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By *AM2214 OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester Area |
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A first meet is planned with a lady who shares the same 'kinks'
Am I supposed to be as nervous as a 14yr old ?
The last and I know each other from military times but does that make it more complicated or easier to break the ice?
I just want her too enjoy the experience feel comfortable and safe
I'm happy for the whole host of things we talked about to occur but when is something too far for first meet?
My 'plan' is simple meet and confirm both happy to go through with things confirm safeword--use same safeword so no misunderstanding ooh don't do that please please do that naughty thing and STOP
Might seem.like I'm burbling but advice appreciated neither of us can meet at the drop of a hat so being able to get the most out of all meets is important
But not as important as her leaving feeling safe and comfortable |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The minute your not nervous before a meet is the minute you need to give up. It's part of the thrill, part of the excitement and you don't ever want to become desensitised to that  |
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If you are not nervous - then there is something 'wrong'. There are no hard and fast rules about the first meet. Take things easy, chat, flirt, touch - it's all about building a connection, trust, desire etc.
Accept that you will both be nervous and just let things run their course. You also have to be open to the eventuality that there may be nothing in common/no desire for the other. These things happen.
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"Thanks for your responses
Reassuring to see not everyone on here is a 'just do it forget about the other person'
To me her enjoyment is more important than mine "
Contrary to popular belief - we are not all here to shag our way through the site. For me, respecting the other person and ensuring that all involved have 'fun' is important. |
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"Thanks for your responses
Reassuring to see not everyone on here is a 'just do it forget about the other person'
To me her enjoyment is more important than mine
Contrary to popular belief - we are not all here to shag our way through the site. For me, respecting the other person and ensuring that all involved have 'fun' is important."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My first meet was months ago (with someone from a different site) and i was shaking like mad. He was great about it, no pressure or anything.
Dunno if a safety word would work though, some people tune out and do stuff they never intended to, know me and a long term partner have got carried away even. But seeing as you've already discussed things then you might be ok, me and my partner were just going with the flow. |
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By *esusWeptMan
over a year ago
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Relax, be yourself and see it as meeting of minds with a person who shares more than just a mutual interest in kink. Most of all enjoy and celebrate the woman and all of her interests and company, and play it by ear and instinct. Whatever develops will then mirror the ambiance and not feel like a planned amphibious landing or peacekeeping operation.  |
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By *AM2214 OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester Area |
"Relax, be yourself and see it as meeting of minds with a person who shares more than just a mutual interest in kink. Most of all enjoy and celebrate the woman and all of her interests and company, and play it by ear and instinct. Whatever develops will then mirror the ambiance and not feel like a planned amphibious landing or peacekeeping operation. "
both been ie ace keepers and one if us had a very fast boat to play with |
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