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soft to full swing.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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While we are still definitely soft swingers.we have been discussing going full swing in the new year.
It's still very much a maybe and jools says she going to rush into it.
Has anyone else gone from soft to full?
How did it if at all change thing's?
There are so many things that we want to do as a swinging couple, but only if we feel that it's going to be worth it.
For us breaking the no sex rule is a huge step so any advice would be very welcome.
Thanks.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We moved from soft to full swaps. I have to say it didn't seem that big a deal. We know a few other couples who did the same. You need to have your head around the fact that your partner is pleasuring and getting pleasured by someone else, then it's not that big a leap to move to full swap. Once you trust your partner and you're confident and strong in your relationship then you'll wonder what all the fuss was about. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks.  we like to think we are grown ups who enjoy each other as much as others, sex with others is not a must as swinging is a supplement to our sex life not a substitute.
But we do really enjoy it and it has certainly given our sex life a new spark.
We don't want to have sex just for the sake of it, we want it to be a natural progression rather than a must.
Does this make sense? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Soft swap is anything EXCEPT full penetrative sex. Hard or full swap includes full sex."
Its all about talking and discussing boundaries, theres no hard and fast rules, everyone is different  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Talk to each other then talk some more,
It really doesn't matter how much talking you do, just be open and honest with each other and discuss fears and boundaries, take your time don't rush into it. Only do what your both happy with.
Good luck  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We started as both full swap ... i ( male ) decided I preferred to watch and not have the pressure so I am very much soft swap now . The female half is very much more anything goes ....mainly as she knows I love to see her having fun !
The main thing as a couple is to find what works for you and to have fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We started with soft swap, think it's all about what you both want at the time.
At first I/we didn't want full swap & were more than happy with lots of naughty soft play.
It just seemed a natural progression when we were comfortable with people & we felt like going with the flow.
We still see how we feel at the time, sometimes the full monty sometimes lots of naughty play but not full swap.
Just keep talking & do whatever feels comfortable & fun.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A great thread Jools & Mr Fun... so thanks for starting it. We are just starting out and will initially be a soft swap. From everything I've read, however, it strikes me that it's important not to make the whole full swap thing a mounatin out of a mole hill. Just set a date to give it a try and see how it goes... don't over think it... and just don't pressure it... it's really no big deal. If you like it then carry on doing it... if not then go back to soft swap again. The worst thing you could do is build it up into something it isn't. Yes it's a milestone... but don't scare yourself silly about it... it's still just a bit of fun that you'll either enjoy or not. Good luck  |
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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago
Nr Manchester |
We have enjoyed quite a few full swaps but literally swapping partners is not necessarily the most erotic thing you can do. When having a good foursome with some fem to fem action and lots of manual and oral stimulation we sometimes find that we don't always want or need penetrative sex, even though it's there to be had. |
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We started off soft swap and over a the period of a year moved into fullswap. Though that's fullswap when it feels right...
For us that was the key, it had to feel right for everyone. As others have said for us when it feels right it was not actually that bigger deal.
We always try to make sure as well that there's no surprises for either of us on a meet. You should both know each other well enough to know this meet will probably be the one we're ready to try fullswap. We did anyway lol
Xxx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We prefer soft swap nothing so boring as just swapping partners and getting it on, we use swunging to partake in things we can't physically do as a couple and prefer a foursome with lots of kissing, oral etc and then penetrative sex with our own partners thus no fumbling for confirms etc x |
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We played soft as a couple for a few months until Rose was ready to go all the way - I (Geoff) was ready earlier and she was OK with me fucking other women but she needed time. Her concern was mainly what I'd think watching her, although I'd said I would be very happy about it all and her soft play was very uninhibited. Finally one day we were swapped with a couple in Chams, and I saw R kneel up, put a condom on the man she was with then climb on top. Afterwards she said it felt the right moment and from then on we've been mainly "hard" swingers, although we do play soft now and again. Some other people we meet either prefer soft or need time like us. |
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For us we have been on the scene for five years now... Its only been the last year or so we have started to full swap. We were just having so much fun soft swapping (and still do) that there was no hurry.
We were lucky in that we first full swapped with good friends of ours who are also swingers. For us its a question of quality more than quantity. So although we will often play, it depends on who we are with as to if we full swap or not.
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By *bovethekneeCouple
over a year ago
Hampshire / Herefordshire |
Thanks for a great topic and wise words. We are at the stage when we are pretty much ready to move on from soft swing if it feels right at the time. My initial worry was that I would feel jealous when watching Leo have another woman but the play we have had so far makes me feel comfortable that it is just sexy fun. We come together and we leave together, usually followed by really great 'make up' sex.
As some of you have said, it is the playing as a foursome that is really good and with that closeness of touch, we are thinking of altering our profile to say bi-curious as it would seem silly not to be able to play with whatever comes along. Does that make any sense? |
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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago
Nr Manchester |
"Thanks for a great topic and wise words. We are at the stage when we are pretty much ready to move on from soft swing if it feels right at the time. My initial worry was that I would feel jealous when watching Leo have another woman but the play we have had so far makes me feel comfortable that it is just sexy fun. We come together and we leave together, usually followed by really great 'make up' sex.
As some of you have said, it is the playing as a foursome that is really good and with that closeness of touch, we are thinking of altering our profile to say bi-curious as it would seem silly not to be able to play with whatever comes along. Does that make any sense?"
Absolutely perfect sense. Go for it, it's great. |
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