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Help finding single guys.. good ones

By *imandkirsty OP Couple over a year ago

maidstone

Hi all,

First thing to point out is we have single guys blocked lol so please reply here with tips.

We generally just look for couples and have decided its time for us to try out a single guy for some 3sum fun for the wife..

We have messaged a number of guys and got so far with one only to find his account deleted lol.. Another was cheating on his partner, but admitted it to us lol. Nice he was honest (well with us) but not what we are looking for!

My question is how do people find decent, reliable single guys. Ideally we would get someone recommended but so far we havent played with anyone who can recommend one to us.

Your tips are welcome as to how you find and vet single guys

Cheers

T + K

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

im a single guy!!!

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By *mbianceWoman over a year ago

burnham on sea, Somerset

There are some Fantastic single guys out there, don`t let the stupid ones put you off, i hold exclusive parties that have the best of the singles there and believe it or not most of them are off Fab!

Claire xxx

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By *leasureseanyMan over a year ago

hull

only one way get um on trisha perhaps! lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Try chatting too them on msn,give yourself a chance to get to know them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This may sound stupid, but would it not be a good idea to unblock single guys then see who contacts you ...

Maybe a long shot, but worth a go

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By *WLondonMixMan over a year ago

Willsden/DollisHill

best advice I can offer especially for your first 3some off this site, is take your time. End of the day with patience usually comes rewards and if you don't mind looking through quite a few profiles, just search around and always read verifications. Also message other couples that are more experienced with the single guys of the site for there advice *pretty much what your doing now lol* well not really good advice I suppose but just take your time to pick right and if anything have a pre-meet for drinks or a meal to make sure there's a connection. Or just take a chance on someone x

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By *ensual temptressWoman over a year ago

Southampton

only one way to find the decent folks on here just do exactly what ur doing already ,taking time to get to know them .patience and persistence is the key .after all does it matter how long it takes to find a guy you are both happy to trust and allow in to ur relationship?

maybe local socials is another way to see the genuine guys from the numerous dreamers on here .

im sure youll find the right guy and once you do all waiting and effort will be worth while . wish you alot of fun ahead !!x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have always been myself with couples or singles and have met some wonderful people and been invited to some very naughty parties. What's worked well for me is not only being validated on the sites i use but also have been recommended by others to their friends in the scene.

Perhaps some of yours have met a suitable guy? After all, its good to share!

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By *imandkirsty OP Couple over a year ago

maidstone

Thanks everyone for your reply,

The issues not "finding a single guy" lol.. so turning off the block wont help

but yeh I think its a case of keep looking for people with decent verifications etc.

Cheers

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks everyone for your reply,

The issues not "finding a single guy" lol.. so turning off the block wont help

but yeh I think its a case of keep looking for people with decent verifications etc.

Cheers

"
what do you want from a guy ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks everyone for your reply,

The issues not "finding a single guy" lol.. so turning off the block wont help

but yeh I think its a case of keep looking for people with decent verifications etc.

Cheers

what do you want from a guy ?"

have to agree with midsguy...how you gonna find anyone if your not saying what you want ??.If you lay it out ,the right guy may approach you

nice pics btw, another suggestion may be going to a club or social and see who you click with.I for example no longer ask couples to verify me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks everyone for your reply,

The issues not "finding a single guy" lol.. so turning off the block wont help

but yeh I think its a case of keep looking for people with decent verifications etc.

Cheers

How does someone get a verification if they cant prove they are one of the genuine ones?

Sorry I couldnt ask this in private... I was blocked

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By *lderguy4funMan over a year ago

ROTHERHAM

im a totaly genuine single guy but check there verfied meets and if they are realy single like me they wont mind you txting or phoneing them anytime to prove that what they say is true not all are as honest as me as i put my number on when i e-mail someone so they can txt or phone anytime hope this helps

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By *harpDressed ManMan over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Go slow, go careful, and assume you'll have to dredge through dross and be let down a couple of times first.

You could go to another level of verification - if nobody you've met can recommend anyone, what about people *they've* met?

Or you could search locally and see who those people are meeting. It's less reliable, admittedly, but it's a start.

Good luck.

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By *histler21Man over a year ago

Ipswich

Unless you are willing to allow single guys to contact you - you have to continue to do the searching.

As for 'good ones' - only you can decide what criteria they need to achieve for that.

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By *ustyWoman over a year ago

inverclyde

i have met a few wonderful single guys and seem them more than once now, each time gets better

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi all,

First thing to point out is we have single guys blocked lol so please reply here with tips.

We generally just look for couples and have decided its time for us to try out a single guy for some 3sum fun for the wife..

My question is how do people find decent, reliable single guys. Ideally we would get someone recommended but so far we havent played with anyone who can recommend one to us.

Your tips are welcome as to how you find and vet single guys

Cheers

T + K"
Research does pay. If you've blocked single guys, then you can't be approached by them, which is something of a dilemma. Determine your criteria of interest, then go looking. I'm single, and to be honest, my MMF experiences on the site have all been through couples approaching me. And they've all been really good, because they've been real interest on the part of the couples to have MMF experiences. So, good hunting ... there's a lot of interesting single guys on here. Find .. and enjoy !!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

weve had the same problem, we tried to organise a gb, but were only looking for bi men as we have tried before with straight men and found most of them couldnt perform infront of other men.

could we find any honest single bi men, could we hell, we gave up in the end

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi all,

First thing to point out is we have single guys blocked lol so please reply here with tips.

We generally just look for couples and have decided its time for us to try out a single guy for some 3sum fun for the wife..

My question is how do people find decent, reliable single guys. Ideally we would get someone recommended but so far we havent played with anyone who can recommend one to us.

Your tips are welcome as to how you find and vet single guys

Cheers

T + K"

I meet single guys, some are good some are not, the only way you can tell is to meet them for a drink, you cant tell on here

i've met so many that i've liked on here, wouldnt meet them otherwise lol but in real life felt totally different aboout them

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By *WLondonMixMan over a year ago

Willsden/DollisHill

"weve had the same problem, we tried to organise a gb, but were only looking for bi men as we have tried before with straight men and found most of them couldnt perform infront of other men.

could we find any honest single bi men, could we hell, we gave up in the end"

Shouldn't give up on us who are straight, it is hard to find what you want on this site and even in everyday life. The best way to overcome the problems is patience, fair enough may be let down few times but to prevent it meet up for a drink and also read verifications carefully. And if anything contact the people who verified them to see if they can suggest others. Also just because a guy is bi don't mean they can't get intimidated by the others males

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I only meet single guys and in my three years of swinging have yet to encounter a timewaster. I spend time getting to know them and always meet socially.

Not every social meet ends in a play meet, but they turn up.

My idea of a "good" single man will differ from yours and I wouldn't approach other couples to discuss other members. If someone contacted me about someone I met I'd be furious and tell them so. I prefer discreet people!

Not wishing to sound rude if I were a single man it would be a "thanks, no thanks" from me! Your profile is not welcoming to single men and there's nothing on your profile to say what you're looking for from a single male or what you're offering him.

Sounds like it would be a long jumping through hoops exercise, and life really is too short.

Good luck!

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Hi all,

First thing to point out is we have single guys blocked lol so please reply here with tips.

We generally just look for couples and have decided its time for us to try out a single guy for some 3sum fun for the wife..

My question is how do people find decent, reliable single guys. Ideally we would get someone recommended but so far we havent played with anyone who can recommend one to us.

Your tips are welcome as to how you find and vet single guys

Cheers

T + K"

can I point out a couple of things.....

it does make me wonder at times how people go thru the process of selecting potential playmates.. because if that is the type of people that you are ending up with then the common demoninator is you... not being harsh but just stating a fact, so maybe the way you choose your people and due your due diligence may have to change....

secondly... just because you are looking for a single guy, doesn't mean you put any less effort into it, as you would with couples....

the nice guys out there may have a choice of couples there who they can play with, and can as a picky about whom they play with as much as couples...

I think a common misconception is that just because the guys are on here, they will play with anything walking or breathing.... i've had "fancy a fuck" "meet now" "shag me" "I want black cock" ect ect ect.... like I am a piece of meat and snap there fingers and come running.....

doesn't work that way.....

nice guys will be thinking "why should i meet them" "how do they appeal to me" "what makes them stand out"

your profile is your shop window,use it!!! does it scream "yes... wow... I have to meet these people?"

you would vet single guys exactly the same way you would vet couples..... in fact.... since you are the ones doing the chasing I think you have to work harder..... grab attention (in what you say and not just in the form of pics) the nice guys out there will have options.... why should they pick yours?

hope that gives you a better insight....

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By *yber pimpMan over a year ago

durham area

rather than trawl through loads of singles guys profile, try working from your friends list.

you obviously have something in common with them, so it may be likely that you have similar likes/dislikes in single guys.

see which they have met and select from that short list. them ask friends if they would recommend them again

hope this works as well for you as it has for me, whenever i put parties together i only invite guys recommended by my friends. we have built up a very good relaxed genuine circle

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By *imandkirsty OP Couple over a year ago

maidstone

thanks again guys.

Has given us somethings to think about, which is what we wanted!

Going to try going to a club on a single guys night as i think that is a good way to meet genuine guys

and ask over people if they have any guys they liked and that wont mind being recommended.

And have a look at our profile, as when we first came on this site we were not looking for single guys so need to update that.

Thanks all

K & T

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By *ollister kentMan over a year ago

medway

Look no further,local to you,Eurekas or K,S,S.or just meet for a drink,

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By *iamondladyWoman over a year ago

titsville

Yes I've met loads of great single guys at clubs like Chameleons and occassionally at house parties too. Speaking to others that meet single guys and asking for recommendations is also a great idea.

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By *ruitWoman over a year ago

near kings lynn

I always check through my friends list and see who they have met. Then brouse their profiles.

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

You either just have to take your time and trawl through the profiles or ask some of the couples you know (especially if they go to parties) if there are any guys they think would suit your needs.

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Going to try going to a club on a single guys night as i think that is a good way to meet genuine guys

Please don't be fooled into thinking you won't encounter chancers, players, cheats and the like at clubs.

The only benefit of looking for guys at a club is you can window shop and you are at least sure they won't be a no-show.......... that's not the same as 'not willing' or 'not able'

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By *habsMan over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

Doing your home work is essential:

What you want, what you hope - and communicating with each other.

Also, what the guy's like.. talking to each one (and hoping they talk back beyond "Wanna fuck?").

Whilst I'm not necessarily a fan of "See who they've met", there are ways of picking up info about the people just from their profiles. Its a matter of how you go about it.

So, hope you have some luck in that department xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

yeah homework is paramount. Have they been verified in person by someone who has actually had sex with them? So many men want verification and ask people to verify them by webcam or phone and not actually meet them.

message the verifier and ask them for a recommendation.

then get to know them,meet socially and THEN you will have a pretty good idea of they are genuine or not.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have to admit i mostly play with single men and i have had a few issues but these do not let down the good times with the good meets

trust me there are some great guys out there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

and even some great women too !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"and even some great women too !