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Boundaries broken on a meet

By *evaquit OP Couple over a year ago

Catthorpe

We arranged to meet a guy and the boundaries were set, one being not to cum inside the condom whilst having sex which he agreed upon. Yes, you've guessed it, he totally ignored our request and left us very pissed off indeed. We ended the meet of course and we're still narked.

Your thoughts......

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By *SweetVioletxWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

Where was he supposed to have cum?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wank over in the toilet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Once. Im not keen in fisting since cancer its just not possible (no I dont want offers)

Someone tried recently ended up in a and e

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By *evaquit OP Couple over a year ago

Catthorpe

That was agreed upon also, he would cum on her chest or her back, that was what he said he'd do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I should pop down to the GUM clinic if you are worried. They'll be very understanding and non judgmental and you'll feel better after.

Just put it down to experience and move on. He's not worth worrying about and his lack of respect is a a discredit to the single males on this site who do have respect.

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By *igeiaWoman over a year ago

Bristol

I'm not a bloke but isn't it sometimes a little tricky to time cumming to perfection depending on the excitement levels of the situation? Unless it was a deliberate decision not to pull out when completion was imminent?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I should pop down to the GUM clinic if you are worried. They'll be very understanding and non judgmental and you'll feel better after.

Just put it down to experience and move on. He's not worth worrying about and his lack of respect is a a discredit to the single males on this site who do have respect."

who

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some guys will feed you and bull to get there end away. Looks like you found one

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By *ezebelWoman over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"I'm not a bloke but isn't it sometimes a little tricky to time cumming to perfection depending on the excitement levels of the situation? Unless it was a deliberate decision not to pull out when completion was imminent?"

Thats what I thought too

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By *evaquit OP Couple over a year ago

Catthorpe

Guys as far as I know and obviously I can't speak for all know when they're about to cum and it was obvious when he was about to, we all knew, the build up was there and waited for him to pull out, however, that didn't happen.

(him)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Guys as far as I know and obviously I can't speak for all know when they're about to cum and it was obvious when he was about to, we all knew, the build up was there and waited for him to pull out, however, that didn't happen.

(him)"

so why didnt your missus stop and move?

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By *evaquit OP Couple over a year ago

Catthorpe

Didn't expect it to go to completion and she did say "don't cum inside", that should be enough, no?

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By *ensualtouch15Man over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

Thats what I thought too"

I think so ? It's a bit mean to suggest it as a rule ? A polite , if possible request maybe

There is indeed a point of no return and although a good man should be alert to this it can catch us all by surprise . No idea why gum was mentioned you did say he was in a condom

For me I can be caught out if the lady cums and she squeezes in such a way just at a key moment it is too late

I'm guessing we shall never know if that's all he intended, which at most is a bit selfish hardly a boundary crossed rather a preference unfulfilled ? Or just the way of life

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

(him)"

I think your being abit hard on him, if I had asked a bloke to do that and he cum in the condom, he obviously was turned on,so I would say next round try and do it on my boobage or there wont be a third

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Have you considered that he may of tried not to finish but failed. Accidents happen. Unless he has said he deliberately ignored your requests

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

(him)

so why didnt your missus stop and move?"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some times a guy can't help himself x

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By *SweetVioletxWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

People struggle to control themselves at the best of times when it comes to fucking never mind when in the middle of the act. Crikey I'd wager most would find it hard to comply in such a situation.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I hope this poor bloke isn't reading the Forums

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I stop and can cum then keep going until I orgasum properly did he do this or just cum once ?

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By *ezjez369Man over a year ago

london

"That was agreed upon also, he would cum on her chest or her back, that was what he said he'd do."

having seen your pics (mrs) I can't see why the guy chose to cum in the condom rather than the far more sexier option on offer/agreed.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"I hope this poor bloke isn't reading the Forums

Me too.

Op if you have been upset by this the man himself is the one to talk to. As it is we only have your version of events and that isn't fair or balanced.

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By *ezebelWoman over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"so I would say next round try and do it on my boobage or there wont be a third

If I got bollocked by someone like this because I happened to come when Id been told not to then there wouldnt be a second time with them, never mind a third....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe next time get an egg timer

Her

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I should pop down to the GUM clinic if you are worried. They'll be very understanding and non judgmental and you'll feel better after.

Just put it down to experience and move on. He's not worth worrying about and his lack of respect is a a discredit to the single males on this site who do have respect.

who"

There are plenty of us on here who have massive respect. Tosses like this guy spoil it for us good guys.!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I should pop down to the GUM clinic if you are worried. They'll be very understanding and non judgmental and you'll feel better after.

Just put it down to experience and move on. He's not worth worrying about and his lack of respect is a a discredit to the single males on this site who do have respect.

who

There are plenty of us on here who have massive respect. Tosses like this guy spoil it for us good guys.!"

Dont think hes the tosser tbf

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By *ezebelWoman over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Just put it down to experience and move on. He's not worth worrying about and his lack of respect is a a discredit to the single males on this site who do have respect.

There are plenty of us on here who have massive respect. Tosses like this guy spoil it for us good guys.!"

If anything, comments like these spoil it more

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I must be missing the point of this, a condom is a pain at best of times never mind to try quickly get it off with out twanging the end of your bell - end witch hurts like a bastard

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I should pop down to the GUM clinic if you are worried. They'll be very understanding and non judgmental and you'll feel better after.

Just put it down to experience and move on. He's not worth worrying about and his lack of respect is a a discredit to the single males on this site who do have respect.

who

There are plenty of us on here who have massive respect. Tosses like this guy spoil it for us good guys.!

Dont think hes the tosser tbf"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wouldn't say he spoiled it for other lads it's just one of them things, us blokes have it hard on here as we out number women and couples something like 6 to 1

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We arranged to meet a guy and the boundaries were set, one being not to cum inside the condom whilst having sex which he agreed upon. Yes, you've guessed it, he totally ignored our request and left us very pissed off indeed. We ended the meet of course and we're still narked.

Your thoughts......"

Maybe he couldn't help himself the poor bloke

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I should pop down to the GUM clinic if you are worried. They'll be very understanding and non judgmental and you'll feel better after.

Just put it down to experience and move on. He's not worth worrying about and his lack of respect is a a discredit to the single males on this site who do have respect.

who

There are plenty of us on here who have massive respect. Tosses like this guy spoil it for us good guys.!"

Total rubbish

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I should pop down to the GUM clinic if you are worried. They'll be very understanding and non judgmental and you'll feel better after.

Just put it down to experience and move on. He's not worth worrying about and his lack of respect is a a discredit to the single males on this site who do have respect.

who

There are plenty of us on here who have massive respect. Tosses like this guy spoil it for us good guys.!"

What???

Why???

All the guy did was cum ffs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"so I would say next round try and do it on my boobage or there wont be a third

If I got bollocked by someone like this because I happened to come when Id been told not to then there wouldnt be a second time with them, never mind a third...."

doubt you would get bollocked being a woman we are known to cum alot

I was thinking of the poor man he came to quick in excitedness, hence I would have another round to get my wishes of cum on my boobage, he may not have done it on purpose

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This being why couples mf tend not to appeal to me anymore.

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By *randmrsRCouple over a year ago

Cambridge

So, one thing didn't go the way You wanted it and you threw the bloke out? Seems a bit over the top!

In effect you ruined your own night. Seems a bit daft to me!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I stopped when he tried and I got dressed and went home..

Im.not stupid my boundaries are for a reason and anyone cant respect them its bye

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You would of had something to grumble about if he ripped it off without you looking.

He cum in a condom, that is what they are for.

Her

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I should pop down to the GUM clinic if you are worried. They'll be very understanding and non judgmental and you'll feel better after.

Just put it down to experience and move on. He's not worth worrying about and his lack of respect is a a discredit to the single males on this site who do have respect.

who

There are plenty of us on here who have massive respect. Tosses like this guy spoil it for us good guys.!"

Ill be one of the tossers then. Any meet as to be mutual fun for us both not i can cum but you cant.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I should pop down to the GUM clinic if you are worried. They'll be very understanding and non judgmental and you'll feel better after.

Just put it down to experience and move on. He's not worth worrying about and his lack of respect is a a discredit to the single males on this site who do have respect.

who

There are plenty of us on here who have massive respect. Tosses like this guy spoil it for us good guys.!

Ill be one of the tossers then. Any meet as to be mutual fun for us both not i can cum but you cant."

I agree its about mutual fun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This being why couples mf tend not to appeal to me anymore. "

Some attitudes make me cringe to my toes and I'm half of a couple myself

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your thoughts......"

Can I ask what the issue is with him cumming in a condom, or did you just want your boobs covered in jizz

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By *S_PennyTV/TS over a year ago

Selby

Got to say if your mrs squeezed or tensed her muscles at the time it could well have been quite hard for him not to cum.

At least it was in the condom lot more worrying if it wasn't. What would have happened if he whipped it out and then cum before he could get it up to your chest?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sounds like the bloke should have just turned up wanked over you and left

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Got to say if your mrs squeezed or tensed her muscles at the time it could well have been quite hard for him not to cum.

At least it was in the condom lot more worrying if it wasn't. What would have happened if he whipped it out and then cum before he could get it up to your chest?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This being why couples mf tend not to appeal to me anymore.

Some attitudes make me cringe to my toes and I'm half of a couple myself

i find they tend to want singles as their fun or experiment... Obviously not all couples

but i think it all has to be equally shared out not just what one party wants x

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It's not that easy for some guys to stop cumming once it builds, mere seconds and by the time the guy had thought 'oh Christ! The rule!' it was too late. I would have encouraged him to cum over your tits first time round then wherever second and third where you wanted by wanking. All 3 of you would have got something you wanted. At least you used a condom

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

lol condoms are meant to cum inside.. thread of the day

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Got to say if your mrs squeezed or tensed her muscles at the time it could well have been quite hard for him not to cum.

At least it was in the condom lot more worrying if it wasn't. What would have happened if he whipped it out and then cum before he could get it up to your chest?

yup not everyone has great aim... Im glad im not a dude be in the eye... Curtains on the dog pmsl

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

From a blokes point ov view, we can normally feel the build before cumming which would allow time to whip the condom off and do whatever was agreed but there are times when you get caught out, when things just happen all of a sudden...its more testament to you he couldn't hold no?

You ladies know how many variations of an orgasm there are...it isn't just a simple case of that's what one is like so maybe give the guy some slack...he probably wouldn't have wanted to piss you off and fuck up his chances of repeating a good time.

That's my take on it but then...I'm not in possesion of all the facts on both sides so i'm really just guessing and blowing smoke

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *evaquit OP Couple over a year ago

Catthorpe

He could have cum as many times as he'd have liked, just take the penis out when you're about to cum, is that so hard to do? It's what we wanted, if he though he couldn't do that then don't meet us, we wouldn't have minded being turned down for our fickleness for want of a word.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not the dog for the love of animals not on the dog

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"He could have cum as many times as he'd have liked, just take the penis out when you're about to cum, is that so hard to do? It's what we wanted, if he though he couldn't do that then don't meet us, we wouldn't have minded being turned down for our fickleness for want of a word."

Really

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The OP did state before the meet he was not to Cum inside the condom but on her tits we all have bonderies even small ones that should be respected by all and he didn't respect them so well done for stopping the fun there and then.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wonder what the veris will be like lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

see all about them

he probably would av gone again but you kicked him out

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Maybe it was for him - too difficult. Maybe he wanted to and met you both fully intending to play by your rules but just screwed up. When he went to the loo, you could have emptied his used condom into his shoe

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The OP did state before the meet he was not to Cum inside the condom but on her tits we all have bonderies even small ones that should be respected by all and he didn't respect them so well done for stopping the fun there and then."

The guy allready had hes fun by the sounds of it lol

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By *S_PennyTV/TS over a year ago

Selby

But you might have found it put it in for about a minute, couple of strokes then had to whip it out again. Proper disappointing shag that would have been.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And you know he did it with the intention of ' distespecting' them how? We're you there, did he tell you, or are you making assumptions?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Once. Im not keen in fisting since cancer its just not possible (no I dont want offers)

Someone tried recently ended up in a and e

With a bloody nose?

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By *aughty grease monkeyMan over a year ago

Coventry

Think a very selfish person only thinking of his own pleasure not others that's my thinking who agrees xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

lol and yes as one said, the guy had his fun, so he was pleased

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By *oodmessMan over a year ago

yumsville

Your thoughts......"

Is this where the profiles using:

"very fussy", "very selective", quality over quantity" and "exceptional" come into play

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Unless the guy came in two minutes, I think you are being wholly unreasonable! Matt

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So, one thing didn't go the way You wanted it and you threw the bloke out? Seems a bit over the top!

In effect you ruined your own night. Seems a bit daft to me!

All seems a little petty moaning that he came in the condom not on your boobs, seems to be little respect for this guy, sometimes I wonder how some couples can treat guys like this, surely play should be mutual fun for everyone involved, sick of seeing couples dictating to single guys what will happen at a meet, just because they can!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Has there been contact since ? Apologies given ? Or even a veri from either party ?

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By *evaquit OP Couple over a year ago

Catthorpe

We do have our boundaries but we leave plenty and I mean plenty of room for scope, we're hardly the vanilla type as far as sex goes. We talk thoroughly with our meets and always want to please our guest, and always want the guy(s) to leave knowing they've had a great time. We respect boundaries completely, there's nothing wrong with wanting that in return.

We take on board the "accidents happen" point, just wanted to hear what you people had to say and we're glad we did, keeps thing in perspective.

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By *S_PennyTV/TS over a year ago

Selby

"Think a very selfish person only thinking of his own pleasure not others that's my thinking who agrees xx"

Granted I do get that and yes it is possible he was like that. Difficult to tell without being him really.

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By *entaur_UKMan over a year ago

Cannock

"lol condoms are meant to cum inside.. thread of the day

What if the condom had split without him realising?

Condoms do split from time to time.

I think the OP is more annoyed about the guy not doing what was pre-agreed before the meet. If that is what was agreed before the meet then that is what should happen, its about respect for other peoples boundaries more than anything else. This guy did not respect the boundaries and then it becomes an issue of trust. Would you be happy to meet someone you don't trust?

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By *evaquit OP Couple over a year ago

Catthorpe

No contact, no veri, nothing but it's been on our minds. Move on and put it down to experience I guess.

(him)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Haha poor guy is probably reading this and is gutted, men can't control it as well as they think,, everybody has accidents, my one rule is no cum in my face, do you know it's hsppened so many times where the guy is so turned on by the bj that you can feel when they are going to cum, so whip it out the mouth, bosh in the face, can't get upset though, it just happens, least it was in the jonny

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Think a very selfish person only thinking of his own pleasure not others that's my thinking who agrees xx"

I love white knight syndrome... We weren't there.. Sounds like he got too excited.... And was doing exactly as asked x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd give him another go , apart from crossing a boundary by accident or not I would go again , thats unless he was usless if he was great upto that point it might seem a shame u have lost a good reliable guy and not a messer ??

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By *oodmessMan over a year ago

yumsville

"We do have our boundaries but we leave plenty and I mean plenty of room for scope, we're hardly the vanilla type as far as sex goes. We talk thoroughly with our meets and always want to please our guest, and always want the guy(s) to leave knowing they've had a great time. We respect boundaries completely, there's nothing wrong with wanting that in return.

We take on board the "accidents happen" point, just wanted to hear what you people had to say and we're glad we did, keeps thing in perspective."

mm a littler perspective is good. There are plenty more meets, and plenty more guys for your fantasy. The number of useless shags from both men and women, doesn't necessitate people coming on and dogging the other party out - it does come across like that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe the time was cut short, and he used his judgement, to cum in the condom, rather than ripping it off.

He then could of cum at your entrance.

Her

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe the time was cut short, and he used his judgement, to cum in the condom, rather than ripping it off.

He then could of cum at your entrance.

Her"

Was thinking same

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

By the way you cant guarantee it wont happened again with others, its a hit and miss thing.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Think a very selfish person only thinking of his own pleasure not others that's my thinking who agrees xx"

You don't know this man how can you make such judgments based on this one thread!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No contact, no veri, nothing but it's been on our minds. Move on and put it down to experience I guess.

(him)"

Our first attempt at a threesome - and I hasten to say the guy is not on this site! - had him fuck Jane for literally two minutes, so hard and badly it made her bleed, then pulled out and came. Then cleared off.

So, OP, could be worse!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe the time was cut short, and he used his judgement, to cum in the condom, rather than ripping it off.

He then could of cum at your entrance.

Her"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We take on board the "accidents happen" point, just wanted to hear what you people had to say and we're glad we did, keeps thing in perspective."

Thats a really nice response,lets hope the next meet goes a little more to plan

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By *evaquit OP Couple over a year ago

Catthorpe

Yes, can see that, however, we'd never put that profile in the domain. Just wanted to know peoples thoughts on our exprience and that's what we have got.

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By *ildman2Man over a year ago

Ribble valley

Looking at your pics he was lucky even to get his cock inside you with out cumming !

My first load would have been over your gorgeous thighs ! Lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

MY fb once asked me to hold off on cumming I was right on the verge pulled out then spent the next 5 minutes working back up to the point of spurting by which time we were both bored.

Yes you can feel it coming stopping it removing a condom getting into the right position to spunk on her tits not as easy as it sounds just my two penneth worth.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's a great shame for you. And just destroyed your trust. No wonder you ended the meet. If boundaries are spoken about and agreed there is no excuse Just a shame I'm out you age range Not all guys are like that. All the best David xxx

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"No contact, no veri, nothing but it's been on our minds. Move on and put it down to experience I guess.

(him)

Our first attempt at a threesome - and I hasten to say the guy is not on this site! - had him fuck Jane for literally two minutes, so hard and badly it made her

bleed, then pulled out and came. Then

cleared off.

So, OP, could be worse!"

That is really awful!

OP: May I respectfully suggest that you post the used condom to Shagtonight? As a crimbo pressie

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Think a very selfish person only thinking of his own pleasure not others that's my thinking who agrees xx

You don't know this man how can you make such judgments based on this one thread!

because he thinks it looks like the right thing to say thats why, and hes not alone saying it, Cali hit it on the head, White Knight syndrome

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like a guy to cum on my tits...I tend not to fuck them to the point of no return so that I get what I want...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No contact, no veri, nothing but it's been on our minds. Move on and put it down to experience I guess.

(him)

Our first attempt at a threesome - and I hasten to say the guy is not on this site! - had him fuck Jane for literally two minutes, so hard and badly it made her

bleed, then pulled out and came. Then

cleared off.

So, OP, could be worse!

That is really awful!

OP: May I respectfully suggest that you post the used condom to Shagtonight? As a crimbo pressie

"
Yes I can have it lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

O.p. have you tried to do this yourselves? Me and Mo often use condoms with just each other but when I'm wearing one and she asks me to cum on her boobs it suddenly becomes a challange to maintain the stimulation while at the same time as trying to get the condom off and still be able to cum without standing over her tossing off for 10 mins.

They should do certificates for it!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

well hes shot himself in the foot so to speak - no second chance if that was agreed but it might have been hard to stop - what did he have to say after the event?

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By *riendly FiresCouple over a year ago

Beverley

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By *SweetVioletxWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

More of a preference than boundary issue in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your thoughts......"

I think you are making a big deal over nothing, did you want to reuse the condom.

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By *y2funMan over a year ago

DUDLEY

" did you want to reuse the condom."

sorry I laughed at this

i (male half) do think there is far too many rules and do's n don'ts...... things like this are bound to happen.... I pop in 12 seconds flat so my the time I'm in, I'm done......

I guess you just chalk it up as a shit meet that didn't work......

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By *y2funMan over a year ago

DUDLEY

My first load would have been -

lucky man I'm one pop on the 12 second mark then sleepppppppppppppppppppp

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Seems to me that you've set the rule "no cumming in condom" more because you wanted him to spunk over her back than because you were worried about condom breakage. Though to be fair he probably should have just sounded out that he was near the edge?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" did you want to reuse the condom.

sorry I laughed at this

i (male half) do think there is far too many rules and do's n don'ts...... things like this are bound to happen.... I pop in 12 seconds flat so my the time I'm in, I'm done......

I guess you just chalk it up as a shit meet that didn't work...... "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've read about half the thread not all of it so I'm sure my point has already been raised but sod it, here goes anyway.

Nor sure why the OP is getting such a hard time? They made it clear from the outset that they wanted him to cum over her, not in her. He could have opted not to proceed at that point but I assume he agreed to this condition.

It would appear (obviously we only have one side of the story and nobody else was there) that he disregarded this and carried on regardless and cum inside her anyway. The OP has said that it was obvious what was happening and my interpretation is that he disregarded their wishes and carried on to cum inside her.

Now if that's the case fair enough, I think the OP is justified in being pissed off - he disregarded the agreed approach. Ground rules are ground rules and should be observed in my humble opinion

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've read about half the thread not all of it so I'm sure my point has already been raised but sod it, here goes anyway.

Now if that's the case fair enough, I think the OP is justified in being pissed off - he disregarded the agreed approach. Ground rules are ground rules and should be observed in my humble opinion "

If I have to jump through hoops to get a fuck, I will stick to wanking.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Men definitely know when they are going to cum. And no, I am sure the condom wouldn't be off before they cum

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your thoughts......"

Maybe he couldn't help himself some guys don't have total control.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your thoughts......"

Whether it was deliberate or accidental, no point getting narked. Perhaps next time have a repeater so if the guy accidently cums inside the condom, the mrs can give him a bj and have him slip it out and cum over her tits.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd say this story has two sides.

On the one hand the guy should've pulled out at the last minute. It's really easy to tell when you're gonna cum, even if it comes on suddenly, so simply withdrawing could easily have been done. Yes he probably would've cum in the condom rather than on her breasts... but at least it wouldn't have been inside her as they requested.

On the other hand, I think it's an example of a rule which doesn't make sense. Because it doesn't really make sense... it's easy to forget it. The guy's got his cock in a condom. What more do you want? An industrial rubber glove?

People are free to make up whatever rules they want in swinging. But the more unrealistic or odd they are, the less chance they have of anyone really abiding by them. Like insisting that someone fuck your wife up the arse without going anywhere near her bum.

So guys... withdrawing is always an option. And couples... make rules that make sense. That's my take on it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Would it be a pleasurable orgasm for a guy if hes thinking Im really enjoying this but I have to stop what Im doing to pull out and cum over her tits?

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By *utumnWoman over a year ago

leeds

Just put it down to experience and move on. He's not worth worrying about and his lack of respect is a a discredit to the single males on this site who do have respect.

There are plenty of us on here who have massive respect. Tosses like this guy spoil it for us good guys.!

If anything, comments like these spoil it more

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your thoughts......"

My thoughts are...

I don't understand why the guy would still play with a couple after such a request had been made.

Surely to have an amazing experience the sex has to be pleasurable for all involved, sounds like he was just the performing seal.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Am i only one thinking this is a bit dramatic.

If he had whipped condom off and fucked bare then yes fair enough all he did was cum in the condom.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Am i only one thinking this is a bit dramatic.

If he had whipped condom off and fucked bare then yes fair enough all he did was cum in the condom.

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Yes its to dramatic that, and as well it wont make the op any favors either as other will see how they treat single men in future meets.

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By *entaur_UKMan over a year ago

Cannock

Its easy to stop yourself cumming, just sing the Frankie goes to Hollywood song "Relax, don't do it, when you wanna go to it, relax don't do it, when you wanna cum".

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By *evaquit OP Couple over a year ago

Catthorpe

Totally about condom breakage. The cumming on the tits or back was an option as was just taking out the penis and cumming in the condom, rhythm method stuff. Where he came was upto him if he thought tits or back would be a good spectacle for him then that was good enough for us or in the condom also, just not in her as agreed as we didn't want to run the risk of a broken condom, all spoken about previously between all parties.

Don't mind people thinking it's petty but that's our preference on a meet and we don't mind losing meets because of it. We're not here to rack up tons of veris just to enjoy meets with like minded with mutual respect.

Anyway......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Totally about condom breakage. The cumming on the tits or back was an option as was just taking out the penis and cumming in the condom, rhythm method stuff. Where he came was upto him if he thought tits or back would be a good spectacle for him then that was good enough for us or in the condom also, just not in her as agreed as we didn't want to run the risk of a broken condom, all spoken about previously between all parties.

Anyway......"

If that's your preference then that's cool. However if you are bringing a stranger into your sexual play you cannot control what that person may or may not do in the heat of the moment.

Control the controllable.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think it's dramatic. You agree something beforehand and stick to it. He could have pulled out but he chose not to. What is an acceptable breaking of rules? Why have them if you aren't expected to keep them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Breakage is the main problem I understand that but a condom can break at any time during the dance with no pants. Yes it's a risk we all take but a bit of faith it the rubber or you may never really enjoy the meets as breaking will always be on your mind.

purely my opinion

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Am i only one thinking this is a bit dramatic.

If he had whipped condom off and fucked bare then yes fair enough all he did was cum in the condom.

If he had taken the condom off then that would have been rape. Not a recommended course of action.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

Anyway......"

No problem with your issue with boundaries being broken we would be angry too and can understand why you have that boundary in place.

My point is that you seem to be clear in your own minds that you are right to be annoyed so I wonder why you want our views.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Am i only one thinking this is a bit dramatic.

If he had whipped condom off and fucked bare then yes fair enough all he did was cum in the condom.

If he had taken the condom off then that would have been rape. Not a recommended course of action.

Are you sure about that ^^

Surely it's the act of sex you've consented to.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Am i only one thinking this is a bit dramatic.

If he had whipped condom off and fucked bare then yes fair enough all he did was cum in the condom.

If he had taken the condom off then that would have been rape. Not a recommended course of action.

What a ridiculous comment you actually think theres no rape if condom is used it beggars belief.

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By *evaquit OP Couple over a year ago

Catthorpe

Wouldn't say we are right to be annoyed but that's how we certainly felt. It's good to hear other views and opinions for reflection and perspective and that's what we're doing.

Enjoying the read.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Wouldn't say we are right to be annoyed but that's how we certainly felt. It's good to hear other views and opinions for reflection and perspective and that's what we're doing.

Enjoying the read."

And it's good to see that you can engage in discussion without becoming defensive or aggressive.

It's a learning curve this swinging lark.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your thoughts......"

Eek...blimey.

I don't have a thought other than eek!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Since when did sex become complex sucks the enjoyment right out of it

btw earlier in the thread u stated the cum on her was 'your thing' never mentioned condom breakage.

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By *eneral HysteriaMan over a year ago

Newcastle

Just put it down to experience and move on. He's not worth worrying about and his lack of respect is a a discredit to the single males on this site who do have respect.

There are plenty of us on here who have massive respect. Tosses like this guy spoil it for us good guys.!

If anything, comments like these spoil it more

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By *rystal denisonWoman over a year ago

trowbridge

"I should pop down to the GUM clinic if you are worried. They'll be very understanding and non judgmental and you'll feel better after.

Just put it down to experience and move on. He's not worth worrying about and his lack of respect is a a discredit to the single males on this site who do have respect.

who

There are plenty of us on here who have massive respect. Tosses like this guy spoil it for us good guys.!

Total rubbish

sounds like the poor guy couldnt control his nob , rather than that he did it out of spite

to be fair to him it must be hard to stop yourself if its just too late

plus if its wrapped up then its not like any huge harm was done

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By *kin BohnerMan over a year ago

derby

Your thoughts......"

Maybe the guy just got carried away, I mean you are a bit of a babe

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By *rystal denisonWoman over a year ago

trowbridge

if there not pissing about with the condom then they shud not break .

if hes taking it all the way out and putting it back in this can break it

pulling at it at the end to tighten it can be a way to break them as well as you getting dry .

if it broke he can 100% feel the difference cant tell by the posts if this happened or not x

hope your ok

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By *eneral HysteriaMan over a year ago

Newcastle

"It's what we wanted..."

I couldn't help reading this line while stamping my feet ferociously.

Does this make me weird?

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

If you had all agreed the boundaries then everyone should stick to them unless you all change them on the night....however...maybe he just got carried away, lets face it when you are nearly there the urge to carry on must take over.

Although we don't discuss it as a boundary as such...I know I would rather the cum be over my boobs than inside me too, sometimes that hasn't happened but it didn't put me off or end the meet.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

PS I am surprised at how many people are questioning peoples agreed boundaries though....if it was a BB boundary and he tried BB there would be uproar.....it shouldn't matter what the agreed boundary is surely

( although I still think he probably just got to the point of no return )

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I could understand your anger if you weren't using condoms (although STIs and pregnancy can occur just from the pre cum anyway). Sounds like he was using a condom though so I would say a little jokey slap on the wrist was due rather than making him feel like a total failure?!

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

Did you ask him if he ignored your request on purpose or if it was just a heat of the moment thing he couldn't control?

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By *rystal denisonWoman over a year ago

trowbridge

"Did you ask him if he ignored your request on purpose or if it was just a heat of the moment thing he couldn't control? "

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By *evaquit OP Couple over a year ago

Catthorpe

Sorry if this upset you but we do like certain things to happen and so has every person we have met, there's nothing new there. We're not the type who are ott or selfish, far from it and we don't like our meets weighted in our favour, rather a balance is best in many aspects we find.

Apologies for going slightly off topic there.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Sorry if this upset you but we do like certain things to happen and so has every person we have met, there's nothing new there. We're not the type who are ott or selfish, far from it and we don't like our meets weighted in our favour, rather a balance is best in many aspects we find.

Apologies for going slightly off topic there.

a point I made earlier was that this discussion is weighted in your favour though since we don't have his account of what happened. It does render certain aspects of the discussion invalid due to that.

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By *evaquit OP Couple over a year ago

Catthorpe

He said he didn't cum whilst inside her, we've since showed him that he did to which he admitted it which is what prompted this thread.

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By *evaquit OP Couple over a year ago

Catthorpe

Think we'll leave the thread (us) at this point, we've enjoyed reading the posts.

Time to get back to chatting and enjoying meets where we've met some very good people, looking forward to that continuing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

After reading this thread im quiet shocked at the amount of people who think it's ok to break a boundary that had been set and agreed on by both parties.

If the guy wasn't happy with what was set he could of declined the meet and that's that.. But to then break the boundary that is awful behaviour and well done to you both for ending the meet!

Hope it's not put you off future meets

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Think we'll leave the thread (us) at this point, we've enjoyed reading the posts.

Time to get back to chatting and enjoying meets where we've met some very good people, looking forward to that continuing.

Best wishes for future meets

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By *iss-PinkWoman over a year ago

Gloucester

Your thoughts......"

I'd say get over it. The guy may have been taken a bit by surprise/ thought he could manage a few extra thrusts before pulling out. It happens. And it's actually a compliment in a way if he didn't manage to control himself. Also, at the end of the day it was in a condom. So it didn't end as planned.

Don't carry on sweating the small stuff

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By *iss-PinkWoman over a year ago

Gloucester

Having read more it appears he agreed to do it and then lied that he had cum inside - even so, it's not worth getting worked up about and staying narked over. No harm done. Chalk it up. Never meet him again and move on to someone else

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So what. You didn't get his cum! At least he didn't shoot inside you without a condom when he was told not to.

Get over it.

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By *ouplekinkCouple over a year ago

kink town

I think if you are that worried about a condom breaking, then stick to soft swap.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

One wonders how it can be proved that he came inside or came out and didn't get the jonny off to shoot it over your back, all rather funny if you ask me,,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

that's very good advice... had a couple break on us and risky it is but not intentional and I guess playing is a gamble really. Its just minimising the risk...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Interesting... if someone genuinely lets you down... not respecting boundaries or now showing like verifications, which all seem positive, there should be a way to feedback those who are less than genuine. It bit like swingers trip advisor! in your case he may have lost half a star! May be standardising feedback areas? may be crack pot idea but just a thought?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Interesting... if someone genuinely lets you down... not respecting boundaries or now showing like verifications, which all seem positive, there should be a way to feedback those who are less than genuine. It bit like swingers trip advisor! in your case he may have lost half a star! May be standardising feedback areas? may be crack pot idea but just a thought?"

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By *adyGardenWoman over a year ago

LONDON (se)

I don't think this a boundary broken more a request/preferenc not fulfilled. The same thing has happened to me so I get you disappointed because it wasn't the end you wanted. However the rest of the with said guy was pretty damn good. Although I was a bit narked it didn't end how I wanted we did meet again and this time it worked out.

If he was apologetic I don't get why you are so annoyed at the poor guy and if that the only thing wrongthen at the end of it all it was agood meet surely

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think admin should track him down and ban him

there's no wonder men on here get such a bad name when you get twat like this cunning in condoms

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your thoughts......"

my thoughts are you need to get a grip, people you meet are not performing monkey for your pleasure, when you have to cum you have to cum, maybe he genuinely didn't have time to get the condom off

as for ending the meet after he had cum all i can say to that is PMSL

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well done at least the guy got his fun, that's what matters lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well done at least the guy got his fun, that's what matters lol

I like fisting men when I've tied them up and gagged them. You won't mind will you,it's just a bit of fun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well done at least the guy got his fun, that's what matters lol

I like fisting men when I've tied them up and gagged them. You won't mind will you,it's just a bit of fun

"
I don't mind it at all, in fact it fun, can you use the strapon to?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well done at least the guy got his fun, that's what matters lol

I like fisting men when I've tied them up and gagged them. You won't mind will you,it's just a bit of fun

I don't mind it at all, in fact it fun, can you use the strapon to?

Can I watch

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well done at least the guy got his fun, that's what matters lol

I like fisting men when I've tied them up and gagged them. You won't mind will you,it's just a bit of fun

I don't mind it at all, in fact it fun, can you use the strapon to?

Can I watch

"
Yes you can and join in whenever you fancy it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A veri really is just to confirm that they are a genuine person not a review of their performance lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well done at least the guy got his fun, that's what matters lol

I like fisting men when I've tied them up and gagged them. You won't mind will you,it's just a bit of fun

Fist away !!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A veri really is just to confirm that they are a genuine person not a review of their performance lol

Naaa half the site see it as a badge of honor, a sticker on the penis a notch on the bedpost like the chav corsa with all the stickers on it.

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"After reading this thread im quiet shocked at the amount of people who think it's ok to break a boundary that had been set and agreed on by both parties.

If the guy wasn't happy with what was set he could of declined the meet and that's that.. But to then break the boundary that is awful behaviour and well done to you both for ending the meet!

Hope it's not put you off future meets

X "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your thoughts......"

My thought are .... climb down out of your own arse maybe.... who knows

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

also your title says "Boundaries broken on a meet"

this wasn't a boundary, it was a request, ramming his cock up your arse when not wanted is breaking a boundary

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well done at least the guy got his fun, that's what matters lol

I like fisting men when I've tied them up and gagged them. You won't mind will you,it's just a bit of fun

Hello *waves*

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do you take a board and marker pen and bullet point things and only let person leave when all are crossed off :/

Get a grip

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By *et a roomCouple over a year ago

Leeds

This seems like a lot of fuss over nothing to me. At least he came in a condom, and quite honestly sometimes it's hard to stop when you're about to cum, you just get carried away. Ok, he didn't comply with your wishes, but if the lady enjoyed the shag where is the problem? At least there was no mess to clean up afterwards.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

get over it, not like you paid for it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"get over it, not like you paid for it"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your thoughts......"

Wouldn't say him Cumming in a condom and not on you is ignoring a boundary. Think your being a bit harsh tbh

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally I ( Mrs D ) thinks that far too often blokes get a bit of a rough ride , pardon the pun ! in swinging . It does sometimes appear , from what l've read in mainly couples profiles that single men have to jump through an awful lot of hoops for couples . There's usually a long list of do's & don't in order to appease them. Got to say that we don't have said list!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally I ( Mrs D ) thinks that far too often blokes get a bit of a rough ride , pardon the pun ! in swinging . It does sometimes appear , from what l've read in mainly couples profiles that single men have to jump through an awful lot of hoops for couples . There's usually a long list of do's & don't in order to appease them. Got to say that we don't have said list!!

I know what you mean.

I don't do pain piss or poo. I only do anal with hubby and I love cum in me, that's what I'm looking for lol

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By *ea and SugarCouple over a year ago

Manchester

Not read the whole thread but was it that you don't want anyone else cumming inside you, or that you love it fired over your breasts/ back etc... just curious?? x

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By *dam_TinaCouple over a year ago

Hampshire

"Am i only one thinking this is a bit dramatic.

If he had whipped condom off and fucked bare then yes fair enough all he did was cum in the condom.

Yes its to dramatic that, and as well it wont make the op any favors either as other will see how they treat single men in future meets."

Yeah, they'll definitely struggle to get single guys to meet them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd love to hear the guys comments on this. I suspect it wasn't intentional and he might be a little embarrassed that he couldn't control himself.

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By *arry247Couple over a year ago

Wakefield

The original message was the man who wore a condom during sex had agreed to pull out before cumming.

Instead he apparently came in his condom while still inside her.

There was no mention of cumming over her that was added by others later.

A later post suggests the OP was concerned that the condom might break while inside her

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