sycophantic buffoons who are saccharine sweet and excessively polite just to get a fuck aren't necessarily genuine.
Call be Darwinian but you make your own success, the behavior of others don't ruin your chances, only their own.
I don't understand those who have to declare they are genuine, as who is honestly going to state "I'm a timewaster". Others will determine if you are genuine or not.
It isn't a shame if someone applys a filter. Its a fact of life. Guys, get over it. If the op likes your profile, they will message you. If you meet their requirements, they will find you.
In fact, your chances have now improved! By blocking single guys, they can spend time looking at profiles instead of wasting time reading messages from people they aren't interested in.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"...... but after 3 weeks back we can't take any more impolite or silly messagee from single guys who seem to think of Fab as a guaranteed shag rather than a swingers site lol !!
So we've stopped single guys from contacting us in our filters
Its a shame as it spoils it for the minority of decent single guys on here...... "
I just had a couple ask me if I'm free to accomm today, when I politely said no sorry I'm full of cold they didn't bother to reply and blocked me so it isn't just single guys that can be rude and inpolite!! |
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Truth is there are a lot of dicks on here much like in real life if broke down as a percentage the dick head ratios would be the same the issue is there are easily ten times the number of single men to anything else on here so you end up seeing more of the single male dick head demographic.
the most sensible options if you're too delicate to wade through all the dicks to find what you're after is filters cause forum posts will only bring out the usual suspects to argue the same point for the 50th time and its not like a lot of the fancy a fuck lot have the patience to post regularly on the forums. |
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"...... but after 3 weeks back we can't take any more impolite or silly messagee from single guys who seem to think of Fab as a guaranteed shag rather than a swingers site lol !!
So we've stopped single guys from contacting us in our filters
Its a shame as it spoils it for the minority of decent single guys on here...... "
Couples are just as bad and probably worse as a percentage over all. |
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"i have always said that if you are out there looking for a specific type of person.... then why on earth are you expecting the mountain to come to you!!!
if you are after a specific person then go out there, get off your asses, and be the hunters as opposed to the hunted!!!! "
oh yes thats how you should do it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We hear this in so many threads. Its down to the shear numbers of men on the site. A high percentage of which are immature in there thinking, wanting instant gratification, thinking with their cock instead of engaging their brains. If I was a single female or couple being bombarded with inappropriate messages, from people who haven't read the profile, I would react the same way. It's the op's choice to block single men, because it doesn't work for them. I don't have a problem with them or anyone else that does it. We all have a choice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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'Sycophantic buffoons who are saccharine sweet and excessively polite just to get a fuck aren't necessarily genuine.'
So agree with this!
There's quite a few posts that I've read where I thought the poster was blatantly disingenuous. Like you say, saccharine sweet, with a hidden agenda that's actually far more transparent than they seem to think it is. LOL!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I couldn't disagree more ops! The majority of single men on fab are lovely - even though I choose not to sleep with the vast majority of them.
As in many other areas of life though, it's a small minority who make a big splash and a substantial nuicance of themselves - thus making fab more difficult for the majority of males who are decent, polite and respectful guys! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Another tick in the even harder for genuine single blokes box!! I write nice message and not rude just polite. I will send face pics on request but still nothing. It's virtually impossible to get going "
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By *onyneMan
over a year ago
Newcastle |
I've always presumed that couples and single women on the site must get inundated with messages, and also presumed some of those will be annoying single liners and others involving more effort... it's a shame that you have had a bad experience but I guess i'm not really surprised. The stories that get posted on here suggest all the reasons for that and I can't say I blame people for getting royally cheesed off.
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"...... but after 3 weeks back we can't take any more impolite or silly messagee from single guys who seem to think of Fab as a guaranteed shag rather than a swingers site lol !!
So we've stopped single guys from contacting us in our filters
Its a shame as it spoils it for the minority of decent single guys on here...... "
Not gone thru the whole thread, but going to add our feelings on the matter.
Ok we get the odd message from guy's who clearly don't read our profile or address jools only or have cut and pasted a generic message.
We have had one or two knob head's.
But
In general 95%of the messages we get from guy's are decent, polite guy's.
Most have taken time to read our profile.
So we think guy's get a bum deal on here.
Obviously there are many more than couples and fems. So chances of a rotten egg are higher.
But from our experience they seem a pretty good bunch. |
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"But
In general 95%of the messages we get from guy's are decent, polite guy's.
Most have taken time to read our profile.
So we think guy's get a bum deal on here.
Obviously there are many more than couples and fems. So chances of a rotten egg are higher.
But from our experience they seem a pretty good bunch. "
I think this also comes from the person. I mean yourselves. Looking at your profile, you sound like a very normal people, and looks wise... WOW, lovely couple and a HOT, ATTRACTIVE Mrs I guess that's the reasons why you get messages from normal guys. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We receive about 20 messages a day from single men asking for a meet and the fancy a fuck messages... It's simply you either don't reply,block,delete... Or as a few has said block all single males and look for yourself....Some people need thicker skin on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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you seem like a great couple and may i say thank you for your remarks on single guys. yes there are idiots but the good outweigh them we just rarely get any credit! Live long and prosper  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have to admit that the way some men behave on here really spoils it for the polite and respectful guys.
As I accept messages from guys I do get a few. Some are generally friendly but i've received some really pushy messages too.
It's annoying as I now have to hope that a nice couple blocking men will contact me instead. |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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We must be doing something wrong because we have never had anything but friendly politeness (and compliments) from single guys. Naturally they are going to try it on - what else would you expect. A polite thanks but no thanks is usually enough, and we have never had rudeness or abuse in return.
Perhaps it's time we gave the single guys a break
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"We must be doing something wrong because we have never had anything but friendly politeness (and compliments) from single guys. Naturally they are going to try it on - what else would you expect. A polite thanks but no thanks is usually enough, and we have never had rudeness or abuse in return.
Perhaps it's time we gave the single guys a break
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By *awkesWoman
over a year ago
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Hmmmm.. we don't get inundated..lol..but yes there are a number of messages to go through everyday..most guys on here are very polite and yes a few are a lil pushy..forward or crass or can't understand why I'm not meeting for sex after 1 message. Everyone is different...but couples....they are a different animal! They come armed with rules.. lol.. really single guys and girls for that matter aren't there purely for a couple's entertainment. .they have wishes too. I just read a couple's profile so strict with rules for single guys... I'd be suprised if they received any attention from any! Lol. One was...you have to be half our age and do as we ask...it's for our fantasy. .if you have any wishes. .don't contact us!!! Wt actual F ??? Now I'm not bashing all couples....just saying... singles have as much right to mutual fun and personal wishes... treat everyone as you wish to be treated.. simples... x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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we've stopped single guys from contacting us in our filters
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Don't worry about it, I'm sure we'll still manage to muddle through life..... somehow
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm quite proud to say I've never messeged anyone saying I want to fuck you your hot .its impolite and rude "
Totally agree, politeness never hurts but is seldom recognized. |
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"I have to admit that the way some men behave on here really spoils it for the polite and respectful guys.
It's annoying as I now have to hope that a nice couple blocking men will contact me instead. "
I don't think the idiots spoil it for polite and respectful guys..
There are still plenty who do read messages and don't block single guys and you can't blame other guys if your profile or messages just don't match what it is they're looking for...
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"...... but after 3 weeks back we can't take any more impolite or silly messagee from single guys who seem to think of Fab as a guaranteed shag rather than a swingers site lol !!
So we've stopped single guys from contacting us in our filters
Its a shame as it spoils it for the minority of decent single guys on here...... "
Why are there people that spoil it for others :/ |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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Its a shame as it spoils it for the minority of decent single guys on here......
Why are there people that spoil it for others :/"
they like to think it does.... because it them to be the blameless party, and make everyone else out to be the "nasty pasties" who prevent them from getting meets...... |
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"Lol op so I gues its ok for single women to use the site for casual sex and u look for them as well no suprice there. Alwais single men aint it lol.
Yeah sorry I can't help myself "
Single fem here... You will find the difference is we dont sent 'Your hot, lets fuck' messages to people or open a new 'Feel sorry for me coz i cant get a meet' posts every day!!!
We or I take time to read profiles and see if were what the other person is looking for before contacting them. Guys make it hard for themselves. |
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"...... but after 3 weeks back we can't take any more impolite or silly messagee from single guys who seem to think of Fab as a guaranteed shag rather than a swingers site lol !!
So we've stopped single guys from contacting us in our filters
Its a shame as it spoils it for the minority of decent single guys on here...... "
Have to agree, don't get me wrong there are some really nice genuine single guys on here that wouldn't dream of an approach like it. However there is a good volume that think you shouldn't be on here when told you are not our type or your opening message means you ain't for us. But they are everywhere not just here. We make no secret of what we do locally most know and although majority are fantastic about it even slightly envious they understand. But we still get the odd idiot that thinks as he wants to its going to happen so it's not limited to fab |
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Single fem here... You will find the difference is we dont sent 'Your hot, lets fuck' messages to people"
To say ALL single woman don't is a little inaccurate just like implying ALL men do.
And trust me some single woman do send those messages because I've had them. |
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"I think all the stupid and rude single guys are a good thing makes us nice, polite and genuine single guys stand out more.
Well, assuming that the single ladies you're messaging are, nice, polite and genuine enough in return to plough through several 100 messages in order to reach yours.
Instead of just hitting the bulk delete button.
Who cares if they do plenty more fish in the sea."
I think you'll find there certainly isn't plenty more fish in the sea with about a 200/1 ratio! |
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Single fem here... You will find the difference is we dont sent 'Your hot, lets fuck' messages to people
To say ALL single woman don't is a little inaccurate just like implying ALL men do.
And trust me some single woman do send those messages because I've had them. "
MOST then |
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"...... but after 3 weeks back we can't take any more impolite or silly messagee from single guys who seem to think of Fab as a guaranteed shag rather than a swingers site lol !!
So we've stopped single guys from contacting us in our filters
Its a shame as it spoils it for the minority of decent single guys on here......
Gutted!
Sorry, who are you again? "
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Single fem here... You will find the difference is we dont sent 'Your hot, lets fuck' messages to people
To say ALL single woman don't is a little inaccurate just like implying ALL men do.
And trust me some single woman do send those messages because I've had them. "
It's just as bad when women send them |
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"I think all the stupid and rude single guys are a good thing makes us nice, polite and genuine single guys stand out more.
Well, assuming that the single ladies you're messaging are, nice, polite and genuine enough in return to plough through several 100 messages in order to reach yours.
Instead of just hitting the bulk delete button.
Who cares if they do plenty more fish in the sea. I think you'll find there certainly isn't plenty more fish in the sea with about a 200/1 ratio!"
In order to try to find out what the ratios actually are, I just did a nationwide search for men aged 25-65 and one for women aged 25-65 and got exactly the same number ...300 (!) I wonder if this is the maximum number that registers on the Search facility |
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"...... but after 3 weeks back we can't take any more impolite or silly messagee from single guys who seem to think of Fab as a guaranteed shag rather than a swingers site lol !!
So we've stopped single guys from contacting us in our filters
Its a shame as it spoils it for the minority of decent single guys on here...... "
its a shame . Youre stunning and your fella Looks a cool guy too |
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"...... but after 3 weeks back we can't take any more impolite or silly messagee from single guys who seem to think of Fab as a guaranteed shag rather than a swingers site lol !!
So we've stopped single guys from contacting us in our filters
Its a shame as it spoils it for the minority of decent single guys on here...... "
Having been here before and since rejoining.. sounds fairly normal you get assholes on every site male and female there is a block button you can use, and just block unwanted guys from messaging but talking from experience there are a lot of great single guys on here, you just need to sort the wheat from the chafe and not tar them all with the same brush.....you may miss a good one if you do  |
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It's a numbers game. The single guys far out number everyone else. I've had a couples profile on here and couldn't fathom what most of the guys who messaged us where thinking. 9.9 times out of 10 they would message us exactly how we'd asked them not to. I guess it's harder to think straight with an erection! |
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By *educedWoman
over a year ago
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I have been here a few months now and have recently set filters but only because of the sheer number of messages I was getting and not necessarily because they were rude or pathetic etc. I just physically can't respond to them all even to say 'thank you but no thank you.'
It's simple really. You can sit around complaining and let all those other single blokes (or whatever group it is that you believe are ruining your chances) make the right impression in the Forums or at socials etc etc.
So to summarise, suck it up buttercup!
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Single fem here... You will find the difference is we dont sent 'Your hot, lets fuck' messages to people
To say ALL single woman don't is a little inaccurate just like implying ALL men do.
And trust me some single woman do send those messages because I've had them. "
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"i have always said that if you are out there looking for a specific type of person.... then why on earth are you expecting the mountain to come to you!!!
if you are after a specific person then go out there, get off your asses, and be the hunters as opposed to the hunted!!!! "
Well said that man |
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Its a shame as it spoils it for the minority of decent single guys on here......
Why are there people that spoil it for others :/
they like to think it does.... because it them to be the blameless party, and make everyone else out to be the "nasty pasties" who prevent them from getting meets......"
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