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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Remember the disclaimer, this is just lighthearted and full of generalisations.
......A text exchange confirms the time, her text jokingly but pointedly says 'you are gonna turn up aren't you, I've been left standing before'. Your shocked, why would any genuine single guy ever not turn up? I think about it as I'm getting ready, some guys find it hard to give rejection especially when they have done the prospecting, email tennis or chatroom, then eventually get a picture sent over, oh no, they really don't like what they see but go along with it out of misguided politeness, come the moment of truth they cannot face it. Then there's the fact that they will be judged by verification publically, what if he underperforms, can't get it up or......well, there might be a few reasons other than just being a lowlife complete timewaster who never had the intention of meeting, but in my opinion all no shows are the rudest and probably worst offence on here and show real cowardice (food for thought though).
You arrives on time, she is already there, you spot her immediately across in the corner of the Starbucks you've agreed to meet in. Confident, clean and has clearly made an effort, well dressed but in no way 'slutty', the attraction is instant, A relaxed unforced balanced slightly flirty conversation ensues during which you take the opportunity to tell her that her pictures don't do her justice. She knows how to take a compliment (a skill so underestimated by many women, maybe some fems question the integrity of a compliment because they get so many online, I don't know, but I never give one unless I mean it and I'm sure most guys are the same) she leaves you happy you gave it, the 'chemistry' is there. The time flies, its gone well, she offers to make the next coffee at hers, you accept but offer her the option of a nice glass of wine at yours. Whether it's the same day or another it happens - the wine the candles the great uncomplicated unhurried nsa sex, your determined to please her (for a number of reasons!), she rewards you by........(well you don't need me to elaborate here, we all know when it's goood!).
The kissing and completly relaxed genuine intimacy that only comes this quickly from a confident women, happy in her own skin and satisfied lulls you into an unexpected but wonderful session of pillow talk. (Wondeful because as a liberated women she talks so freely and honestly about relationships and sex).
The topic moves to swinging and single guys -
'Why are younger guys all over you like a rash until you have sex – after this – you don't hear from them. In a few weeks they try to get back into your pants, if you allow, the same pattern repeats itself'.
I can't help but laugh a little and ask her whether she's ever heard the phrase 'balls full brain empty', I remind her of the famous scene in the film 'There's something about Mary' where the star has a wank before going on a date to 'clear the pipes'. Guys think very differently before sex. Our desires standards conversation general outlook is just different. The older and more experienced you are the more in control, but younger inexperienced guys! No chance. The driving force for most younger guys is just sex, if you can get with an older women in a young guys head it's guaranteed! What she looks like, smells like, sounds like - all secondary......until you've had sex. That's when everything comes back into focus for a guy. Before sex it's 'this women is so experienced and sexy, I'm sure she could show me a thing or two' afterwards 'this women is old enough to be my mum! I can't tell my mates about this, but wow that was good'. Then the weeks pass and he's not getting it from the normal bars, if he is the younger women (maybe) isn't as good in bed. His balls get fuller and so.......the cycle.
Believe me if a guy genuinely fancies you balls empty (this is the key), doesnt just see you as an easy lay, thinks your on or above his level and is mentally developed enough to not have any hangups about being with an older women he sticks around. (Mr Adonis fits nicely into this category, but quite often he's just lazy because throughout life things have been handed on a plate).
Ewww she says, sticks around! That reminds me of Mr Cling, who thinks that you are secretly in love with him and don’t really want other men, he contacts you constantly wanting to know your every move doesn't really want you seeing anyone else.
I remind her that many men are way behind women in the development stakes if the fancying is there and the sex is good then for many the natural instinct to 'protect, own or worse still control' kicks in. He hasn't fully grasped the concept of nsa because he's grown up all his life being drilled that this is what women actually want, his motives are honorable, but he's sadly in the primary school of swinging. That said, outside of this scene, he is probably considered by many women as being the best catch! (You might be surprised how many women on here also want that).
Then there is the married guy.....I stop her in her tracks and ask if he is any different from the married women? They are in the same camp as Mr & Mrs Guilt. She smiles and says 'but there are more of them, I respond, 'only because there are more guys on the site'. There are also attached guys who think it is not cheating if you give them a bj!! I reply 'and women who think it's not cheating if you just give them a proper kiss'. But Mr Guilt goes home and deletes his profiles which frankly makes you feel like a failure, I reply, he deletes his profile because he realises he cannot resist you.
The only concession I will give here is that cheating women usually say their cheating (in my experience anyway).
Then there is the serial shagger. He is probably very good in the sack, he turns up on time, after confirming just when you thought he had blown you out!! He looks and smells good, usually but not always has a big cock, he is a repeat performer, he will compliment you and he will verify you, he will then expect you to inform all your mates as to how good he is and want you to arrange meets for him with every female you know, preferably all at the same time!!
I smile, give her a kiss and say 'enough small talk'. She laughs and says 'what about Mr Stud?' i say, 'he's just the caveman version of Mr Shagger'. I tell her when we meet again I will tell her about my opinion on all the different types of single women on the site. She asks 'are we that different?' I smile and tell her, at least as varied as men, I believe more..........but that's for part 3.
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