"How honest should I be when turning someone down on here. I have feelings so I know it's not nice being rejected but sometimes "thanks for the offer but no" doesn't seem to be enough."
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"How honest should I be when turning someone down on here. I have feelings so I know it's not nice being rejected but sometimes "thanks for the offer but no" doesn't seem to be enough."
That should be enough. |
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over a year ago
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Just say thanks for taking the time to message but you're not what I'm looking for on here. I got sent similar once and was taken aback that I actually got a reply and respected that. |
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"How honest should I be when turning someone down on here. I have feelings so I know it's not nice being rejected but sometimes "thanks for the offer but no" doesn't seem to be enough.
That should be enough. "
In fact, I might try out my theory.....
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"How honest should I be when turning someone down on here. I have feelings so I know it's not nice being rejected but sometimes "thanks for the offer but no" doesn't seem to be enough."
It is enough. Never explain even if asked
it only leads to further.messages trying to get you to change your mind. |
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"How honest should I be when turning someone down on here. I have feelings so I know it's not nice being rejected but sometimes "thanks for the offer but no" doesn't seem to be enough.
You ain't my bag of spoons/cup of tea there's no easy way "
You're right. Some almost demand a reason from me as to why I'm not interested. I find the abuse I get in return for being too honest hard to deal with too.  |
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"How honest should I be when turning someone down on here. I have feelings so I know it's not nice being rejected but sometimes "thanks for the offer but no" doesn't seem to be enough.
You ain't my bag of spoons/cup of tea there's no easy way
You're right. Some almost demand a reason from me as to why I'm not interested. I find the abuse I get in return for being too honest hard to deal with too. "
Block them after politely declining hunnie, no one deserves abuse but look on the positive, you dodged a bullet as they showed their true colours ! |
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By *ipsTeaserCouple
over a year ago
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If they've taken the time to write a very tailored message I will usually explain why.
If they've read the profile and put the word in I say thanks but no thank you happy fabbing and leave it at that.
If they have done neither of the above I simply delete. |
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I.m the same, I don't want to have to tell someone that they're too short/ old etc, etc. That's why profile says what I'm looking for to save that. But they don't read it. It's embarrassing hen I just don't fancy someone and a no thank you doesn't suffice. I really don't want to tell them it seems cruel to me. But then they push it and can't accept the hint. Or I get the next 10 messages trying to convince me otherwise. arghhh x
"How honest should I be when turning someone down on here. I have feelings so I know it's not nice being rejected but sometimes "thanks for the offer but no" doesn't seem to be enough.
You ain't my bag of spoons/cup of tea there's no easy way
You're right. Some almost demand a reason from me as to why I'm not interested. I find the abuse I get in return for being too honest hard to deal with too. "
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"How honest should I be when turning someone down on here. I have feelings so I know it's not nice being rejected but sometimes "thanks for the offer but no" doesn't seem to be enough.
You ain't my bag of spoons/cup of tea there's no easy way
You're right. Some almost demand a reason from me as to why I'm not interested. I find the abuse I get in return for being too honest hard to deal with too. "
We simply say something along the lines of "thanks but no thanks" if anything but a fairly sensible message comes back we just block although the ones who reply with.comments such as "wouldn't have met you anyway" usually
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"I think I'll have to start using that block button. "
Yes! You have to realise that you aren't responsible for how these people feel and beyond being polite and respectful you have no obligation, they clearly aren't respecting your wishes. |
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I only block if after a few more messages they still don't get the idea.
I usually say that not my type and not to take it too much to heart as I've been turned down myself more than a few times.
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"I think I'll have to start using that block button.
Yes! You have to realise that you aren't responsible for how these people feel and beyond being polite and respectful you have no obligation, they clearly aren't respecting your wishes."
Yes, very good points. I think I need to remember this in future. Ty.xx |
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"I think I'll have to start using that block button.
Yes! You have to realise that you aren't responsible for how these people feel and beyond being polite and respectful you have no obligation, they clearly aren't respecting your wishes.
Yes, very good points. I think I need to remember this in future. Ty.xx"
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
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"How honest should I be when turning someone down on here. I have feelings so I know it's not nice being rejected but sometimes "thanks for the offer but no" doesn't seem to be enough."
Tell them exactly how you see it and be as honest as possible others wise the other person thinks they have a chance. |
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"How honest should I be when turning someone down on here. I have feelings so I know it's not nice being rejected but sometimes "thanks for the offer but no" doesn't seem to be enough.
Tell them exactly how you see it and be as honest as possible others wise the other person thinks they have a chance."
Even if you clearly say " no thank you"? Is that really how some men see it, that if you don't give a reason you don't really mean no? |
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I don't understand the angst. We're under no obligation to justify our choices. Say "thank you for your message but you're not what I'm looking for at this time: have fun on site".
If they reply delete unopened: you're not interested.
You're here for you not to wet nurse the entitled. |
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"I don't understand the angst. We're under no obligation to justify our choices. Say "thank you for your message but you're not what I'm looking for at this time: have fun on site".
If they reply delete unopened: you're not interested.
You're here for you not to wet nurse the entitled."
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
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"How honest should I be when turning someone down on here. I have feelings so I know it's not nice being rejected but sometimes "thanks for the offer but no" doesn't seem to be enough.
Tell them exactly how you see it and be as honest as possible others wise the other person thinks they have a chance.
Even if you clearly say " no thank you"? Is that really how some men see it, that if you don't give a reason you don't really mean no? "
I should imagine it depends on indv no thank you for most people unless they are a twat mean they are not wanted. No reply means not wanted although i heard men say on here how they keep deploying if they see read and got no reply because they belive the other person is interested. Best thing to do is to be honest and just say no thanks. |
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