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whys it so hard for me to get a meet
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dude grin and try the ratio weather your nice or not i think is over 100 to 1 and the ladies have there pick try clubs or get on party invites get ya face about |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
all your pictures are your wee fella - now I am sure you are very proud of him - but is it the first thing you show a lassie in the pub? There is nothing else to let someone see a bit more about you.
Profile is beyond basic... effort in = rewards out.
Oh and using your dick as your profile picture will be an auto delete for many ladies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So your quest for the best looking girl in the world isn't going well then?? I'm guessing the woman that verified were not in fact the best looking women in the world... How nice of you to point that out to them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Changed a few things on my profile would like sum feedback what to do next and all that cheers guys xx"
get rid of most of cock pics and take other pics
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Changed a few things on my profile would like sum feedback what to do next and all that cheers guys xxget rid of most of cock pics and take other pics "
All of the above; and making your profile two sentences long isn't much of a change 
take some time and put the effort in to it
also go and search the forum for the thousand other similar threads about profile advice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Changed a few things on my profile would like sum feedback what to do next and all that cheers guys xxget rid of most of cock pics and take other pics
All of the above; and making your profile two sentences long isn't much of a change
take some time and put the effort in to it
also go and search the forum for the thousand other similar threads about profile advice "
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Changed a few things on my profile would like sum feedback what to do next and all that cheers guys xx"
Didn't see it before - but still not that great. Pics are the same.
And contradictory info - you have 'can accommodate' listed then state you can't.
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"Changed a few things on my profile would like sum feedback what to do next and all that cheers guys xx
Work it out for yourself............  "
in a nice and harsh way... this!!!!
you can't expect people to spoonfeed it to you.......
think with your head.... rather than your "head"....
pen,pad, and think about what you saying about yourself and the type of person you are trying to attract... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I checked your profile on reading your opening post and thought it was poor for all the reasons mentioned above. As I read on I see you say you have edited it? It must have been really poor before.
If I were you I would start from scratch and take on board all the good advice above.
good luck fella. |
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I made an offer so it's not all bad. 
27 or 30 like Hottie says....?
It's a profile that could be written to make it more attractive for the ladies. In what way though.....well, it's your profile not mine so it wouldn't be any use telling you what wrong with it. After all, my last question got ignored.
Just think what a lady might be looking for. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Right took all ur inputs on board thankyou and did a new profile please look and let me know if this one is a bit better  xx"
Honestly?
It's better.
Better doesn't make it good or stand out at all though.
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"Changed a few things on my profile would like sum feedback what to do next and all that cheers guys xx
ditch the 'I need' on the status, comes across as a bit me me.."
'J'adore' is much more alluring than 'I NEED'. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you was a little older and a lot closer we would meet you. Though you need some more photos but not cock ones. Torso, bum, one in a suit maybe all of those work xx |
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"Changed a few things on my profile would like sum feedback what to do next and all that cheers guys xx
ditch the 'I need' on the status, comes across as a bit me me..
'J'adore' is much more alluring than 'I NEED'. "
ooooh Rene..  |
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"At least you came back to the thread and taken the comments on board and in a good humoured way too OP. That's much more than a lot of people do "
this..
most unlike a single guy to not throw a hissy fit or go unlos..
fair play..
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More niceish pics would help
One big long paragraph is difficult to read. Break it up into 2, 3 or even 4 paragraphs
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My name is josh I'm a 27 year old that loves to have fun.
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You don’t need to tell me your name and age; it says it on your profile anyway
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I am looking for women to show me the ropes in this swinging game.
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Translated as:- I’m totally incompetent when it comes to swinging so don’t expect me to take the initiative or lead.
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I am not particular about looks as it's what's on the inside that counts.
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Translated as:- I don’t care what you look like I’m that bloody desperate I’d sleep with any old minger or bulldog
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I am wanting to try out clubs and social meets as well the old dvd and cosy up nights.
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Doesn’t make sense, try ‘I like going to clubs and socials as well as cosy nights in with good company and a nice DVD’
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I have to be discreet because of my job and no this does not mean I am cheating I definitely am single I can assure u on that one.
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The fact you mention that you might not be single and possibly cheating has just raised this idea in her head. I’d drop this bit completely. You don’t have to justify why you’re being discreet.
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I can travel and will always try and make the effort to meet as I would expect that in return.
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If I was going to say this I’d get it right and say ‘I can travel, will always make the effort to meet and I expect the same in return’.
But actually I wouldn’t say it anyhow. Using the phrase ‘will always make the effort’ just brings into her mind the possibility that maybe you won’t. If I was going to say anything about this I would say something like
‘I can travel and if I arrange to meet I will be there. I hope you will be to!! LOL’
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Any questions feel free to ask as I don't bite lol old saying I know. I work alot so can't meet at a drop of a hat and unless I have a day off its night meets for me I'm afraid and I know that will put a few ladies off but nothing I can do lol. I'm just a genuine guy that loves sex and want to explore in more depth the different sorts lol whether that be 3 sums or parties I'm game for anything within reason lol well I'll add more when I can think lol so happy swinging and ladies get in touch xxx I can supply face pics when needed xx
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Way too many lol’s to statements that just aren’t funny.
You don’t have to tell people you’re genuine if you’re really genuine. Mentioning it simply raises in her mind the possibility that you are not.
And you’re still justifying yourself. If you can only do night time meets just say that.
And definitely don’t tell people that you can’t think
I wouldn’t right what you’ve written but if I was to write it I’d write something like this.
I love sex and want to explore different areas I’ve not tried before such as FMF 3 somes, wild sexy parties and, pretty much, anything you might care to think of.
I am a busy person so can normally only do meets in the evening; I hope this won’t put to many off !!
Happy swinging and any questions feel free to ask. I don’t bite (unless you want me to. LOL )
Oh, for any ladies that want to get in touch, I do have face pics to.
That’s my advice but even with the best profile in the world don’t expect a rush of mail from hot, horny women to suddenly start filling your inbox, begging you to go out with them and bonk them stupid; it’s just not going to happen. Follow the other advice here, chat to people in the rooms, post on the forums, go to socials, clubs and parties; become part of the community.
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There are a lot of men in fab. Sone recognize that they are not getting the meets they think they ought to have and assume it's their profile at fault. They ask for profile advice. The issue with 'spoon-feeding' improvements, and not allowing the man to work it out for himself is that the advice seeker will use the spoon fed information or text or anything. His profile then becomes a mish-mash of other peoples ideas and ultimately, there is no individuality left in the profile. It becomes as boring and bland and unnoticeable as it ever was, amid the myriad of other profiles.
You don't do the advice seeker any good giving direct suggestions for wording. General advice is better IMHO. Besides which, the green arrow of truth always outs anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There are a lot of men in fab. Sone recognize that they are not getting the meets they think they ought to have and assume it's their profile at fault. They ask for profile advice. The issue with 'spoon-feeding' improvements, and not allowing the man to work it out for himself is that the advice seeker will use the spoon fed information or text or anything. His profile then becomes a mish-mash of other peoples ideas and ultimately, there is no individuality left in the profile. It becomes as boring and bland and unnoticeable as it ever was, amid the myriad of other profiles.
You don't do the advice seeker any good giving direct suggestions for wording. General advice is better IMHO. Besides which, the green arrow of truth always outs anyway. "
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"There are a lot of men in fab. Sone recognize that they are not getting the meets they think they ought to have and assume it's their profile at fault. They ask for profile advice. The issue with 'spoon-feeding' improvements, and not allowing the man to work it out for himself is that the advice seeker will use the spoon fed information or text or anything. His profile then becomes a mish-mash of other peoples ideas and ultimately, there is no individuality left in the profile. It becomes as boring and bland and unnoticeable as it ever was, amid the myriad of other profiles.
You don't do the advice seeker any good giving direct suggestions for wording. General advice is better IMHO. Besides which, the green arrow of truth always outs anyway. "
aint that the truth.... I wish we would all get on the same page when it comes to what advice we get given...
I say the same thing as you... I get called a "hater" in mail.. |
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"There are a lot of men in fab. Sone recognize that they are not getting the meets they think they ought to have and assume it's their profile at fault. They ask for profile advice. The issue with 'spoon-feeding' improvements, and not allowing the man to work it out for himself is that the advice seeker will use the spoon fed information or text or anything. His
profile then becomes a mish-mash of
other peoples ideas and ultimately,
there is no individuality left in the
profile. It becomes as boring and bland
and unnoticeable as it ever was, amid
the myriad of other profiles.
You don't do the advice seeker any
good giving direct suggestions for
wording. General advice is better
IMHO. Besides which, the green arrow
of truth always outs anyway.
aint that the truth.... I wish we would
all get on the same page when it comes
to what advice we get given...
I say the same thing as you... I get
called a "hater" in mail.. "
It's more a case of me saying the same thing a you. For example, elsewhere in the forum, another guy has asked for advice and has been given some very detailed advice to the point of it being written out for him. One cut n paste jobbie later and hey presto, people are saying what a great profile he has. No he hasn't, someone gave it him. It's not his.
Sorry to hear you've been called a hater but we know it's just a re-combination of letters that might have spelled 'earth' from whence they crawled. |
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"There are a lot of men in fab. Sone recognize that they are not getting the meets they think they ought to have and assume it's their profile at fault. They ask for profile advice. The issue with 'spoon-feeding' improvements, and not allowing the man to work it out for himself is that the advice seeker will use the spoon fed information or text or anything. His profile then becomes a mish-mash of other peoples ideas and ultimately, there is no individuality left in the profile. It becomes as boring and bland and unnoticeable as it ever was, amid the myriad of other profiles.
You don't do the advice seeker any good giving direct suggestions for wording. General advice is better IMHO. Besides which, the green arrow of truth always outs anyway. "
I think you might well be right actually.
But as the OP is not taking any of the advice given anyway, it probably doesn't really matter. LOL |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Right took all ur inputs on board thankyou and did a new profile please look and let me know if this one is a bit better xx"
You might want to change your body type from "Athletic" to "Average". Especially if you're going to keep the pic up you have now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Right took all ur inputs on board thankyou and did a new profile please look and let me know if this one is a bit better xx
You might want to change your body type from "Athletic" to "Average". Especially if you're going to keep the pic up you have now."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Right took all ur inputs on board thankyou and did a new profile please look and let me know if this one is a bit better xx
You might want to change your body type from "Athletic" to "Average". Especially if you're going to keep the pic up you have now.
Ouch "
It's a valid point. The amount of profiles that say athletic then have a non athletic pic is huge. It makes guys look either stupid, delusional or liars. I'm assuming he doesn't want to give any of those impressions as he asked for advice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Right took all ur inputs on board thankyou and did a new profile please look and let me know if this one is a bit better xx
You might want to change your body type from "Athletic" to "Average". Especially if you're going to keep the pic up you have now.
Ouch
It's a valid point. The amount of profiles that say athletic then have a non athletic pic is huge. It makes guys look either stupid, delusional or liars. I'm assuming he doesn't want to give any of those impressions as he asked for advice."
This whilst you get people championing the fact that darts players and sumo wrestlers look like. We all really know what an athletic physique should roughly look like!!
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"Right took all ur inputs on board thankyou and did a new profile please look and let me know if this one is a bit better xx
You might want to change your body type from "Athletic" to "Average". Especially if you're going to keep the pic up you have now.
Ouch
It's a valid point. The amount of profiles that say athletic then have a non athletic pic is huge. It makes guys look either stupid, delusional or liars. I'm assuming he doesn't want to give any of those impressions as he asked for advice.
This whilst you get people championing the fact that darts players and sumo wrestlers look like. We all really know what an athletic physique should roughly look like!!
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We do?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Right took all ur inputs on board thankyou and did a new profile please look and let me know if this one is a bit better xx
You might want to change your body type from "Athletic" to "Average". Especially if you're going to keep the pic up you have now.
Ouch
It's a valid point. The amount of profiles that say athletic then have a non athletic pic is huge. It makes guys look either stupid, delusional or liars. I'm assuming he doesn't want to give any of those impressions as he asked for advice."
Fair point. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Right took all ur inputs on board thankyou and did a new profile please look and let me know if this one is a bit better xx
You might want to change your body type from "Athletic" to "Average". Especially if you're going to keep the pic up you have now.
Ouch
It's a valid point. The amount of profiles that say athletic then have a non athletic pic is huge. It makes guys look either stupid, delusional or liars. I'm assuming he doesn't want to give any of those impressions as he asked for advice.
This whilst you get people championing the fact that darts players and sumo wrestlers look like. We all really know what an athletic physique should roughly look like!!
We do? "
Well you have selected average for your own. So apply that logic to an athletic physique and go from there.
I'm proud to be average too!
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"Right took all ur inputs on board thankyou and did a new profile please look and let me know if this one is a bit better xx
You might want to change your body type from "Athletic" to "Average". Especially if you're going to keep the pic up you have now.
Ouch
It's a valid point. The amount of profiles that say athletic then have a non athletic pic is huge. It makes guys look either stupid, delusional or liars. I'm assuming he doesn't want to give any of those impressions as he asked for advice.
This whilst you get people championing the fact that darts players and sumo wrestlers look like. We all really know what an athletic physique should roughly look like!!
We do?
Well you have selected average for your own. So apply that logic to an athletic physique and go from there.
I'm proud to be average too!
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For me Average and happy with that
For you 'Slim & Average'. Well the slim looks true, You should be proud of that to.
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