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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"it's very difficult isn't it.
I think personality does come over in messages even if you feel it isn't."
maybe but Iv a bad habit off engaging mouth before brain or opposite over thinking lol . |
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"it's very difficult isn't it.
I think personality does come over in messages even if you feel it isn't.maybe but Iv a bad habit off engaging mouth before brain or opposite over thinking lol . "
I see, maybe set yourself a target and always send the third draft of any message  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"it's very difficult isn't it.
I think personality does come over in messages even if you feel it isn't."
you can't tell what a person's personality is from a text message sorryyou just can't ,how often have you read a message then read it a second time and thought oh he could mean that  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"it's very difficult isn't it.
I think personality does come over in messages even if you feel it isn't. you can't tell what a person's personality is from a text message sorryyou just can't ,how often have you read a message then read it a second time and thought oh he could mean that "
that was my point but I couldn't get it in to words lol |
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"it's very difficult isn't it.
I think personality does come over in messages even if you feel it isn't. you can't tell what a person's personality is from a text message sorryyou just can't ,how often have you read a message then read it a second time and thought oh he could mean that "
Yea, sorry I meant messages plural, after three or four messages you can get an idea of someone's personality. |
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By *unPeteMan
over a year ago
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I agree, it is difficult to capture your personality in a few words. I know I can't do it.
I had to attend a self-awareness, introspection type of course once for work and as prep I had to get 5 to 10 colleagues to write a few lines about me. I was SHOCKED!
Anyway how about asking a few mates to give you some feedback about your personality? Use the positive stuff and some of your veris to create a profile.
When you find a profile that appeals to you, focus on the common ground when you message them.
Personally I think it easier to get over your personality by chatting in the forum or at a social event (that's probably why I'm not doing very well on Fab  ) |
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It is not so easy messaging people for the first time when they have very little on their profile....those ones tend to be a bit generic.
Usually something crazy that makes people laugh works well...then if they look at your profile they get some idea of your personality.... |
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"It is not so easy messaging people for the first time when they have very little on their profile....those ones tend to be a bit generic.
Usually something crazy that makes people laugh works well...then if they look at your profile they get some idea of your personality.... "
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By (user no longer on site)
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Intonation doesn't come over in text. I write quite soberly at times,whereas in person I'm an idiot. I don't act my age and can be a bit childish. I'm more fun than I sound  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Intonation doesn't come over in text. I write quite soberly at times,whereas in person I'm an idiot. I don't act my age and can be a bit childish. I'm more fun than I sound "
you look fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"it's very difficult isn't it.
I think personality does come over in messages even if you feel it isn't. you can't tell what a person's personality is from a text message sorryyou just can't ,how often have you read a message then read it a second time and thought oh he could mean that
Yea, sorry I meant messages plural, after three or four messages you can get an idea of someone's personality."
yes but even after four messages,look some people are good with the written word and come over really well but in person they are educated geeks with no personality ,others are also really good at messaging and have great personalities my frustration would be I like to put content in a message but would say 50-60% of messages I send don't get read or replied to ,so tend to send smaller messages ,I think even you would admit when the messages are coming at you 300 at a time you bulk delete or delete without reading |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"it's very difficult isn't it.
I think personality does come over in messages even if you feel it isn't. you can't tell what a person's personality is from a text message sorryyou just can't ,how often have you read a message then read it a second time and thought oh he could mean that
Yea, sorry I meant messages plural, after three or four messages you can get an idea of someone's personality. yes but even after four messages,look some people are good with the written word and come over really well but in person they are educated geeks with no personality ,others are also really good at messaging and have great personalities my frustration would be I like to put content in a message but would say 50-60% of messages I send don't get read or replied to ,so tend to send smaller messages ,I think even you would admit when the messages are coming at you 300 at a time you bulk delete or delete without reading "
this is very true . Also the way u say somthing when u talk comes across different then when u type it down . If that makes sence ? |
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"it's very difficult isn't it.
I think personality does come over in messages even if you feel it isn't. you can't tell what a person's personality is from a text message sorryyou just can't ,how often have you read a message then read it a second time and thought oh he could mean that
Yea, sorry I meant messages plural, after three or four messages you can get an idea of someone's personality. yes but even after four messages,look some people are good with the written word and come over really well but in person they are educated geeks with no personality ,others are also really good at messaging and have great personalities my frustration would be I like to put content in a message but would say 50-60% of messages I send don't get read or replied to ,so tend to send smaller messages ,I think even you would admit when the messages are coming at you 300 at a time you bulk delete or delete without reading "
We don't get 300 at a time
It's only my opinion but for me (us) there are tells in the written word that the author isn't even aware of no matter how brief or copied and pasted a message is. I could be wrong but we have so little to go on that we have to use what there is.
For instance "fancy a fuck?" is three words but speaks volumes. |
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"it's very difficult isn't it.
I think personality does come over in messages even if you feel it isn't. you can't tell what a person's personality is from a text message sorryyou just can't ,how often have you read a message then read it a second time and thought oh he could mean that
Yea, sorry I meant messages plural, after three or four messages you can get an idea of someone's personality. yes but even after four messages,look some people are good with the written word and come over really well but in person they are educated geeks with no personality ,others are also really good at messaging and have great personalities my frustration would be I like to put content in a message but would say 50-60% of messages I send don't get read or replied to ,so tend to send smaller messages ,I think even you would admit when the messages are coming at you 300 at a time you bulk delete or delete without reading this is very true . Also the way u say somthing when u talk comes across different then when u type it down . If that makes sence ? "
Yes it does make sense. You can't see someone's face or hear their tone of voice in a message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"it's very difficult isn't it.
I think personality does come over in messages even if you feel it isn't. you can't tell what a person's personality is from a text message sorryyou just can't ,how often have you read a message then read it a second time and thought oh he could mean that
Yea, sorry I meant messages plural, after three or four messages you can get an idea of someone's personality. yes but even after four messages,look some people are good with the written word and come over really well but in person they are educated geeks with no personality ,others are also really good at messaging and have great personalities my frustration would be I like to put content in a message but would say 50-60% of messages I send don't get read or replied to ,so tend to send smaller messages ,I think even you would admit when the messages are coming at you 300 at a time you bulk delete or delete without reading
We don't get 300 at a time
It's only my opinion but for me (us) there are tells in the written word that the author isn't even aware of no matter how brief or copied and pasted a message is. I could be wrong but we have so little to go on that we have to use what there is.
For instance "fancy a fuck?" is three words but speaks volumes. "
so theirs the answer in a nutshell you Havnt much to go on ,understand about the full on can I get a fuck text but really you don't have a clue wether that guy you just blocked is a lovely guy with a personality or not ,you really don't find that out until you speak on phone or meet |
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"it's very difficult isn't it.
I think personality does come over in messages even if you feel it isn't. you can't tell what a person's personality is from a text message sorryyou just can't ,how often have you read a message then read it a second time and thought oh he could mean that
Yea, sorry I meant messages plural, after three or four messages you can get an idea of someone's personality. yes but even after four messages,look some people are good with the written word and come over really well but in person they are educated geeks with no personality ,others are also really good at messaging and have great personalities my frustration would be I like to put content in a message but would say 50-60% of messages I send don't get read or replied to ,so tend to send smaller messages ,I think even you would admit when the messages are coming at you 300 at a time you bulk delete or delete without reading
We don't get 300 at a time
It's only my opinion but for me (us) there are tells in the written word that the author isn't even aware of no matter how brief or copied and pasted a message is. I could be wrong but we have so little to go on that we have to use what there is.
For instance "fancy a fuck?" is three words but speaks volumes. so theirs the answer in a nutshell you Havnt much to go on ,understand about the full on can I get a fuck text but really you don't have a clue wether that guy you just blocked is a lovely guy with a personality or not ,you really don't find that out until you speak on phone or meet "
You're right of course but there does have to be some method of choosing who to meet and that's one of ours |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"it's very difficult isn't it.
I think personality does come over in messages even if you feel it isn't. you can't tell what a person's personality is from a text message sorryyou just can't ,how often have you read a message then read it a second time and thought oh he could mean that
Yea, sorry I meant messages plural, after three or four messages you can get an idea of someone's personality. yes but even after four messages,look some people are good with the written word and come over really well but in person they are educated geeks with no personality ,others are also really good at messaging and have great personalities my frustration would be I like to put content in a message but would say 50-60% of messages I send don't get read or replied to ,so tend to send smaller messages ,I think even you would admit when the messages are coming at you 300 at a time you bulk delete or delete without reading
We don't get 300 at a time
It's only my opinion but for me (us) there are tells in the written word that the author isn't even aware of no matter how brief or copied and pasted a message is. I could be wrong but we have so little to go on that we have to use what there is.
For instance "fancy a fuck?" is three words but speaks volumes. so theirs the answer in a nutshell you Havnt much to go on ,understand about the full on can I get a fuck text but really you don't have a clue wether that guy you just blocked is a lovely guy with a personality or not ,you really don't find that out until you speak on phone or meet
You're right of course but there does have to be some method of choosing who to meet and that's one of ours "
I know and appreciate how difficult it is but at last we have the answer which I always in the nicest possible way knew was the cut and thrust ,you block on the basis of a word out of place or one compliment to many etc hey I knew that am a realist but am missing out on good experiences with sexy people because of it |
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"it's very difficult isn't it.
I think personality does come over in messages even if you feel it isn't. you can't tell what a person's personality is from a text message sorryyou just can't ,how often have you read a message then read it a second time and thought oh he could mean that
Yea, sorry I meant messages plural, after three or four messages you can get an idea of someone's personality. yes but even after four messages,look some people are good with the written word and come over really well but in person they are educated geeks with no personality ,others are also really good at messaging and have great personalities my frustration would be I like to put content in a message but would say 50-60% of messages I send don't get read or replied to ,so tend to send smaller messages ,I think even you would admit when the messages are coming at you 300 at a time you bulk delete or delete without reading
We don't get 300 at a time
It's only my opinion but for me (us) there are tells in the written word that the author isn't even aware of no matter how brief or copied and pasted a message is. I could be wrong but we have so little to go on that we have to use what there is.
For instance "fancy a fuck?" is three words but speaks volumes. so theirs the answer in a nutshell you Havnt much to go on ,understand about the full on can I get a fuck text but really you don't have a clue wether that guy you just blocked is a lovely guy with a personality or not ,you really don't find that out until you speak on phone or meet
You're right of course but there does have to be some method of choosing who to meet and that's one of ours I know and appreciate how difficult it is but at last we have the answer which I always in the nicest possible way knew was the cut and thrust ,you block on the basis of a word out of place or one compliment to many etc hey I knew that am a realist but am missing out on good experiences with sexy people because of it "
No we don't! You're assuming an awful lot from what I've written...and you're the one who said you can't.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes you can't tell a person's personality yes of course and neither can you it's technique of messaging eg can I fuck you but I never send messages like that and still even when being very charming and polite still get blocked or ignored |
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"When did I say that ?  "
you wrote
"you block on the basis of a word out of place or one compliment to many etc "
but we don't...my point is that despite you saying we couldn't assume a person's personality from messages you've managed to make massive assumptions about us from the written word. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When did I say that ?
you wrote
"you block on the basis of a word out of place or one compliment to many etc "
but we don't...my point is that despite you saying we couldn't assume a person's personality from messages you've managed to make massive Iassumptions about us from the written word."
no my answer was loosely worded around what you originally said and that was after you corrected it that after 3/4 messages you could tell personality my argument has always been that you can't ,you delete or block someone on the basis of a badly worded text I am not criticising you personally everyone woman / couple on here does it at some point |
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"When did I say that ?
you wrote
"you block on the basis of a word out of place or one compliment to many etc "
but we don't...my point is that despite you saying we couldn't assume a person's personality from messages you've managed to make massive Iassumptions about us from the written word. no my answer was loosely worded around what you originally said and that was after you corrected it that after 3/4 messages you could tell personality my argument has always been that you can't ,you delete or block someone on the basis of a badly worded text I am not criticising you personally everyone woman / couple on here does it at some point "
I see. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think you can learn a lot about people through what they write and how they word a given subject.
Through the forums over time I have been lucky enough to meet and chat with many great people and I have formed my opinion of them by reading what they have written on there profile and within the forums and then decided to make contact.
The first message to a new person is always going to be tricky as its almost like a cold call. Try to relate to them via what they have written in there profile or via the forums and start a conversation that way. GL |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Intonation doesn't come over in text. I write quite soberly at times,whereas in person I'm an idiot. I don't act my age and can be a bit childish. I'm more fun than I sound "
I think you're really funny. In a good way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Intonation doesn't come over in text. I write quite soberly at times,whereas in person I'm an idiot. I don't act my age and can be a bit childish. I'm more fun than I sound
I think you're really funny. In a good way. "
I'm glad you added the last sentence |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think you can learn a lot about people through what they write and how they word a given subject.
Through the forums over time I have been lucky enough to meet and chat with many great people and I have formed my opinion of them by reading what they have written on there profile and within the forums and then decided to make contact.
The first message to a new person is always going to be tricky as its almost like a cold call. Try to relate to them via what they have written in there profile or via the forums and start a conversation that way. GL"
It's easier to get an insight into someone's personality from a few of their posts on the forums than it is from messages |
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