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Still Can't Find My First Meet Any Advices???
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Gold membership doesent assure you anythibg mate lol....you can't be thinking 'well I've paid my fiver....they're mine now' its not the worlds cheapest all you can eat brothel......
Act like its the real world and you'll be just fine |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Gold membership doesent assure you anythibg mate lol....you can't be thinking 'well I've paid my fiver....they're mine now' its not the worlds cheapest all you can eat brothel......
Act like its the real world and you'll be just fine "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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aaw...lol
Don't worry you will soon come across one who is not too fussy.
It simply means that special someone to give you a meet is yet to come online lol
cheer up  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Club, club, club ... CLUB!!
this site is full of timewasters and wannabes, go to a bloody club and use this site to keep intouch "
Get out from your own bottom and leave people to use the site as they will...club club club nothing, I've been to one...it was great, will I go again...maybe. I've played a lot more through this site outside of clubs and am very happy doing things my own way....please don't come all shouty giving it one about wannabees and such because we don't do what we do in a designated building....many folk like clubs, many dont.
You wouldn't tell a man he wasnt of a particular faith because he didn't frequent that faiths church every Sunday would you?
And if the site is so full of timewasters your free to leave...if your club friends are really friends then you'll have various other ways to keep in touch I'm sure in this digital age....see that's where we are, the digital age, the web has now become a veichle for swinging too....and no amount of going on the web and shouting about timewasters and fakes will change that so relax, take one of grandpas chill pills and embrace it....we all relaxed now? Good |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree clubs are the way forward for socialising and playing. Last 3 meets no showed and one of those couples 3 times. Give it time it took my bf 6 months to get a meet on his single profile x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm a Verified Gold Member But I Still Haven't Got My 1St Meet Need Help!!! Please Ladies Any Advice???"
You have been here two weeks. What where your expectations? That you would of been laid by now?? You have a pretty mediocre profile. It just doesnt stand out. Do a forum search for tips. Oh and the advice about clubs is good so listen to it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm a Verified Gold Member But I Still Haven't Got My 1St Meet Need Help!!! Please Ladies Any Advice???"
Ummm, hate to tell you,but your not verified. Photo verified doesn't actually mean much, and being a gold member doesn't guarantee anything  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Club, club, club ... CLUB!!
this site is full of timewasters and wannabes, go to a bloody club and use this site to keep intouch
Get out from your own bottom and leave people to use the site as they will...club club club nothing, I've been to one...it was great, will I go again...maybe. I've played a lot more through this site outside of clubs and am very happy doing things my own way....please don't come all shouty giving it one about wannabees and such because we don't do what we do in a designated building....many folk like clubs, many dont.
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I have a theory (the OP could test it for me) that you are going to either do better online or in a club.
I suspect my OH would do better in a club. He's very charming in person.
I am better online I think.
So fair play, I think it's ok to suggest a club if they are disillusioned with the site.
Although maybe suggesting rather than jumping up and down shouting it. |
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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm a Verified Gold Member But I Still Haven't Got My 1St Meet Need Help!!! Please Ladies Any Advice???"
You joined two weeks ago yet you say on your profile that you've been on here for a while.....Also can you confirm what you class as fakeness as per your profile?
I'm assuming you saying that as you haven't had a meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Club, club, club ... CLUB!!
this site is full of timewasters and wannabes, go to a bloody club and use this site to keep intouch
Get out from your own bottom and leave people to use the site as they will...club club club nothing, I've been to one...it was great, will I go again...maybe. I've played a lot more through this site outside of clubs and am very happy doing things my own way....please don't come all shouty giving it one about wannabees and such because we don't do what we do in a designated building....many folk like clubs, many dont.
I have a theory (the OP could test it for me) that you are going to either do better online or in a club.
I suspect my OH would do better in a club. He's very charming in person.
I am better online I think.
So fair play, I think it's ok to suggest a club if they are disillusioned with the site.
Although maybe suggesting rather than jumping up and down shouting it."
Suggesting a club is a fine idea no doubt and op may take to it like the proverbial duck....not arguing that....it was the insinuation that swinging should just be done in clubs and the site used just to keep in touch as it was populated by fakes and timewasters, which is nonesense, that plus the shouty caps and exclamation mark got my back up....anyhow, my bits been said so I won't bang on endlessly and dissect the
issue.... |
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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago
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You've been here two whole weeks! Did you expect a queue round the block?!
Your profile is not too bad....I've seen worse...but it is a bit moany and ranty! Only two weeks in and complaing about fakes and timewasters on your profile won't do you any favours, it will just make you seem like a right miserable bugger! Be a bit more positive and upbeat about things |
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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago
Hull |
Here we go again. To the OP, have you any idea of what this scene is all about?
If you have any thoughts that this would be an "Instant Fix" site, then jog on! At only two weeks on here, you are a mere beginner, a complete novice and it is going to take time, a lot of it, to get somewhere.
Being a Gold Verified member, does not guarantee you instant shagging! You obviously haven't read what Gold Membership brings you; you obviously need to do so and you will have a clearer picture!
Whatever you get out of this site is fully dependent on you. You need to SELL YOURSELF!! You are competing against so many other guys, all seeking the same thing, so you need to stand out amongst everyone else.
Yes, you have a facial pic, but Ye Gods, could you look a bit happier?
Your Profile has an Upper Case Letter at the start of each word; write normally just as I am doing here, as too many CAPITAL LETTERS, smacks of shouting and isn't welcomed by some.
You need to get yourself noticed; that means getting out to Socials, Clubs and so on in your area. Get onto the Forums and contribute there (nicely!).
But overall, it takes patience, perseverance and a lot more patience. It will take time, believe me!
Good Luck. |
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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago
Hull |
I forgot to mention too, though you have put in a fairly detailed Profile, all the text it one looooong sentence in each case.
Insert punctuation to break it up and full stops at the end of each sentence.
How you construct your Profile helps to show to people that you've put in the effort! |
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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago
Manchester and that's all you need to know |
"Here we go again. To the OP, have you any idea of what this scene is all about?
If you have any thoughts that this would be an "Instant Fix" site, then jog on! At only two weeks on here, you are a mere beginner, a complete novice and it is going to take time, a lot of it, to get somewhere.
Being a Gold Verified member, does not guarantee you instant shagging! You obviously haven't read what Gold Membership brings you; you obviously need to do so and you will have a clearer picture!
Whatever you get out of this site is fully dependent on you. You need to SELL YOURSELF!! You are competing against so many other guys, all seeking the same thing, so you need to stand out amongst everyone else.
Yes, you have a facial pic, but Ye Gods, could you look a bit happier?
Your Profile has an Upper Case Letter at the start of each word; write normally just as I am doing here, as too many CAPITAL LETTERS, smacks of shouting and isn't welcomed by some.
You need to get yourself noticed; that means getting out to Socials, Clubs and so on in your area. Get onto the Forums and contribute there (nicely!).
But overall, it takes patience, perseverance and a lot more patience. It will take time, believe me!
Good Luck."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I forgot to mention too, though you have put in a fairly detailed Profile, all the text it one looooong sentence in each case.
Insert punctuation to break it up and full stops at the end of each sentence.
How you construct your Profile helps to show to people that you've put in the effort!"
He's not English, how's your Portuguese?? If English isn't his first language then he might find that difficult. |
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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago
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"I forgot to mention too, though you have put in a fairly detailed Profile, all the text it one looooong sentence in each case.
Insert punctuation to break it up and full stops at the end of each sentence.
How you construct your Profile helps to show to people that you've put in the effort!
He's not English, how's your Portuguese?? If English isn't his first language then he might find that difficult."
His English language looks mighty fine to me. He spells everything correctly too. Plus punctuation exists in any language across the world. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I forgot to mention too, though you have put in a fairly detailed Profile, all the text it one looooong sentence in each case.
Insert punctuation to break it up and full stops at the end of each sentence.
How you construct your Profile helps to show to people that you've put in the effort!
He's not English, how's your Portuguese?? If English isn't his first language then he might find that difficult.
His English language looks mighty fine to me. He spells everything correctly too. Plus punctuation exists in any language across the world."
Personally it doesn't bother me on a profile if its not perfect in grammar or punctuation as long as I can understand it. This isn't an English test and some may be dyslexic. |
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I'm not saying you can't arrange meets through this site - of course you can, may have and do continue to be very successful through it. However I agree that for some, myself included, meeting at a club then maintain that relationship on line is, for us, by far the easiest way.
The site is a great way to keep abreast of things in the community and seek advice.
If I was a single male, knowing what I know now, I'd become a regular friendly face in a club and go from there.
Ta
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All of the above: get rid of the negativeness on your profile (the whining and ranting!), the capitals on the words and add some more pics (they don't need to be too explicit - look on other profiles to get ideas...). Your may want to think again about your age range - up to 35 will cut your selection down.
Before messaging people: READ all of their profile first, don't just look at the pics and then message. Make sure that you fit into their criteria. Write something that relates to their profile, not just that you liked their pics... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Club, club, club ... CLUB!!
this site is full of timewasters and wannabes, go to a bloody club and use this site to keep intouch
Get out from your own bottom and leave people to use the site as they will...club club club nothing, I've been to one...it was great, will I go again...maybe. I've played a lot more through this site outside of clubs and am very happy doing things my own way....please don't come all shouty giving it one about wannabees and such because we don't do what we do in a designated building....many folk like clubs, many dont.
You wouldn't tell a man he wasnt of a particular faith because he didn't frequent that faiths church every Sunday would you?
And if the site is so full of timewasters your free to leave...if your club friends are really friends then you'll have various other ways to keep in touch I'm sure in this digital age....see that's where we are, the digital age, the web has now become a veichle for swinging too....and no amount of going on the web and shouting about timewasters and fakes will change that so relax, take one of grandpas chill pills and embrace it....we all relaxed now? Good "
ooooooooooosh!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honest advice....poor profile boastful and full off yourself ladies like confidence rather than cockiness. They do look at profiles when they get messages and you need to stand out in some way...you don't!
And What's With The Capital Letters For Every Word? It just looks silly.
As much of the previous/above advice says...get out a bit. Socials n clubs are good places. But remember...this isn't a "grab a shag" site. Your profile and expectations seem to indicate you think it maybe is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Club, club, club ... CLUB!!
this site is full of timewasters and wannabes, go to a bloody club and use this site to keep intouch
Get out from your own bottom and leave people to use the site as they will...club club club nothing, I've been to one...it was great, will I go again...maybe. I've played a lot more through this site outside of clubs and am very happy doing things my own way....please don't come all shouty giving it one about wannabees and such because we don't do what we do in a designated building....many folk like clubs, many dont.
You wouldn't tell a man he wasnt of a particular faith because he didn't frequent that faiths church every Sunday would you?
And if the site is so full of timewasters your free to leave...if your club friends are really friends then you'll have various other ways to keep in touch I'm sure in this digital age....see that's where we are, the digital age, the web has now become a veichle for swinging too....and no amount of going on the web and shouting about timewasters and fakes will change that so relax, take one of grandpas chill pills and embrace it....we all relaxed now? Good "
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"I'm a Verified Gold Member But I Still Haven't Got My 1St Meet Need Help!!! Please Ladies Any Advice???"
Why ask ladies for advice? You're a man. Ask men. There's lots of threads about profile advice, do a search in forum search and have a read. Welcome to fab! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm a Verified Gold Member But I Still Haven't Got My 1St Meet Need Help!!! Please Ladies Any Advice???"
Try POF or OKC ...much easier - I don't bother trying to meet people off here anymore. I'm just here to keep in touch with friends. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People who claims they have no limits usually mean they have little imagination. And from the same paragraph the bit about not stopping until a wonan cums actually sounds like it is all about your ego rather than her pleasure. Factor in your talk of knowing how to use your big tool and the image you create is actually pretty much the total opposite of what you are trying to portray |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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First of all you must understand, ladies on FAB get inundated with hundreds of emails everyday. Most are just deleted because there are to many to read. Yours may, well just get lost in that pile. Sick at it, try emailing ladies that are currently online, You may get lucky. If someone does reply there is a good chance she has replied for a reason. Be nice & respectful. Conversation is a big winner, Some ladies do not always go on looks, but a connection is a must. Stick with it, you will get a meet sometime. Remember the fun is in the chase, everything else is a bonus.. Happy hunting  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm a Verified Gold Member But I Still Haven't Got My 1St Meet Need Help!!! Please Ladies Any Advice???"
My god hes been on 2 weeks and not had a meet yet, what is this site coming to? And hes paid a fiver for Gold membership what is wrong with you ladies next thing he will be asking for a refund, does the distance selling act cover membership fees?
After two weeks hasnt he yet had the fab marching band playing outside his house or a street party to recognise his valient effort to join, what is this site coming to  |
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"I'm a Verified Gold Member But I Still Haven't Got My 1St Meet Need Help!!! Please Ladies Any Advice???
Try POF or OKC ...much easier - I don't bother trying to meet people off here anymore. I'm just here to keep in touch with friends. "
sorry what's OKC? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just read this whole thread and people have given good advice but unfortunately the op hasn't taken any of it. I am a gold site supporter and since I have been, nobody has been banging my door down
I have made my share of mistakes, had timewasters but mainly had good meets, socially or otherwise. Patience is a virtue, not one im blessed with but I am learning and all good things come to those who wait. Good luck
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By (user no longer on site)
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"See the button under everybodys posts that says 'reply and quote'..........
Ohh Yes My Bad!!"
Just makes it easier to know who your aiming your comment at or what your replying to |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ditto
"Oh and maybe it is me being picky, but why do you start every word with a capital letter? Won't bother some but it annoyed the hell out of me when reading your profile  "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Gold membership doesent assure you anythibg mate lol....you can't be thinking 'well I've paid my fiver....they're mine now' its not the worlds cheapest all you can eat brothel......
Act like its the real world and you'll be just fine "
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"I forgot to mention too, though you have put in a fairly detailed Profile, all the text it one looooong sentence in each case.
Insert punctuation to break it up and full stops at the end of each sentence.
How you construct your Profile helps to show to people that you've put in the effort!"
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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Well it's good to see you have a thick skin that'll definitely put you in good stead, lol.
Peter has given you some sound advice there it would be good take that onboard, they're points that stand out to us when we receive messages and often forms part of our self filtering process. Your profile content would be good in our opinion if the written part was a bit tidier. Speaking of tidy am I (him) right in assuming the stained top is a play in the chef part in your name? If not I'd replace that pic but that's just me. Also probably worth playing down the big cock and can satisfy and please a woman element, we'll be honest that goes in one ear and straight out of the other for us. The profiles that are likely to interest us and this is just our take are the ones that are played down a little, subtle and not full on, then when we engage in conversation are we interested in whether we're compatable for a meet and yes, the compatibility includes what sexually we and they bring to the table not what they say they can and will do in a profile.
All said and done good luck on the site, six months down the line could look very different for you, effort and a bit of luck dependant.
Apologies for some of the grammatical errors as well as the sentence stretching.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Well it's good to see you have a thick skin that'll definitely put you in good stead, lol.
Peter has given you some sound advice there it would be good take that onboard, they're points that stand out to us when we receive messages and often forms part of our self filtering process. Your profile content would be good in our opinion if the written part was a bit tidier. Speaking of tidy am I (him) right in assuming the stained top is a play in the chef part in your name? If not I'd replace that pic but that's just me. Also probably worth playing down the big cock and can satisfy and please a woman element, we'll be honest that goes in one ear and straight out of the other for us. The profiles that are likely to interest us and this is just our take are the ones that are played down a little, subtle and not full on, then when we engage in conversation are we interested in whether we're compatable for a meet and yes, the compatibility includes what sexually we and they bring to the table not what they say they can and will do in a profile.
All said and done good luck on the site, six months down the line could look very different for you, effort and a bit of luck dependant.
Apologies for some of the grammatical errors as well as the sentence stretching.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm a Verified Gold Member But I Still Haven't Got My 1St Meet Need Help!!! Please Ladies Any Advice???"
Keep checking your local updates posts, people looking for meets normally post it.
Remember to read their profiles before you message them |
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