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How long should I wait before declaring my date a "no show"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Currently waiting.... How long is too long do you think people? And how quick is just plain impatient? Or very keen? I'd love to hear your thoughts please. |
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If you have a telephone number and he has yours I wouldnt wait at all. He has the chance to let you know he is running late. If you havent had a call then he isnt coming.
Oh I would be so annoyed if I made an effort
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you have a telephone number and he has yours I wouldnt wait at all. He has the chance to let you know he is running late. If you havent had a call then he isnt coming.
Oh I would be so annoyed if I made an effort
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. Exactly that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We were due to meet 7.30ish.... I should have trusted my instincts on this one!! We live and learn 
I'm currently pacing a little angrily, when I'm a little calmer I'll head home... I don't want a speeding ticket to complete my evening.
Thank you all Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you going to post to let us know the outcome?
Are you still waiting at the moment?"
I would have been gone by now
Sorry lateness and no telephone calls just down right rude |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd say - no more than 5 mins at the appointed meeting place, then pull back to a discreet viewing point for another 10 mins, watching to see if anybody comes running up, looking like they are late and in panic, and don't reveal yourself unless you really fancy them.
In any case, be out of there and gone within 20 mins - put it behind you and get on with your life...!
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"We were due to meet 7.30ish.... I should have trusted my instincts on this one!! We live and learn
I'm currently pacing a little angrily, when I'm a little calmer I'll head home... I don't want a speeding ticket to complete my evening.
Thank you all Xx"
Make sure you report as a no show. That should make you feel a bit better. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If they are serious to meet they will contact you immediate, if it goes more than 15min its no doubt another timewaster, to many of them here lol. Personally tho would give it 20min. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would wait 30 mins if he had contacted me to say he was running late. I personally wouldn't meet anyone without checking a hr before if they were still available to meet x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would probably wait 20 - 30 minutes. Never been stood up luckily. I've always had constant contact with everyone from when they leave to when they're about about 10 - 15 minutes away.
If you've not heard anything by the time you get home OP, I'd report him for a no show. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Half hour, report and block. this happened to me, first time I waited a hour, 2nd time half hour and I bought myself a drink and calmed down then left. idiot man |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That's just fucking rude, sorry it's happened to you, you should always trust your gut though on everything. Every guy I've met I've always been in contact with before hand, I always like to arrive first cos I hate walking towards people, I prefer them to come to me so I always say I'm leaving 15 mums later than I have! I like to have 15 -20 minutes before they get there to have a fag and sort myself out! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most guys tend to message to say they are setting off now. I would have just tried to get someone else to meet if they didn't turn up on time and didn't let you know they had set off (or you messaged them to ask and they didn't reply).
The mobile phone GPS on here can be helpful to see if they're closer to where you are, so you could keep an eye on that on their page if you think they will turn up and they are using a mobile phone (which i presume people going out will do that). |
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"This is why i don't leave my house until the guy has called me from the place we're meant to meet. Hate time wasters. Hope you have a better day today! "
we do a similar thing with single males, than ask them to name the shops opposite, Connie xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've never been sitting there waiting for them to turn up ..but got a text to say one of my meets had to cancel whilst I was getting ready ...All was not lost though I met someone else  so it wasn't a wasted night after all. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is why i don't leave my house until the guy has called me from the place we're meant to meet. Hate time wasters. Hope you have a better day today!
we do a similar thing with single males, than ask them to name the shops opposite, Connie xx "
Excellent idea! I only meet at two different places where i'm well know by the staff so i get the guy to call me and if i'm in any doubt i get him to hand his phone to a member of staff. I couldn't be bothered getting all dressed up then getting stood up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been late before....it happens. I always keep folk in the loop though.
Alternately, I've had to wait before but have been lucky enough that folk have kept me in the loop and I've never had a no show.
Actually......I lie.
Did let one person down once due to some horrific 'real life' crap happening and had to message with my tail between my legs a while later....luckily she was quite understanding. |
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what would happen if he said i will sit in the house whilst you go to the coffee shop ...when you get there ring me and pass your phone to a member of staff ...i will then set off ...would that be ok ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"what would happen if he said i will sit in the house whilst you go to the coffee shop ...when you get there ring me and pass your phone to a member of staff ...i will then set off ...would that be ok ?"
Not for me. Because i always show up. Single guys are more likely not to. And frankly, if a guy asked me to do that i just wouldn't meet him. There's plenty of other guys i want to meet who will. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"what would happen if he said i will sit in the house whilst you go to the coffee shop ...when you get there ring me and pass your phone to a member of staff ...i will then set off ...would that be ok ?
Not for me. Because i always show up. Single guys are more likely not to. And frankly, if a guy asked me to do that i just wouldn't meet him. There's plenty of other guys i want to meet who will. "
Isn't that asking people to do what your not prepared to do though? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"what would happen if he said i will sit in the house whilst you go to the coffee shop ...when you get there ring me and pass your phone to a member of staff ...i will then set off ...would that be ok ?
Not for me. Because i always show up. Single guys are more likely not to. And frankly, if a guy asked me to do that i just wouldn't meet him. There's plenty of other guys i want to meet who will.
Isn't that asking people to do what your not prepared to do though? "
Absolutely. And if they don't want to meet me then that's their choice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"what would happen if he said i will sit in the house whilst you go to the coffee shop ...when you get there ring me and pass your phone to a member of staff ...i will then set off ...would that be ok ?
Not for me. Because i always show up. Single guys are more likely not to. And frankly, if a guy asked me to do that i just wouldn't meet him. There's plenty of other guys i want to meet who will.
Isn't that asking people to do what your not prepared to do though?
Absolutely. And if they don't want to meet me then that's their choice."
Very telling. Thanks for the honesty. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"what would happen if he said i will sit in the house whilst you go to the coffee shop ...when you get there ring me and pass your phone to a member of staff ...i will then set off ...would that be ok ?
Not for me. Because i always show up. Single guys are more likely not to. And frankly, if a guy asked me to do that i just wouldn't meet him. There's plenty of other guys i want to meet who will.
Isn't that asking people to do what your not prepared to do though?
Absolutely. And if they don't want to meet me then that's their choice.
Very telling. Thanks for the honesty. "
I'm nothing but honest! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"what would happen if he said i will sit in the house whilst you go to the coffee shop ...when you get there ring me and pass your phone to a member of staff ...i will then set off ...would that be ok ?
Not for me. Because i always show up. Single guys are more likely not to. And frankly, if a guy asked me to do that i just wouldn't meet him. There's plenty of other guys i want to meet who will.
Isn't that asking people to do what your not prepared to do though?
Absolutely. And if they don't want to meet me then that's their choice.
Very telling. Thanks for the honesty.
I'm nothing but honest! "
If it works for you and the chaps are prepared to jump through hoops then fair play to you....and them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"what would happen if he said i will sit in the house whilst you go to the coffee shop ...when you get there ring me and pass your phone to a member of staff ...i will then set off ...would that be ok ?
Not for me. Because i always show up. Single guys are more likely not to. And frankly, if a guy asked me to do that i just wouldn't meet him. There's plenty of other guys i want to meet who will.
Isn't that asking people to do what your not prepared to do though?
Absolutely. And if they don't want to meet me then that's their choice.
Very telling. Thanks for the honesty.
I'm nothing but honest!
If it works for you and the chaps are prepared to jump through hoops then fair play to you....and them. "
It does and they seem plenty happy after the fact. Win, win!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"what would happen if he said i will sit in the house whilst you go to the coffee shop ...when you get there ring me and pass your phone to a member of staff ...i will then set off ...would that be ok ?
Not for me. Because i always show up. Single guys are more likely not to. And frankly, if a guy asked me to do that i just wouldn't meet him. There's plenty of other guys i want to meet who will.
Isn't that asking people to do what your not prepared to do though?
Absolutely. And if they don't want to meet me then that's their choice.
Very telling. Thanks for the honesty.
I'm nothing but honest!
If it works for you and the chaps are prepared to jump through hoops then fair play to you....and them.
It does and they seem plenty happy after the fact. Win, win! "
Takes allsorts |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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THIS is why single men get a bad name on here. I was stood up early on in my Fab journey, waited for 45 mins, in my local, kept sending texts etc in case he got lost.
3 hours later.....turns out he had a meet which over ran. He actually told me he had 'family round and they wouldn't leave'. Don't display ur verification from a meet on the same day u had a social with me dude. Lol. Oh well......trust ur 1st gut feeling next time babe. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"THIS is why single men get a bad name on here. I was stood up early on in my Fab journey, waited for 45 mins, in my local, kept sending texts etc in case he got lost.
3 hours later.....turns out he had a meet which over ran. He actually told me he had 'family round and they wouldn't leave'. Don't display ur verification from a meet on the same day u had a social with me dude. Lol. Oh well......trust ur 1st gut feeling next time babe. Xx "
I had one who cancelled then displayed a veri in the same way. When I was a bit cool in my messages he asked why so I told him. His excuse that it was a old one. Let's just say what goes around comes around
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"If they are serious to meet they will contact you immediate, if it goes more than 15min its no doubt another timewaster, to many of them here lol. Personally tho would give it 20min."
I've been out to meet someone - but got into a no signal area. My sat nav wanted to take me across a river - needless to say I was rather reluctant to do so and had to find my own way round.
I was about 45 mins late - fortunately, she waited. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"THIS is why single men get a bad name on here. I was stood up early on in my Fab journey, waited for 45 mins, in my local, kept sending texts etc in case he got lost.
3 hours later.....turns out he had a meet which over ran. He actually told me he had 'family round and they wouldn't leave'. Don't display ur verification from a meet on the same day u had a social with me dude. Lol. Oh well......trust ur 1st gut feeling next time babe. Xx
I had one who cancelled then displayed a veri in the same way. When I was a bit cool in my messages he asked why so I told him. His excuse that it was a old one. Let's just say what goes around comes around
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True dat babe. He hasn't had any action for ages. Profile stalking!! Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"THIS is why single men get a bad name on here. I was stood up early on in my Fab journey, waited for 45 mins, in my local, kept sending texts etc in case he got lost.
3 hours later.....turns out he had a meet which over ran. He actually told me he had 'family round and they wouldn't leave'. Don't display ur verification from a meet on the same day u had a social with me dude. Lol. Oh well......trust ur 1st gut feeling next time babe. Xx
I had one who cancelled then displayed a veri in the same way. When I was a bit cool in my messages he asked why so I told him. His excuse that it was a old one. Let's just say what goes around comes around
True dat babe. He hasn't had any action for ages. Profile stalking!! Xx "
Block and move on is the only way |
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I've been stood up first time i was on here,he left site and rejoined thinking i wouldn't realise it was him(he messaged me asking to meet)Sorry this happened to you there's no excuse in this day and age |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you, all of you, for your time and comments. Very interesting reading all your different views.
I waited a little over 30 minutes in the end, the last 10 spent arranging to meet an existing "friend" for coffee, and a happy ending to my evening.
The no-show has been blocked, reported and forgotten. I'll be far more inclined to listen to my instincts, and to plan a little more in the future.
Thanks again Xx |
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"That's just fucking rude, sorry it's happened to you, you should always trust your gut though on everything. Every guy I've met I've always been in contact with before hand, I always like to arrive first cos I hate walking towards people, I prefer them to come to me so I always say I'm leaving 15 mums later than I have! I like to have 15 -20 minutes before they get there to have a fag and sort myself out!"
Tut tut, Athena. You have yourself down as a non smoker |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been stood up by single women twice in the last few months. My time is precious and I'm very selective in who I meet so it just shows, takes all sorts. |
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"If you have a telephone number and he has yours I wouldnt wait at all. He has the chance to let you know he is running late. If you havent had a call then he isnt coming.
Oh I would be so annoyed if I made an effort
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This, no excuse in todays world that you can't let someone know you are running late. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"what would happen if he said i will sit in the house whilst you go to the coffee shop ...when you get there ring me and pass your phone to a member of staff ...i will then set off ...would that be ok ?
Not for me. Because i always show up. Single guys are more likely not to. And frankly, if a guy asked me to do that i just wouldn't meet him. There's plenty of other guys i want to meet who will. "
Not all single guys wouldn't show up. I've never let a meet down yet. Don't tar us all with the same tainted brush. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been stood up first time i was on here,he left site and rejoined thinking i wouldn't realise it was him(he messaged me asking to meet)Sorry this happened to you there's no excuse in this day and age "
this is my 5th profile! single guys get same daily welcome sis |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Name and shame to stop them doing it to other poor people
We're not allowed to though?? Xx"
Are you not? That's a shame. Can you report them in someway though? |
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