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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Is it normal that when a single guy, meeting a couple in hotel etc,is expected to pay for the room ?.I've seen this a lot and had it said to me when talking about meets.But when talking to singles,it never comes up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it normal that when a single guy, meeting a couple in hotel etc,is expected to pay for the room ?.I've seen this a lot and had it said to me when talking about meets.But when talking to singles,it never comes up."
If your all having fun then you all pay.
Its only fair and if a cpl expect YOU to pay alone ...say no way    |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it normal that when a single guy, meeting a couple in hotel etc,is expected to pay for the room ?.I've seen this a lot and had it said to me when talking about meets.But when talking to singles,it never comes up."
Just sounds like someone trying to exploit the already hard done to single male! Fair enough if you were travelling to the area anyway and had to pay for a hotel for yourself but if its just to play in, then should be 50/50.
Just my 2 cents worth.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i like pay my way, i regular pay for hotel rooms or at least give them something back
Even tho ive had a few guys cancel on me after ive paid for a room lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Is it normal that when a single guy, meeting a couple in hotel etc,is expected to pay for the room ?.I've seen this a lot and had it said to me when talking about meets.But when talking to singles,it never comes up.
If your all having fun then you all pay.
Its only fair and if a cpl expect YOU to pay alone ...say no way "
Exactly I agree 100 percent |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Should be 50/50 in my opinion.
Swinging isn't a date, guy shouldn't expect to pay more than half.
Paying 100% feels a bit too much like paying for the sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it normal that when a single guy, meeting a couple in hotel etc,is expected to pay for the room ?.I've seen this a lot and had it said to me when talking about meets.But when talking to singles,it never comes up.
Just sounds like someone trying to exploit the already hard done to single male! Fair enough if you were travelling to the area anyway and had to pay for a hotel for yourself but if its just to play in, then should be 50/50.
Just my 2 cents worth.
Steve"
That must be a cheap room if you only pay your 2 cents worth! Or its being shared by a number of others! lol
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it normal that when a single guy, meeting a couple in hotel etc,is expected to pay for the room ?.I've seen this a lot and had it said to me when talking about meets.But when talking to singles,it never comes up."
Hmmm so a couple looking a single guy to fulfil their fantasy and getting them to pay?????
Im in the wrong job |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it normal that when a single guy, meeting a couple in hotel etc,is expected to pay for the room ?.I've seen this a lot and had it said to me when talking about meets.But when talking to singles,it never comes up."
Sounds pretty fucked up to be honest. Sounds like someoone trying to take advantage of the percieved "power" couples have,.
excuse typos as am p;issed.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If a man approached me with a hotel meet then I would expect him to pay for it, and it'd better be The Dorchester!
My profile states no hotels: ever. Therefore for those trying to convince me a hotel meet would be an experience I say fine: I pick the hotel!
Funny, I've not slept at The Dorchester yet!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i like pay my way, i regular pay for hotel rooms or at least give them something back
Even tho ive had a few guys cancel on me after ive paid for a room lol"
It's been a long time since we did a hotel meet.
We used to share the cost but if it was with a single guy we used to get him to book it.
Used to get a bit tired of blokes making us do all the running around and arranging things under the guise of not being pushy. However thats a whole other topic!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We would get the guy/couple to book and pay for the room then give him/them half the cost, this is because we always turn up when we say we will but not everyone does so we wouldn't want to pay for a room then the other party not show up.
That said we meet at home and as the OP can accommodate our advice would be to stick with the home meets unless people are willing to go halves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we would never ask someone to pay if we had done the inviting in our opinion its up to us to foot the bill, if they offered we would take a contribution but we would never ask |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"we would never ask someone to pay if we had done the inviting in our opinion its up to us to foot the bill, if they offered we would take a contribution but we would never ask"
I think a contribution is a must but i never understand people who expect the guy to pay.
Even worse would be if the guy pays for the room and the couple stays the night in it and makes him leave when they are finished!
Has that happened to anyone? |
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By *im53Man
over a year ago
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"we would never ask someone to pay if we had done the inviting in our opinion its up to us to foot the bill, if they offered we would take a contribution but we would never ask
I think a contribution is a must but i never understand people who expect the guy to pay.
Even worse would be if the guy pays for the room and the couple stays the night in it and makes him leave when they are finished!
Has that happened to anyone?"
there is a profile on here who asks the guy to pay for the room ,
and then meet for drinks
and if the mrs likes him they will play
but they keep the room for the night
so if she dont like him hes paid for the room and got nothing back |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There is an answer to this guys.....just don't go along with it if you don't agree with it.
It's not compulsory at the end of the day, we all have choices."
Exactly! Have to say, this is fun for me with people i get on with and often become great friends, not to pay for it!
(some may disagree we are friends lol)
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Allow me to give another angle to the discussion....
I always make first meetings social meetings only now, and this is the reason.
I once allowed a guy to persuade me to meet him even though he lived over 200 miles away from me, I wasn't too happy to have him drive that far and book into a hotel....and I was right, he turned out to be at least twenty years older than the Thirty One he claimed to be, he stank of stale fags even though he said he was a non smoker and he was bloody vile!
Even then he started to get funny because I wouldn't agree to go up to his room, I had to tell him straight that there was no attraction....yet still he expected sex.
He thought that by travelling all the way to Devon from London and booking a hotel room he was booking a sure thing shag.....
So now I always meet socially first, if a guy is stupid enough to book a hotel on the strength of that then more the fool him.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Allow me to give another angle to the discussion....
I always make first meetings social meetings only now, and this is the reason.
I once allowed a guy to persuade me to meet him even though he lived over 200 miles away from me, I wasn't too happy to have him drive that far and book into a hotel....and I was right, he turned out to be at least twenty years older than the Thirty One he claimed to be, he stank of stale fags even though he said he was a non smoker and he was bloody vile!
Even then he started to get funny because I wouldn't agree to go up to his room, I had to tell him straight that there was no attraction....yet still he expected sex.
He thought that by travelling all the way to Devon from London and booking a hotel room he was booking a sure thing shag.....
So now I always meet socially first, if a guy is stupid enough to book a hotel on the strength of that then more the fool him.
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Yes I learnt my lesson after that!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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erm---id pay ,,but only my half if the couple had invited me there,,id pay them my half towards the hotel,,,then they pay the rest etc,,,after-all,,,it was there invitation! lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nothing worse than booking (and paying) for a hotel room then having no-one show up, it was in my more greener days, thankfully learned my lesson"
ive done it 3 times now, i just feel that guys are to flippant about cancelling when its not their pocket its coming out of
I only said guys there cause thats who i meet i know its not only guys who cancel lol
thing is it puts me in a difficult situation because i dont want to come over as the type of women who demandes guys pay but i also dont want to keep ending up out of pocket
it really puts me off arranging hotel meets, this is why i find clubs so much easier, but on the other hand sometimes its nice to have private meets
it really is catch 22 |
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By *ALAXY1Man
over a year ago
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For me it is but a pleasure with a person with whom you connect & respect.Come on you guys where has the art of being a man gone in this swinging lifestyle surely not down to a few shackles,euros,loose change...respect please for our ladies out there!!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think that the hotel bill should be split by the number of people enjoying it!
When I've played as a couple I've made sure we pay 2 thirds and the other third is for the single to pick-up. If I'm playing as a single then I will pay half, but would rather the bill be split 3 ways...
Maybe I'm a tight-wad but that has always seemed fair to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nothing worse than booking (and paying) for a hotel room then having no-one show up, it was in my more greener days, thankfully learned my lesson
ive done it 3 times now, i just feel that guys are to flippant about cancelling when its not their pocket its coming out of
I only said guys there cause thats who i meet i know its not only guys who cancel lol
thing is it puts me in a difficult situation because i dont want to come over as the type of women who demandes guys pay but i also dont want to keep ending up out of pocket
it really puts me off arranging hotel meets, this is why i find clubs so much easier, but on the other hand sometimes its nice to have private meets
it really is catch 22 "
I've always met at my place or theirs apart from on one occassion, when I simply picked her up, drove to a hotel and then booked on spec. Doing this would ensure that you never book a hotel for a no show and let's face it this isn't a nativity play and the chances of some stony faced innkeeper saying they're absolutely full up, but do I mind kipping with the beasts in the barn is slim to none.
I did pay on this occassion but my financial circumstances were different to hers, as we both realised during the whole chatting online phase so I didn't feel put out in the slightest. If I was meeting Ivana Trump on the other hand...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i'd actually contend the 50/50 and say there's three of you using the room so it's a 3 way split! fairs fair and all!!
i think it's easy to take advantage of single men, but remember, you're as necessary in the game as the couple and you're also helping fulfil their fantasy....you're not the only one to benefit so why should you be the only one to pay?
also, if the couple intend to boot you out after and continue play, let them pay for it
i've always gone 50/50, no question
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nothing worse than booking (and paying) for a hotel room then having no-one show up, it was in my more greener days, thankfully learned my lesson
ive done it 3 times now, i just feel that guys are to flippant about cancelling when its not their pocket its coming out of
I only said guys there cause thats who i meet i know its not only guys who cancel lol
thing is it puts me in a difficult situation because i dont want to come over as the type of women who demandes guys pay but i also dont want to keep ending up out of pocket
it really puts me off arranging hotel meets, this is why i find clubs so much easier, but on the other hand sometimes its nice to have private meets
it really is catch 22
I've always met at my place or theirs apart from on one occassion, when I simply picked her up, drove to a hotel and then booked on spec. Doing this would ensure that you never book a hotel for a no show and let's face it this isn't a nativity play and the chances of some stony faced innkeeper saying they're absolutely full up, but do I mind kipping with the beasts in the barn is slim to none.
I did pay on this occassion but my financial circumstances were different to hers, as we both realised during the whole chatting online phase so I didn't feel put out in the slightest. If I was meeting Ivana Trump on the other hand...
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not all of us have the option to play at home tho, im a single female so there for for safty i do not hand out my address to guys on here, not accommodating myself i can really expect other to accommodate me, so most of my meets are in hotels
I know there are single guys on here who do accommodate but i see it like this, its about who you want to meet and how far you are willing to go to meet them, i would sooner pay for a room to meet a guy i really liked that didnt accommodate than make do with a guy i wasnt bothered about because he did accommodate |
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I rarely (probably never) do hotel meets now... but in the past if I met a couple at a hotel I wouldn't expect to split the bill 50/50.... I'd offer to pay 1/3. There are 3 of us after all.
If the guy or couple were staying in the hotel anyway, I'd offer to pay nothing.... why should I sub a bill they already had. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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not all of us have the option to play at home tho, im a single female so there for for safty i do not hand out my address to guys on here,"
We all view things differently, I know that, but personally, I feel safer in my own home than meeting strangers in hotel rooms. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it normal that when a single guy, meeting a couple in hotel etc,is expected to pay for the room ?.I've seen this a lot and had it said to me when talking about meets.But when talking to singles,it never comes up."
An interesting question. All meets that I arrange, I pick up the tab for the hotel (and expect to), whether it involves a couple or a single. I reckon that the instigator of a meet should do this. Where a meet is the result of a couple or a single approaching me, I tend to look at their circumstances (delicately). If they're significantly better off than me, I'll pay half. If they're not, I'll pay the whole tab. I'm pretty well paid, so invariably I pay the lot, and really don't think anything about doing so. Its a gentlemanly gesture that I think is appreciated. Looking back over my swinging years, ye gods its been expensive, but hey its been terrific too. And I reckon I'll never change. But I'd be intrigued to have a meet with a millionairess hottie at least once ... even though I'd still pay for the hotel  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it normal that when a single guy, meeting a couple in hotel etc,is expected to pay for the room ?.I've seen this a lot and had it said to me when talking about meets.But when talking to singles,it never comes up.An interesting question. All meets that I arrange, I pick up the tab for the hotel (and expect to), whether it involves a couple or a single. I reckon that the instigator of a meet should do this. Where a meet is the result of a couple or a single approaching me, I tend to look at their circumstances (delicately). If they're significantly better off than me, I'll pay half. If they're not, I'll pay the whole tab. I'm pretty well paid, so invariably I pay the lot, and really don't think anything about doing so. Its a gentlemanly gesture that I think is appreciated. Looking back over my swinging years, ye gods its been expensive, but hey its been terrific too. And I reckon I'll never change. But I'd be intrigued to have a meet with a millionairess hottie at least once ... even though I'd still pay for the hotel "
Well hello david n victoria beckham....lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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not all of us have the option to play at home tho, im a single female so there for for safty i do not hand out my address to guys on here,
We all view things differently, I know that, but personally, I feel safer in my own home than meeting strangers in hotel rooms. "
i have children tho so its not just about what makes me feel safe, theres no way im having a guy round to my house while my kids are in bed, tho ive never had it happen to me i have a friend that had problems with a guy she accommodated once, he thought it was ok to just turn up whenever he liked for a shag, and i dont want some guy off here knocking on my door at 3am cause hes feels randy after a night out lol
I have to put my kids first |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it normal that when a single guy, meeting a couple in hotel etc,is expected to pay for the room ?.I've seen this a lot and had it said to me when talking about meets.But when talking to singles,it never comes up.An interesting question. All meets that I arrange, I pick up the tab for the hotel (and expect to), whether it involves a couple or a single. I reckon that the instigator of a meet should do this. Where a meet is the result of a couple or a single approaching me, I tend to look at their circumstances (delicately). If they're significantly better off than me, I'll pay half. If they're not, I'll pay the whole tab. I'm pretty well paid, so invariably I pay the lot, and really don't think anything about doing so. Its a gentlemanly gesture that I think is appreciated. Looking back over my swinging years, ye gods its been expensive, but hey its been terrific too. And I reckon I'll never change. But I'd be intrigued to have a meet with a millionairess hottie at least once ... even though I'd still pay for the hotel "
see i dont agree with this
what has your pay against mine got to do with wether you paid for our meet?
I would actually find that rather patronizing to be honest
Im a single mum, im not rich but if i couldnt afford to meet someone i wouldnt meet them, i can honestly say i have never had a guy pay for a hotel room, i have always paid half or just booked and paid for the room myself, and ive got to be honest ive never had a guy ever offer my anything back towards the room if i have booked and paid for it |
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"Is it normal that when a single guy, meeting a couple in hotel etc,is expected to pay for the room ?.I've seen this a lot and had it said to me when talking about meets.But when talking to singles,it never comes up.An interesting question. All meets that I arrange, I pick up the tab for the hotel (and expect to), whether it involves a couple or a single. I reckon that the instigator of a meet should do this. Where a meet is the result of a couple or a single approaching me, I tend to look at their circumstances (delicately). If they're significantly better off than me, I'll pay half. If they're not, I'll pay the whole tab. I'm pretty well paid, so invariably I pay the lot, and really don't think anything about doing so. Its a gentlemanly gesture that I think is appreciated. Looking back over my swinging years, ye gods its been expensive, but hey its been terrific too. And I reckon I'll never change. But I'd be intrigued to have a meet with a millionairess hottie at least once ... even though I'd still pay for the hotel
see i dont agree with this
what has your pay against mine got to do with wether you paid for our meet?
I would actually find that rather patronizing to be honest
Im a single mum, im not rich but if i couldnt afford to meet someone i wouldnt meet them, i can honestly say i have never had a guy pay for a hotel room, i have always paid half or just booked and paid for the room myself, and ive got to be honest ive never had a guy ever offer my anything back towards the room if i have booked and paid for it"
Id say GET MET!! GET PAID FOR!! n get laid! lol lol
fuk um...lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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not all of us have the option to play at home tho, im a single female so there for for safty i do not hand out my address to guys on here,
We all view things differently, I know that, but personally, I feel safer in my own home than meeting strangers in hotel rooms.
i have children tho so its not just about what makes me feel safe, theres no way im having a guy round to my house while my kids are in bed, tho ive never had it happen to me i have a friend that had problems with a guy she accommodated once, he thought it was ok to just turn up whenever he liked for a shag, and i dont want some guy off here knocking on my door at 3am cause hes feels randy after a night out lol
I have to put my kids first"
Having kids does put a whole new perspective on things. Even though I don't have children I can appreciate that their safety is paramount.
I can't say I'd be too much chuffed with a d*unken female banging on my door at 3am either hollering up that she needs a good seeing to, I do still have "respectable" neighbours labouring under the misapprehension that I am as respectable and clean cut as they are. Oh, how appearances can be deceptive... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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not all of us have the option to play at home tho, im a single female so there for for safty i do not hand out my address to guys on here,
We all view things differently, I know that, but personally, I feel safer in my own home than meeting strangers in hotel rooms.
i have children tho so its not just about what makes me feel safe, theres no way im having a guy round to my house while my kids are in bed, tho ive never had it happen to me i have a friend that had problems with a guy she accommodated once, he thought it was ok to just turn up whenever he liked for a shag, and i dont want some guy off here knocking on my door at 3am cause hes feels randy after a night out lol
I have to put my kids first
Having kids does put a whole new perspective on things. Even though I don't have children I can appreciate that their safety is paramount.
I can't say I'd be too much chuffed with a d*unken female banging on my door at 3am either hollering up that she needs a good seeing to, I do still have "respectable" neighbours labouring under the misapprehension that I am as respectable and clean cut as they are. Oh, how appearances can be deceptive... "
i had one scary meet, thankfully in a coffee shop, and since them i'm extremely cautious on who how where and when i meet. i have met men at my own home, but i make sure that they've gone through a stringent enough sanity check for me to get to the point of being as sure as i can be that there's no way something like turning up uninvited might ever happen.
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By (user no longer on site)
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ive travelled to york to meet a couple, they travelled from newcastle.
but they were spending night there so they paid for hotel. which is fair.
where as ive spoke to many couples and women that expect you to book and pay for a hotel near them even if you have to travel a fair distance to them, which i think is not fair. i mean it makes you feel like they are doing you a favour by meeting so then men have to pay their way. and i thought we meet people because of a mutal attraction and both parties want to meet for a good time
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've always looked at it like this, is a guy travels a long way to meet me, i dont drive so if someone wants to meet me they have to travel, i feel its only fair that i provide a bed for them
I know its easy to say on here but i would never expect a guy to travel to meet me and pay for the room, i have booked and paid for lots of hotel rooms and i really dont mind if they making the effort to come to me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it normal that when a single guy, meeting a couple in hotel etc,is expected to pay for the room ?.I've seen this a lot and had it said to me when talking about meets.But when talking to singles,it never comes up.An interesting question. All meets that I arrange, I pick up the tab for the hotel (and expect to), whether it involves a couple or a single. I reckon that the instigator of a meet should do this. Where a meet is the result of a couple or a single approaching me, I tend to look at their circumstances (delicately). If they're significantly better off than me, I'll pay half. If they're not, I'll pay the whole tab. I'm pretty well paid, so invariably I pay the lot, and really don't think anything about doing so. Its a gentlemanly gesture that I think is appreciated. Looking back over my swinging years, ye gods its been expensive, but hey its been terrific too. And I reckon I'll never change. But I'd be intrigued to have a meet with a millionairess hottie at least once ... even though I'd still pay for the hotel
see i dont agree with this
what has your pay against mine got to do with wether you paid for our meet?
I would actually find that rather patronizing to be honest
Im a single mum, im not rich but if i couldnt afford to meet someone i wouldnt meet them, i can honestly say i have never had a guy pay for a hotel room, i have always paid half or just booked and paid for the room myself, and ive got to be honest ive never had a guy ever offer my anything back towards the room if i have booked and paid for it"
Apologies for any accidental feeling of "patronising". I was merely responding to the original thread question, and giving my experience. My meets are because both parties are keen to meet. Hotel tab pickups are pertinent to the mores of the meet participants, that alone |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've always looked at it like this, is a guy travels a long way to meet me, i dont drive so if someone wants to meet me they have to travel, i feel its only fair that i provide a bed for them
I know its easy to say on here but i would never expect a guy to travel to meet me and pay for the room, i have booked and paid for lots of hotel rooms and i really dont mind if they making the effort to come to me"
Madam, you are a sweetie indeed! Looking through profiles, I guess some women do expect the guy to pay as it is simply "the way of things". I suppose you may have plenty of other ideas on how you can be made to feel like a woman  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"STOP COMPLAINING!!
get pAID up!
get laid! lol
might aswel pay for a hooker"
yeah good point, can you get a hooker for the price of a hotel room? least i not have to go down on them if im paying |
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By *mf4BxJCouple
over a year ago
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"Is it normal that when a single guy, meeting a couple in hotel etc,is expected to pay for the room ?.I've seen this a lot and had it said to me when talking about meets.But when talking to singles,it never comes up.An interesting question. All meets that I arrange, I pick up the tab for the hotel (and expect to), whether it involves a couple or a single. I reckon that the instigator of a meet should do this. Where a meet is the result of a couple or a single approaching me, I tend to look at their circumstances (delicately). If they're significantly better off than me, I'll pay half. If they're not, I'll pay the whole tab. I'm pretty well paid, so invariably I pay the lot, and really don't think anything about doing so. Its a gentlemanly gesture that I think is appreciated. Looking back over my swinging years, ye gods its been expensive, but hey its been terrific too. And I reckon I'll never change. But I'd be intrigued to have a meet with a millionairess hottie at least once ... even though I'd still pay for the hotel
see i dont agree with this
what has your pay against mine got to do with wether you paid for our meet?
I would actually find that rather patronizing to be honest
Im a single mum, im not rich but if i couldnt afford to meet someone i wouldnt meet them, i can honestly say i have never had a guy pay for a hotel room, i have always paid half or just booked and paid for the room myself, and ive got to be honest ive never had a guy ever offer my anything back towards the room if i have booked and paid for it Apologies for any accidental feeling of "patronising". I was merely responding to the original thread question, and giving my experience. My meets are because both parties are keen to meet. Hotel tab pickups are pertinent to the mores of the meet participants, that alone "
I'm intruiged. How do you delicatly assess who earns more? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"after all if hes meeting me and my female friend (lady ruby) for a night of fun i cant see why he shud moan in a bad way .... "
So you believe that meeting you and your friend is something worth paying for? |
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over a year ago
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"i have to admit when meeting a guy i do normally just asume they will be paying for the hotel altho i do make a point of asking them to make sure its all booked and paid in advance so they do know i expect it , but normally guys dont moan after all if hes meeting me and my female friend (lady ruby) for a night of fun i cant see why he shud moan in a bad way ....   if a guy says he dusnt want to pay then we can always meet in his house
Surely you should each pay a third then?
After all you are all getting something out of the meet not just the guy."
agree totally |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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its up to me tho isnt it .... if a guy dusnt want to pay for a room or meet at his house then he dusnt have to meet me ... if i go to a party then i pay my entry ... If a guy asks me to go with them ie invites me then i expect him to pay for both of us ... simples |
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"its up to me tho isnt it .... if a guy dusnt want to pay for a room or meet at his house then he dusnt have to meet me ... if i go to a party then i pay my entry ... If a guy asks me to go with them ie invites me then i expect him to pay for both of us ... simples "
Because you simply couldn't say "hey lets get a hotel - we'll pay a third each"?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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not running away from this lol i have to go for a MRI scan on my knee didnt notice the time lol 30 mins to drive a 40 min trip ... bloddy computers
and if i had met them b4 then i wud go half x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So basically if the guy does not cough up & Pay for the room, even though 3 people are using it they dont get to meet you?
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Sure how it sounds to me.
I just hope sex is guaranteed, for the payment. |
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over a year ago
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Just as a matter of interest
whats people views on women paying when going into clubs with guy?
What i mean is if a guy goes to a club alone it will clost him say £60 membership and £40 to to get in, just a rough figure, if i go to a club alone most clubs are free for single female most i have ever paid is a fiver, if i go with a guy as a couple its usually £30, there for should i pay half the addmission fee as im a couple and not a single female for that night or should the guy pay as it was usually cost me nothing to get in alone? |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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Good question. I'd hope that if I was going in as a couple then the lady would offer half. However, I'd be equally open to paying the couples rate less the single fem rate (in your example £30-£0).
Most of the time that's still less than the single male rate. |
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"Just as a matter of interest
whats people views on women paying when going into clubs with guy?
What i mean is if a guy goes to a club alone it will clost him say £60 membership and £40 to to get in, just a rough figure, if i go to a club alone most clubs are free for single female most i have ever paid is a fiver, if i go with a guy as a couple its usually £30, there for should i pay half the addmission fee as im a couple and not a single female for that night or should the guy pay as it was usually cost me nothing to get in alone?"
I don't have any knowledge of UK Legislation, but isn't it discriminatory practise to charge membership and entrance fees based on gender? Should clubs be reported for so doing? Should this be reported as discrimination and infringing human rights to both the UK and European Community Legislative Bodies? Mmmmm .... |
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"Just as a matter of interest
whats people views on women paying when going into clubs with guy?
What i mean is if a guy goes to a club alone it will clost him say £60 membership and £40 to to get in, just a rough figure, if i go to a club alone most clubs are free for single female most i have ever paid is a fiver, if i go with a guy as a couple its usually £30, there for should i pay half the addmission fee as im a couple and not a single female for that night or should the guy pay as it was usually cost me nothing to get in alone?I don't have any knowledge of UK Legislation, but isn't it discriminatory practise to charge membership and entrance fees based on gender? Should clubs be reported for so doing? Should this be reported as discrimination and infringing human rights to both the UK and European Community Legislative Bodies? Mmmmm .... "
Yes very good Point that! very good,,,i must say i agree with u? quite odd that ... |
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"Just as a matter of interest
whats people views on women paying when going into clubs with guy?
What i mean is if a guy goes to a club alone it will clost him say £60 membership and £40 to to get in, just a rough figure, if i go to a club alone most clubs are free for single female most i have ever paid is a fiver, if i go with a guy as a couple its usually £30, there for should i pay half the addmission fee as im a couple and not a single female for that night or should the guy pay as it was usually cost me nothing to get in alone?I don't have any knowledge of UK Legislation, but isn't it discriminatory practise to charge membership and entrance fees based on gender? Should clubs be reported for so doing? Should this be reported as discrimination and infringing human rights to both the UK and European Community Legislative Bodies? Mmmmm .... "
So what your saying is women should also pay £60 membership fees and £40 to get in, again just rough figures, i dont think there are many women that would pay that so all you would do it drive the single women away and you'd be stuck with a club full of single men and couples moaning about all the single men lol |
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"Good question. I'd hope that if I was going in as a couple then the lady would offer half. However, I'd be equally open to paying the couples rate less the single fem rate (in your example £30-£0).
Most of the time that's still less than the single male rate."
yeah i kind of agree with you to be honest
Which is one of the main reasons i dont go to clubs with guy, i think if i go in as a couple i should pay as a couple but on the other hand i dont see why i should pay more to go in with a guy than i would to go in alone when he is making a big saving on talking me in
So i tend to just go alone lol |
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"Good question. I'd hope that if I was going in as a couple then the lady would offer half. However, I'd be equally open to paying the couples rate less the single fem rate (in your example £30-£0).
Most of the time that's still less than the single male rate.
yeah i kind of agree with you to be honest
Which is one of the main reasons i dont go to clubs with guy, i think if i go in as a couple i should pay as a couple but on the other hand i dont see why i should pay more to go in with a guy than i would to go in alone when he is making a big saving on talking me in
So i tend to just go alone lol"
Play with me and a i will charge u a tenner! lol |
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"Good question. I'd hope that if I was going in as a couple then the lady would offer half. However, I'd be equally open to paying the couples rate less the single fem rate (in your example £30-£0).
Most of the time that's still less than the single male rate.
yeah i kind of agree with you to be honest
Which is one of the main reasons i dont go to clubs with guy, i think if i go in as a couple i should pay as a couple but on the other hand i dont see why i should pay more to go in with a guy than i would to go in alone when he is making a big saving on talking me in
So i tend to just go alone lol
Play with me and a i will charge u a tenner! lol "
ok on my way round, where you live back of ravo shops is it? lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hotels meets its 50/50 for us. We think the fair way.
We would also pay full costs if we did not turn up for any reason and would expect the other couple to do the same if there was a problem at there end. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Id pay anyone on here if the price was rite! ie £10,,20 thats ure lot..
but as its swinger site,,,then i cant see any prozzies on here at all!
so end of the day---if u want me to pay id pay u a straight £10 £20 if u like.
but still loves ya all.xx
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didnt make sense that? lol |
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