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Do people even meet on here?! Help!!! Lol
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Been on here for months now recently sarted using the site more but still struggling to even get conversating with anyone let alone meets! Any advise from anyone would be great. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Been on here for months now recently sarted using the site more but still struggling to even get conversating with anyone let alone meets! Any advise from anyone would be great."
Don't come in here!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Remove yourself if you have nothing decent to say
Bossy.
Im a bossy kinda guy haha "
I wouldn't meet anyone that's bossy. If you give off that vibe in messages, maybe that's contributing to your lack of meets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Remove the cock shots from your profile, correct the grammar and typos in your profile, block single guys from messaging you and remove that line of txt from your profile, ALL CAPS IS ANNOYING ON ANY LEVEL. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You'll generally find the ratio of women to men is 1 to 3 billion. Also, don't think why won't these women drop their knickers for me, I am a single straight male after all. You'll be set for a fall.
Take it easy. If something happens, great. If not, don't be a whining child about it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Check out any local events happening in your locality whether it be clubs or socials.
Attend them, get your face known and start networking.
Also have patience and things will improve.
Hope that helps. |
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"Been on here for months now recently sarted using the site more but still struggling to even get conversating with anyone let alone meets! Any advise from anyone would be great."
Get yourself into the chat rooms - it's a quick and easy way to get to talk with people you might otherwise not be able to communicate with (age preferences etc). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes. I get meets
Perfect ur profile ask for advice here.
Perfect your lyrics, don't ask mundane generic questions think out the box.
Don't be to full on about sex straight away.
Your first introduction messages, Stand out
Write 3 or 4 paragraphs, no text speak proper spelling and punctuation.
I'm no brad Pitt but I do well
Had some amazing meets with singles and couples.
I've found my Nye date on here.
Good luck dude
Remember... Ask for advice here.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have only been on here for a few weeks , I message a couple of people on a regular basis and hopefully have one or two meets in the new year . It's all about how you talk to people that counts . |
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"Been on here for months now recently sarted using the site more but still struggling to even get conversating with anyone let alone meets! Any advise from anyone would be great."
What does 'conversating' mean? My advice is to smile in your face photo, OP. Like this:  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't meet anyone that's bossy. If you give off that vibe in messages, maybe that's contributing to your lack of meets. "
How about someone who is reasonably charming and a good lover?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Pretty much an epic fail of a thread. All honesty we are all timewasters none of us meet. The clubs are made up, and there is no such thing as a bi single female. Sorry but someone had to tell him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes. I get meets
Perfect ur profile ask for advice here.
Perfect your lyrics, don't ask mundane generic questions think out the box.
Don't be to full on about sex straight away.
Your first introduction messages, Stand out
Write 3 or 4 paragraphs, no text speak proper spelling and punctuation.
I'm no brad Pitt but I do well
Had some amazing meets with singles and couples.
I've found my Nye date on here.
Good luck dude
Remember... Ask for advice here.
Ask advice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes. I get meets
Perfect ur profile ask for advice here.
Perfect your lyrics, don't ask mundane generic questions think out the box.
Don't be to full on about sex straight away.
Your first introduction messages, Stand out
Write 3 or 4 paragraphs, no text speak proper spelling and punctuation.
I'm no brad Pitt but I do well
Had some amazing meets with singles and couples.
I've found my Nye date on here.
Good luck dude
Remember... Ask for advice here.
Ask advice "
You said it twice lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm sorry but this thread made me laugh..jeez..so men are stressy!! Unlike us women who are very laid back 
Have a look at your profile fella, maybe a few changes will help. Try n relax n be friendly, no one will want to talk to you, never mind meet you if you don't come across as a nice fella first. X. Good luck hun, hope the advice works x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Been here a while had no problems with meets communication is key and of course politeness.......  "
And social skills. Oh, and maybe getting out in real life too!
And be a bit realistic? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Pretty much an epic fail of a thread. All honesty we are all timewasters none of us meet. The clubs are made up, and there is no such thing as a bi single female. Sorry but someone had to tell him. "
I can verify that!
p.s. I do go to club. My social skills appear acceptable in that conxet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Pretty much an epic fail of a thread. All honesty we are all timewasters none of us meet. The clubs are made up, and there is no such thing as a bi single female. Sorry but someone had to tell him. "
If your ever in Scotland come waste time with me!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Been on here for months now recently sarted using the site more but still struggling to even get conversating with anyone let alone meets! Any advise from anyone would be great."
Change your profile image to the black and white one of your body as it is a far nicer photo
Not that your ugly far from it but the profile image does you no favours
Also realise this website is all about promoting yourself and making your profile stand-out from the crowd so ask how can I achieve that and make females/couples thing he is of real interest? |
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The beauty of site like this is Men, women and couples alike have the power to browse for what they are looking for, check out a profile that catches their eye and either act or just move on to the next until they find exactly what they are looking for without the hassle of needless interaction.
With so many single guys to choose from women and couples are bound to keep searching until they find exactly what they are looking for. Most have a certain fantasy or sernario they want to experience and choosing the right person to join them with that is important.
You really have to make yourself stand out. Just being a guy with a cock isn't enough to make someone jump into bed with you. Study the lads who are doing well. What are they offering? Or what do they have to offer?
What do The people who've met them have to say about them? This should give you a good idea of what people are looking for.
Also try taking some more photos of you smartend up. Women do like a bit of rough but I would switch your viz vest photo for a shirt or nice suit. Intelligence and sophistication win every time. Add more body picks but try and steer clear of any cock picks unless you have something to seriously shout about
In the 14 years we've been dabbling we've only had three meets with single guys and only the most recent was a success. The first two almost put us off forever. Getting it right is important.
Stand out, Have patience, have fun |
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"Remove yourself if you have nothing decent to say "
I think this comment might lower your chances. When people make decisions on whether or not to allow a single man into their home to have sex, they naturally enough do their research - check out the profile, photos, verifications, get into a conversation etc.....but some also check the little green arrow to see what the potential meet has been saying in the forums. Capice? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Remove yourself if you have nothing decent to say
I think this comment might lower your chances. When people make decisions on whether or not to allow a single man into their home to have sex, they naturally enough do their research - check out the profile, photos, verifications, get into a conversation etc.....but some also check the little green arrow to see what the potential meet has been saying in the forums. Capice? "
And if they have a sense of humour |
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"Remove yourself if you have nothing decent to say
I think this comment might lower your chances. When people make decisions on whether or not to allow a single man into their home to have sex, they naturally enough do their research - check out the profile, photos, verifications, get into a conversation
etc.....but some also check the little
green arrow to see what the potential
meet has been saying in the forums.
Capice?
And if they have a sense of humour :-
D"
in that case, a few good jokes to and fro will cancel out any cross-patchiness |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When you do start chatting to couples or ladies on here don't start getting all heavy with the sex talk, nothing more off putting than someone who comes across that they want the meet to run to a script. It's got to be spontaneous so go with the flow
Chat about general stuff not constant sex stuff |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
"When you do start chatting to couples or ladies on here don't start getting all heavy with the sex talk, nothing more off putting than someone who comes across that they want the meet to run to a script. It's got to be spontaneous so go with the flow
Chat about general stuff not constant sex stuff "
definitely this. The number of times I have been chatting to a nice guy, getting close to meeting, and then its suddenly seriously heavy on "you'll wear this, do this and then this" and I lose all interest. Its a definite no. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When you do start chatting to couples or ladies on here don't start getting all heavy with the sex talk, nothing more off putting than someone who comes across that they want the meet to run to a script. It's got to be spontaneous so go with the flow
Chat about general stuff not constant sex stuff
definitely this. The number of times I have been chatting to a nice guy, getting close to meeting, and then its suddenly seriously heavy on "you'll wear this, do this and then this" and I lose all interest. Its a definite no."
That's always an instant block from me. Especially the crap they say they will do to you without even meeting. Boring and immature. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When you do start chatting to couples or ladies on here don't start getting all heavy with the sex talk, nothing more off putting than someone who comes across that they want the meet to run to a script. It's got to be spontaneous so go with the flow
Chat about general stuff not constant sex stuff
definitely this. The number of times I have been chatting to a nice guy, getting close to meeting, and then its suddenly seriously heavy on "you'll wear this, do this and then this" and I lose all interest. Its a definite no."
Met a couple a while back and the guy was constantly messaging saying what he was going to do, what he wanted J to wear, asking what I wanted to do to his partner etc. was a shit meet when they arrived and he was 2 pumps and a fart.. All mouth and no trousers!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When you do start chatting to couples or ladies on here don't start getting all heavy with the sex talk, nothing more off putting than someone who comes across that they want the meet to run to a script. It's got to be spontaneous so go with the flow
Chat about general stuff not constant sex stuff
definitely this. The number of times I have been chatting to a nice guy, getting close to meeting, and then its suddenly seriously heavy on "you'll wear this, do this and then this" and I lose all interest. Its a definite no.
That's always an instant block from me. Especially the crap they say they will do to you without even meeting. Boring and immature."
I often find these types are the ones who don't meet, all talk, wanting a quick wank. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Been on here for months now recently sarted using the site more but still struggling to even get conversating with anyone let alone meets! Any advise from anyone would be great."
I'd just relax mate. Desperation or at least seeming desperate isn't attractive. This site isn't the be all and end all of your sex life I'm sure. Also, try the social scene, its amazing how far mingling with your fellow fabbers can take you....
Remember patience is a virtue. |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"Been on here for months now recently sarted using the site more but still struggling to even get conversating with anyone let alone meets! Any advise from anyone would be great."
Try humour (not dirty, filthy humour as most women here have heard that). Be complimentary (as it is a 'buyer's' market; nobody here wants to shack up so how wealthy, etc does not cut any ice) but not too complimentary as to sound fake, shallow and a doormat
But whatever you do, do not sound desperate; don't sound arrogant either as the delete and block button is only a finger tip away and once used, is forgotton |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Check the meets and events and club reviews, see all those people going to clubs and reviewing them, they are all getting meets.
What is it they are doing that you are not ?
Oh yeah that's right going to clubs. |
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By *LT22Man
over a year ago
Teddington |
Yes we do. I'm a single bloke not overwhelmed with meets. But the people I have met and spoken with are really nice, it takes time and patience, don't expect to have your world set On Fire.
As has been said get out socials clubs meetings.
Happy New year to one and all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Remove the cock shots from your profile, correct the grammar and typos in your profile, block single guys from messaging you and remove that line of txt from your profile, ALL CAPS IS ANNOYING ON ANY LEVEL."
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By *D40Couple
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
"Been on here for months now recently sarted using the site more but still struggling to even get conversating with anyone let alone meets! Any advise from anyone would be great."
I don't see how you are struggling to get meets because you're a nice looking guy. Maybe you should try doing a bit of socialising so you can get some contacts going? Maybe try and get some party invites or even host a party and ask some people?
Have to say if i was 20 years younger and 5 stone lighter i'd be messaging you lol.
Mrs WD40  |
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By *D40Couple
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
"When you do start chatting to couples or ladies on here don't start getting all heavy with the sex talk, nothing more off putting than someone who comes across that they want the meet to run to a script. It's got to be spontaneous so go with the flow
Chat about general stuff not constant sex stuff
definitely this. The number of times I have been chatting to a nice guy, getting close to meeting, and then its suddenly seriously heavy on "you'll wear this, do this and then this" and I lose all interest. Its a definite no.
That's always an instant block from me. Especially the crap they say they will do to you without even meeting. Boring and immature."
Deffo not the sex stuff - i mean i can live with a couple of questions but constant instructions before you've even met?
We had one meet & i was toying with it when the woman in the other couple told me how she liked to shout instructions over on how to fuck her man.... I was like i am so not going back there....
Talk to a woman on here like you would a woman in a pub/club or supermarket. Respect where respect is due. When you have her knickers off & are screwing her wildly then you can treat her like a cum slut xx |
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"Been on here for months now recently sarted using the site more but still struggling to even get conversating with anyone let alone meets! Any advise from anyone would be great."
Yes! Always at clubs and always worth it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When you do start chatting to couples or ladies on here don't start getting all heavy with the sex talk, nothing more off putting than someone who comes across that they want the meet to run to a script. It's got to be spontaneous so go with the flow
Chat about general stuff not constant sex stuff
definitely this. The number of times I have been chatting to a nice guy, getting close to meeting, and then its suddenly seriously heavy on "you'll wear this, do this and then this" and I lose all interest. Its a definite no.
That's always an instant block from me. Especially the crap they say they will do to you without even meeting. Boring and immature.
Deffo not the sex stuff - i mean i can live with a couple of questions but constant instructions before you've even met?
We had one meet & i was toying with it when the woman in the other couple told me how she liked to shout instructions over on how to fuck her man.... I was like i am so not going back there....
Talk to a woman on here like you would a woman in a pub/club or supermarket. Respect where respect is due. When you have her knickers off & are screwing her wildly then you can treat her like a cum slut xx"
If she wants to be treated like a cum slut.
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