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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Are here any couples / females who would like to try to play with others but do not want to start with hardened swingers with 30-40 or more different people verifying them? Someone who would be taking things slowly but surely  all with safe sex which goes without saying. Perhaps thinking of some soft play with husband / wife and third person or just female wanting strangers hands playing with her body to start with, before moving to hard sex?
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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago
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There is an odd view that people who have been swinging for a while are "hardened" by their experiences. We have been swinging for 7 months, have plenty of veris and lots more meets but still see ourselves as fairly new and not at all hardened. Most people insist on good hygiene and safe sex.
Suggest you look for soft swap couples.
Him
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There is an odd view that people who have been swinging for a while are "hardened" by their experiences. We have been swinging for 7 months, have plenty of veris and lots more meets but still see ourselves as fairly new and not at all hardened. Most people insist on good hygiene and safe sex.
Suggest you look for soft swap couples.
Him
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Sure, obviously over the time you get more comfortable with the swinger scene and this is not important any longer. I have met couple of couples before and we all throughly enjoyed each other's company and fun. They would not consider themselves swingers though.
What I was wondering is if there is any other couples/females in their journey at the same stage - they know what they want but not sure where to start?
Any soft swap takers then?  |
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"Are here any couples / females who would like to try to play with others but do not want to start with hardened swingers with 30-40 or more different people verifying them? Someone who would be taking things slowly but surely all with safe sex which goes without saying. Perhaps thinking of some soft play with husband / wife and third person or just female wanting strangers hands playing with her body to start with, before moving to hard sex?
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You should chat with them first to get an idea of what they are like. Just because someone might have a number of veris doesn't mean that they will go hell-for-leather. I would expect them to have the experience to gauge how fast to move things along to ensure everyone has a fun time.
If things are going too fast or in a way you are not comfortable with - tell them. Only through communication will each party know what the other wants.
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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago
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"Are here any couples / females who would like to try to play with others but do not want to start with hardened swingers with 30-40 or more different people verifying them? Someone who would be taking things slowly but surely all with safe sex which goes without saying. Perhaps thinking of some soft play with husband / wife and third person or just female wanting strangers hands playing with her body to start with, before moving to hard sex?
You should chat with them first to get an idea of what they are like. Just because someone might have a number of veris doesn't mean that they will go hell-for-leather. I would expect them to have the experience to gauge how fast to move things along to ensure everyone has a fun time.
If things are going too fast or in a way you are not comfortable with - tell them. Only through communication will each party know what the other wants.
Enjoy!"
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This is great advice - spot on.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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If things are going too fast or in a way you are not comfortable with - tell them. Only through communication will each party know what the other wants.
Enjoy!"
Totally got that Comms are the most important  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are here any couples / females who would like to try to play with others but do not want to start with hardened swingers with 30-40 or more different people verifying them? Someone who would be taking things slowly but surely all with safe sex which goes without saying. Perhaps thinking of some soft play with husband / wife and third person or just female wanting strangers hands playing with her body to start with, before moving to hard sex?
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This totally describes us. We are taking it slow. Our first ever club visit 2 weeks ago, we were nervous about everything, so just explored the venue (Eurekas) and played once on our own in a closed doors room.
Last night we went again and this time used the couples room and went a lot further. Even had a bit of touch play with a lovely young couple; wish we had gotten their names.
Going again next month. Who knows own what might happen.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its great to read a positive Dartford cpl .... must say that communication is necessary if you really want to know what others are about and seeking in their adventure. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wow hardened swingers . We have a fair few veris but were not hardened swingers. We like the social scene as many do here and many people have social verifications rather than just sex verifications!!
I also think it's sometimes better for people who know the scene to show people the ropes rather than people who are in the same boat, especially at clubs |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Lol no veris at all here but 15 years or so on the scene.
when people talk about "hardened" swingers I wonder if it's experience or attitude that is referred to.
To me for example a hardened swinger is all about the end game, the sex, no chit chat no getting to know someone just fuck and that's it.
Not everyone that's been on the scene any length of time are like that I have met many that like to take things slow and not necessarily play on a first meet, equally I have met newbies that have just wanted to get down to it and forget who I was after.
So to me a hardened swinger is not someone who has been on the scene a long time but a mind set that even a newbie can have.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Lol no veris at all here but 15 years or so on the scene.
when people talk about "hardened" swingers I wonder if it's experience or attitude that is referred to.
To me for example a hardened swinger is all about the end game, the sex, no chit chat no getting to know someone just fuck and that's it.
Not everyone that's been on the scene any length of time are like that I have met many that like to take things slow and not necessarily play on a first meet, equally I have met newbies that have just wanted to get down to it and forget who I was after.
So to me a hardened swinger is not someone who has been on the scene a long time but a mind set that even a newbie can have.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Lol no veris at all here but 15 years or so on the scene.
when people talk about "hardened" swingers I wonder if it's experience or attitude that is referred to.
To me for example a hardened swinger is all about the end game, the sex, no chit chat no getting to know someone just fuck and that's it.
Not everyone that's been on the scene any length of time are like that I have met many that like to take things slow and not necessarily play on a first meet, equally I have met newbies that have just wanted to get down to it and forget who I was after.
So to me a hardened swinger is not someone who has been on the scene a long time but a mind set that even a newbie can have.
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Fully agree....and I know this guy too. We can vouch for each other in terms of experience etc...but neither of us would say the other is hardened! |
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