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Never received message once in 3 years!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi, just to state how hard it is for single guys to get message. I have never once received a single message from a female or couple in the 3 years I have been on here!
Hard enough being a single guy on here but when you are also shy and inexperienced I would say impossible.
I always had to message female and couple and most of them do not reply probably because they are already bombarded with messages.
Is it worth me staying on here and trying my luck or should I just give up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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to be honest i would revamp your profile people dont need to know your life story its not a dating site
Get to some socials, the west midlands and warwickshire area have some great clubs and some great socials (Look under the club section)
get some photos up and have fun
jac |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't make an effort to randomly message people. Most of my messages have arrived as a result of forum banter and conversations. Join in, I'm sure you will get them. After all, you can't expect others to connect with you if you're not connecting with them ? Good luck. |
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"Hi, just to state how hard it is for single guys to get message. I have never once received a single message from a female or couple in the 3 years I have been on here!
Hard enough being a single guy on here but when you are also shy and inexperienced I would say impossible.
I always had to message female and couple and most of them do not reply probably because they are already bombarded with messages.
Is it worth me staying on here and trying my luck or should I just give up."
Never give up but adding pictures and listing hobbies and interests on your profile will help. If you have no pictures on your profile , it is highly unlikely anyone will contact you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Lie lol"
Honestly no, I have received message but after I messaged them but never from female or couple messaging me first. I had to always message first |
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By *exine xCouple
over a year ago
Leicester |
Just to be honest. It's a very negative profile.
It's almost as if you want people to feel sorry for you.
Stating that you have never kissed a girl etc is a bad thing to say in here.
We don't think you are in the right kind of site.
L & F x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok, thanks for you honest opinions. Yeah I do need to change my attitude and be more positive"
You said this on another thread of yours 38 weeks ago maybe u need to do it again
make your own life and make your own luck this site can only be as good AS YOU wish to make it
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"what are you actually looking for on here
Like every other guys sex and fun with female"
OK look at the advice i have given you get to some socials at clubs and see how you get on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lie lol
Honestly no, I have received message but after I messaged them but never from female or couple messaging me first. I had to always message first"
No i was telling you to lie
be whoever you want to fucking be lol
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And also...I'm not being horrible but you've posted a few times before with similar threads and people have told you the lack of pics etc won't be doing you any favours. Now if you don't want to put any up that's up to you but there's no point keep asking as you will get told he same thing every time, profile, pics, socials etc.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Lie lol
Honestly no, I have received message but after I messaged them but never from female or couple messaging me first. I had to always message first
No i was telling you to lie
be whoever you want to fucking be lol
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I tend to be honest, no point in lying as you be found out when you want to meet up lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"what are you actually looking for on here
Like every other guys sex and fun with female"
Zzzzzzz join the club, free admission for the silliest hat. To be honest sell your soul to the devil that way the females will flock like sheep ( no offence Welsh people lol )  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lie lol
Honestly no, I have received message but after I messaged them but never from female or couple messaging me first. I had to always message first
No i was telling you to lie
be whoever you want to fucking be lol
I tend to be honest, no point in lying as you be found out when you want to meet up lol"
not if you consider it roleplay  |
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One thing you might like to consider is writing up your deafness not as a negative thing but as a positive one, particularly to show that in general in life it isn't something you let hinder you.
I know someone who has had two deaf lovers and she said they were the best she's had by far. She put it down to the loss of one sense meaning the guys understood much better the other senses, especially touch. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
If all we had to do was post a message on the forum to get a shag, many more people would do it. But that's all you're doing. You've not changed your profile or your attitude after the last countless posts you've made. You've just posted the same, over and over again.
The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results. As you've found out on here, you get the same results, because YOU are not changing you attitude. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Having scanned your profile you put far too much of a downer on yourself love.
Be more positive about your self x"
Nah squish that, lie threw your back teeth ent you an air line pilot offering free holidays to lucky number 100 female that suck your cock |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"One thing you might like to consider is writing up your deafness not as a negative thing but as a positive one, particularly to show that in general in life it isn't something you let hinder you.
I know someone who has had two deaf lovers and she said they were the best she's had by far. She put it down to the loss of one sense meaning the guys understood much better the other senses, especially touch."
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I gotta be honest.
You (appear) to be a 29 year old deaf asian virgin with no photos and a bit of a miserable profile.
It actually sounds a bit made up to me.
But if it isn't. Noone wants to meet someone who just from reading seems to be a LOT of hard work. We are here for fun! Not a coaching service. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I gotta be honest.
You (appear) to be a 29 year old deaf asian virgin with no photos and a bit of a miserable profile.
It actually sounds a bit made up to me.
But if it isn't. Noone wants to meet someone who just from reading seems to be a LOT of hard work. We are here for fun! Not a coaching service."
i dont mind coaching
the not as cocky  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I gotta be honest.
You (appear) to be a 29 year old deaf asian virgin with no photos and a bit of a miserable profile.
It actually sounds a bit made up to me.
But if it isn't. Noone wants to meet someone who just from reading seems to be a LOT of hard work. We are here for fun! Not a coaching service.
i dont mind coaching
the not as cocky "
shame you live too far  |
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By *exine xCouple
over a year ago
Leicester |
"I gotta be honest.
You (appear) to be a 29 year old deaf asian virgin with no photos and a bit of a miserable profile.
It actually sounds a bit made up to me.
But if it isn't. Noone wants to meet someone who just from reading seems to be a LOT of hard work. We are here for fun! Not a coaching service.
i dont mind coaching
the not as cocky
shame you live too far "
Get on a fucking train! Jeez!
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"I gotta be honest.
You (appear) to be a 29 year old deaf asian virgin with no photos and a bit of a miserable profile.
It actually sounds a bit made up to me.
But if it isn't. Noone wants to meet someone who just from reading seems to be a LOT of hard work. We are here for fun! Not a coaching service.
i dont mind coaching
the not as cocky
shame you live too far
Get on a fucking train! Jeez!
Lol "
Coventry to Pontefract is a terrible journey though. At least one change of trains.  |
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By *il_MissBMFCWoman
over a year ago
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And maybe read profiles too.. See if you're what people are looking for instead of just sending the same message to ALL women!
You messaged me last week without reading my profile, and sent me a copy and paste message... So this is first hand - YOU are the problem  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I gotta be honest.
You (appear) to be a 29 year old deaf asian virgin with no photos and a bit of a miserable profile.
It actually sounds a bit made up to me.
But if it isn't. Noone wants to meet someone who just from reading seems to be a LOT of hard work. We are here for fun! Not a coaching service.
i dont mind coaching
the not as cocky
shame you live too far
Get on a fucking train! Jeez!
Lol
Coventry to Pontefract is a terrible journey though. At least one change of trains. "
I agree
think people could cut this guy some slack
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"I gotta be honest.
You (appear) to be a 29 year old deaf asian virgin with no photos and a bit of a miserable profile.
It actually sounds a bit made up to me.
But if it isn't. Noone wants to meet someone who just from reading seems to be a LOT of hard work. We are here for fun! Not a coaching service.
i dont mind coaching
the not as cocky
shame you live too far
Get on a fucking train! Jeez!
Lol
Coventry to Pontefract is a terrible journey though. At least one change of trains.
I agree
think people could cut this guy some slack
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He's been posting the same post, over and over again, for years, and never used any of the advice. I cut people slack when they make an effort to improve their own lot, not when they don't. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I gotta be honest.
You (appear) to be a 29 year old deaf asian virgin with no photos and a bit of a miserable profile.
It actually sounds a bit made up to me.
But if it isn't. Noone wants to meet someone who just from reading seems to be a LOT of hard work. We are here for fun! Not a coaching service.
i dont mind coaching
the not as cocky
shame you live too far
Get on a fucking train! Jeez!
Lol
Coventry to Pontefract is a terrible journey though. At least one change of trains.
I agree
think people could cut this guy some slack
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Thanks  |
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By *exine xCouple
over a year ago
Leicester |
"I gotta be honest.
You (appear) to be a 29 year old deaf asian virgin with no photos and a bit of a miserable profile.
It actually sounds a bit made up to me.
But if it isn't. Noone wants to meet someone who just from reading seems to be a LOT of hard work. We are here for fun! Not a coaching service.
i dont mind coaching
the not as cocky
shame you live too far
Get on a fucking train! Jeez!
Lol
Coventry to Pontefract is a terrible journey though. At least one change of trains.
I agree
think people could cut this guy some slack
He's been posting the same post, over and over again, for years, and never used any of the advice. I cut people slack when they make an effort to improve their own lot, not when they don't."
 This |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Having scanned your profile you put far too much of a downer on yourself love.
Be more positive about your self x
Nah squish that, lie threw your back teeth ent you an air line pilot offering free holidays to lucky number 100 female that suck your cock "
dont think they will fall for that lol! |
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"don't get many replies myself either,, manners cost nothing, even if its a polite, NO"
Would it make you feel better to send 20 messages. Log on later. See 20 replies. Get all excited. Then find
No thanks
No thanks
No thanks
Etc etc? |
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You asked something similar over a year ago and this is what I said then..."You've asked already!!!???
I just put up some advice but due to Sherlock 'yam' Holmes pointing the fact out that you have already asked, I've removed it.
My advice is to follow the advice you've already been given. And try to be more confident as well......"
Get some photos up and be proactive. Act on all the advice you've been given over the past 12 months.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Get out there or off here, I'd suggest. Some kind of pictures, a more positive profile, get on the forums for fun, and look to show others your personality.
Maybe even start a new profile? Try to build the courage to get to a social, honestly they're so low key you'd be fine once you're there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"don't get many replies myself either,, manners cost nothing, even if its a polite, NO
Would it make you feel better to send 20 messages. Log on later. See 20 replies. Get all excited. Then find
No thanks
Yes Please
No thanks
No thanks
hmmm Maybe
Etc etc?"
;) But personally if the message is deleted then I know the response.
Also revamp your profile and put some pics up, if you where a lady looking at your profile would you send a message?
Good luck OP I hope it improves for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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At the end of the day, as a single bloke, you'll have to make most of the running. I've had one first-contact message in the last year, and that was from a fake couple profile. Unless there's something on your profile that really grabs people, especially pictures, you're going to have to go to the women, not the other way around. |
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By *exine xCouple
over a year ago
Leicester |
"Get out there or off here, I'd suggest. Some kind of pictures, a more positive profile, get on the forums for fun, and look to show others your personality.
Maybe even start a new profile? Try to build the courage to get to a social, honestly they're so low key you'd be fine once you're there. "
But people look at you!
Just teasing. 
I know it sounds hard but!
Man Up or Shut Up!
Rewrite your profile with more positives. Add photos. And please stop moaning about not getting a shag.
I live with Lex and I've not had a shag for over 3 Weeks! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Delete your profile and start again with a positive profile, some nice pics and then get yourself to some socials, plenty of socials on over Christmas and new year  |
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" I don't make an effort to randomly message people. Most of my messages have arrived as a result of forum banter and conversations. Join in, I'm sure you will get them. After all, you can't expect others to connect with you if you're not connecting with them ? Good luck."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"what are you actually looking for on here
Like every other guys sex and fun with female"
You need to make more effort then...with profile to start. With attitude...get out to club/socials as has born suggested...and be more positive. It isn't rocket science! Success is here if you want it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not been funny mate but if I did not get a meet or message I would not wait 3 years. I would of gone a long time ago
thanks alot lol"
sorry mate but it's true. |
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Have to agree with most people here, upload pics or at least as I do, have face pics in private. This isn't blind date, not having a pop just trying to help you out fella, but I do agree it can be a struggle but it is what you make it, be open, suggestive in your messages, a woman/couple don't want to read boring "hi, this is my cock" messages. Be creative and make the message worthy of a reply, don't get me wrong not everyone will reply but at least if you apply yourself the right way it can't be all down to you good luck! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Confused as to why you came on this site in the first place- Fabswingers it's a site for swingers to connect... You are not a swinger, you haven't even had sex before?? |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
I've counted 20 threads you've started asking the same question. You've been given this advice countless times but have not changed anything at all.
Are you hoping for a sympathy meet from all these repeated threads? I seriously doubt that will happen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You need to sell yourself. I'm not sure there is a single positive thing about yourself in your profile. If you can't see anything good about yourself then what would you think others will see? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Confused as to why you came on this site in the first place- Fabswingers it's a site for swingers to connect... You are not a swinger, you haven't even had sex before?? "
He came on here making the classic error, thinking its full of desperate people who will ask HIM to have sex with them. How many times does it need explaining that this almost entirely the mindset of the "Sid the sexist" types. They will never get anywhere thinking like that. He expects (hopes) to receive messages from others. If after so many years the message has not got through, that 99% of conversations are started by the single man, then he should give up. It might not seem fair to a shy person, it probably isn't, I can be shy myself (stop laughing at the back!), but this is the t'interweb ffs. Its not like going up to a woman in a bar and starting a conversation from nothing and being cruelly crushed with a withering look. This is as anonymous as you want.
Put a PIC up, partial facial, body, cock as well if you want. Just SOMETHING.... ANYTHING! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Confused as to why you came on this site in the first place- Fabswingers it's a site for swingers to connect... You are not a swinger, you haven't even had sex before?? "
Also bit of advise, when I lost my virginity in the last century the girl I was with thought I'd had sex before as I said I had because I didnt wanna look like a dick, I wanted her to look at my dick and play with it! And she did and I got laid, not saying it would have made a difference but as the sexy pontifract Yorkshire lass says it ain't lying if you consider it role play
I just don't think advertising that you have never had sex on a swingers site is gonna help your cause pretend tour an ex porn star or something |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Confused as to why you came on this site in the first place- Fabswingers it's a site for swingers to connect... You are not a swinger, you haven't even had sex before?? "
Also funny how if a woman was on here advertising that she was a Virgin I bet she's be flooded with messages strange how the world works sometimes
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I notice that you don't respond to the messages in this thread that actually give you very good advice and make suggestions on how to improve your profile and to meet people. So are you really serious about wanting to meet ? If so, do something about it, instead of complaining. Mind you, think you should be on dating, not swingers site. |
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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago
Bedworth |
"I notice that you don't respond to the messages in this thread that actually give you very good advice and make suggestions on how to improve your profile and to meet people. So are you really serious about wanting to meet ? If so, do something about it, instead of complaining. Mind you, think you should be on dating, not swingers site."
And this is why people get irritated at the advice threads. The op's rarely listen to the advice given, choosing instead to keep posting the same old drivel month after month |
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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago
Cardiff |
"I notice that you don't respond to the messages in this thread that actually give you very good advice and make suggestions on how to improve your profile and to meet people. So are you really serious about wanting to meet ? If so, do something about it, instead of complaining. Mind you, think you should be on dating, not swingers site."
I noticed that, maybe because change takes effort and that's just too much for him?
A negative mind never has a positive life.
You get out what you put in, don't like what you are getting? Then change what you're putting in. Not bothered to change anything? Then stop moaning and embrace the life YOU have chosen to lead.
I don't think it would matter what site he was on, with that attitude he would just get the same response.
I know you'll just ignore this but CHANGE YOUR PROFILE! Right now it looks like you are a time waster because you are just going to be too shy to meet or do anything and if you were to meet you'd just be boring and whiny and negative about yourself. Sounds like fun? No? Well then! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Here i've better advice for you that doesnt require your a public forum torturing
Simply view a few sucessful male profiles who have had good solid meets... See what they have said about themselves.
When i joined i viewed womens profiles and decided i werent gonna have a list of everything i didnt want in a man or everything i didnt do because it wasnt necessary ... I like to think i'm quite unique haha |
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"I just green arrowed op .. My god you don't get much luck do you .. Let's hope you are more lucky this time  "
What does 'green arrowed' mean? I've accidentaly touched the green arrow with clumsy fingers on my phone. The green arrow flashes...but what does it mean?
Thanks! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just green arrowed op .. My god you don't get much luck do you .. Let's hope you are more lucky this time
What does 'green arrowed' mean? I've accidentaly touched the green arrow with clumsy fingers on my phone. The green arrow flashes...but what does it mean?
Thanks!"
you can stalk tgrough a member previous forum posts
personally i wouldnt waste my time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I notice that you don't respond to the messages in this thread that actually give you very good advice and make suggestions on how to improve your profile and to meet people. So are you really serious about wanting to meet ? If so, do something about it, instead of complaining. Mind you, think you should be on dating, not swingers site."
I noticed it too |
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"don't get many replies myself either,, manners cost nothing, even if its a polite, NO
Would it make you feel better to send 20 messages. Log on later. See 20 replies. Get all excited. Then find
No thanks
No thanks
No thanks
Etc etc?"
Cannot think of anything more depressing than wading through a load of messages saying 'thanks but no thanks', rather have no message at all. |
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only you know if its worth staying on here or giving up but the one thing I would say is don't eat sleep and become hooked on fab to the detriment of real life.
Talk to girls you like at work, pub, in the shop etc and you just never know where it might lead
ps I don't think ive ever had a girl or couple message me first so I wouldn't worry one bit about that
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To be honest with the OP his profile is about the worst I've ever read. It looks like you're going for the sympathy shag. Having looked back on your other threads you seem to constantly asking the same question and constantly ignoring the same answer. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Having scanned your profile you put far too much of a downer on yourself love.
Be more positive about your self x
Nah squish that, lie threw your back teeth ent you an air line pilot offering free holidays to lucky number 100 female that suck your cock
dont think they will fall for that lol!"
No, but they might think you have a sense of humour and meet for that reason alone?
Stick that on your profile and add a photo of your right foot. You might do better than you are now! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just have a profile picture at least, then send them a face picture in a message. Don't tell them your deaf that's not who you are. You wouldn't meet a random stranger and list your disability's before they got to know you. Hi my names John I have a glass eye and a small cock, I take blood pressure tablets and have piles. Lighten up get a picture on there's someone for everyone look at me I'm just a cock till you get to know me. (No offence intended) . |
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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago
Cardiff |
So, you put up this post 2 days ago and multiple times before. You've had loads of good advice.
You've ignored it all.
Yes I would say it's time to go.
Your profile obviously isn't working and you have no interest in attracting anybody so what's the point of you being on Fab? |
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"Lie lol
Honestly no, I have received message but after I messaged them but never from female or couple messaging me first. I had to always message first"
So actually u have received loads of messages just never them sending the first one.. course that's the case...There r loads of blokes to every woman here so they don't have to come looking for u |
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Seriously this guy must be some weirdo
Please someone offer to take his cock for the Team
I'm shocked the amount of great advice he's received and hasn't acted upon it !
It's great to be honest but come on dress it up a little |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No pictures and that first paragraph would have killed it I'd he had messaged my old couples profile. It's incredibly negative and come across as "pity me" |
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"I've counted 20 threads you've started asking the same question. You've been given this advice countless times but have not changed anything at all.
Are you hoping for a sympathy meet from all these repeated threads? I seriously doubt that will happen. "
Symapthy, from the forums, I know it's Christmas but the forums are not that generous! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Pictures....even in private are better than none. You have to understand there are a lot of guys on here, physical attraction is important before getting to Skype.
Cut your profile down. I'd leave the part out about never been kissed
What's in it for the lady? What do you think would make you a great person for her to meet? x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not been funny mate but if I did not get a meet or message I would not wait 3 years. I would of gone a long time ago
thanks alot lol"
I'm probably wasting my time likr the rest of us but here we go. No pics at all, even though you have had that suggestion numerous times. It's good to be honest but you don't need to mention your deafness, people will make their own minds up over whether to meet or not. Tweak your profile, none of us are perfect but fab will only work for you if you help it to |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We know the feeling were like that at first went to one club few times got to know people only a few then only now been looking to meet fem or couple for social most just want sex not get to know you first even if you are shy and nervous |
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"maybe time to give up and try a different kinda site IMOlol the ratio is the same on all sites, it wont change."
well maybe a site for people with disability's ..really you need to make some female friends first and stop being so desperate as it will put them off..maybe a prostitute wd be ideal to help u gain a bit of experience and confidence |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"maybe time to give up and try a different kinda site IMOlol the ratio is the same on all sites, it wont change.
well maybe a site for people with disability's ..really you need to make some female friends first and stop being so desperate as it will put them off..maybe a prostitute wd be ideal to help u gain a bit of experience and confidence "
Who are you chatting about here?. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I take it from the original opening post that OP has spent his entire time waiting for others to find him - rather than being pro-active and getting in touch with people, messaging others etc
In other words - not putting in the effort.
I too can be a little shy when it comes to approaching the ladies, but instead of crying into my coffee, I have chosen to look at my profile objectively and do what I can to sell myself, and I message those I am interested in meeting.
And yes, many messages go unanswered, get deleted or even don't get read in the first place - but I have vastly improved my prospects by being pro-active. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dude your young and single, if I'd known about this place then I'd have been all over it. Get some pics up, doesn't have to be face pics, some body shots, get face ones in your private pics and tell people they are there. Also lighten up its supposed to be fun, enjoy go with the flow and the banter. Go on have some fun buddy |
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"maybe time to give up and try a different kinda site IMOlol the ratio is the same on all sites, it wont change.
well maybe a site for people with disability's ..really you need to make some female friends first and stop being so desperate as it will put them off..maybe a prostitute wd be ideal to help u gain a bit of experience and confidence Who are you chatting about here?."
the guy that posted the post |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"And yet despite all the repeated advice over and over and over and over and over and over again, his profile is EXACTLY the same as it was 3 years ago. "
Remember, a lot of these threads are created in the hope that it will attract more attention to their profiles!
To some of these guys advice is wasted however the moaning threads are in abundance! |
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"maybe time to give up and try a different kinda site IMOlol the ratio is the same on all sites, it wont change.
well maybe a site for people with disability's ..really you need to make some female friends first and stop being so desperate as it will put them off..maybe a prostitute wd be ideal to help u gain a bit of experience and confidence Who are you chatting about here?.
the guy that posted the post"
Ah yes him there. |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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"And yet despite all the repeated advice over and over and over and over and over and over again, his profile is EXACTLY the same as it was 3 years ago.
Remember, a lot of these threads are created in the hope that it will attract more attention to their profiles!
To some of these guys advice is wasted however the moaning threads are in abundance!"
After three years and 20 threads on the same thing you'd think he'd work out that moaning threads don't work.
What was it Einstein said? The definition of madness is doing the same thing over again and expecting a different result. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"... profile, pics, socials etc.
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As they say above!
But don't delete the never been kissed part, I'm a single, straight woman and I like to read it and I get curious and wish to make you my litte project!
If I ever bumped in to you in a club then I would come over, and we would laugh a bit, and I would be gentle, and slow, and let you lead...
Don't give up, no reason to! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No reply from the OP in 2 weeks after all the good advice he's been given and not took an ounce of it on board. ... why do people bother "
I can't believe he's still here, I'd have given up years ago ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mate it is hard I've only met a couple of people not sure what I've done wrong either.
One even blocked me for asking for a verification and another blocked me coz I was in a directing room in chat.
It's always one set of rules for one and different ones for another ... guess it's just different strokes for different folks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just want to make this clear I haven't fallen for this or do I want to meet this guy!!! We should cut this guy a bit of slack but also I think he should take the advice given on board, I can imagine the problem for single guys on here is that there a lot!!! And I suppose giving your profile a spruce up wouldn't be a bad thing but at the same time if you don't you do need to stop creating the same thread over and over again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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often i/we have mailed a guy first off if i like what i see i will let him know regardless of the amount of attention we are receiving ok may not search for guys but plenty pop up on the local updates or on forums/chat rooms |
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"Having scanned your profile you put far too much of a downer on yourself love.
Be more positive about your self x
Nah squish that, lie threw your back teeth ent you an air line pilot offering free holidays to lucky number 100 female that suck your cock "
"You told me you were a pilot but I saw you stacking shelves in Tesco on saturday morning"
"No I said I was part of an Ariel display team"
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over a year ago
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Don't listen to the women my friend, i am sorry girls but you don't what it's like when you are a single guy on this site, i understand completely your frustration, you would have plenty of messages if you were gay.. i dont find it fair for straight guys like us.. It is a million times more difficult for a guy to meet a girl here than a girl to meet a guy |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"Don't listen to the women my friend, i am sorry girls but you don't what it's like when you are a single guy on this site, i understand completely your frustration, you would have plenty of messages if you were gay.. i dont find it fair for straight guys like us.. It is a million times more difficult for a guy to meet a girl here than a girl to meet a guy"
He has started 20 threads I 3 years asking for advice. To begin with the advice given was realistic and considerate. However, he has taken absolutely none of this advice on board. All he does is start another woe is me thread. People lose patience with that.
Imagine a friend of yours has a problem and asks for advice. You give several different kinds of advice but he pays no attention. This is repeated time and again with your friend regularly bemoaning his lot. After 3 years of this behaviour how sympathetic and patient would you be? |
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"Don't listen to the women my friend, i am sorry girls but you don't what it's like when you are a single guy on this site, i understand completely your frustration, you would have plenty of messages if you were gay.. i dont find it fair for straight guys like us.. It is a million times more difficult for a guy to meet a girl here than a girl to meet a guy
He has started 20 threads I 3 years asking for advice. To begin with the advice given was realistic and considerate. However, he has taken absolutely none of this advice on board. All he does is start another woe is me thread. People lose patience with that.
Imagine a friend of yours has a problem and asks for advice. You give several different kinds of advice but he pays no attention. This is repeated time and again with your friend regularly bemoaning his lot. After 3 years of this behaviour how sympathetic and patient would you be?"
I agree with this, it's disappointing that the OP has even been back on the thread but not acted on the advice. Though I'm also disappointed at myself for me being surprised |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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"Don't listen to the women my friend, i am sorry girls but you don't what it's like when you are a single guy on this site, i understand completely your frustration, you would have plenty of messages if you were gay.. i dont find it fair for straight guys like us.. It is a million times more difficult for a guy to meet a girl here than a girl to meet a guy
He has started 20 threads I 3 years asking for advice. To begin with the advice given was realistic and considerate. However, he has taken absolutely none of this advice on board. All he does is start another woe is me thread. People lose patience with that.
Imagine a friend of yours has a problem and asks for advice. You give several different kinds of advice but he pays no attention. This is repeated time and again with your friend regularly bemoaning his lot. After 3 years of this behaviour how sympathetic and patient would you be?
I agree with this, it's disappointing that the OP has even been back on the thread but not acted on the advice. Though I'm also disappointed at myself for me being surprised "
Not only that but he has barely responded except to say he wasn't aware that the thread was still active. No response at all to the advice given.
If he really didn't know people were still posting it would suggest that he simply posts and waits to see if anyone pms him out of sympathy.
More realistically he knows exactly what people are posting and cannot respond as his motive is to gain sympathy and he's not getting so much this time around. He only ever responds to posts which appear sympathetic to him and utterly ignores the rest.
And now OP that you have read this do you have any response? |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"Don't listen to the women my friend, i am sorry girls but you don't what it's like when you are a single guy on this site, i understand completely your frustration, you would have plenty of messages if you were gay.. i dont find it fair for straight guys like us.. It is a million times more difficult for a guy to meet a girl here than a girl to meet a guy"
So when a guy struggles to get a meet and asks for advice, and women (his chosen target) offer advice, you are now saying he shouldn't listen to them?
You make your own luck on here. There are 100s of single men who are successful, who meet lots, and who don't moan on the forums. |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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"Having scanned your profile you put far too much of a downer on yourself love.
Be more positive about your self x
Nah squish that, lie threw your back teeth ent you an air line pilot offering free holidays to lucky number 100 female that suck your cock
"You told me you were a pilot but I saw you stacking shelves in Tesco on saturday morning"
"No I said I was part of an Ariel display team"
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The best comment on this thread |
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"Don't listen to the women my friend, i am sorry girls but you don't what it's like when you are a single guy on this site, i understand completely your frustration, you would have plenty of messages if you were gay.. i dont find it fair for straight guys like us.. It is a million times more difficult for a guy to meet a girl here than a girl to meet a guy
So when a guy struggles to get a meet and asks for advice, and women (his chosen target) offer advice, you are now saying he shouldn't listen to them?
You make your own luck on here. There are 100s of single men who are successful, who meet lots, and who don't moan on the forums."
Depends as well were you live, will play a huge percentage in success unless we are willing to travel 400 miles lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Reading the replies here...including my previous one, I think we should focus on his last sentence.
After 3 years of zero success should he just give up and go...... I would say yes! Go, sod off, vamoose, leg it, exit stage right, leave immediately, never darken our doors or our moods again.
You asked for advice and ignored the rest for 3 years...take this bit...GOOD-BYE! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What was it Einstein said? The definition of madness is doing the same thing over again and expecting a different result. "
I've been quoting this a lot lately, lol |
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over a year ago
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"Hey, didnt know people are still repying to my forum, thought it died down last week!
But have you acted on any of the advice?"
dont be silly he will make anew thread soon :P |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"Why stay on here? Don't get it
He's not the only serial whinger on here, that gripes but never acts on good advice...then repeats the thread all over again three weeks later."
He may be the only one to have opened 20 threads about it over a 3 year period. |
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"Why stay on here? Don't get it
He's not the only serial whinger on here, that gripes but never acts on good advice...then repeats the thread all over again three weeks later.
He may be the only one to have opened 20 threads about it over a 3 year period. "
maybe he's happy winging and moaning. |
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"Why stay on here? Don't get it
He's not the only serial whinger on here, that gripes but never acts on good advice...then repeats the thread all over again three weeks later.
He may be the only one to have opened 20 threads about it over a 3 year period. "
I see now |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"Why stay on here? Don't get it
He's not the only serial whinger on here, that gripes but never acts on good advice...then repeats the thread all over again three weeks later.
He may be the only one to have opened 20 threads about it over a 3 year period.
maybe he's happy winging and moaning. "
Hm a new fetish. Masochist-lite.  |
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WOW i really don't think this guy is real or it's someone just messing about! I've been on here for a few months and not had a message randomly from anyone. It doesn't dis-hearten me as there's a lot of single guys all wanting the same thing. I send out a few chosen messages to women/couples I'd genuinely like to meet, if no reply then hey ho. build a bridge n get the fuck over it n move on mate. That's what the browse buttons for loving miss pontys advice |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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"WOW i really don't think this guy is real or it's someone just messing about! I've been on here for a few months and not had a message randomly from anyone. It doesn't dis-hearten me as there's a lot of single guys all wanting the same thing. I send out a few chosen messages to women/couples I'd genuinely like to meet, if no reply then hey ho. build a bridge n get the fuck over it n move on mate. That's what the browse buttons for loving miss pontys advice "
Who's Miss Ponty? |
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surely he's on some sort of wind up mission and has no interest in meeting, just wants to get reactions out of people. He obviously has no intent in changing his profile, listening to advice, or answering properly on his threads. |
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Personally think you are on wrong site especially if you have no experience get out there and meet women have fun in person decid what you like and then come back if that is what you want |
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