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We understand we are being incredibly picky with what we are looking for in terms of single guys. (but there is no shame in that, if someone is having sex with her whilst he watches, it needs to be someone we like and trust)
However, we have received hundreds of messages, but 99% of them are the opposite of what we specified on the profile. We do have 4-5 great guys we are talking to and arranging potential meets with.
But we are thinking of looking outside fab for more single guys. But...where?
We aren't looking for the type that goes out getting d*unk every night and facial attraction is a must whilst being able to hold a conversation. Are we setting the bar too high?
Or where can we find these elusive 'nice guys'? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We understand we are being incredibly picky with what we are looking for in terms of single guys. (but there is no shame in that, if someone is having sex with her whilst he watches, it needs to be someone we like and trust)
However, we have received hundreds of messages, but 99% of them are the opposite of what we specified on the profile. We do have 4-5 great guys we are talking to and arranging potential meets with.
But we are thinking of looking outside fab for more single guys. But...where?
We aren't looking for the type that goes out getting d*unk every night and facial attraction is a must whilst being able to hold a conversation. Are we setting the bar too high?
Or where can we find these elusive 'nice guys'?"
Hey you two.
It's interesting you posted these questions because I experience exactly the same dilemma but from the other side: on my experience it's hard to find someone interested/capable of holding a conversation and someone who appreciates good manners and sensuality rather than just slim tattooed bodies and very revealing photos. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"We understand we are being incredibly picky with what we are looking for in terms of single guys. (but there is no shame in that, if someone is having sex with her whilst he watches, it needs to be someone we like and trust)
However, we have received hundreds of messages, but 99% of them are the opposite of what we specified on the profile. We do have 4-5 great guys we are talking to and arranging potential meets with.
But we are thinking of looking outside fab for more single guys. But...where?
We aren't looking for the type that goes out getting d*unk every night and facial attraction is a must whilst being able to hold a conversation. Are we setting the bar too high?
Or where can we find these elusive 'nice guys'?"
3 words.... be the hunters....
why wait on the hundreds of replies coming to you.... if you have something specific you are after.... go to them!!!
the good guys and the popular guys are the ones having to email everyone... they are doing their networking via various different means at the same time....
you have to win them over just as much as they have to you.....
I say to be rather than being reactive and waiting on the mountain to come to you.... be proactive, get off your backsides and be the hunters as opposed to the hunted! |
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"Clubs? Socials? "
We have very rarely found a single guy at a swingers club that could hold a conversation. They turn up, get a drink and towel and run straight to the play rooms (this is our experience anyway) |
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"We understand we are being incredibly picky with what we are looking for in terms of single guys. (but there is no shame in that, if someone is having sex with her whilst he watches, it needs to be someone we like and trust)
However, we have received hundreds of messages, but 99% of them are the opposite of what we specified on the profile. We do have 4-5 great guys we are talking to and arranging potential meets with.
But we are thinking of looking outside fab for more single guys. But...where?
We aren't looking for the type that goes out getting d*unk every night and facial attraction is a must whilst being able to hold a conversation. Are we setting the bar too high?
Or where can we find these elusive 'nice guys'?
3 words.... be the hunters....
why wait on the hundreds of replies coming to you.... if you have something specific you are after.... go to them!!!
the good guys and the popular guys are the ones having to email everyone... they are doing their networking via various different means at the same time....
you have to win them over just as much as they have to you.....
I say to be rather than being reactive and waiting on the mountain to come to you.... be proactive, get off your backsides and be the hunters as opposed to the hunted!"
Exactly what we have done actually. We are the ones that initiated conversations with almost all the guys we are meeting. Sorry, should of mentioned that 
Makes sense obviously, the guys we are after will be in high demand  |
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"Clubs? Socials?
We have very rarely found a single guy at a swingers club that could hold a conversation. They turn up, get a drink and towel and run straight to the play rooms (this is our experience anyway)"
I am a guy, never attend these venues (and don't get d*unk either btw). Maybe that's just bad luck, should work out well if you continue looking, you have the advantage. |
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Hello, have you thought of trying clubs? You can take things as slow n easy as you both want, yet meet others face to face in a relaxed place.
We found it opened many doors for us... ( private party invites etc)
Hope ya find all you're looking for   |
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"Clubs? Socials?
We have very rarely found a single guy at a swingers club that could hold a conversation. They turn up, get a drink and towel and run straight to the play rooms (this is our experience anyway)"
try different clubs? The aint all the same( we have never been to a towel wearing club ... Prefere the dress up type ) |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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"Clubs? Socials?
We have very rarely found a single guy at a swingers club that could hold a conversation. They turn up, get a drink and towel and run straight to the play rooms (this is our experience anyway)"
Surprisingly our experience has been the opposite. We have met some really nice single men in the clubs who we now consider to be friends. Perhaps we have just been lucky. |
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I guess we have been horribly unlucky in clubs
We will try again I guess. We are slowly sending out feelers to guys on here too.
We have a meet possible schedules for later today but the guy is super nervous and may be unable to perform! |
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"Clubs? Socials?
We have very rarely found a single guy at a swingers club that could hold a conversation. They turn up, get a drink and towel and run straight to the play rooms (this is our experience anyway)
Surprisingly our experience has been the opposite. We have met some really nice single men in the clubs who we now consider to be friends. Perhaps we have just been lucky. "
 same here.... |
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"We understand we are being incredibly picky with what we are looking for in terms of single guys. (but there is no shame in that, if someone is having sex with her whilst he watches, it needs to be someone we like and trust)
However, we have received hundreds of messages, but 99% of them are the opposite of what we specified on the profile. We do have 4-5 great guys we are talking to and arranging potential meets with.
But we are thinking of looking outside fab for more single guys. But...where?
We aren't looking for the type that goes out getting d*unk every night and facial attraction is a must whilst being able to hold a conversation. Are we setting the bar too high?
Or where can we find these elusive 'nice guys'?"
. You profile is well written and clearly defines your requirements . You may struggle though to find young and inexperienced educated guys on this site . Have you considered advertising in your local paper or Loot ? |
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"Clubs? Socials?
We have very rarely found a single guy at a swingers club that could hold a conversation. They turn up, get a drink and towel and run straight to the play rooms (this is our experience anyway)
Surprisingly our experience has been the opposite. We have met some really nice single men in the clubs who we now consider to be friends. Perhaps we have just been lucky. "
Judging from your gorgeous photos I would say they're the lucky ones! |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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Surprisingly our experience has been the opposite. We have met some really nice single men in the clubs who we now consider to be friends. Perhaps we have just been lucky. "
this is hopefully the way i am seen in the clubs i go to.... I am more likely to be in a social area chatting than be in a play area... i leave the "patrolling silent ninja" act to others and that is the way i stand out...
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"I guess we have been horribly unlucky in clubs
We will try again I guess. We are slowly sending out feelers to guys on here too.
We have a meet possible schedules for later today but the guy is super nervous and may be unable to perform!"
He doesn't have to "perform", you should make him feel at ease and give him the kind of experience you want from him |
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"I guess we have been horribly unlucky in clubs
We will try again I guess. We are slowly sending out feelers to guys on here too.
We have a meet possible schedules for later today but the guy is super nervous and may be unable to perform!
He doesn't have to "perform", you should make him feel at ease and give him the kind of experience you want from him"
Yeah we realised how that sounded!
We are still meeting and have stressed we are here to give him whatever experiences he can handle, even if its only watching us two  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You have no pics on your profile. The guys who message profiles that display no pics whatsoever are unlikely to be the 'right' type. They're just chancers, imho. |
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"Quite curious about why you are looking for someone inexperienced? Just being nosey, so thought I would ask!! "
She says she will feel more comfortable with an inexperienced guy and not an experienced bull-type.
Plus the age thing kind of runs hand in hand, she likes younger guys (18 ideally)
With couples experience isnt a concern, its just with single guys as we can afford to be a little picky |
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