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Genuine Liverpool Guy need some positive feedback

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I have been on here for 4 months now and have had about 5 replies that have amounted to nothing, yet I am genuine and not a time waster? I feel like the woman I'm contacting are time wasters yet they have verifications. What am I doing wrong? Thanks all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have been on here for 4 months now and have had about 5 replies that have amounted to nothing, yet I am genuine and not a time waster? I feel like the woman I'm contacting are time wasters yet they have verifications. What am I doing wrong? Thanks all"
Make an effort

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What were your expectations when joining the site. Women have the pick of thousands of single fellas, ask yourself 'am I doing my best to stand out from the crowd?'

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By *aughtynigel02121980Man over a year ago

Brandon

Get yourself to a club. Thats where I have most of my meets at

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

if you have written more here than you have on your "shop window to the world" than that's probably a good place to start.......

fab swingers hasn't started charging by the word quite yet.... so i suggest using some....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Open up your target age?

Body pic might be good

Have you tried taking a cock pic with a sky remote next too it drives the ladies wild mate. Good luck

And write a bit more in your profile

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Make a bit more effort love, men are ten a penny on here, personally I am very selective, it has to be a combination of looks, profile text and how good their message is.

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By *he TrunkMan over a year ago

Manchester

"Make a bit more effort love, men are ten a penny on here, personally I am very selective, it has to be a combination of looks, profile text and how good their message is. "

Good God, there's some proper fussy sorts on here!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nowt wrong with fussy, why settle for rump roast when there's filet mignon on the menu.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nowt wrong with fussy, why settle for rump roast when there's filet mignon on the menu.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Make a bit more effort love, men are ten a penny on here, personally I am very selective, it has to be a combination of looks, profile text and how good their message is.

Good God, there's some proper fussy sorts on here!!!

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they can afford to be mate. They are millions of us Pervs to choose from

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Make a bit more effort love, men are ten a penny on here, personally I am very selective, it has to be a combination of looks, profile text and how good their message is. "

Thanks for the reply's, in what way am I not making an effort though? I do write more but in my messages to people. I thought women don't like it when there's too much info? Dnt want to bore people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There's a difference between not boring them and not telling them anything at all which is what's on display now.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

We only have your word that you're not a timewaster. After all, you've been here 4 months with no meet. No cam veri....no social veri. Are you seriously telling me no one wanted a coffee with you? Clearly the women are not timewasters because they have verifications, not inspite of them! I don't know what you've been doing so can't advise you on what you've been doing wrong. Obviously, your 'window' is your profile. If there's nothing in the window, ladies won't stop by.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"There's a difference between not boring them and not telling them anything at all which is what's on display now."

Ok fair point, I have changed my page and slimed it down incase it was too long, what kind of things do you suggest?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Make a bit more effort love, men are ten a penny on here, personally I am very selective, it has to be a combination of looks, profile text and how good their message is.

Thanks for the reply's, in what way am I not making an effort though? I do write more but in my messages to people. I thought women don't like it when there's too much info? Dnt want to bore people."

if i was looking for a single bloke id like to know a bit about him - profile says bugger all really

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Make a bit more effort love, men are ten a penny on here, personally I am very selective, it has to be a combination of looks, profile text and how good their message is.

Thanks for the reply's, in what way am I not making an effort though? I do write more but in my messages to people. I thought women don't like it when there's too much info? Dnt want to bore people."

mate look at yer profile text and tell me you are making a effort 2 pics and a 2 line text !!! You are not telling ladies anything about yourself. So expect them to ask. Why should they when the have so many guy to choose from. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just because no one replies doesn't make them a time waster

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

[Removed by poster at 14/11/14 21:00:28]

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"[Removed by poster at 14/11/14 21:00:28]"

You can get verified via a cam, better still go to a social and have drinks with some other swingers. I'm not photo verified at all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 14/11/14 21:00:28]

You can get verified via a cam, better still go to a social and have drinks with some other swingers. I'm not photo verified at all. "

Thanks, I have looked into local clubs and any that have been in travelling distance don't seem to have anyone my age attending

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

See? Thanks for looking...tons of stuff in my shop window. Likes and dislikes, something that reflects a bit of my slightly eccentric personality but also hints a bit about what I can offer....what's your USP? What can you offer? What have you got that can make you stand out?

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"[Removed by poster at 14/11/14 21:00:28]

You can get verified via a cam, better still go to a social and have drinks with some other swingers. I'm not photo verified at all.

Thanks, I have looked into local clubs and any that have been in travelling distance don't seem to have anyone my

age attending"

A) 30 is a duff age....not young....not old. In many ways it's the golidlocks of ages.....although you know that crap expression that life begins at 40? Well....

B) you don't know who is going to attend nor can you find out so you can't know the ages of other people

C) don't blame your age - younger people sometimes do because it's something out of their control and so

absolves them from responsibility.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"See? Thanks for looking...tons of stuff in my shop window. Likes and dislikes, something that reflects a bit of my slightly eccentric personality but also hints a bit about what I can offer....what's your USP? What can you offer? What have you got that can make you stand out? "

Thanks Steve I shall write alot more then, I am very eccentric too

I have more than two pics, most women don't want to see cock pics on a profile hence why they are private set.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There's a difference between not boring them and not telling them anything at all which is what's on display now.

Ok fair point, I have changed my page and slimed it down incase it was too long, what kind of things do you suggest? "
Slimed...is it ghost busters ?...you said sod all in the first place..now even less, despite all the advice we would see you as a lost cause.

Whenever we get a message from anyone we read the profile of the sender first....your message would be deleted unread

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Seriously, your profile says nothing about who you are or what your looking for....

Saying hi I'm Calvin or whatever your name is if you can be bothered reading this would do nothing for us, if you can't put effort in your profile then we won't make the effort to meet you.

A lot of people on here don't even read message they will just click onto your profile, so now can you see how when people have said your profile is your window?

It's not insta shag on here, just because there are women on here does not mean they are going to shag every guy that messages them.....

Think majority of guys that join this site think that if they join they will have women queuing to fuck them... Then are disappointed when that doesn't happen.

OP hope you follow others advice then maybe you will have some luck on here x

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Thanks Steve I shall write alot more

then, I am very eccentric too

I have

more than two pics, most women don't

want to see cock pics on a profile hence

why they are private set."

Just write tons then edit it. Spend sone time looking through the advice section on here and see what advice other people have given and look at sexually successful mens profiles. Get ideas from their profiles. Join in the forums and chatrooms. Socials are good cos you get veris and more importantly, you meet real people who know people who know people.....

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By *SweetVioletxWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

I don't understand why some people on this site think that simply having a profile entitles them to some forms of interaction from another site member.

If you stood in the street with a sign displaying your profile text do you think anyone would approach you? (aside from asking what the hell you were doing).

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"There's a difference between not boring them and not telling them anything at all which is what's on display now.

Ok fair point, I have changed my page and slimed it down incase it was too long, what kind of things do you suggest? Slimed...is it ghost busters ?...you said sod all in the first place..now even less, despite all the advice we would see you as a lost cause.

Whenever we get a message from anyone we read the profile of the sender first....your message would be deleted unread"

Haha i meant slimmed obviously, and I meant the profile there I now was alot longer beforehand and i slimmed it down to see if that helped which hasn't hence me starting this post.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Thanks Steve I shall write alot more

then, I am very eccentric too

I have

more than two pics, most women don't

want to see cock pics on a profile hence

why they are private set."

Show some of your eccentricity in your profile - show some of your personality and character....write something that ladies will read and make them think 'I wonder what he's like for real?'....More than 2 pics? Why not show them then? No need for cock pics - body bits pics!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Seriously, your profile says nothing about who you are or what your looking for....

Saying hi I'm Calvin or whatever your name is if you can be bothered reading this would do nothing for us, if you can't put effort in your profile then we won't make the effort to meet you.

A lot of people on here don't even read message they will just click onto your profile, so now can you see how when people have said your profile is your window?

It's not insta shag on here, just because there are women on here does not mean they are going to shag every guy that messages them.....

Think majority of guys that join this site think that if they join they will have women queuing to fuck them... Then are disappointed when that doesn't happen.

OP hope you follow others advice then maybe you will have some luck on here x"

Thanks that was constructive criticism and I appreciate that, ok I will endeavour to beef up my profile and sell my self more. x

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

No pub for you tonight then!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If you stood in the street with a sign displaying your profile text do you think anyone would approach you? (aside from asking what the hell you were doing).

Hmmm nice way to think about it, interesting view point, thanks x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There's a difference between not boring them and not telling them anything at all which is what's on display now.

Whenever we get a message from anyone we read the profile of the sender first....your message would be deleted unread

Haha i meant slimmed obviously, and I meant the profile there I now was alot longer beforehand and i slimmed it down to see if that helped which hasn't hence me starting this post."
It was 1 line longer!!! stating you were a professional..........generic and not worth a read,seriously if its the best you can do just give up

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Seriously, your profile says nothing about who you are or what your looking for....

Saying hi I'm Calvin or whatever your name is if you can be bothered reading this would do nothing for us, if you can't put effort in your profile then we won't make the effort to meet you.

A lot of people on here don't even read message they will just click onto your profile, so now can you see how when people have said your profile is your window?

It's not insta shag on here, just because there are women on here does not mean they are going to shag every guy that messages them.....

Think majority of guys that join this site think that if they join they will have women queuing to fuck them... Then are disappointed when that doesn't happen.

OP hope you follow others advice then maybe you will have some luck on here x

Thanks that was constructive criticism and I appreciate that, ok I will endeavour to beef up my profile and sell my self more. x"

Hope you do....,

Because if you do you will have a lot more fun on here x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No pub for you tonight then!

Haha well no I've had a detox massage this afternoon so I wouldn't want to undo all the hard work lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Seriously, your profile says nothing about who you are or what your looking for....

Saying hi I'm Calvin or whatever your name is if you can be bothered reading this would do nothing for us, if you can't put effort in your profile then we won't make the effort to meet you.

A lot of people on here don't even read message they will just click onto your profile, so now can you see how when people have said your profile is your window?

It's not insta shag on here, just because there are women on here does not mean they are going to shag every guy that messages them.....

Think majority of guys that join this site think that if they join they will have women queuing to fuck them... Then are disappointed when that doesn't happen.

OP hope you follow others advice then maybe you will have some luck on here x

Thanks that was constructive criticism and I appreciate that, ok I will endeavour to beef up my profile and sell my self more. x

Hope you do....,

Because if you do you will have a lot more fun on here x"

Oh I defo will, there's no point in creating this post and not taking the points on board, it may be my face tbh, most women who meet me think I'm gay and too effeminate looking.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hows it looking now guys?

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman over a year ago

Glasgow

Im too fat lol size 16

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By *issy louWoman over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

"Hows it looking now guys?"

Much better! At last, a single guy who asks for advice and actually takes it on board!!

Just one little thing, I would get rid of the 'haha's and 'hehe's.....did you EVER hear a man say 'hehe'?! Lol

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

if you have written more here than you have on your "shop window to the world" than that's probably a good place to start.......

fab swingers hasn't started charging by the word quite yet.... so i suggest using some....

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Hows it looking now guys?"

Really good....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hows it looking now guys?"

Too restrictive you not had a meet in all this time and your blocking loads of meets with your profile

After all your only meeting for a drink and you can filter any offers for dates yourself after

Bear in mind that there are sime stunning over 30 ladies on her and over size 14 ladies let me tell you the best sex I have ever had has been with over 30 and over size 14 and some of the best laughs have been too dont take it so seriously mate meet people with open mind to age and size and body hair then if you are lucky enough to be asked for a second date make the choice if you find them attractive

Just see I was hooked on over 40's in my 30's have found the older the lady the more they kniw what they want and are more relaxed about enjoying it

Good luck and remember your only fishing for a social by your own admission and then see where it goes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Im too fat lol size 16

At a size 18, so am I!! Seriously, putting a maximum dress size???

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hows it looking now guys?"

my advice is this my friend.

dont use fab to meet women... seeing as you say you dont want to meet anyone over size 14, you basically just crossed of 95% of the site anyway.

you should just use fab to have a good giggle on the forums and get yourself on POF, tinder, badoo... ive met about 30 people in the last 8 months on those and over half of those turned into sexual encounter. (Just be honest on your profile though that you dont want anything serious, dont mislead anyone).

There are an abundance of stunners on there.

your not a bad looking guy and you will do well I think.

Thats My advice anyway.

good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Im too fat lol size 16

I never used the word 'fat' someone can be size 16 and still be proportional and sexy, but as a very slender guy I don't think id be compatible is all. It's just like a women doesn't want to tower over her man

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hows it looking now guys?

Much better! At last, a single guy who asks for advice and actually takes it on board!!

Just one little thing, I would get rid of the 'haha's and 'hehe's.....did you EVER hear a man say 'hehe'?! Lol

Good luck!"

That's lovely to hear thanks soo much, I shall remove the haha teehees lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hows it looking now guys?

Too restrictive you not had a meet in all this time and your blocking loads of meets with your profile

After all your only meeting for a drink and you can filter any offers for dates yourself after

Just see I was hooked on over 40's in my 30's have found the older the lady the more they kniw what they want and are more relaxed about enjoying it

Good luck and remember your only fishing for a social by your own admission and then see where it goes "

Ok good points I will re read things and make adjustments, thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hows it looking now guys?

my advice is this my friend.

dont use fab to meet women... seeing as you say you dont want to meet anyone over size 14, you basically just crossed of 95% of the site anyway.

There are an abundance of stunners on there.

your not a bad looking guy and you will do well I think.

Thats My advice anyway.

good luck"

Thanks for the compliment I shall look into these options too. Kal

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What makes you say the women you contatced are timewasters ? They probably werent interested in meeting you but it doesnt make them timewasters !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What makes you say the women you contatced are timewasters ? They probably werent interested in meeting you but it doesnt make them timewasters !"

I was thinking the same and why contact them in the first place if you think they might be time wasters?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

What makes you say the women you contatced are timewasters ? They probably werent interested in meeting you but it doesnt make them timewasters !

I was thinking the same and why contact them in the first place if you think they might be time wasters?"

Very true, ok I retract that statement

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Pictures with you smiling may help instead of those serious looking ones, and from a purely personal perspective -for a straight guy -the body pic looks like a pose straight out of "Gay weekly" - sorry but it does. Pictures paint a thousand words and all that

If that doesnt work get yourself down to Smokey Mo's on a Saturday night lol.

Good luck either way

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I Pictures with you smiling may help instead of those serious looking ones, and from a purely personal perspective -for a straight guy -the body pic looks like a pose straight out of "Gay weekly" - sorry but it does. Pictures paint a thousand words and all that

If that doesnt work get yourself down to Smokey Mo's on a Saturday night lol.

Good luck either way"

They are 'Editorial' Type of shot, Having never looked at Gay weekly i wouldn't know lol but you're not the first person to say that so point will be taken on board, that's the only body pic I have at mo, will do some more soon.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

I think you probably could have said the content of your profile in fewer words.

You emphasize the body type that you want, and this narrowness may deter some, who maybe uncertain they fit your criteria.

Add info on what geographical area you'll cover.

Clubs and socials get you meeting others-you say you're confident so that should be easy.

A better range of pics would work more strongly. Try some taken by others as you'll relax and smile more.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I think you probably could have said the content of your profile in fewer words.

You emphasize the body type that you want, and this narrowness may deter some, who maybe uncertain they fit your criteria.

Add info on what geographical area you'll cover.

Clubs and socials get you meeting others-you say you're confident so that should be easy.

A better range of pics would work more strongly. Try some taken by others as you'll relax and smile more."

Thanks will do some of that, as for the body type I feel it is justified as alot of women on here describe their preference too. Thanks again

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I don't think the face pics look effeminate - you've just got very fine bone structure and if gay times pay mega bucks for ya face pic, ££££££

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just checked your profile and it looks pretty good tbh! Get yourself to a club (townhouse isn't far from you) or a social, meet a few people (but don't go with any expectations of playing, just go and mingle and see what happens). Once you've met a few people and been verified you might find things a little easier on here

Good luck mate

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By *at69driveMan over a year ago

Hertford

"Nowt wrong with fussy, why settle for rump roast when there's filet mignon on the menu.

"
. Well said . Some people have difficulty accepting reality.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't think the face pics look effeminate - you've just got very fine bone structure and if gay times pay mega bucks for ya face pic, ££££££

How much! haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Just checked your profile and it looks pretty good tbh! Get yourself to a club (townhouse isn't far from you) or a social, meet a few people (but don't go with any expectations of playing, just go and mingle and see what happens). Once you've met a few people and been verified you might find things a little easier on here

Good luck mate

Ahh cool thanks

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By *R and BlondieCouple over a year ago

Bebington, wirral

You should try townhouse check out website xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You should try townhouse check out website xxx"

If blonde is going then yes! Haha x

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