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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have had a fb for a few months and the sex is mind blowing and seems to get better each time we meet. Spoken at the beginning and neither want a relationship and enjoy what we get from our evenings together without the bullshit of a relationship. Sounds ideal but i need more... Once a week on a saturday night for a few hours isnt enough. I have a very high sex drive and am so frustrated knowing i have to wait a week before i can fuck. I have spoken to him about this and me meeting other men midweek never went down very well but he works full time and has family and friends he spends time with so time is limited for him and i totally understand this.
I dont want to stop meeting him but im going a bit nuts here as its starting to feel a bit "steak every wednesday" kinda thing .
Any advice would be appreciated x  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's your life, you owe him nothing. Tough if he objects to you meeting others, it's ok for him to have a life outside of your relationship, but you can't? How sure are you he isn't seeing anyone else? I'd tell him to live with it or bugger off. |
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If he can't commit more time to you I think he is unfair to not allow you to meet others midweek. Think you need to try that conversation again, explaining how you need more. He then has the choice of give more to you himself or you get what you need elsewhere and he has to accept that. He can't have it all his own way |
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If you're just fuck buddies then this shouldn't be an issue. Sounds like you would like to see him more and he doesn't want you seeing other guys. Do you live far from each other?
I know you both said you don't want a relationship but you're creeping in that direction so it's time to be honest about what's going on and take it from there.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A genuine fuck buddy wouldn't be bothered about you seeing other guys. You want more than he is prepared to give. Sounds like you both want different things. Time to move on. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you are not in a relationship then you could discuss you both being free to meet others.
If you are are monogamous then it is a relationship to me."
If i ever have a relationship again i would expect to see him more than once a week for a few hours and most definately not just in his bedroom lol x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If he can't commit more time to you I think he is unfair to not allow you to meet others midweek. Think you need to try that conversation again, explaining how you need more. He then has the choice of give more to you himself or you get what you need elsewhere and he has to accept that. He can't have it all his own way"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just go out and get what you want anyway.
Yeah you're friends, and fucking each other, but there's no commitment to be faithful so why should you be?
You might also find a better fb who wants to meet up more this way.
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Time to move on definately, it's not gonna end well
Been in this predicament, jealous and anger from him got in the way
Alright for him to do it, but boot on other foot, not the same response
I think your wanting more to be honest, you are entitled to your happiness etc....
As the op said, you owe him nothing, he's only an FB!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just go out and get what you want anyway.
Yeah you're friends, and fucking each other, but there's no commitment to be faithful so why should you be?
You might also find a better fb who wants to meet up more this way.
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i have a regular fb, we have a couples profile on here also, we have a rule that we are free to meet others, so long as neither of us are free at the same time.
Also we must tell each other as there is no point lying, so far its not been an issue, indeed its a bit of a turn on for us both. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not the same as your problem, but my FB wants a relationship - we're both unattached and both agreed to be FB's as well as mates, but no relationship - now she wants more and is starting to get arsey. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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He ia single with his own place and has always been very straight and honest... Think tomorrows meet will me more than just fucking and a decent talk about this will be had... Thanks guys xx |
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I had a fb on here.. We made a couple profile... He hid his profile saying he only wanted to swing with me..It didnt last long. A week later he opened it back up and made himself a gold member... He would tell me he was coming over week after week and never turn up...or call in the afternoon and ask was i doing anything coz he had a few hours free..but never turned up again. It was Like he wanted me to sit about and wait.
Said he was single, then ring me saying he was going to his sisters so not to contact him and he would call later.. That call never ever came. He would also happily chat to other couples from our profile.. Good morning messages to the fem half and not engage in any type of conversation with me. 10 days of this was quite enough so i hid the profile.. Then i saw a lovely new verification on his profile. Someone he had met in the 10 days of blanking me. I instantly deleted our profile.
Although neither of us had said we can or cant meet others.. It was the dishonesty for me.
The moral of my story is.. People can be selfish. Just do whats right for you. |
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If you are fbs you should be free to do as you want unless you have come to some mutual agreement on something. What you do in your own time is none of his business anyway so id just carry on and meet. |
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By *omaMan
over a year ago
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"I have had a fb for a few months and the sex is mind blowing and seems to get better each time we meet. Spoken at the beginning and neither want a relationship and enjoy what we get from our evenings together without the bullshit of a relationship. Sounds ideal but i need more... Once a week on a saturday night for a few hours isnt enough. I have a very high sex drive and am so frustrated knowing i have to wait a week before i can fuck. I have spoken to him about this and me meeting other men midweek never went down very well but he works full time and has family and friends he spends time with so time is limited for him and i totally understand this.
I dont want to stop meeting him but im going a bit nuts here as its starting to feel a bit "steak every wednesday" kinda thing .
Any advice would be appreciated x "
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By *omaMan
over a year ago
Glasgow |
"I have had a fb for a few months and the sex is mind blowing and seems to get better each time we meet. Spoken at the beginning and neither want a relationship and enjoy what we get from our evenings together without the bullshit of a relationship. Sounds ideal but i need more... Once a week on a saturday night for a few hours isnt enough. I have a very high sex drive and am so frustrated knowing i have to wait a week before i can fuck. I have spoken to him about this and me meeting other men midweek never went down very well but he works full time and has family and friends he spends time with so time is limited for him and i totally understand this.
I dont want to stop meeting him but im going a bit nuts here as its starting to feel a bit "steak every wednesday" kinda thing .
Any advice would be appreciated x "
Steak every Wednesday? ? ? Now you're just showing off. Lucky to get a cheeseburger once a fortnight here  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A genuine fuck buddy wouldn't be bothered about you seeing other guys. You want more than he is prepared to give. Sounds like you both want different things. Time to move on."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know OP has decided what to do but i see comments going on about is he being honest. Don't think that even matters, she should just go off what she wants.
Honesty, making sacrifices, these are things you would do if you was getting something in return for them and was happy with everything overall. Don't make compromises unless it's worth it overall, otherwise you will end up feeling used.
Women are often the ones society pressures to compromise and give up what they want and need, there are men out there who take advantage of this. Don't put up with it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had a fb on here.. We made a couple profile... He hid his profile saying he only wanted to swing with me..It didnt last long. A week later he opened it back up and made himself a gold member... He would tell me he was coming over week after week and never turn up...or call in the afternoon and ask was i doing anything coz he had a few hours free..but never turned up again. It was Like he wanted me to sit about and wait.
Said he was single, then ring me saying he was going to his sisters so not to contact him and he would call later.. That call never ever came. He would also happily chat to other couples from our profile.. Good morning messages to the fem half and not engage in any type of conversation with me. 10 days of this was quite enough so i hid the profile.. Then i saw a lovely new verification on his profile. Someone he had met in the 10 days of blanking me. I instantly deleted our profile.
Although neither of us had said we can or cant meet others.. It was the dishonesty for me.
The moral of my story is.. People can be selfish. Just do whats right for you."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A genuine fuck buddy wouldn't be bothered about you seeing other guys. You want more than he is prepared to give. Sounds like you both want different things. Time to move on."
Had one of these once - nightmare! I still met who I wanted when I wanted, but had to put up with a sulk afterwards. Bye bye! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hey that dont sound to good. At the end of the day we are all here for our needs and if you meet this way then you both knew what you were getting into. Anyone can have mind blowing sex. I think you should get out to save yourself from getting hurt further and even more down the line.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sounds like more than fb or fwb to me.
They dont normally mean exclusivity as you both agreed you did not want relationship or ties. Seems a bit one sided tbh.
I have a very good "friend" on here. Like you we spend most Saturday nights and sunday mornings together...often in her caravan. But we have our own profiles on here and swing separately.
I'm probably seeing another regular tonight (also localish...and both ladies know each other btw) depends on my work really.
You need to decide how your "relationship" is defined.....sounds like you ARE in one to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have had a fb for a few months and the sex is mind blowing and seems to get better each time we meet. Spoken at the beginning and neither want a relationship and enjoy what we get from our evenings together without the bullshit of a relationship. Sounds ideal but i need more... Once a week on a saturday night for a few hours isnt enough. I have a very high sex drive and am so frustrated knowing i have to wait a week before i can fuck. I have spoken to him about this and me meeting other men midweek never went down very well but he works full time and has family and friends he spends time with so time is limited for him and i totally understand this.
I dont want to stop meeting him but im going a bit nuts here as its starting to feel a bit "steak every wednesday" kinda thing .
Any advice would be appreciated x "
.... If you are not in a relationship what is stopping you from meeting other men?.. How do you know he isn't meeting other women?... If he won't let you meet others,, get rid,,,, sorry to be blunt but been there did it,,, good luck Hun,x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You said that you did not want relationship, but you see each other every week and want more?
Someone is going to get hurt if you don't want the same thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had an fb, very similar situation, didn't like me meeting others and even told me he was jealous. We had words, next thing, he set up a couple profile with another lady from here and I didn't know until I searched as he seemed to be acting odd.
It didn't end well and I ended up getting really hurt, not because I wanted a relationship but because he was doing the same things behind my back as he didn't want me to do 
Just be careful Jo hun xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have had a fb for a few months and the sex is mind blowing and seems to get better each time we meet. Spoken at the beginning and neither want a relationship and enjoy what we get from our evenings together without the bullshit of a relationship. Sounds ideal but i need more... Once a week on a saturday night for a few hours isnt enough. I have a very high sex drive and am so frustrated knowing i have to wait a week before i can fuck. I have spoken to him about this and me meeting other men midweek never went down very well but he works full time and has family and friends he spends time with so time is limited for him and i totally understand this.
I dont want to stop meeting him but im going a bit nuts here as its starting to feel a bit "steak every wednesday" kinda thing .
Any advice would be appreciated x "
Surely not having the bullshit of a relationship means you can meet who you want when you want |
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At least its once a week...
you not tied to him.. he is not your BF meet others if you want to.. if he doesnt like it then you lose him . Risk you take.
If he is married then he having sex at home.
we have to put up with these things. |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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The whole point of an fb is that you can have more than one fb.
You are not tied, you are not in a relationship. You have the benefits without the hassle. WHO IS HE TO DICTATE WHO AND WHO YOU CANNOT SEE??
That sounds a little bit like a relationship - seen as he is the one that is married!!!!
And FYI ... mindblowing sex is 10 an penny on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've met a few men who wanted an exclusive fuck buddy relationship even though it was supposed to be no strings. The funny thing is they all wanted a bi woman to join us. Exclusive for me,not them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The whole point of an fb is that you can have more than one fb.
You are not tied, you are not in a relationship. You have the benefits without the hassle. WHO IS HE TO DICTATE WHO AND WHO YOU CANNOT SEE??
That sounds a little bit like a relationship - seen as he is the one that is married!!!!
And FYI ... mindblowing sex is 10 an penny on here."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The whole point of an fb is that you can have more than one fb.
You are not tied, you are not in a relationship. You have the benefits without the hassle. WHO IS HE TO DICTATE WHO AND WHO YOU CANNOT SEE??
That sounds a little bit like a relationship - seen as he is the one that is married!!!!
And FYI ... mindblowing sex is 10 an penny on here."
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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My FB is unhappy about me seeing other men, but is adult enough to know he aint going to stop me. I just make sure I play safe, and see him when he gets horny. My life is my own to dictate, not his or anyone elses. |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
yumsville |
Wonder if I will get any more thumbs up for saying "fb" also stands for: Friends with Benefits ... not just fuck buddies.
Whichever, they both mean you are free to do your own thing or you would call yourselves bf/gf or husband and wife.
(totally sucking forum ass as I have never had 2 thumbs up before) lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wonder if I will get any more thumbs up for saying "fb" also stands for: Friends with Benefits ... not just fuck buddies.
Whichever, they both mean you are free to do your own thing or you would call yourselves bf/gf or husband and wife.
(totally sucking forum ass as I have never had 2 thumbs up before) lol"
Go you
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it's just a purely sex thing then he can't dictate to you who you spend the rest of your week with. He's got friends and family - you have a life to enjoy!
It sounds like he wants his cake and eat it. Unless you both want a relationship he can't tell you not to see anyone else. And even it were a relationship, it's open for discussion. Friends and family could be substituted with girlfriends and wife for all you know. |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"I have had a fb for a few months and the sex is mind blowing and seems to get better each time we meet. Spoken at the beginning and neither want a relationship and enjoy what we get from our evenings together without the bullshit of a relationship. Sounds ideal but i need more... Once a week on a saturday night for a few hours isnt enough. I have a very high sex drive and am so frustrated knowing i have to wait a week before i can fuck. I have spoken to him about this and me meeting other men midweek never went down very well but he works full time and has family and friends he spends time with so time is limited for him and i totally understand this.
I dont want to stop meeting him but im going a bit nuts here as its starting to feel a bit "steak every wednesday" kinda thing .
Any advice would be appreciated x "
If he's an fb then he cannot dictate who you see. It's not a relationship as you say. You are single. Tell him that. Personally, I would and if he didn't like it it would be - bye bye. |
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