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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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There seem to be very few women on here who are actually prepared to meet! I'll exchange messages, photos, etc, then they just disappear. When I check who is online it's virtually all men and couples... Are there actually any women on here (in the North West) who are prepared to actually meet?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There seem to be very few women on here who are actually prepared to meet! I'll exchange messages, photos, etc, then they just disappear. When I check who is online it's virtually all men and couples... Are there actually any women on here (in the North West) who are prepared to actually meet?
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Sorry that was a bit off topic. Girls do meet. I suggest looking for verifications before a chat with girls if this is an issue. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are 100s of woman on here that meet, problem is there are 100000s of men that they can choose from.......
Stand out from the crowd, join in the forums, go to socials, visit clubs cause they aint likely to go running after you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There are lots of woman who meet, just not all conversation end in meets.
Some men do very well on fabs"
This is true for me.
I've had a whole bunch of conversations with people where it led to nothing - mainly due to differing tastes and instinct. A message/response shouldn't be regarded as a guaranteed meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everything about your profile is a turn off for me. I wouldn't even chat, just delete and block. But op you've only been on 2 weeks give it a chance, you might appeal to ssomebody. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There seem to be very few women on here who are actually prepared to meet! I'll exchange messages, photos, etc, then they just disappear. When I check who is online it's virtually all men and couples... Are there actually any women on here (in the North West) who are prepared to actually meet?
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Maybe look at what you are doing? And how you could improve your chances of success? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" I'll exchange messages, photos, etc, then they just disappear. "
When you say disappear do you mean left site or just stop talking after sending pictures?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ps - If they they disappear after you send face pics then i'm afraid it's because you're not their type. A lot of great friendships are formed on fab - but when it comes to sex meets initially it's primarily about looks for many of us! Sorry if that seems fickle. Xx  |
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"There seem to be very few women on here who are actually prepared to meet! I'll exchange messages, photos, etc, then they just disappear. When I check who is online it's virtually all men and couples... Are there actually any women on here (in the North West) who are prepared to actually meet?
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It's certainly very kind and thoughtful for you to say this ...."Will consider anything, but only interested in women..." but maybe you could imagine what a lady might think when she read that? I'm thinking (and I think you're beginning to realise) it's not going to be 'phwoooaar! He sounds as if he'll make me feel special and wanted!'....is it?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nah I never actually meet anyone! I wrote all my veri's myself - and my pics are of the sexy octagenarian next door - she's hot!!   x"
ooo me as well hun but then again that is all us North West women do!
Seriously OP North West women do meet. Just not men who whine about getting no meets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nah I never actually meet anyone! I wrote all my veri's myself - and my pics are of the sexy octagenarian next door - she's hot!! x
ooo me as well hun but then again that is all us North West women do!
Seriously OP North West women do meet. Just not men who whine about getting no meets."
Very true hun! Xx |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
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"Nah I never actually meet anyone! I wrote all my veri's myself - and my pics are of the sexy octagenarian next door - she's hot!! x
ooo me as well hun but then again that is all us North West women do!
Seriously OP North West women do meet. Just not men who whine about getting no meets."
Me three...it takes a lot of time writing interesting veris from my multiple fake profiles, I just don't manage to find the time to meet with all that to do  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nah I never actually meet anyone! I wrote all my veri's myself - and my pics are of the sexy octagenarian next door - she's hot!! x
ooo me as well hun but then again that is all us North West women do!
Seriously OP North West women do meet. Just not men who whine about getting no meets.
Very true hun! Xx"
In fact just in the process of arranging a big club night out for Feb in the North West. But of course I won't message you the details because of course we don't meet lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nah I never actually meet anyone! I wrote all my veri's myself - and my pics are of the sexy octagenarian next door - she's hot!! x
ooo me as well hun but then again that is all us North West women do!
Seriously OP North West women do meet. Just not men who whine about getting no meets.
Me three...it takes a lot of time writing interesting veris from my multiple fake profiles, I just don't manage to find the time to meet with all that to do "
Caz.....help me demonstrate something to the o.p.......some time in the new year....you fancy meeting up? (i'm gonna look a righy tit if you say no...still...I've looked one before) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nah I never actually meet anyone! I wrote all my veri's myself - and my pics are of the sexy octagenarian next door - she's hot!! x
ooo me as well hun but then again that is all us North West women do!
Seriously OP North West women do meet. Just not men who whine about getting no meets.
Very true hun! Xx"
Very true indeed....I've found a very warm welcome from the ever lovely northern lasses  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There seem to be very few women on here who are actually prepared to meet! I'll exchange messages, photos, etc, then they just disappear. When I check who is online it's virtually all men and couples... Are there actually any women on here (in the North West) who are prepared to actually meet?
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Nah, they're all in the south east. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have to agree with the OP, I've not met 1 woman from the North West since being on Fab.
The fact I've met well over 50 women from the North West at various clubs, socials, one on one social meets and play meet might make the first sentence a bit of a fib!
OP, as has been said already, I think it could be you going wrong somewhere along the line! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There are lots of genuine women that meet! Seems a bit odd that the ones you chat to disappear, fake profiles maybe?"
Or boring the pants off them....or not |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I meet every day near enough. Not just anyone though.
Seriously hot guy will get meets almost straight away, anyone else will have to be interesting or fun and chat for a while. Just how i am, i like choosing who i meet and when. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nah I never actually meet anyone! I wrote all my veri's myself - and my pics are of the sexy octagenarian next door - she's hot!! x
ooo me as well hun but then again that is all us North West women do!
Seriously OP North West women do meet. Just not men who whine about getting no meets.
Very true hun! Xx
In fact just in the process of arranging a big club night out for Feb in the North West. But of course I won't message you the details because of course we don't meet lol "
Well I hope I get an invite? If you play your cards right i'll bring the octogenarian from next door!  xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nah I never actually meet anyone! I wrote all my veri's myself - and my pics are of the sexy octagenarian next door - she's hot!! x
ooo me as well hun but then again that is all us North West women do!
Seriously OP North West women do meet. Just not men who whine about getting no meets.
Very true hun! Xx
In fact just in the process of arranging a big club night out for Feb in the North West. But of course I won't message you the details because of course we don't meet lol
Well I hope I get an invite? If you play your cards right i'll bring the octogenarian from next door! xx"
Ohh im in us North West ladies do it best xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There are lots of genuine women that meet! Seems a bit odd that the ones you chat to disappear, fake profiles maybe?
Or boring the pants off them....or not "
must be bad, I've had people bore me but not enough to leave lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There seem to be very few women on here who are actually prepared to meet! I'll exchange messages, photos, etc, then they just disappear. When I check who is online it's virtually all men and couples... Are there actually any women on here (in the North West) who are prepared to actually meet?
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Have you noticed it is Christmas?
Time with family, friends, kids etc... you have been here 2 weeks and expect instashag type results?
Meets naturally slow down this time of year as real life gets in the way... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for all the advice (especially the replies that weren't downright rude!), I've updated my profile, so I'd appreciate any (constructive) feedback? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nah I never actually meet anyone! I wrote all my veri's myself - and my pics are of the sexy octagenarian next door - she's hot!! x
ooo me as well hun but then again that is all us North West women do!
Seriously OP North West women do meet. Just not men who whine about getting no meets.
Me three...it takes a lot of time writing interesting veris from my multiple fake profiles, I just don't manage to find the time to meet with all that to do "
Can people write their own veri's? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm in the Midlands and I meet but I've actually found a lot of men who are time wasters or liars who stand me up at the last minute. Afraid you get them where ever you live and whatever sex you are. Verifications don't seem to always mean a lot either. Good luck! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks for all the advice (especially the replies that weren't downright rude!), I've updated my profile, so I'd appreciate any (constructive) feedback?"
I visited your profile & it's ok (obv I didn't see it before) but there isn't much to make you stand out. I agree with someone further up - there's thousands of guys on here & women get completely inundated (I've been on here 2 weeks and didn't even have a profile photo for a week, & have had hundreds and hundreds of messages). You need something witty perhaps, and some more pics (not of your cock). Good luck x |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
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"Nah I never actually meet anyone! I wrote all my veri's myself - and my pics are of the sexy octagenarian next door - she's hot!! x
ooo me as well hun but then again that is all us North West women do!
Seriously OP North West women do meet. Just not men who whine about getting no meets.
Me three...it takes a lot of time writing interesting veris from my multiple fake profiles, I just don't manage to find the time to meet with all that to do
Caz.....help me demonstrate something to the o.p.......some time in the new year....you fancy meeting up? (i'm gonna look a righy tit if you say no...still...I've looked one before) "
Christos...of course I'll meet up in the new year...I know just the place that's around halfway for both of us  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nah I never actually meet anyone! I wrote all my veri's myself - and my pics are of the sexy octagenarian next door - she's hot!! x
ooo me as well hun but then again that is all us North West women do!
Seriously OP North West women do meet. Just not men who whine about getting no meets.
Very true hun! Xx
In fact just in the process of arranging a big club night out for Feb in the North West. But of course I won't message you the details because of course we don't meet lol
Well I hope I get an invite? If you play your cards right i'll bring the octogenarian from next door! xx"
Oh you can come but that hottie madge from next door can't. She's the g/gilf every hot guy wants lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nah I never actually meet anyone! I wrote all my veri's myself - and my pics are of the sexy octagenarian next door - she's hot!! x
ooo me as well hun but then again that is all us North West women do!
Seriously OP North West women do meet. Just not men who whine about getting no meets.
Me three...it takes a lot of time writing interesting veris from my multiple fake profiles, I just don't manage to find the time to meet with all that to do
Caz.....help me demonstrate something to the o.p.......some time in the new year....you fancy meeting up? (i'm gonna look a righy tit if you say no...still...I've looked one before)
Christos...of course I'll meet up in the new year...I know just the place that's around halfway for both of us "
Perfect we'll thrash out the details soon I'm sure.....
See o.p.....stick around, make friends with folk, chat a while, interact and you'll be ok. Treat folk as you would in life...don't expect anything after a couple of exchanged sentances is all...
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Oh look, another "waaah, women won't meet me" thread :p"
The guys new and taking advice on profile so give him a chance at least
Some people need a chance to figure the site out |
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"I think women just want to make sure that the guy is what she's looking for before meeting. Guys care less about the personality part! "
I'm not so sure about that. You may be right that guys are more ready to try and see by meeting earlier than a lot a women would but, for me, I have to not only fancy a woman but actually like her as well. |
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"Nah I never actually meet anyone! I wrote all my veri's myself - and my pics are of the sexy octagenarian next door - she's hot!! x
ooo me as well hun but then again that is all us North West women do!
Seriously OP North West women do meet. Just not men who whine about getting no meets.
Very true hun! Xx
In fact just in the process of arranging a big club night out for Feb in the North West. But of course I won't message you the details because of course we don't meet lol
Well I hope I get an invite? If you play your cards right i'll bring the octogenarian from next door! xx
Oh you can come but that hottie madge from next door can't. She's the g/gilf every hot guy wants lol."
Wouldn't mind an invite myself it it's open to the like of me. 
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nah I never actually meet anyone! I wrote all my veri's myself - and my pics are of the sexy octagenarian next door - she's hot!! x
ooo me as well hun but then again that is all us North West women do!
Seriously OP North West women do meet. Just not men who whine about getting no meets.
Very true hun! Xx
In fact just in the process of arranging a big club night out for Feb in the North West. But of course I won't message you the details because of course we don't meet lol
Well I hope I get an invite? If you play your cards right i'll bring the octogenarian from next door! xx
Oh you can come but that hottie madge from next door can't. She's the g/gilf every hot guy wants lol."
Oh I wouldn't be too jealous hun - her husband tells me she has to shave her arse!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks for your reply, Paula... And wow! You're hot! Xx"
Thanks. Good luck. Bear in mind that many of the people you want to meet will be mums - who are unlikely to be meeting now until early jan as the kids are off school. Try clubs and socials and get to know people by using the forums regularly. I and many other female forumites prefer to meet guys from the forums as they become friends over the months and are far less likely to be time wasters! xx
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nah I never actually meet anyone! I wrote all my veri's myself - and my pics are of the sexy octagenarian next door - she's hot!! x
ooo me as well hun but then again that is all us North West women do!
Seriously OP North West women do meet. Just not men who whine about getting no meets.
Very true hun! Xx
In fact just in the process of arranging a big club night out for Feb in the North West. But of course I won't message you the details because of course we don't meet lol
Well I hope I get an invite? If you play your cards right i'll bring the octogenarian from next door! xx
Oh you can come but that hottie madge from next door can't. She's the g/gilf every hot guy wants lol.
Wouldn't mind an invite myself it it's open to the like of me.
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I'll be putting somethong on the forum nearer the time. |
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Verifications don't mean anything, I meet fairly often, I just don't feel the need to ask then for what's equivalent to a school report. When I played as a couple, mostly at chams we played a lot. We might play with a couple in the morning, by he afternoon we'd have forgotten their names, less chance of remembering their user name to verify them. It's a swingers' site, not a free sex guaranteed site, most women on here probably wouldn't want a meet every day/night, I'm sure lots of men would. Add that t the ratio of men to women a d you can see why it's not a matter of log on, message, fuck.
"There seem to be very few women on here who are actually prepared to meet! I'll exchange messages, photos, etc, then they just disappear. When I check who is online it's virtually all men and couples... Are there actually any women on here (in the North West) who are prepared to actually meet?]
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Sorry that was a bit off topic. Girls do meet. I suggest looking for verifications before a chat with girls if this is an issue."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In short, people in the north west meet - I'd focus on staying as yourself, putting the right levels of effort in and you will get results. But don't expect anything to be instant success. |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
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"Verifications don't mean anything, I meet fairly often, I just don't feel the need to ask then for what's equivalent to a school report. When I played as a couple, mostly at chams we played a lot. We might play with a couple in the morning, by he afternoon we'd have forgotten their names, less chance of remembering their user name to verify them. It's a swingers' site, not a free sex guaranteed site, most women on here probably wouldn't want a meet every day/night, I'm sure lots of men would. Add that t the ratio of men to women a d you can see why it's not a matter of log on, message, fuck.
There seem to be very few women on here who are actually prepared to meet! I'll exchange messages, photos, etc, then they just disappear. When I check who is online it's virtually all men and couples... Are there actually any women on here (in the North West) who are prepared to actually meet?]
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Sorry that was a bit off topic. Girls do meet. I suggest looking for verifications before a chat with girls if this is an issue."
On the flip side of the veri question, someone with a few verifications 'may' be more likely to meet. It's ONE of the tools I use and whilst I've met unverified people (almost everyone's gonna want that first green tick) I'm a bit more leary about whether they're going to turn up (so far, it's been no problem) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've met both women and couples (mostly verified and one unverified couple at the time).
In my case I don't think there is a rhyme or reason as to why I've had meets when others taller, fitter, more muscular, etc have not.
The one thing I never do is assume it's going to fall out of the Sky for me. I guess I'm just lucky.
There will be people in your locality who want to meet, but (without reading the OP's profile) how much effort have you out in and are you prepared for a bit of a wait?
As an addition, a good place to start are clubs and parties.
All the best.
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"I found the same problem even most couples are not interested either or there are stuck up"
So people are stuck up because they wont meet you?
You've hardly made any effort with a 1 liner profile |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I found the same problem even most couples are not interested either or there are stuck up
So people are stuck up because they wont meet you?
You've hardly made any effort with a 1 liner profile "
Hi Foxy I don't think the effort matters much - it's more of a geographical location and pure luck. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"I found the same problem even most couples are not interested either or there are stuck up
So people are stuck up because they wont meet you?
You've hardly made any effort with a 1 liner profile
Hi Foxy I don't think the effort matters much - it's more of a geographical location and pure luck."
Trust me effort means a lot, I will not respond to any messages when the sender could not be arsed to even have a half way decent profile, then add in the fact they don't have any pics or sometimes just a few cock pics, unless that is what defines them.....
It just proves to me they are not worth my time or effort. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I found the same problem even most couples are not interested either or there are stuck up
So people are stuck up because they wont meet you?
You've hardly made any effort with a 1 liner profile
Hi Foxy I don't think the effort matters much - it's more of a geographical location and pure luck.
Trust me effort means a lot, I will not respond to any messages when the sender could not be arsed to even have a half way decent profile, then add in the fact they don't have any pics or sometimes just a few cock pics, unless that is what defines them.....
It just proves to me they are not worth my time or effort."
I totally agree. I search and message men myself as I've set my filters so no one can message me (other than people who I've spoken to before) Since doing this I've seen so many boring, non existent faceless profiles where clearly no effort has been made. I see it like advertising your car, would you have one slightly out of focus pic of the gear stick and a text saying its a car, message me if you want to know more? Probably not as no one would be the slightest bit interested! |
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By *bfoxxxMan
over a year ago
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"There seem to be very few women on here who are actually prepared to meet! I'll exchange messages, photos, etc, then they just disappear. When I check who is online it's virtually all men and couples... Are there actually any women on here (in the North West) who are prepared to actually meet?
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You can waste a lifetime on here, just go to a club, talk face to face,see what you're getting (and viceversa),
get some names,
verifications.
You don't have to jump through hoops whilst reciting the Bible backwards missing out every third word in ancient Greek.
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"I found the same problem even most couples are not interested either or there are stuck up
So people are stuck up because they wont meet you?
You've hardly made any effort with a 1 liner profile
Hi Foxy I don't think the effort matters much - it's more of a geographical location and pure luck.
Trust me effort means a lot, I will not respond to any messages when the sender could not be arsed to even have a half way decent profile, then add in the fact they don't have any pics or sometimes just a few cock pics, unless that is what defines them.....
It just proves to me they are not worth my time or effort.
I totally agree. I search and message men myself as I've set my filters so no one can message me (other than people who I've spoken to before) Since doing this I've seen so many boring, non existent faceless profiles where clearly no effort has been made. I see it like advertising your car, would you have one slightly out of focus pic of the gear stick and a text saying its a car, message me if you want to know more? Probably not as no one would be the slightest bit interested!"
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"Trust me effort means a lot.
Ok, so in this case how would you rate my own profile? DO you think I made an effort?"
The words are fine, you just need some better pics so yes I do think you have made an effort.
But as mentioned in a previous post, you are looking for someone specific. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The words are fine, you just need some better pics so yes I do think you have made an effort.
But as mentioned in a previous post, you are looking for someone specific. "
Thanks Foxy, appreciate it. Well, everyone looks for someone specific, don't day? I am quite standard actually in who I look for - women. |
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