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By *asandme OP Couple
over a year ago
camden town |
Ok, myself and my mrs are having nothing but trouble arrainging meets and such and the same reoccuring themes are coming up again and again as reasons for refusal and such. The themes are the fact we are not exactly slim and that my mrs has Multiple Sclerosis.
Why the hell is this happening? |
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By *plpxp2Couple
over a year ago
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It happens when you don't have any problems too. People decide to meet or not to meet for a range of reasons, some may seem stupid, but they are their reasons. It's part of the scene and something you'll see discussed time and time again in the forums.
Size or disability are no reason not to swing, though I noticed there was no mention of MS on your ad. Revealing this at a later point could be an issue for some people and maybe worth thinking about.
Chill, relax and take it all as part of the scene. All of the hassles we all get are worth it when it works
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Id vote for putting it on your profile, that way people can choose whether to message you or not, at the moment, they are wasting theirs and your time with messages, best if they know up front. Also there are a couple of disabled people on here, they dont seem to have any problems meeting anyone.
As for the not slim bit, keep an eye out on the meets forum as there are often BBW meets advertised, in fact i think the next one is on the 14th August at Chams, not sure which one though. At least then, you can meet likeminded people, there are people on here that dont mind either, i think its just the fact that its not on your profile thats stopping people.
Good luck  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your profile has a lot of negatives saying what you don't want and not much in the way of what you do. Also, as has been said already, mention the disability and give some idea of the extent and the concentrate on what you can do despite it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lisa has a form of MS and the first line of our profile quite clearly states she has weakness down the left side of her body, without going into to much detail, so that if anyone has a problem with it they can move onto another profile without having to read through all of ours and find out later that we arn't for them.
We find this saves time on both sides.
As for being large there isn't much you can do about that other than mention it on your profile and maybe put some pics on (even if the are private) so that people can judge for themselves wether they are interested or not. If they arn't interested because you arn't slim there isn't alot you can do other than shrug it off and find someone who has no problem with your size.
Good luck with your swinging. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think you have a great profile now.
MS has touched my family - can't claim to really know what living with it is like, but I know isn't easy.
Best of luck on here and I hope you get loads of great meets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Way back, at the beginning of our swinging we chatted with a couple on cam with a view to a meet. It was only then that they mentioned the fem had a disability. Fine we thought but could she get up the steps we asked. Yes no probs they said and only slight disability.
We met, and it was a disaster not because of that but because they failed to say that they were a dom sub couple. She was real selfish and wanted all the attention on her and did not give her man permission to play with me.
There's nowt sa qweer ez folk! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think your profile seems fine, it tells everything you need to know really.
Any lack of luck from here on in, well, it's just the lack of luck we all have |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it would be helpful to know to what extent MS has on your lovely lady. Is she wheelchair bound or unable to do certain things?
I know a lady with MS and you wouldn't be able to tell 90% of the time...
Good Luck to you both. |
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By *asandme OP Couple
over a year ago
camden town |
it's half and half really. sometimes she needs the wheelchair and sometimes she doesn't. It just depends if it's badly affecting her that day or not.
everything is going very well at the moment, so it's fingers crossed time lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"it's half and half really. sometimes she needs the wheelchair and sometimes she doesn't. It just depends if it's badly affecting her that day or not.
everything is going very well at the moment, so it's fingers crossed time lol"
I know a couple his wife has the same thing ... MS and thay are very open about it ,.,, in profile and on meets people are fine with it ... thay have been swinging years ,, lovely couple. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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try going to one of your local socials so ppl can meet you both thats a good way of getting meets and ppl then look further than anyones disability hun. Hope you get lots xx |
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