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married cheating scumbag...

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

That's me.

For those that want to judge, feel free to do so. Also take this opportunity to block me.

For those of you would have preferred not to know, sorry, its on my profile anyway so you would have found out soon enough.

There are whips to the left, big boots to the right. Feel free to use them.

Popcorn available for all!

I will neither beg for forgiveness, understanding or offer excuses. I am responsible for my own actions and choices.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"That's me.

For those that want to judge, feel free to do so. Also take this opportunity to block me.

For those of you would have preferred not to know, sorry, its on my profile anyway so you would have found out soon enough.

There are whips to the left, big boots to the right. Feel free to use them.

Popcorn available for all!

I will neither beg for forgiveness, understanding or offer excuses. I am responsible for my own actions and choices. "

well said x

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

Why post this... Just do your thing,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why post this... Just do your thing,

Exactly. If it was me I'd just go about my business without drawing attention to it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"That's me.

For those that want to judge, feel free to do so. Also take this opportunity to block me.

For those of you would have preferred not to know, sorry, its on my profile anyway so you would have found out soon enough.

There are whips to the left, big boots to the right. Feel free to use them.

Popcorn available for all!

I will neither beg for forgiveness, understanding or offer excuses. I am responsible for my own actions and choices. "

Huh?

You feeling alright?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Has something happened? x

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

As you said, its on your profile. Why post it on here?

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By *SweetVioletxWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"Why post this... Just do your thing,

Exactly. If it was me I'd just go about my business without drawing attention to it."

Yep as above. What do you want a medal??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why post this... Just do your thing,

Exactly. If it was me I'd just go about my business without drawing attention to it.

Yep as above. What do you want a medal??"

Nah just attention, and if his wife finds out he will be getting plenty of that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Everyone has their own reasons for being on here don't take what anyone says to heart. If you are open and honest about being married on your profile fair enough... People that read your profile and don't like it can take a little jog....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everyone has their own reasons for being on here don't take what anyone says to heart. If you are open and honest about being married on your profile fair enough... People that read your profile and don't like it can take a little jog.... "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why post this... Just do your thing,

Exactly. If it was me I'd just go about my business without drawing attention to it.

Yep as above. What do you want a medal??"

personally wow sexy xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can see where the OP is coming from....

Clearly....there are some (ladies) on here who will actively seek out and play with married men...that way NSA and no wanting relationships.

Probably more ladies/cpls who are totally opposite.

Good way of ing them out perhaps?

Better honest than pretending to be what he isn't?

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS over a year ago

Bristol.

I often wonder about the people on this site who say how 'open and honest' they are...

Open and honest with the person that should really matter???? I somehow doubt it..

Not really any different to those who say nothing...Ax

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By *ngel_38Woman over a year ago

Staffs

"That's me.

For those that want to judge, feel free to do so. Also take this opportunity to block me.

For those of you would have preferred not to know, sorry, its on my profile anyway so you would have found out soon enough.

There are whips to the left, big boots to the right. Feel free to use them.

Popcorn available for all!

I will neither beg for forgiveness, understanding or offer excuses. I am responsible for my own actions and choices. "

Low life scum bag. U should be hung , drawn and quartered.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can see where the OP is coming from....

Clearly....there are some (ladies) on here who will actively seek out and play with married men...that way NSA and no wanting relationships.

Probably more ladies/cpls who are totally opposite.

Good way of ing them out perhaps?

Better honest than pretending to be what he isn't? "

Good sense as ever

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can see where the OP is coming from....

Clearly....there are some (ladies) on here who will actively seek out and play with married men...that way NSA and no wanting relationships.

Probably more ladies/cpls who are totally opposite.

Good way of ing them out perhaps?

Better honest than pretending to be what he isn't? "

But hes not honest lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can see where the OP is coming from....

Clearly....there are some (ladies) on here who will actively seek out and play with married men...that way NSA and no wanting relationships.

Probably more ladies/cpls who are totally opposite.

Good way of ing them out perhaps?

Better honest than pretending to be what he isn't?

But hes not honest lol

He's honest with us, just not his wife !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He's giving the people on here the choice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why post this... Just do your thing,

Seems a bit weird. Unless his wife posted it!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can see where the OP is coming from....

Clearly....there are some (ladies) on here who will actively seek out and play with married men...that way NSA and no wanting relationships.

Probably more ladies/cpls who are totally opposite.

Good way of ing them out perhaps?

Better honest than pretending to be what he isn't?

But hes not honest lol

That's why my head could never play with a married man playing away. As much as they say they are honest etc how could I expect to believe that when they aren't with the one person they should be.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can see where the OP is coming from....

Clearly....there are some (ladies) on here who will actively seek out and play with married men...that way NSA and no wanting relationships.

Probably more ladies/cpls who are totally opposite.

Good way of ing them out perhaps?

Better honest than pretending to be what he isn't?

But hes not honest lol

He's honest with us, just not his wife !"

Really is he, cos he admits hes married that makes him honest lol. if he can easily lie to his wife, the he can quite easily lie to anyone on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can see where the OP is coming from....

Clearly....there are some (ladies) on here who will actively seek out and play with married men...that way NSA and no wanting relationships.

Probably more ladies/cpls who are totally opposite.

Good way of ing them out perhaps?

Better honest than pretending to be what he isn't?

But hes not honest lol

That's why my head could never play with a married man playing away. As much as they say they are honest etc how could I expect to believe that when they aren't with the one person they should be.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can see where the OP is coming from....

Clearly....there are some (ladies) on here who will actively seek out and play with married men...that way NSA and no wanting relationships.

Probably more ladies/cpls who are totally opposite.

Good way of ing them out perhaps?

Better honest than pretending to be what he isn't?

But hes not honest lol

He's being open and honest with the other users on this site so they and him can make an informed choice

As for his personal life, we do not know his situation so it is not for us to judge

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Why post this... Just do your thing,

Seems a bit weird. Unless his wife posted it!"

Good point!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can see where the OP is coming from....

Clearly....there are some (ladies) on here who will actively seek out and play with married men...that way NSA and no wanting relationships.

Probably more ladies/cpls who are totally opposite.

Good way of ing them out perhaps?

Better honest than pretending to be what he isn't?

But hes not honest lol

He's honest with us, just not his wife !

Really is he, cos he admits hes married that makes him honest lol. if he can easily lie to his wife, the he can quite easily lie to anyone on here

But as others have said, he's made his situation clear so if people don't like it, they can move to the next profile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can see where the OP is coming from....

Clearly....there are some (ladies) on here who will actively seek out and play with married men...that way NSA and no wanting relationships.

Probably more ladies/cpls who are totally opposite.

Good way of ing them out perhaps?

Better honest than pretending to be what he isn't?

But hes not honest lol

He's being open and honest with the other users on this site so they and him can make an informed choice

As for his personal life, we do not know his situation so it is not for us to judge "

It is a swinging site don't really need to know what he does day to day tbh just would not want to hurt anyone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can see where the OP is coming from....

Clearly....there are some (ladies) on here who will actively seek out and play with married men...that way NSA and no wanting relationships.

Probably more ladies/cpls who are totally opposite.

Good way of ing them out perhaps?

Better honest than pretending to be what he isn't?

But hes not honest lol

He's honest with us, just not his wife !

Really is he, cos he admits hes married that makes him honest lol. if he can easily lie to his wife, the he can quite easily lie to anyone on here

But as others have said, he's made his situation clear so if people don't like it, they can move to the next profile. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As for his personal life, we do not know his situation so it is not for us to judge "

Apart from the fact that by starting this thread the OP has invited judgement.

I honestly think that tge reason male and female cheats are perceived very differently on the forums us because women rarely, if ever post antagonist threads like this where the tone of the opening post also sets the tone for the responses

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"That's me.

For those that want to judge, feel free to do so. Also take this opportunity to block me.

For those of you would have preferred not to know, sorry, its on my profile anyway so you would have found out soon enough.

There are whips to the left, big boots to the right. Feel free to use them.

Popcorn available for all!

I will neither beg for forgiveness, understanding or offer excuses. I am responsible for my own actions and choices. "
just post that every day on your local updates

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why post this... Just do your thing,

Seems a bit weird. Unless his wife posted it!"

It must be Soap Opera day today. Or a full moon.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well done op for admitting it, its no diferent than a couple being married here really.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

"Why post this... Just do your thing,

Seems a bit weird. Unless his wife posted it!

It must be Soap Opera day today. Or a full moon."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well done op for admitting it, its no diferent than a couple being married here really."

Apart from the fact his wife isn't involved in meets and has no knowledge of it !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well done op for admitting it, its no diferent than a couple being married here really."

How do you figure that?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

"That's me.

For those that want to judge, feel free to do so. Also take this opportunity to block me.

For those of you would have preferred not to know, sorry, its on my profile anyway so you would have found out soon enough.

There are whips to the left, big boots to the right. Feel free to use them.

Popcorn available for all!

I will neither beg for forgiveness, understanding or offer excuses. I am responsible for my own actions and choices. "

You MUST grovel to people here who don't mean anything to you and accept the fact that you are the lowest of the low

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well done op for admitting it, its no diferent than a couple being married here really.

How do you figure that? "
As he got a single man profile and not a couple I recon lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can see where the OP is coming from....

Clearly....there are some (ladies) on here who will actively seek out and play with married men...that way NSA and no wanting relationships.

Probably more ladies/cpls who are totally opposite.

Good way of ing them out perhaps?

Better honest than pretending to be what he isn't?

Good sense as ever

Thanks for that Milffor...... We do seem to agree on a scarily high number of topics!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well done op for admitting it, its no diferent than a couple being married here really.

How do you figure that? As he got a single man profile and not a couple I recon lol."

Geez

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well done op for admitting it, its no diferent than a couple being married here really.

Apart from the fact his wife isn't involved in meets and has no knowledge of it !"
Nothing wrong with some fresh pussey, we don't know whole story, like maibe his wife isn't that keen on sex as he is.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yet again I fail to understand why people feel the need to post what they do.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

Can understand putting it on the profile but not really sure of the point of the thread?? Most users don't use the forums anyway so surely just putting it on the profile is enough.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

"Well done op for admitting it, its no diferent than a couple being married here really."

That's bollocks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

yawn

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Why post this... Just do your thing,

Seems a bit weird. Unless his wife posted it!

It must be Soap Opera day today. Or a full moon."

Full moon tonight. That explains a lot on here today then.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well done op for admitting it, its no diferent than a couple being married here really.

Apart from the fact his wife isn't involved in meets and has no knowledge of it !"

She isn't involved....but as has been said here. We don't know if she knows or not....that's his problem/decision whatever.

I have a "friend" on here who is married and plays as a single fem. her husband has full knowledge....has even waved us off when I have taken her to a club ...... But there is no mention of him on her current profile!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well done op for admitting it, its no diferent than a couple being married here really.

That's bollocks

"
Meant like some couples do have single profiles and playing away from hubby or wife even tho they got a couples profile

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why post this... Just do your thing,

Seems a bit weird. Unless his wife posted it!

It must be Soap Opera day today. Or a full moon.

Full moon tonight. That explains a lot on here today then.

It's brilliant. I'm posting allsorts of shit. I fit right in.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well done op for admitting it, its no diferent than a couple being married here really.

Apart from the fact his wife isn't involved in meets and has no knowledge of it !

She isn't involved....but as has been said here. We don't know if she knows or not....that's his problem/decision whatever.

The title of the post gives it away

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well done op for admitting it, its no diferent than a couple being married here really.

Apart from the fact his wife isn't involved in meets and has no knowledge of it !

She isn't involved....but as has been said here. We don't know if she knows or not....that's his problem/decision whatever.

She isn't involved exactly, so my point being to the above poster, it has no similarity to married couples on here as he suggested as couples meet as a couple.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can see where the OP is coming from....

Clearly....there are some (ladies) on here who will actively seek out and play with married men...that way NSA and no wanting relationships.

Probably more ladies/cpls who are totally opposite.

Good way of ing them out perhaps?

Better honest than pretending to be what he isn't?

But hes not honest lol

He's being open and honest with the other users on this site so they and him can make an informed choice

As for his personal life, we do not know his situation so it is not for us to judge "

Here here, well said, there are so many self righteous people on these threads its unbelievable!

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Well done op for admitting it, its no diferent than a couple being married here really.

Apart from the fact his wife isn't involved in meets and has no knowledge of it !"

Yep,give him a round of applause

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well done op for admitting it, its no diferent than a couple being married here really.

Apart from the fact his wife isn't involved in meets and has no knowledge of it !

She isn't involved....but as has been said here. We don't know if she knows or not....that's his problem/decision whatever.

She isn't involved exactly, so my point being to the above poster, it has no similarity to married couples on here as he suggested as couples meet as a couple."
What I meant was the couples would meet without the other ones knowledge in a sneaky way here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well done op for admitting it, its no diferent than a couple being married here really.

Apart from the fact his wife isn't involved in meets and has no knowledge of it !

Yep,give him a round of applause

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By *lorious hole bs16Man over a year ago

Bristol

So fucking what..

(Attention seeking) married cheating scumbag.

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By *oobsandballsMan over a year ago

st andrews

Possibly Marmite has posted this as he's as sick to death of the constant threads dissecting married people on fab at the moment as I am.

I honestly don't care if someone is married or not, and I don't care if people don't want to play with us because Mr is married. That's their choice, they don't have to message us.

But give the threads about married people and their motives a bloody rest. No one knows what goes on behind closed doors, so we don't judge anyone or assume we know what they're up to.

We're on here to have fun. This place has become so judgemental lately, it's a real drag!

Each to their own, and it would be a happier place.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Possibly Marmite has posted this as he's as sick to death of the constant threads dissecting married people on fab at the moment as I am.

I honestly don't care if someone is married or not, and I don't care if people don't want to play with us because Mr is married. That's their choice, they don't have to message us.

But give the threads about married people and their motives a bloody rest. No one knows what goes on behind closed doors, so we don't judge anyone or assume we know what they're up to.

We're on here to have fun. This place has become so judgemental lately, it's a real drag!

Each to their own, and it would be a happier place."

So why add to it all by posting this thread ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As has been said already, open and honest on his profile, but maybe not open and honest to his wife??

Own reasons or not, honesty is something a lot of decent folk hold high on their list.

Selective honesty, maybe it is a new concept!!

Saying a cheating guy on here is no different to a couple who are honest to each other? Laughable really!

Sites like this are fantastic but they seem a magnet for cheats.

Shame.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why post this... Just do your thing,

Exactly. If it was me I'd just go about my business without drawing attention to it."

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By *oobsandballsMan over a year ago

st andrews

"Possibly Marmite has posted this as he's as sick to death of the constant threads dissecting married people on fab at the moment as I am.

I honestly don't care if someone is married or not, and I don't care if people don't want to play with us because Mr is married. That's their choice, they don't have to message us.

But give the threads about married people and their motives a bloody rest. No one knows what goes on behind closed doors, so we don't judge anyone or assume we know what they're up to.

We're on here to have fun. This place has become so judgemental lately, it's a real drag!

Each to their own, and it would be a happier place.

So why add to it all by posting this thread ?"

I think he was being tongue in cheek, but I may be wrong. That's how I read it anyway

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS over a year ago

Bristol.

"Possibly Marmite has posted this as he's as sick to death of the constant threads dissecting married people on fab at the moment as I am.

I honestly don't care if someone is married or not, and I don't care if people don't want to play with us because Mr is married. That's their choice, they don't have to message us.

But give the threads about married people and their motives a bloody rest. No one knows what goes on behind closed doors, so we don't judge anyone or assume we know what they're up to.

We're on here to have fun. This place has become so judgemental lately, it's a real drag!

Each to their own, and it would be a happier place.

So why add to it all by posting this thread ?"
here here.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

Most married threads are posted by married people...

Most bi guy threads are posted by bi guys..

Usually to try and ask people to justify why they won't meet them.

There are people for all on here, it's easier to focus on the people who do meet them, rather than the people who don't.

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By *layer oneMan over a year ago

mirfield

"That's me.

For those that want to judge, feel free to do so. Also take this opportunity to block me.

For those of you would have preferred not to know, sorry, its on my profile anyway so you would have found out soon enough.

There are whips to the left, big boots to the right. Feel free to use them.

Popcorn available for all!

I will neither beg for forgiveness, understanding or offer excuses. I am responsible for my own actions and choices. "
I was going to say form the title of this post " here we go again". But good on you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So fucking what..

(Attention seeking) married cheating scumbag.

Female version here, just to add to the mix

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *SweetVioletxWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

Off to start a thread declaring how single I am. How dare I? Anyone who wants to judge bring it on.

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Off to start a thread declaring how single I am. How dare I? Anyone who wants to judge bring it on.

Let me know if it gets you any meets

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Possibly Marmite has posted this as he's as sick to death of the constant threads dissecting married people on fab at the moment as I am.

I honestly don't care if someone is married or not, and I don't care if people don't want to play with us because Mr is married. That's their choice, they don't have to message us.

But give the threads about married people and their motives a bloody rest. No one knows what goes on behind closed doors, so we don't judge anyone or assume we know what they're up to.

We're on here to have fun. This place has become so judgemental lately, it's a real drag!

Each to their own, and it would be a happier place.

So why add to it all by posting this thread ?"

Exactly

This thread invites judgement, though in all honesty the response is somewhat muted compared to some similar threads.

There is an easy way to avoid being judged for cheating. Don't cheat. It's that simple.

You'd be judged in the pub for cheating. You'd be judged by you colleagues for cheating. You'd be judged by your friends and family for cheating. In fact I can't think of anywhere you wouldn't be judged for cheating and it's beyond me why some people think swingers are going to be any less judgemental. Swinging and cheating are very different things.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Off to start a thread declaring how single I am. How dare I? Anyone who wants to judge bring it on.

Brilliant, love it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Off to start a thread declaring how single I am. How dare I? Anyone who wants to judge bring it on.

Disgusting. Everyone knows swingers are only couples.

;-)

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By *trawberry-popWoman over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

"Possibly Marmite has posted this as he's as sick to death of the constant threads dissecting married people on fab at the moment as I am.

I honestly don't care if someone is married or not, and I don't care if people don't want to play with us because Mr is married. That's their choice, they don't have to message us.

But give the threads about married people and their motives a bloody rest. No one knows what goes on behind closed doors, so we don't judge anyone or assume we know what they're up to.

We're on here to have fun. This place has become so judgemental lately, it's a real drag!

Each to their own, and it would be a happier place.

So why add to it all by posting this thread ?

Exactly

This thread invites judgement, though in all honesty the response is somewhat muted compared to some similar threads.

There is an easy way to avoid being judged for cheating. Don't cheat. It's that simple.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

At least this thread has highlighted other people in a similar situation, fill your boots and have fun

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By *ancs MinxWoman over a year ago

Burnley

"Why post this... Just do your thing,

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By *ratty_DamselWoman over a year ago

London.

"Possibly Marmite has posted this as he's as sick to death of the constant threads dissecting married people on fab at the moment as I am.

I honestly don't care if someone is married or not, and I don't care if people don't want to play with us because Mr is married. That's their choice, they don't have to message us.

But give the threads about married people and their motives a bloody rest. No one knows what goes on behind closed doors, so we don't judge anyone or assume we know what they're up to.

We're on here to have fun. This place has become so judgemental lately, it's a real drag!

Each to their own, and it would be a happier place."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why post this... Just do your thing,

Seems a bit weird. Unless his wife posted it!

It must be Soap Opera day today. Or a full moon."

It was a Full Moon last night. Watch out for the crazies!! Xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Off to start a thread declaring how single I am. How dare I? Anyone who wants to judge bring it on.

"
Love it. I will join it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

At least Marmite is honest in his profile about it and that allows others to make an informed choice whether to meet or not. It's those that don't tell the truth I have an issue with.

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool

I haven't read through all of the responses, so apologies for repeating...if I am!

From a club perspective and being around for a long time...I'd say about half of the singel guys I have come across are married or in a relationship...it's the nature of the scene!! I am neither shocked or moved by this 'admission' and neither should anyone else!

Also, about 1/3 of the couples I have come across at clubs and parties have been married, but to other people. Again...I'm neither shocked or moved.

The swinging scene is about no strings attached sex. Simple. It's not about analysing someones motives for swinging or knowing all about their private lives. You have sex, you walk away.

Of course, I have built up long term friendships with people on the scene, but close friendships where I know everything about them? There are a handful. It's not my business.

If you have morals or ethics about the type of person you play with, then you should not be doing this. The nature of swinging will always attract people who are having extra curricular sex away from the nest

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Off to start a thread declaring how single I am. How dare I? Anyone who wants to judge bring it on.

Love it. I will join it

Count me in too

As for the thread - why seek the attention? Honesty about dishonesty isn't ideal, bottom line is it's a person saying they want to be involved with a swinging scene, rather than solve their relationship issues or walk away etc. Not a nice predicament and I'm not judging, it's just none of our business really.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"I haven't read through all of the responses, so apologies for repeating...if I am!

Also, about 1/3 of the couples I have come across at clubs and parties have been married, but to other people. Again...I'm neither shocked or moved.

The swinging scene is about no strings attached sex. Simple. It's not about analysing someones motives for swinging or knowing all about their private lives. You have sex, you walk away.

Of course, I have built up long term friendships with people on the scene, but close friendships where I know everything about them? There are a handful. It's not my business.

xx "

I really don't think you should be telling other people how they should or shouldn't be feeling.

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool

"I haven't read through all of the responses, so apologies for repeating...if I am!

Also, about 1/3 of the couples I have come across at clubs and parties have been married, but to other people. Again...I'm neither shocked or moved.

The swinging scene is about no strings attached sex. Simple. It's not about analysing someones motives for swinging or knowing all about their private lives. You have sex, you walk away.

Of course, I have built up long term friendships with people on the scene, but close friendships where I know everything about them? There are a handful. It's not my business.

I really don't think you should be telling other people how they should or shouldn't be feeling."

It's an opinion. Like everyone else here who has an opinion...you agree or you don't. What I am stating is that you can't claim to know or believe everything that people say about their personal circumstances nor should you judge them. It's the nature of the beast.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you have morals or ethics about the type of person you play with, then you should not be doing this. "

I will tell all the swingers who are keen on open, honest and ethical swinging that they shouldn't be doing it.

I'm sure they'll be sad.

Oh no... wait. That other thing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do love to read all the single guys posting on here criticising the OP and trying to gain kudos with the females who they hope will swoon into their bed at their chivilrous actions.

In reality its a front as we all know the majority would hump his wife senseless if she were on here playing away from home.

I think these guys are worse than the OP, some guys will do and say just about anything to get their leg over.

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool

If you have morals or ethics about the type of person you play with, then you should not be doing this.

I will tell all the swingers who are keen on open, honest and ethical swinging that they shouldn't be doing it.

I'm sure they'll be sad.

Oh no... wait. That other thing."

So you are certain that every person you have played with has been completely honest with you? Or have you accepted what they have said as gospel and gone ahead anyway?

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Marmite.....love it or hate it

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

"Possibly Marmite has posted this as he's as sick to death of the constant threads dissecting married people on fab at the moment as I am.

I honestly don't care if someone is married or not, and I don't care if people don't want to play with us because Mr is married. That's their choice, they don't have to message us.

But give the threads about married people and their motives a bloody rest. No one knows what goes on behind closed doors, so we don't judge anyone or assume we know what they're up to.

We're on here to have fun. This place has become so judgemental lately, it's a real drag!

Each to their own, and it would be a happier place.

So why add to it all by posting this thread ?

Exactly

This thread invites judgement, though in all honesty the response is somewhat muted compared to some similar threads.

There is an easy way to avoid being judged for cheating. Don't cheat. It's that simple.

You'd be judged in a pub for swinging. You'd be judged by your colleagues for swinging. You'd be judged by your friends and family for swinging. In fact, I can't think of anywhere why you wouldn't be judged for swinging and it's beyond me why some swinging couples think that single women are going to be less judgemental. Singles having sexual partners is very different from couples (a couple is two people) having sex outside of their relationship, no matter how many agreements and contracts are signed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I do love to read all the single guys posting on here criticising the OP and trying to gain kudos with the females who they hope will swoon into their bed at their chivilrous actions.

In reality its a front as we all know the majority would hump his wife senseless if she were on here playing away from home.

I think these guys are worse than the OP, some guys will do and say just about anything to get their leg over."

I think you cant be further from the truth there, see me id never ever play knowing with a married woman whos part dosent know shes doing... reason being, its been done to me, and its not nice...in fact it was like a dagger stuck in my chest for months, so thats why, not to gain cudos as you put it, its about having morals, and caring about how the other person would feel

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As for his personal life, we do not know his situation so it is not for us to judge

Apart from the fact that by starting this thread the OP has invited judgement.

*shuffles back out again quietly*

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I haven't read through all of the responses, so apologies for repeating...if I am!

Also, about 1/3 of the couples I have come across at clubs and parties have been married, but to other people. Again...I'm neither shocked or moved.

The swinging scene is about no strings attached sex. Simple. It's not about analysing someones motives for swinging or knowing all about their private lives. You have sex, you walk away.

Of course, I have built up long term friendships with people on the scene, but close friendships where I know everything about them? There are a handful. It's not my business.

xx "

Absolutely spot on, couldn't have said it better myself, unfortunately there will always be people who don't like to hear what you have said and will try to argue a fruitless argument to try and justify their beliefs, rightly or wrongly.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

....."Most bi guy threads are posted by bi guys..

Usually to try and ask people to justify why they won't meet them....."

I don't.

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By *MaleMan over a year ago

"I haven't read through all of the responses, so apologies for repeating...if I am!

Also, about 1/3 of the couples I have come across at clubs and parties have been married, but to other people. Again...I'm neither shocked or moved.

The swinging scene is about no strings attached sex. Simple. It's not about analysing someones motives for swinging or knowing all about their private lives. You have sex, you walk away.

Of course, I have built up long term friendships with people on the scene, but close friendships where I know everything about them? There are a handful. It's not my business.

xx "

Does the 33% of married cpls (but not to each other) and the 50% of single males (who are actually married) apply to Townhouse attendees or is that over your time in the scene in general ??

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool

"You'd be judged in a pub for swinging. You'd be judged by your colleagues for swinging. You'd be judged by your friends and family for swinging. In fact, I can't think of anywhere why you wouldn't be judged for swinging and it's beyond me why some swinging couples think that single women are going to be less judgemental. Singles having sexual partners is very different from couples (a couple is two people) having sex outside of their relationship, no matter how many agreements and contracts are signed

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"I do love to read all the single guys posting on here criticising the OP and trying to gain kudos with the females who they hope will swoon into their bed at their chivilrous actions.

In reality its a front as we all know the majority would hump his wife senseless if she were on here playing away from home.

I think these guys are worse than the OP, some guys will do and say just about anything to get their leg over.

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool

" Does the 33% of married cpls (but not to each other) and the 50% of single males (who are actually married) apply to Townhouse attendees or is that over your time in the scene in general ??

It's partly from my time at Townhouse, but mainly from my 10 years travelling around clubs and parties.

My point is that some people will tell you about their married/single status and it's your choice to play or not based on your personal belief system. BUT some will not tell you and you would be non the wiser.

I totally get why some people, for personal/moralistic reasons would not play with a 'cheater', but can you believe everything a person tells you? Would a man or woman not tell you they are single in fear of being judged and to get a play?

I am not condoning cheating AT ALL but I accept that people have reasons for being here and whether they tell me or not that they are playing away is up to them and I can't always believe what I am being told.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"I haven't read through all of the responses, so apologies for repeating...if I am!

Also, about 1/3 of the couples I have come across at clubs and parties have been married, but to other people. Again...I'm neither shocked or moved.

The swinging scene is about no strings attached sex. Simple. It's not about analysing someones motives for swinging or knowing all about their private lives. You have sex, you walk away.

Of course, I have built up long term friendships with people on the scene, but close friendships where I know everything about them? There are a handful. It's not my business.

I really don't think you should be telling other people how they should or shouldn't be feeling.

You said

"I am neither shocked or moved by this 'admission' and neither should anyone else!"

That's what I was referring to.

We all judge, it's human nature. I don't judge anyone for being on here I just ask them not to involve me

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

"I do love to read all the single guys posting on here criticising the OP and trying to gain kudos with the females who they hope will swoon into their bed at their chivilrous actions.

In reality its a front as we all know the majority would hump his wife senseless if she were on here playing away from home.

I think these guys are worse than the OP, some guys will do and say just about anything to get their leg over."

I am no better than the OP, he is no better than me.

Where he sticks his cock is of no concern to me, I just answered the thread and didn't see the point in it, but it's right to do so.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well done op for admitting it, its no diferent than a couple being married here really."

How is it no different?

Luke knows I swing, and I know Luke swings as we do it TOGETHER with consent from each other and not behind each other's backs! So no it's not the same.

And OP why bring attention to yourself?

So what if your married? As you have said it's on your profile so really no need to publicly announce it.,

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By *MaleMan over a year ago

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

His right*

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By *MaleMan over a year ago

" Does the 33% of married cpls (but not to each other) and the 50% of single males (who are actually married) apply to Townhouse attendees or is that over your time in the scene in general ??

It's partly from my time at Townhouse, but mainly from my 10 years travelling around clubs and parties.

yeah I know how it all works just adding the fact to the awareness bank. I've been on the scene well beyond this profile and some things you cannot help but spot/notice/work out.

For sure there's plenty of liars & bullshitters on the scene one way or another but thats not unique to swinging.

As usual tho focus usually lands on the bad but there's high percentages of good out there and on scene. Such as 66% of cpls being married to each other and 50% of single males being genuinely single going on what you've observed in your time.

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool

You said

"I am neither shocked or moved by this 'admission' and neither should anyone else!"

That's what I was referring to.

We all judge, it's human nature. I don't judge anyone for being on here I just ask them not to involve me"

Ahhh, I see where you are coming from ...accepted and I take your point

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool

" Does the 33% of married cpls (but not to each other) and the 50% of single males (who are actually married) apply to Townhouse attendees or is that over your time in the scene in general ??

It's partly from my time at Townhouse, but mainly from my 10 years travelling around clubs and parties.

yeah I know how it all works just adding the fact to the awareness bank. I've been on the scene well beyond this profile and some things you cannot help but spot/notice/work out.

For sure there's plenty of liars & bullshitters on the scene one way or another but thats not unique to swinging.

I like your thinking

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Possibly Marmite has posted this as he's as sick to death of the constant threads dissecting married people on fab at the moment as I am.

I honestly don't care if someone is married or not, and I don't care if people don't want to play with us because Mr is married. That's their choice, they don't have to message us.

But give the threads about married people and their motives a bloody rest. No one knows what goes on behind closed doors, so we don't judge anyone or assume we know what they're up to.

We're on here to have fun. This place has become so judgemental lately, it's a real drag!

Each to their own, and it would be a happier place."

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By *mallteaserWoman over a year ago

Central

We all make our own choices xxx

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

honesty.... or is it a case of being "honest enough"......

i have always been of the cynical _iew of if they are lying to "them".... why should be as nieve to think they couldn't possibly be lying to you....

if people want to do there thing and play away...... don't complain if people dont see it the way you do

if people want to and knowinging decide to play with people who play away.... then you are as complicit in any of the consequences of those actions as they are.... just don't say "got nothing to do with me! not my fault!!!"

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By *nleashedCrakenMan over a year ago

Widnes

"Possibly Marmite has posted this as he's as sick to death of the constant threads dissecting married people on fab at the moment as I am.

I honestly don't care if someone is married or not, and I don't care if people don't want to play with us because Mr is married. That's their choice, they don't have to message us.

But give the threads about married people and their motives a bloody rest. No one knows what goes on behind closed doors, so we don't judge anyone or assume we know what they're up to.

We're on here to have fun. This place has become so judgemental lately, it's a real drag!

Each to their own, and it would be a happier place.

So why add to it all by posting this thread ?"

Because it's what a lot of people on this site think but are too scared of the self-righteous people on here to say. Way too much judging of others and their motives on here these days. I'm not here to judge but to have fun. Simples really.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan over a year ago

Widnes

"Off to start a thread declaring how single I am. How dare I? Anyone who wants to judge bring it on.

Well I've judged you as being totally immoral and wrong. But that's only because your upper age limit is too low. LOL

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By *nleashedCrakenMan over a year ago

Widnes

"I do love to read all the single guys posting on here criticising the OP and trying to gain kudos with the females who they hope will swoon into their bed at their chivilrous actions.

In reality its a front as we all know the majority would hump his wife senseless if she were on here playing away from home.

I think these guys are worse than the OP, some guys will do and say just about anything to get their leg over."

I think you may well be right about that.

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

"Why post this... Just do your thing,

Exactly. If it was me I'd just go about my business without drawing attention to it."

Drawing attention is what most people do on here, most of the time.

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

The standards in my Church are slipping; we need to recruit some holy people from here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The standards in my Church are slipping; we need to recruit some holy people from here

Amen

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By *nleashedCrakenMan over a year ago

Widnes

"The standards in my Church are slipping; we need to recruit some holy people from here

Pmsfl

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman over a year ago

Deviant City

"What I meant was the couples would meet without the other ones knowledge in a sneaky way here."

Happens an awful lot!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Who cares its all just a load of tree hugging hippy crap !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yet again I fail to understand why people feel the need to post what they do.

"
someone will declare they are leaving in a minute.......as if anyone cares what they do,its mainly look at me time stuff!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Possibly Marmite has posted this as he's as sick to death of the constant threads dissecting married people on fab at the moment as I am.

I honestly don't care if someone is married or not, and I don't care if people don't want to play with us because Mr is married. That's their choice, they don't have to message us.

But give the threads about married people and their motives a bloody rest. No one knows what goes on behind closed doors, so we don't judge anyone or assume we know what they're up to.

We're on here to have fun. This place has become so judgemental lately, it's a real drag!

Each to their own, and it would be a happier place.

So why add to it all by posting this thread ?

And that is my point. Why post this drawing attention to a situation that is highly emotive and will inevitably, rightly or wrongly, invite judgement. Just get on with it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"That's me.

For those that want to judge, feel free to do so. Also take this opportunity to block me.

For those of you would have preferred not to know, sorry, its on my profile anyway so you would have found out soon enough.

There are whips to the left, big boots to the right. Feel free to use them.

Popcorn available for all!

I will neither beg for forgiveness, understanding or offer excuses. I am responsible for my own actions and choices. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"That's me.

For those that want to judge, feel free to do so. Also take this opportunity to block me.

For those of you would have preferred not to know, sorry, its on my profile anyway so you would have found out soon enough.

There are whips to the left, big boots to the right. Feel free to use them.

Popcorn available for all!

I will neither beg for forgiveness, understanding or offer excuses. I am responsible for my own actions and choices. "

Popcorn sticks in my craw.

I like the big boots and whip.

Kinky!

Bend over then....

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

"Possibly Marmite has posted this as he's as sick to death of the constant threads dissecting married people on fab at the moment as I am.

I honestly don't care if someone is married or not, and I don't care if people don't want to play with us because Mr is married. That's their choice, they don't have to message us.

But give the threads about married people and their motives a bloody rest. No one knows what goes on behind closed doors, so we don't judge anyone or assume we know what they're up to.

We're on here to have fun. This place has become so judgemental lately, it's a real drag!

Each to their own, and it would be a happier place.

So why add to it all by posting this thread ?

And that is my point. Why post this drawing attention to a situation that is highly emotive and will inevitably, rightly or wrongly, invite judgement. Just get on with it. "

And my point would be this: Why couldn't the holy people of Fab just ignore it? They behave like a bunch of gawkers who slow down at a car crash site, secretly hoping to see blood and gore

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Possibly Marmite has posted this as he's as sick to death of the constant threads dissecting married people on fab at the moment as I am.

I honestly don't care if someone is married or not, and I don't care if people don't want to play with us because Mr is married. That's their choice, they don't have to message us.

But give the threads about married people and their motives a bloody rest. No one knows what goes on behind closed doors, so we don't judge anyone or assume we know what they're up to.

We're on here to have fun. This place has become so judgemental lately, it's a real drag!

Each to their own, and it would be a happier place.

So why add to it all by posting this thread ?

And that is my point. Why post this drawing attention to a situation that is highly emotive and will inevitably, rightly or wrongly, invite judgement. Just get on with it.

And my point would be this: Why couldn't the holy people of Fab just ignore it? They behave like a bunch of gawkers who slow down at a car crash site, secretly hoping to see blood and gore "

S x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Possibly Marmite has posted this as he's as sick to death of the constant threads dissecting married people on fab at the moment as I am.

I honestly don't care if someone is married or not, and I don't care if people don't want to play with us because Mr is married. That's their choice, they don't have to message us.

But give the threads about married people and their motives a bloody rest. No one knows what goes on behind closed doors, so we don't judge anyone or assume we know what they're up to.

We're on here to have fun. This place has become so judgemental lately, it's a real drag!

Each to their own, and it would be a happier place.

So why add to it all by posting this thread ?

And that is my point. Why post this drawing attention to a situation that is highly emotive and will inevitably, rightly or wrongly, invite judgement. Just get on with it.

And my point would be this: Why couldn't the holy people of Fab just ignore it? They behave like a bunch of gawkers who slow down at a car crash site, secretly hoping to see blood and gore "

Nothing better to do ? Drawing attention to themselves ? Its a public forum, if people have a _iew they want to share then they will whether we agree with it or not.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Who cares its all just a load of tree hugging hippy crap !

I think you might find that tree hugging hippies tend not to believe in the institution of marriage in the first place. Never heard of the "summer of Love"? They were all tree hugging hippies

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Possibly Marmite has posted this as he's as sick to death of the constant threads dissecting married people on fab at the moment as I am.

I honestly don't care if someone is married or not, and I don't care if people don't want to play with us because Mr is married. That's their choice, they don't have to message us.

But give the threads about married people and their motives a bloody rest. No one knows what goes on behind closed doors, so we don't judge anyone or assume we know what they're up to.

We're on here to have fun. This place has become so judgemental lately, it's a real drag!

Each to their own, and it would be a happier place.

So why add to it all by posting this thread ?

And that is my point. Why post this drawing attention to a situation that is highly emotive and will inevitably, rightly or wrongly, invite judgement. Just get on with it.

And my point would be this: Why couldn't the holy people of Fab just ignore it? They behave like a bunch of gawkers who slow down at a car crash site, secretly hoping to see blood and gore

Nothing better to do ? Drawing attention to themselves ? Its a public forum, if people have a _iew they want to share then they will whether we agree with it or not. "

Not sure it was a _iew, was more of a "look at me" or even a challenge. He just put on the forums what he has in his profile but feels isn't giving him enough exposure there.

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

"Possibly Marmite has posted this as he's as sick to death of the constant threads dissecting married people on fab at the moment as I am.

I honestly don't care if someone is married or not, and I don't care if people don't want to play with us because Mr is married. That's their choice, they don't have to message us.

But give the threads about married people and their motives a bloody rest. No one knows what goes on behind closed doors, so we don't judge anyone or assume we know what they're up to.

We're on here to have fun. This place has become so judgemental lately, it's a real drag!

Each to their own, and it would be a happier place.

So why add to it all by posting this thread ?

And that is my point. Why post this drawing attention to a situation that is highly emotive and will inevitably, rightly or wrongly, invite judgement. Just get on with it.

And my point would be this: Why couldn't the holy people of Fab just ignore it? They behave like a bunch of gawkers who slow down at a car crash site, secretly hoping to see blood and gore

Nothing better to do ? Drawing attention to themselves ? Its a public forum, if people have a _iew they want to share then they will whether we agree with it or not. "

Just like on a public highway then; no difference in the behaviour or attitude

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Possibly Marmite has posted this as he's as sick to death of the constant threads dissecting married people on fab at the moment as I am.

I honestly don't care if someone is married or not, and I don't care if people don't want to play with us because Mr is married. That's their choice, they don't have to message us.

But give the threads about married people and their motives a bloody rest. No one knows what goes on behind closed doors, so we don't judge anyone or assume we know what they're up to.

We're on here to have fun. This place has become so judgemental lately, it's a real drag!

Each to their own, and it would be a happier place.

So why add to it all by posting this thread ?

And that is my point. Why post this drawing attention to a situation that is highly emotive and will inevitably, rightly or wrongly, invite judgement. Just get on with it.

And my point would be this: Why couldn't the holy people of Fab just ignore it? They behave like a bunch of gawkers who slow down at a car crash site, secretly hoping to see blood and gore "

Tar and feathers come to mind.

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

And that is my point. Why post this drawing attention to a situation that is highly emotive and will inevitably, rightly or wrongly, invite judgement. Just get on with it.

And my point would be this: Why couldn't the holy people of Fab just ignore it? They behave like a bunch of gawkers who slow down at a car crash site, secretly hoping to see blood and gore

Tar and feathers come to mind.

Feathers are flying... that's for sure

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By *icefellatwoMan over a year ago

hastings

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By *icefellatwoMan over a year ago

hastings

"That's me.

For those that want to judge, feel free to do so. Also take this opportunity to block me.

For those of you would have preferred not to know, sorry, its on my profile anyway so you would have found out soon enough.

There are whips to the left, big boots to the right. Feel free to use them.

Popcorn available for all!

I will neither beg for forgiveness, understanding or offer excuses. I am responsible for my own actions and choices. "

Very well said

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Possibly Marmite has posted this as he's as sick to death of the constant threads dissecting married people on fab at the moment as I am.

I honestly don't care if someone is married or not, and I don't care if people don't want to play with us because Mr is married. That's their choice, they don't have to message us.

But give the threads about married people and their motives a bloody rest. No one knows what goes on behind closed doors, so we don't judge anyone or assume we know what they're up to.

We're on here to have fun. This place has become so judgemental lately, it's a real drag!

Each to their own, and it would be a happier place.

So why add to it all by posting this thread ?

And that is my point. Why post this drawing attention to a situation that is highly emotive and will inevitably, rightly or wrongly, invite judgement. Just get on with it.

And my point would be this: Why couldn't the holy people of Fab just ignore it? They behave like a bunch of gawkers who slow down at a car crash site, secretly hoping to see blood and gore

Nothing better to do ? Drawing attention to themselves ? Its a public forum, if people have a _iew they want to share then they will whether we agree with it or not. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And that is my point. Why post this drawing attention to a situation that is highly emotive and will inevitably, rightly or wrongly, invite judgement. Just get on with it.

And my point would be this: Why couldn't the holy people of Fab just ignore it? They behave like a bunch of gawkers who slow down at a car crash site, secretly hoping to see blood and gore

Tar and feathers come to mind.

Feathers are flying... that's for sure"

Phittoo...

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By *lackbirdtimestwoWoman over a year ago

birmingham

Respect your honesty x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's amazing how differing the reaction is when a popular forumite atarts a thread like this. I suspect the response from some people will be noticeably different next time a random bloke starts a similar thread

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's amazing how differing the reaction is when a popular forumite atarts a thread like this. I suspect the response from some people will be noticeably different next time a random bloke starts a similar thread"

Popular forumite?

What's that?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Respect your honesty x "
For everyone except the wife?

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

aint that da truth..................

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Respect your honesty x For everyone except the wife?"

Our thoughts exactly, however there are some on here who seem to think that being honest to the person who is supposed to be the most important to you doesn't really matter as long as you are honest to everyone else.

Selelctive honesty we called it earlier.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I avoid married men

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"That's me.

For those that want to judge, feel free to do so. Also take this opportunity to block me.

For those of you would have preferred not to know, sorry, its on my profile anyway so you would have found out soon enough.

There are whips to the left, big boots to the right. Feel free to use them.

Popcorn available for all!

I will neither beg for forgiveness, understanding or offer excuses. I am responsible for my own actions and choices.

Very well said

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I knew this thread would be controversial.

My "my Christmas gift to you" thread managed 111 comments from other people in 5 weeks. This thread passed that in two days. More people have an opinion on married cheats than about doing good things over the festive period.

Was this a look at me thread? If so, inviting people to block me seems pointless.

Seeing advice and other threads hijacked as people go off on the cheating isnt swinging track detracts from others valid comments. Everyone is entitled to their _iews. This was the perfect thread to air those _iews.

Yes, I know this isn't fabcheats, maybe there should be a mistress site.

There was a time when infidelity was the social norm but homosexuality was illegal. I am glad those days are far behind us.

Some of the most fabbed and most fawned over members of fab are married. Shocker eh?

My favourite comment has to be "If he can lie to his wife about being on here, what else would he lie about?"

What indeed? Please elaborate.

No doubt I am on more block lists, but I get by fine.

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By *icefellatwoMan over a year ago

hastings

"Respect your honesty x For everyone except the wife?

Selelctive honesty we called it earlier.

Watch you don't fall off

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mmmmmm ...... I love marmite on my toast - a nice thick layer under melted cheese.

Hijacking?? No - I just couldn't think of what else to say on the subject lol!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Mmmmmm ...... I love marmite on my toast - a nice thick layer under melted cheese.

Hijacking?? No - I just couldn't think of what else to say on the subject lol!!

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

My favourite comment has to be "If he can lie to his wife about being on here, what else would he lie about?"

What indeed? Please elaborate.

as someone says... its selective honestly!

you can call it "being just honest enough" to manipulate the situation to get what you are after.....

i am not silly or naive enough to believe that if someone is willing to lie to the people they profess to love more than any other about something as big as this.... that they are going to be any more with a stranger just because they is a chance of them opening their legs....

you call it pragmatic cynicism......

i always say to people "imagine the worst thing that would possibly happen to you if the other half found out"...

if risking that for sex is worth that sex.... either the sex would have to be bloody 10 star amazing, or the marriage isn't quite as solid as you believe

see.... i could see how someone would forgive a one night saturday fling thing... because you could almost blame alcohol, or the vibe/flirting and it went too far, the atmosphere, ect ect...

but a swinging website.... a profile, and then following up .... that takes thinking, a plan, and some effort....

thats cold, thats calculated, thats lucid, thats rational....

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By *lan43sumMan over a year ago

Leicester

I congratulate the OP on floating this boat. I look forward to his next topic.

The end result might be that we agree that there is a 100% perfect relationship out there for everyone and that it would be monogamous because it is so perfect -but would it be fun?

Live and let live?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I congratulate the OP on floating this boat. I look forward to his next topic.

The end result might be that we agree that there is a 100% perfect relationship out there for everyone and that it would be monogamous because it is so perfect -but would it be fun?

Live and let live?"

No.

It's not allowed.

We are programmed to judge it seems.

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By *eKoopleCouple over a year ago

Germany / Manchester

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By *eKoopleCouple over a year ago

Germany / Manchester

Phew...that's one way of bringing in 2015. Though not understanding why the OP has posted this, I guess there's a reason for everyone's madness. -Mr.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you are cheating on your wife that's up to you. But putting up a post bragging about it is just stupid

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"If you are cheating on your wife that's up to you. But putting up a post bragging about it is just stupid "

again... cold, calculated, lucid and rational.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"That's me.

For those that want to judge, feel free to do so. Also take this opportunity to block me.

For those of you would have preferred not to know, sorry, its on my profile anyway so you would have found out soon enough.

There are whips to the left, big boots to the right. Feel free to use them.

Popcorn available for all!

I will neither beg for forgiveness, understanding or offer excuses. I am responsible for my own actions and choices. "
Other people's marriages are other people marriages....it's their problem.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you are cheating on your wife that's up to you. But putting up a post bragging about it is just stupid "

He isn't bragging. He's being honest about his situation. And has every right to do so.

Why're so many posters concerned about his spouse or his honesty to people he may meet?

I wonder how many self righteous people on here, can hand on heart - say they're totally honest about everything all of the time? Let he who is without sin - cast the first stone...

S x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you are cheating on your wife that's up to you. But putting up a post bragging about it is just stupid

He isn't bragging. He's being honest about his situation. And has every right to do so.

Why're so many posters concerned about his spouse or his honesty to people he may meet?

I wonder how many self righteous people on here, can hand on heart - say they're totally honest about everything all of the time? Let he who is without sin - cast the first stone...

S x"

It can be a raw subject if you have been the one cheated on and suffered the hurt !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I bet not one of you have discovered the Jaffa Cake Cookies at tesco!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you are cheating on your wife that's up to you. But putting up a post bragging about it is just stupid

He isn't bragging. He's being honest about his situation. And has every right to do so.

Why're so many posters concerned about his spouse or his honesty to people he may meet?

I wonder how many self righteous people on here, can hand on heart - say they're totally honest about everything all of the time? Let he who is without sin - cast the first stone...

S x

It can be a raw subject if you have been the one cheated on and suffered the hurt !"

True but he isn't responsible for strangers happiness - only his own

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you are cheating on your wife that's up to you. But putting up a post bragging about it is just stupid

He isn't bragging. He's being honest about his situation. And has every right to do so.

Why're so many posters concerned about his spouse or his honesty to people he may meet?

I wonder how many self righteous people on here, can hand on heart - say they're totally honest about everything all of the time? Let he who is without sin - cast the first stone...

S x

It can be a raw subject if you have been the one cheated on and suffered the hurt !

True but he isn't responsible for strangers happiness - only his own"

Not his wife's either ?

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By *lan43sumMan over a year ago

Leicester

Society is surely a lie and the biblical point about casting the first stone shows that was true even before the internet came along. As we all believe in something different social norm is compromise or anarchy.

I know this is a way off the breaking of vows that couples make but we could ask ourselves if we are always completely honest in everything we do and say. Does my bum look big in this dress etc? (answer diplomatically or truthfully?) So life benefits from some lies or does it?

How many shades of grey was it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you are cheating on your wife that's up to you. But putting up a post bragging about it is just stupid

He isn't bragging. He's being honest about his situation. And has every right to do so.

Why're so many posters concerned about his spouse or his honesty to people he may meet?

I wonder how many self righteous people on here, can hand on heart - say they're totally honest about everything all of the time? Let he who is without sin - cast the first stone...

S x

It can be a raw subject if you have been the one cheated on and suffered the hurt !

True but he isn't responsible for strangers happiness - only his own

Not his wife's either ?"

Is his wife's welfare your responsibility?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As much as he has been honest and posted it on here. i wonder if he is would be so honest and show his wife this thread

if you cheat that's fine, your decision but think of the consequences involved if it all goes tits up, which in my _iew it will as lies always catch up with you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you are cheating on your wife that's up to you. But putting up a post bragging about it is just stupid

He isn't bragging. He's being honest about his situation. And has every right to do so.

Why're so many posters concerned about his spouse or his honesty to people he may meet?

I wonder how many self righteous people on here, can hand on heart - say they're totally honest about everything all of the time? Let he who is without sin - cast the first stone...

S x

It can be a raw subject if you have been the one cheated on and suffered the hurt !

True but he isn't responsible for strangers happiness - only his own

Not his wife's either ?

Is his wife's welfare your responsibility? "

As long as I don't meet him no it is nt that is why I won't meet married men cheating as I ve said earlier in the post .i m not judging him merely pointing out the downside and my experience

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Apart from the obvious look at me post I fail to see why did o p actually do it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I knew this thread would be controversial.

Was this a look at me thread? If so, inviting people to block me seems pointless.

Yes, I know this isn't fabcheats, maybe there should be a mistress site.

There was a time when infidelity was the social norm but homosexuality was illegal. I am glad those days are far behind us.

Some of the most fabbed and most fawned over members of fab are married. Shocker eh?

My favourite comment has to be "If he can lie to his wife about being on here, what else would he lie about?"

What indeed? Please elaborate.

No doubt I am on more block lists, but I get by fine.

Can I ask why you cheat though?

I was married, we werent having sex any more (his doing) and it became like housemates really, i started to want to have sex with other people so I ended the marriage, made him leave and we got divorced!

It was crap as it was horrible being on my own and money wasnt ideal but I personally felt better being able to do as I choose without the fear of being caught x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As for his personal life, we do not know his situation so it is not for us to judge

Apart from the fact that by starting this thread the OP has invited judgement.

Possibly. But I think it more likely they are perceived differently by a lot because they are in short supply. And that's simply the way it is.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you are cheating on your wife that's up to you. But putting up a post bragging about it is just stupid

He isn't bragging. He's being honest about his situation. And has every right to do so.

Why're so many posters concerned about his spouse or his honesty to people he may meet?

I wonder how many self righteous people on here, can hand on heart - say they're totally honest about everything all of the time? Let he who is without sin - cast the first stone...

S x

It can be a raw subject if you have been the one cheated on and suffered the hurt !

True but he isn't responsible for strangers happiness - only his own

Not his wife's either ?

Is his wife's welfare your responsibility?

As long as I don't meet him no it is nt that is why I won't meet married men cheating as I ve said earlier in the post .i m not judging him merely pointing out the downside and my experience "

Lots of women on here only meet 'single' men, only to discover they're married. Mr Marmite's honesty is commendable in my opinion. He's open about his situation from the very off, affording any potential meets the option of dropping out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I knew this thread would be controversial.

Was this a look at me thread? If so, inviting people to block me seems pointless.

Yes, I know this isn't fabcheats, maybe there should be a mistress site.

There was a time when infidelity was the social norm but homosexuality was illegal. I am glad those days are far behind us.

Some of the most fabbed and most fawned over members of fab are married. Shocker eh?

My favourite comment has to be "If he can lie to his wife about being on here, what else would he lie about?"

What indeed? Please elaborate.

No doubt I am on more block lists, but I get by fine.

Can I ask why you cheat though?

It was crap as it was horrible being on my own and money wasnt ideal but I personally felt better being able to do as I choose without the fear of being caught x"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you are cheating on your wife that's up to you. But putting up a post bragging about it is just stupid

He isn't bragging. He's being honest about his situation. And has every right to do so.

Why're so many posters concerned about his spouse or his honesty to people he may meet?

I wonder how many self righteous people on here, can hand on heart - say they're totally honest about everything all of the time? Let he who is without sin - cast the first stone...

S x

It can be a raw subject if you have been the one cheated on and suffered the hurt !

True but he isn't responsible for strangers happiness - only his own

Not his wife's either ?

Is his wife's welfare your responsibility?

As long as I don't meet him no it is nt that is why I won't meet married men cheating as I ve said earlier in the post .i m not judging him merely pointing out the downside and my experience

Married are easy to spot a mile off lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Mr Marmite's honesty is commendable in my opinion. He's open about his situation from the very off, affording any potential meets the option of dropping out

Well indeed.

Except I'm not sure I'd call it 'honesty' when it's a truth about a lie.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So you are certain that every person you have played with has been completely honest with you? Or have you accepted what they have said as gospel and gone ahead anyway? "

Yes, I'm certain. I make sure. Because if I entered into partnerships of any kind with people who are cheating I know that it wouldn't go down well within my poly relationship network.

To be honest, I rarely play with 'single' men. I generally play with people who are in open or poly relationships.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Mr Marmite's honesty is commendable in my opinion. He's open about his situation from the very off, affording any potential meets the option of dropping out

Well indeed.

Except I'm not sure I'd call it 'honesty' when it's a truth about a lie."

He's told the truth about his situation... therefore, honest

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"I congratulate the OP on floating this boat. I look forward to his next topic.

The end result might be that we agree that there is a 100% perfect relationship out there for everyone and that it would be monogamous because it is so perfect -but would it be fun?

Live and let live?

No.

It's not allowed.

We are programmed to judge it seems. "

Yes we are! It allows us to make instant decisions that affect our safety which is why we evolved that way. Now that we no longer need to use our judgement as often to decide if the approaching stranger is friend or foe we use it to decide if we want to employ someone, meet someone and things like that.

Mr Marmite has been in the forums long

enough to know very well how this thread would go and I suspect it will have no effect on him at all as from what I've read of his contributions here he is quite certain of his _iews.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I knew this thread would be controversial.

Was this a look at me thread? If so, inviting people to block me seems pointless.

Yes, I know this isn't fabcheats, maybe there should be a mistress site.

There was a time when infidelity was the social norm but homosexuality was illegal. I am glad those days are far behind us.

Some of the most fabbed and most fawned over members of fab are married. Shocker eh?

My favourite comment has to be "If he can lie to his wife about being on here, what else would he lie about?"

What indeed? Please elaborate.

No doubt I am on more block lists, but I get by fine.

Can I ask why you cheat though?

It was crap as it was horrible being on my own and money wasnt ideal but I personally felt better being able to do as I choose without the fear of being caught x"

What if your husband had refused to leave? Would a man be looked upon badly for making a woman leave? What if he can't afford to pay her mortgage,to keep a roof over his children's heads and rent somewhere of his own?

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By *ustusboth2013Couple over a year ago

Birmingham

"That's me.

For those that want to judge, feel free to do so. Also take this opportunity to block me.

For those of you would have preferred not to know, sorry, its on my profile anyway so you would have found out soon enough.

There are whips to the left, big boots to the right. Feel free to use them.

Popcorn available for all!

I will neither beg for forgiveness, understanding or offer excuses. I am responsible for my own actions and choices. "

Probably better worded on your profile. But only you know your true reasons for what you are doing and if that is your conclusion then yes you are.

I hope it doesn't bite you on the bum because if it does, and you do have a conscience, not only will it possibly be your wife that gets hurt. You'll have to live with the consequences of what you've caused and that will not be a nice feeling for you (something that some cheaters and the lynch squad overlook).

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Mr Marmite's honesty is commendable in my opinion. He's open about his situation from the very off, affording any potential meets the option of dropping out

Well indeed.

Except I'm not sure I'd call it 'honesty' when it's a truth about a lie.

He's told the truth about his situation... therefore, honest"

Being honest about the fact he lies to.his wife is undeniably somewhat of a juxtaposition though.

He is honest on here. That doesn't make him an honest person

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I knew this thread would be controversial.

Was this a look at me thread? If so, inviting people to block me seems pointless.

Yes, I know this isn't fabcheats, maybe there should be a mistress site.

There was a time when infidelity was the social norm but homosexuality was illegal. I am glad those days are far behind us.

Some of the most fabbed and most fawned over members of fab are married. Shocker eh?

My favourite comment has to be "If he can lie to his wife about being on here, what else would he lie about?"

What indeed? Please elaborate.

No doubt I am on more block lists, but I get by fine.

Can I ask why you cheat though?

It was crap as it was horrible being on my own and money wasnt ideal but I personally felt better being able to do as I choose without the fear of being caught x

I would have crossed that bridge if I came to it!

Thats why I am asking him why he cheats if its a case as above, im genuinely interested in his reasons why

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By *nleashedCrakenMan over a year ago

Widnes

"If you are cheating on your wife that's up to you. But putting up a post bragging about it is just stupid

He isn't bragging. He's being honest about his situation. And has every right to do so.

Why're so many posters concerned about his spouse or his honesty to people he may meet?

I wonder how many self righteous people on here, can hand on heart - say they're totally honest about everything all of the time? Let he who is without sin - cast the first stone...

S x"

Or judge not lest you be judged even. A lot of hypocrisy here. I'm a little shocked TBH that there are so many judgmental people on a site like this.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you are cheating on your wife that's up to you. But putting up a post bragging about it is just stupid

He isn't bragging. He's being honest about his situation. And has every right to do so.

Why're so many posters concerned about his spouse or his honesty to people he may meet?

I wonder how many self righteous people on here, can hand on heart - say they're totally honest about everything all of the time? Let he who is without sin - cast the first stone...

S x

It can be a raw subject if you have been the one cheated on and suffered the hurt !

True but he isn't responsible for strangers happiness - only his own

Not his wife's either ?

Is his wife's welfare your responsibility? "

I think his wife's welfare is the responsibility of anyone that plays with him. We all make decisions in life and we are all accountable for our actions

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I bet not one of you have discovered the Jaffa Cake Cookies at tesco! "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As Social experiments go this thread should be an A+,

All this Religious stuff coming out is Hilarious.

Gimp

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Requesting a Tina Titz forum insurance

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