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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi I'm new to this site and am looking for meets anyone got any advice on meeting the right people and not people that aren't clean hygienically as my health is most important , thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi I'm new to this site and am looking for meets anyone got any advice on meeting the right people and not people that aren't clean hygienically as my health is most important , thanks "
Ask them to go on cam and do the following.
1/look at the background.
2/Fingernails and ingrained dirt check them on cam.
3/Ask how often they change their pants.
4/Be blunt ask if they are a grubby bastard! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just don't want any STI's fuck that "
It's ok, people who have sti's always wear a scarf so that you know they are "unclean"...
Only joking! Lol! leave now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just don't want any STI's fuck that
It's ok, people who have sti's always wear a scarf so that you know they are "unclean"...
Only joking! Lol! leave now."
Why should he leave? You need to get a grip the guy is only asking a question not to be told to leave!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just don't want any STI's fuck that
It's ok, people who have sti's always wear a scarf so that you know they are "unclean"...
Only joking! Lol! leave now.
Why should he leave? You need to get a grip the guy is only asking a question not to be told to leave! "
Ok you tell him how he will spot people who have an STI. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just don't want any STI's fuck that
It's ok, people who have sti's always wear a scarf so that you know they are "unclean"...
Only joking! Lol! leave now.
Why should he leave? You need to get a grip the guy is only asking a question not to be told to leave!
Ok you tell him how he will spot people who have an STI. "
I am not going to pick on the guy as he isn't a forum regular what are you trying to do join bully club here! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP you just have to do what the rest of us do.....use your judgement in who you choose to meet, decide in the level of risk you want to take, and visit the GUM clinic every 3 months regardless of how safe you think you have been......or invest in a sheep dip. good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just don't want any STI's fuck that
It's ok, people who have sti's always wear a scarf so that you know they are "unclean"...
Only joking! Lol! leave now.
Why should he leave? You need to get a grip the guy is only asking a question not to be told to leave!
Ok you tell him how he will spot people who have an STI.
I am not going to pick on the guy as he isn't a forum regular what are you trying to do join bully club here! "
Well only if you accept my application... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just don't want any STI's fuck that
It's ok, people who have sti's always wear a scarf so that you know they are "unclean"...
Only joking! Lol! leave now.
Why should he leave? You need to get a grip the guy is only asking a question not to be told to leave!
Ok you tell him how he will spot people who have an STI.
I am not going to pick on the guy as he isn't a forum regular what are you trying to do join bully club here!
Well only if you accept my application..."
You need to try a little harder as that's a poor attempt I guess you must be one of those TV program watchers you are so fond of. Full marks though for picking on a new poster I hope you are proud of your self for goading him its so so so clever of you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP, in general, you will find that those adopting a swinging lifestyle are as keen as mustard when it comes to taking precautions against contracting STI's and are also more likely to have regular check ups than joe public.
Meeting a swinger does not equate to immediate itchy pants or pissing acid.
You are just as, if not more, likely to contract an STI by meeting someone on a night out who is just up for a d*unken shag.
That said, sexual health is YOUR concern and no one elses.
Therefore, if you are uncomfortable with any situation, don't do it.
YOU take the precautions though and YOU draw the line as to what you regard as safe and unsafe.
If those you seek to meet see it differently, don't meet them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi I'm new to this site and am looking for meets anyone got any advice on meeting the right people and not people that aren't clean hygienically as my health is most important , thanks "
What would you do when meeting people in real life? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi I'm new to this site and am looking for meets anyone got any advice on meeting the right people and not people that aren't clean hygienically as my health is most important , thanks
What would you do when meeting people in real life?"
WHAT !
There is a real life outside of here ?
Really ?
I wish someone had told us sooner  |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Hi I'm new to this site and am looking for meets anyone got any advice on meeting the right people and not people that aren't clean hygienically as my health is most important , thanks
What would you do when meeting people in real life?"
Oh FFS! I was just going to bloody ask that!!! 
OP - people on here aren't any different from those you meet in the street/pub/tesco (other supermarkets are available).
Use whatever methods to stay safe and assess others as you have so far in your life. There's no other way!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP - people on here aren't any different from those you meet in the street/pub/tesco (other supermarkets are available).
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Just don't shag your best mates mam behind the trolleys in Morrisons.
That got one forumite into a right pickle  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do think the ops opinion reading between the lines is that he considers swingers to be more susceptible to stis than people who don't swing .
In truth we are probably more aware and safety conscious therefore he may have the wrong impression from the off  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP - people on here aren't any different from those you meet in the street/pub/tesco (other supermarkets are available).
Just don't shag your best mates mam behind the trolleys in Morrisons.
That got one forumite into a right pickle "
It wasn't my fault. It was dark, didn't realise I'd picked up a gherkin not a cucumber.  You loved it really. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do think the ops opinion reading between the lines is that he considers swingers to be more susceptible to stis than people who don't swing .
In truth we are probably more aware and safety conscious therefore he may have the wrong impression from the off "
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"I do think the ops opinion reading between the lines is that he considers swingers to be more susceptible to stis than people who don't swing .
In truth we are probably more aware and safety conscious therefore he may have the wrong impression from the off
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Have you lot been reading the forums lately? There is a massive amount of misinformation out there.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Meet ppl who have been verified more than twice and always use a condom,, no glove no love baby xx "
Hi, I have not been verified as I'm very cautious about who do I meet.
In fact have not met yet as didn't find right people.
Agree with you no glove no love  |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria |
With regards to swingers possibly being more susceptible to picking up a dose of clap, one of my workmates needed a visit to the GUM clinic yesterday after a pick up on a vanilla night...I have mentioned to him on more than one occasion that he should be a bit more careful when dipping his wick - a week on precautionary penicillin whilst waiting for his results may make him a bit more cautious...
OP, just apply the same standards as you would if you picked someone up down the boozer - and welcome to the forums |
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OP: welcome to the forums
As swinging is a past-time that can take up a lot of time and effort, you can bet your boots that most people will have their own sexual health and levels of hygiene high up on their agenda of important things. Make sure you a careful as you'd expect other people to be.
Just having a wank on cam is pretty safe - at least I always thought so until my lubed up right hand slipped right off and bopped myself on the chin.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have you heard of the band "rock bitch"? Every gig they have sex with an audience member. Risky eh? Well yes but they treat him as if he is hiv +, and minimise skin to skin anything. OP I'm not going to say that last night I wasn't d*unk and low on patience because I was exactly that, but I've seen posts like this before and they always tick me off, even when I'm sober. seriously though if you're that worried and naive this game is not for you. |
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"Hi I'm new to this site and am looking for meets anyone got any advice on meeting the right people and not people that aren't clean hygienically as my health is most important , thanks
Ask them to go on cam and do the following.
1/look at the background.
2/Fingernails and ingrained dirt check them on cam.
3/Ask how often they change their pants.
4/Be blunt ask if they are a grubby bastard!"
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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Asking for advice on a Swinging site doesn't mean you are not suited to swinging....in fact I would say it is the opposite.
Welcome to the forum OP...hopefully some of the answers will help. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP: welcome to the forums
As swinging is a past-time that can take up a lot of time and effort, you can bet your boots that most people will have their own sexual health and levels of hygiene high up on their agenda of important things. Make sure you a careful as you'd expect other people to be.
Just having a wank on cam is pretty safe - at least I always thought so until my lubed up right hand slipped right off and bopped myself on the chin. "
Steve, a big kiss for your sore chin (and don't try the ouch my cock really hurts line coz I'm not falling for it!)
OP, like all of us you are responsible for your sexual health. Set your own "standards" as to who you will play with and make sure you protect yourself.
Bear in mind that however often someone visits the GUM clinic to be tested, the test results are only good for the day the tests are taken - you have no guarantees as to how those people play between tests so don't be misled into thinking those who test regularly are safe!!
Sex is supposed to be fun, if concern for your wellbeing overrides that then maybe this site is not for you - there is no such thing as 100% safe sex but we all take calculated risks in life, this is just one of them x |
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"Hi I'm new to this site and am looking for meets anyone got any advice on meeting the right people and not people that aren't clean hygienically as my health is most important , thanks
Ask them to go on cam and do the following.
1/look at the background.
2/Fingernails and ingrained dirt check them on cam.
3/Ask how often they change their pants.
4/Be blunt ask if they are a grubby bastard!"
Once recieved a pic from a potential meet and it looked as though there was a 3 course meal under finger nails. Needles to say the meet failed somehow to materialise |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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" OP I'm not going to say that last night I wasn't d*unk and low on patience because I was exactly that, but I've seen posts like this before and they always tick me off, even when I'm sober. "
Then ignore those posts |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Even outside of the swinging worldviews is always a risk of catching something . You just have to follow your own judgement of the people you choose to meet . |
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"Hi I'm new to this site and am looking for meets anyone got any advice on meeting the right people and not people that aren't clean hygienically as my health is most important , thanks "
Only you can judge who the right people are for you and only you can be responsible for your sexual health.
Treat the site as you would if you were trying to hook up with people in the real world. Be safe, polite, respectful - everyone on here (in the main) in a living, breathing, functioning human being. Just because this is a swingers site doesn't mean you have entered some dark, underground place where rules don't apply. Use your common sense - I'm assuming you've not been locked up in a cellar until you logged onto here.
So act sensibly and don't treat this as a knocking shop and you hopefully will be fine. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"I just don't want any STI's fuck that
Never have sex again and you may just be ok
Are there people who DO want STIs?"
Maybe if they're addicted to antibiotics 
To the OP, there are many people on here who are paranoid about catching STIs. The only thing you can do is use condoms and get tested regularly. Take responsibility for your own sexual health. If you were talking about general hygiene, just hose them down before sex. |
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"I just don't want any STI's fuck that
It's ok, people who have sti's always wear a scarf so that you know they are "unclean"...
Only joking! Lol! leave now.
Why should he leave? You need to get a grip the guy is only asking a question not to be told to leave!
Ok you tell him how he will spot people who have an STI. "
I wear clamydia on my head to show i have it so steer clear |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" OP I'm not going to say that last night I wasn't d*unk and low on patience because I was exactly that, but I've seen posts like this before and they always tick me off, even when I'm sober.
Then ignore those posts "
Where's the fun in that?! |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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" OP I'm not going to say that last night I wasn't d*unk and low on patience because I was exactly that, but I've seen posts like this before and they always tick me off, even when I'm sober.
Then ignore those posts
Where's the fun in that?! "
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"I just don't want any STI's fuck that "
see... someone hit on the point in the thread flippantly by said something...
the only way to 100% avoid sti's is to never have sex.......
everything else is about risk management....
even condoms if you have ever read the side of a packet are 98% safe... they have been known the split
I think the inferance that "swingers aren't clean" is the one that ticked off a lot of people.....
but lets go back to "risk management".... for example crossing a road...
now, it is never going to be 100% safe crossing a road... but there are places where it is probably safer (lets say a zebra crossing) than others (a 6 lane motorway)
it is about judging those risks and acting accordingly... |
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I use my hotlist to keep track of those not to touch with a bargepole. A localish bareback couple frequently post statuses like 'cant play this week should be safe next week ' and 'all cleared up now who wants to play '. Makes me gag! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I use my hotlist to keep track of those not to touch with a bargepole. A localish bareback couple frequently post statuses like 'cant play this week should be safe next week ' and 'all cleared up now who wants to play '. Makes me gag! "
Maybe she was talking about her period. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"OP: welcome to the forums
As swinging is a past-time that can take up a lot of time and effort, you can bet your boots that most people will have their own sexual health and levels of hygiene high up on their agenda of important things. Make sure you a careful as you'd expect other people to be.
Just having a wank on cam is pretty safe - at least I always thought so until my lubed up right hand slipped right off and bopped myself on the chin. "
Jeez Steve! Sounds painful!!
I always thought the knobbly bit on the end was designed to stop your hand flying off!
You must have a right arm like Kournikova!!
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
You may well find that swingers are just like Vanilla folks.
I am on here but have had way less sexual partners than my vanilla friend has.
Look at the individual, read their verifications, and go with your gut instinct...
And take the precautions you can to make sure you stay safe - regular health checks, condoms, and using your common sense.
Good luck! |
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"I use my hotlist to keep track of those not to touch with a bargepole. A localish bareback couple frequently post statuses like 'cant play this week should be safe next week ' and 'all cleared up now who wants to play '. Makes me gag!
Maybe she was talking about her period."
She's very frequent if so! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do think the ops opinion reading between the lines is that he considers swingers to be more susceptible to stis than people who don't swing .
In truth we are probably more aware and safety conscious therefore he may have the wrong impression from the off "
Hahaha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I use my hotlist to keep track of those not to touch with a bargepole. A localish bareback couple frequently post statuses like 'cant play this week should be safe next week ' and 'all cleared up now who wants to play '. Makes me gag!
Maybe she was talking about her period.
She's very frequent if so! "
Happens to my wife every month! |
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"I use my hotlist to keep track of those not to touch with a bargepole. A localish bareback couple frequently post statuses like 'cant play this week should be safe next week ' and 'all cleared up now who wants to play '. Makes me gag!
Maybe she was talking about her period.
She's very frequent if so!
Happens to my wife every month!"
Yeah not every 10 days.. |
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