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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have been on fab a while now, so please don't take this as a look its me thread as it isn't.
lately i have had messages about "lose the attitude" or "im up my own ass" regarding my profile
I have never had a issue meeting but lately i am thinking maybe its in your face to much or is it the fact i know what i want
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not sure about an attitude because there's nothing offensive on there or nasty, but your profile is very long and it's all about you.
Some people would probably take that as everything revolves around you, so this might explain the up your own bum comments. Some guys love it when everything revolves around you though.
I don't have a problem with it either way and disappointed that people would be nasty to you about it. No need for it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not sure about an attitude because there's nothing offensive on there or nasty, but your profile is very long and it's all about you.
Some people would probably take that as everything revolves around you, so this might explain the up your own bum comments. Some guys love it when everything revolves around you though.
I don't have a problem with it either way and disappointed that people would be nasty to you about it. No need for it."
Thanks for the feedback. i think people should know i am on both scenes but i dont know what i am looking for as it just happens lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From a man perspective, I like it.... It says a lot about you, there's no grey areas with your likes/dislikes. It's honest and informative, certainly don't get any negative undertones from reading it......... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"From a man perspective, I like it.... It says a lot about you, there's no grey areas with your likes/dislikes. It's honest and informative, certainly don't get any negative undertones from reading it........."
aww ty |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thanks for the feedback. i think people should know i am on both scenes but i dont know what i am looking for as it just happens lol "
No worries, i don't know what i'm looking for either. Prefer sub guys because they're very non-threatening, have hardly had a horrible message on here specifically because of this.
I didn't take offence to your profile at all, some people are just rude and expect everything to revolve around them, and at least your profile is just there for them to decide whether they are interested or not, their rude messages are actually intrusive and out of order imo. Well, at least you can block them straight away and not have to meet them.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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no idea why people would say those things to you, I,ve seen much more "up their own ass" profiles on here, yours is normal and straight to the point, ignore the whingers !!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had this a while ago a guy mailed me to say he did,nt like my attitude and found my profile offensive and would,nt attend any party i was advertising and then blocked me before i could ask what he found offensive about my attitude as i had never spoken to him before |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi J, I had no problem with your profile - as one of those who would be ed out by it! I think the main problem is that people seem to confuse "swinger" with "easy / desperate" and get annoyed when they are not right for someone - the "but I'm different" or "how do you know if you haven't tried" brigade, even when it would almost certainly end in a car crash. Stick to your guns - the ones you piss off have proved not to be worth it anyway.  |
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By *awkesWoman
over a year ago
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"Nothing wrong with it, it's probably those that don't meet your requirements that are doing the complaining!  "
I agree here. . Actually makes me think I should do similar as I've not really written in my profile which means I tend to spend most of my time explaining... only thing really ..and it's small..is the first 'No No'... may come across as a bit harsh. I always reply to every message even if it's to let them know how inappropriate some are being so hopefully they will think next time they message a girl. X
Otherwise decent profile..sorts alot out early on I think! |
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Jacqs
I love your pofile and have you on my hot list, i have been thinking of messaging you for days. The only reason i havent is i am more into kink than vanilla - you have mentioned the two dont mix |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Jacqs
I love your pofile and have you on my hot list, i have been thinking of messaging you for days. The only reason i havent is i am more into kink than vanilla - you have mentioned the two dont mix "
thanks but im not looking for a meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sounds fine to me. Just a few things. Has anyone really said you shouldn't dress a certain way on here? do you need that in? It also gives the impression they have to immediately impress you with the chit chat or its bye bye - might seem a bit harsh. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sounds fine to me. Just a few things. Has anyone really said you shouldn't dress a certain way on here? do you need that in? It also gives the impression they have to immediately impress you with the chit chat or its bye bye - might seem a bit harsh."
means i wear what i want and noone will tell me what to do
and a 1st impression on a message is important i feel as it will make you reply or delete |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why shouldn't your profile be about you
Your on fab for your satisfaction not anyone else's! You stay "up your own arse" girl if they don't like it they're probably not worth meeting anyway !
Keep having fun;) |
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Direct and to the point
I (the mrs) don't find it offensive or arsy etc...
We're having a revamp of our profile, for same reason, you've got to be this way I think, otherwise the genuine ones who do read it won't know what your looking for
And as a woman you have to protect yourself, so making the statements you have makes everthing clear |
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I always think that if your profile is attracting the right sort of people its working and if it isn't.....then its not.
I'm not your target audience so my opinion isn't significant but I think its far too long and a little bit aggressive. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why shouldn't your profile be about you
Your on fab for your satisfaction not anyone else's! You stay "up your own arse" girl if they don't like it they're probably not worth meeting anyway !
Keep having fun;) "
thanks x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Direct and to the point
I (the mrs) don't find it offensive or arsy etc...
We're having a revamp of our profile, for same reason, you've got to be this way I think, otherwise the genuine ones who do read it won't know what your looking for
And as a woman you have to protect yourself, so making the statements you have makes everthing clear "
thank you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always think that if your profile is attracting the right sort of people its working and if it isn't.....then its not.
I'm not your target audience so my opinion isn't significant but I think its far too long and a little bit aggressive. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I always think that if your profile is attracting the right sort of people its working and if it isn't.....then its not.
I'm not your target audience so my opinion isn't significant but I think its far too long and a little bit aggressive. "
I feel you have to be aggressive on here or some people will try walk over you.
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By *tloversCouple
over a year ago
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I think you come across as not very friendly and a bit errr angry!
But lots of men like dominant women and you are obviously not having any problems meeting people so stuff it! Leave it as you want it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No I ant see anything in your profile that would suggest that your up your own arse at all .... Probably the reason that a guy said that is you probably were asked for fuck and said no ... He got all huffy and was being a nob !!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think you come across as not very friendly and a bit errr angry!
But lots of men like dominant women and you are obviously not having any problems meeting people so stuff it! Leave it as you want it!"
angry no im not like that im just straight talking and when i used to have a more friendly profile some men and couples didnt understand the word No!!
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"I always think that if your profile is attracting the right sort of people its working and if it isn't.....then its not.
I'm not your target audience so my opinion isn't significant but I think its far too long and a little bit aggressive.
I feel you have to be aggressive on here or some people will try walk over you.
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That's fair enough. Why are you asking for our opinion on it though? You said you wondered if it was in your face too much but you seem to know exactly how you want it...or have you just answered your own question? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"No I ant see anything in your profile that would suggest that your up your own arse at all .... Probably the reason that a guy said that is you probably were asked for fuck and said no ... He got all huffy and was being a nob !!! "
nothing about me rejecting anyone or anything just something i wanted to ask |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I always think that if your profile is attracting the right sort of people its working and if it isn't.....then its not.
I'm not your target audience so my opinion isn't significant but I think its far too long and a little bit aggressive.
I feel you have to be aggressive on here or some people will try walk over you.
That's fair enough. Why are you asking for our opinion on it though? You said you wondered if it was in your face too much but you seem to know exactly how you want it...or have you just answered your own question? "
Playing fire with fire so to speak x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No I ant see anything in your profile that would suggest that your up your own arse at all .... Probably the reason that a guy said that is you probably were asked for fuck and said no ... He got all huffy and was being a nob !!!
nothing about me rejecting anyone or anything just something i wanted to ask "
ok but no your profiles all good totally x |
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"I think you come across as not very friendly and a bit errr angry!
But lots of men like dominant women and you are obviously not having any problems meeting people so stuff it! Leave it as you want it!
angry no im not like that im just straight talking and when i used to have a more friendly profile some men and couples didnt understand the word No!!
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you're doing the classic thing that lots of men get slated for, asking for advice on a specific problem but when someone gives you some saying that you have to be like it or that's how you want it.  |
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"I always think that if your profile is attracting the right sort of people its working and if it isn't.....then its not.
I'm not your target audience so my opinion isn't significant but I think its far too long and a little bit aggressive.
I feel you have to be aggressive on here or some people will try walk over you.
That's fair enough. Why are you asking for our opinion on it though? You said you wondered if it was in your face too much but you seem to know exactly how you want it...or have you just answered your own question?
Playing fire with fire so to speak x"
Oh right |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think you come across as not very friendly and a bit errr angry!
But lots of men like dominant women and you are obviously not having any problems meeting people so stuff it! Leave it as you want it!
angry no im not like that im just straight talking and when i used to have a more friendly profile some men and couples didnt understand the word No!!
you're doing the classic thing that lots of men get slated for, asking for advice on a specific problem but when someone gives you some saying that you have to be like it or that's how you want it. "
Im actually taking it all on board actually. and i havent asked if my profile needs tweaking just thoughts as i am aware swinging and bdsm does not always mix |
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"I think you come across as not very friendly and a bit errr angry!
But lots of men like dominant women and you are obviously not having any problems meeting people so stuff it! Leave it as you want it!
angry no im not like that im just straight talking and when i used to have a more friendly profile some men and couples didnt understand the word No!!
you're doing the classic thing that lots of men get slated for, asking for advice on a specific problem but when someone gives you some saying that you have to be like it or that's how you want it.
Im actually taking it all on board actually. and i havent asked if my profile needs tweaking just thoughts as i am aware swinging and bdsm does not always mix "
Ok, sorry I was just responding to your "thoughts please" bit at the end of your first post.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think you come across as not very friendly and a bit errr angry!
But lots of men like dominant women and you are obviously not having any problems meeting people so stuff it! Leave it as you want it!
angry no im not like that im just straight talking and when i used to have a more friendly profile some men and couples didnt understand the word No!!
you're doing the classic thing that lots of men get slated for, asking for advice on a specific problem but when someone gives you some saying that you have to be like it or that's how you want it.
Im actually taking it all on board actually. and i havent asked if my profile needs tweaking just thoughts as i am aware swinging and bdsm does not always mix
Ok, sorry I was just responding to your "thoughts please" bit at the end of your first post.
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Thats fine thats why i asked for "thoughts" |
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"I think you come across as not very friendly and a bit errr angry!
But lots of men like dominant women and you are obviously not having any problems meeting people so stuff it! Leave it as you want it!
angry no im not like that im just straight talking and when i used to have a more friendly profile some men and couples didnt understand the word No!!
you're doing the classic thing that lots of men get slated for, asking for advice on a specific problem but when someone gives you some saying that you have to be like it or that's how you want it.
Im actually taking it all on board actually. and i havent asked if my profile needs tweaking just thoughts as i am aware swinging and bdsm does not always mix
Ok, sorry I was just responding to your "thoughts please" bit at the end of your first post.
Thats fine thats why i asked for "thoughts" "
ok well my thoughts are that if it ain't broke don't fix it.
I also think you will get very different answers from women and men  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think you come across as not very friendly and a bit errr angry!
But lots of men like dominant women and you are obviously not having any problems meeting people so stuff it! Leave it as you want it!
angry no im not like that im just straight talking and when i used to have a more friendly profile some men and couples didnt understand the word No!!
you're doing the classic thing that lots of men get slated for, asking for advice on a specific problem but when someone gives you some saying that you have to be like it or that's how you want it.
Im actually taking it all on board actually. and i havent asked if my profile needs tweaking just thoughts as i am aware swinging and bdsm does not always mix
Ok, sorry I was just responding to your "thoughts please" bit at the end of your first post.
Thats fine thats why i asked for "thoughts"
ok well my thoughts are that if it ain't broke don't fix it.
also think you will get very different answers from women and men "
yeah but women are usually the bitchiness and the honest on here so it will be interesting to see views |
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"I think you come across as not very friendly and a bit errr angry!
But lots of men like dominant women and you are obviously not having any problems meeting people so stuff it! Leave it as you want it!
angry no im not like that im just straight talking and when i used to have a more friendly profile some men and couples didnt understand the word No!!
you're doing the classic thing that lots of men get slated for, asking for advice on a specific problem but when someone gives you some saying that you have to be like it or that's how you want it.
Im actually taking it all on board actually. and i havent asked if my profile needs tweaking just thoughts as i am aware swinging and bdsm does not always mix
Ok, sorry I was just responding to your "thoughts please" bit at the end of your first post.
Thats fine thats why i asked for "thoughts"
ok well my thoughts are that if it ain't broke don't fix it.
also think you will get very different answers from women and men
yeah but women are usually the bitchiness and the honest on here so it will be interesting to see views"
ouch! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think you come across as not very friendly and a bit errr angry!
But lots of men like dominant women and you are obviously not having any problems meeting people so stuff it! Leave it as you want it!
angry no im not like that im just straight talking and when i used to have a more friendly profile some men and couples didnt understand the word No!!
you're doing the classic thing that lots of men get slated for, asking for advice on a specific problem but when someone gives you some saying that you have to be like it or that's how you want it.
Im actually taking it all on board actually. and i havent asked if my profile needs tweaking just thoughts as i am aware swinging and bdsm does not always mix
Ok, sorry I was just responding to your "thoughts please" bit at the end of your first post.
Thats fine thats why i asked for "thoughts"
ok well my thoughts are that if it ain't broke don't fix it.
also think you will get very different answers from women and men
yeah but women are usually the bitchiness and the honest on here so it will be interesting to see views
ouch!"
yet true |
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"I think you come across as not very friendly and a bit errr angry!
But lots of men like dominant women and you are obviously not having any problems meeting people so stuff it! Leave it as you want it!
angry no im not like that im just straight talking and when i used to have a more friendly profile some men and couples didnt understand the word No!!
you're doing the classic thing that lots of men get slated for, asking for advice on a specific problem but when someone gives you some saying that you have to be like it or that's how you want it.
Im actually taking it all on board actually. and i havent asked if my profile needs tweaking just thoughts as i am aware swinging and bdsm does not always mix
Ok, sorry I was just responding to your "thoughts please" bit at the end of your first post.
Thats fine thats why i asked for "thoughts"
ok well my thoughts are that if it ain't broke don't fix it.
also think you will get very different answers from women and men
yeah but women are usually the bitchiness and the honest on here so it will be interesting to see views
ouch!
yet true"
there was no bitchiness intended in my comments. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think you come across as not very friendly and a bit errr angry!
But lots of men like dominant women and you are obviously not having any problems meeting people so stuff it! Leave it as you want it!"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think you come across as not very friendly and a bit errr angry!
But lots of men like dominant women and you are obviously not having any problems meeting people so stuff it! Leave it as you want it!
angry no im not like that im just straight talking and when i used to have a more friendly profile some men and couples didnt understand the word No!!
you're doing the classic thing that lots of men get slated for, asking for advice on a specific problem but when someone gives you some saying that you have to be like it or that's how you want it. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think you come across as not very friendly and a bit errr angry!
But lots of men like dominant women and you are obviously not having any problems meeting people so stuff it! Leave it as you want it!
angry no im not like that im just straight talking and when i used to have a more friendly profile some men and couples didnt understand the word No!!
you're doing the classic thing that lots of men get slated for, asking for advice on a specific problem but when someone gives you some saying that you have to be like it or that's how you want it.
Im actually taking it all on board actually. and i havent asked if my profile needs tweaking just thoughts as i am aware swinging and bdsm does not always mix
Ok, sorry I was just responding to your "thoughts please" bit at the end of your first post.
Thats fine thats why i asked for "thoughts"
ok well my thoughts are that if it ain't broke don't fix it.
also think you will get very different answers from women and men
yeah but women are usually the bitchiness and the honest on here so it will be interesting to see views
ouch!
yet true
there was no bitchiness intended in my comments. "
not aimed at you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I love direct talking, none of the round the houses, so i wouldnt see it that way no.
I love your status, too many like the woman to be the little woman.
Personally it is your profile, say it how you want, wether they love or loath it.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I love direct talking, none of the round the houses, so i wouldnt see it that way no.
I love your status, too many like the woman to be the little woman.
Personally it is your profile, say it how you want, wether they love or loath it.
Her"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always think that if your profile is attracting the right sort of people its working and if it isn't.....then its not.
I'm not your target audience so my opinion isn't significant but I think its far too long and a little bit aggressive.
I feel you have to be aggressive on here or some people will try walk over you.
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Disagree. Friendliness and positivity works fine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always think that if your profile is attracting the right sort of people its working and if it isn't.....then its not.
I'm not your target audience so my opinion isn't significant but I think its far too long and a little bit aggressive.
I feel you have to be aggressive on here or some people will try walk over you.
Disagree. Friendliness and positivity works fine. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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Jacqs sweetie you are straight and to the point and that wont change about you, you know what you want and how you want it, why should you accept anything less? if people find your profile offensive then they should just move on its their issue not yours see you friday babe mwahhhhhhhhhh xxxxxxxxxxxx |
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