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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I imagine there is etiquette for this but I'm new to this thing and have a niggling thought…..
If your chatting to people in a club and getting to know your surroundings and what's going on etc and they invite you to "play" how do you say no if you don't want to? Without offending and without coming across as a prick?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"'Aww that's really kind of you to ask, I'm not really feeling ready for the playrooms yet, but you guys go ahead and I'll maybe see you in the later'"
that may give them false hope, I would rather be honest and say no thankyou |
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"'Aww that's really kind of you to ask, I'm not really feeling ready for the playrooms yet, but you guys go ahead and I'll maybe see you in the later'
that may give them false hope, I would rather be honest and say no thankyou"
this |
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"'Aww that's really kind of you to ask, I'm not really feeling ready for the playrooms yet, but you guys go ahead and I'll maybe see you in the later'
that may give them false hope, I would rather be honest and say no thankyou"
I think anything other than a simple no thanks can leave people unsure which is not fair. I find 'no thanks' if you are 100% certain that person is not for you works. 'not playing yet' keeps your options open if you may want to play later after socialising. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The nicest knock-back I've had from a man is "sorry, but I haven't got one in me" (one = shag I think). It's a nice way of implying that he would have liked to, but that he's already played that night.
Of course, I never asked him again LOL |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Tell them that your new (true) and that you are not sure you are ready yet...kinda thanks but no thanks but no offence.
That, or don't get talking to people you wouldn't be happy to fuck with? |
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"'Aww that's really kind of you to ask, I'm not really feeling ready for the playrooms yet, but you guys go ahead and I'll maybe see you in the later'"
you mean lie . |
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"Tell them that your new (true) and that you are not sure you are ready yet...kinda thanks but no thanks but no offence.
That, or don't get talking to people you wouldn't be happy to fuck with?"
But you might no know that you don't want to fuck them until you've started talking to them.....  |
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"Tell them that your new (true) and that you are not sure you are ready yet...kinda thanks but no thanks but no offence.
That, or don't get talking to people you wouldn't be happy to fuck with?
But you might no know that you don't want to fuck them until you've started talking to them..... "
or might be a natterbox and like the social side of clubs too |
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"'Aww that's really kind of you to ask, I'm not really feeling ready for the playrooms yet, but you guys go ahead and I'll maybe see you in the later'
you mean lie . "
How is it a lie ffs?
It is kind of someone to ask, it's not exactly being horrible is it?
Clearly if he doesn't feel he wants to play at that time with them then he's not ready to play with them either.
Assuming they have their own minds they can go ahead and play on their own.
Maybe he will change his mind later when someone says flat out 'No' to him. So maybe he will choose to 'see them later'
So where's the lie?
We've used that as a 'not right now thanks' loads of times and it's never been taken offensively. We've played with couples we've said that to since and we've not played with some others.
Maybe it's different when you are dealing with single men. We've never had to though so can't really comment on that. |
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"'Aww that's really kind of you to ask, I'm not really feeling ready for the playrooms yet, but you guys go ahead and I'll maybe see you in the later'"
Wow top answer!!! |
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