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By *ustforus OP Man
over a year ago
cambridge |
ive been invited by a couple to a one on one party M.M.F.
but have been told that i have to pay child care is this normal or a money making scam for the couple
please can i have your views on this... mal   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ive been invited by a couple to a one on one party M.M.F.
but have been told that i have to pay child care is this normal or a money making scam for the couple
please can i have your views on this... mal "
not normal ? bit of a cheek if you ask me ? |
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lmfao !!!! if they need sitters then thats their own personal concern ! never heard of such cheek !! we have a family and if hubby and i decide to go out then thats OUR descion !! not up to ANYONE else to pay for any child care . what ever next paying all traveling exspenses validating parking !!!! pmsl !!! ohhh better keep ma train ticket so i can claim that back !!pmsl!!!
my advice ...stay clear !!!! they seem like total chancers!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've heard of people asking for many things such as, split hotel costs, travelling money, pay for refreshments, buffet, club entry, but never childcare costs. What next? Pay for wear and tear on play clothes and shoes! |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
North of The Wall - youll need your vest |
"I've heard of people asking for many things such as, split hotel costs, travelling money, pay for refreshments, buffet, club entry, but never childcare costs. What next? Pay for wear and tear on play clothes and shoes! "
Laundry bills...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is why im taking a break during the school hols kids come first as much as they annoy the hell out of me. Only got 4 wks left rearrange meet for when they back at school |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would never ask anyone we were meeting to pay my childcare costs,if they cant afford babysitters then they shouldnt arrange meets!
Sounds like they think a guy should be grateful for a meet and trying to take advantage of it.
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Never heard of this before, I'd say it sounds very dodgy! Is the child still going to be in the house though but being looked after by someone else? I have heard of people having meets at home with children in the house, it's not something we do but I think it's a heck of a cheek to ask someone ese to pay for their childcare! Don't have a coffee if you do go,they'll probably bill you for that too! Z |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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omg i would never embarrass myself by asking anything like that...
sounds like this couple taking advantage of single guys...
dont meet them is all i will say... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I believe it is a bit of a cheek to ask for contribution towards child support.
If they cannot afford to have their children looked after, then they should not play!  |
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There was a woman on here that used to ask for babysitter fees amongst other things. There was a couple that had on their profile for you to provide the lingerie. If someone is stupid enough to fork out then there as bad |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely a bit cheeky and I wonder if they'd ask a couple to do the same. Now you've got us all checking out your friends list to see if we can figure out who it might be...lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ive been invited by a couple to a one on one party M.M.F.
but have been told that i have to pay child care is this normal or a money making scam for the couple
please can i have your views on this... mal "
how can asking a stranger to supply child care costs be normal in anyway, i have a young child and i wouldnt dream of asking someone to provide for her in any way at all, they'll be asking you for shoes to walk the child to the minders in next! lol
Tell them to sod off, ive never heard of such a thing they probably havnt even got a kid |
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex |
"I would never ask anyone we were meeting to pay my childcare costs,if they cant afford babysitters then they shouldnt arrange meets!
Sounds like they think a guy should be grateful for a meet and trying to take advantage of it.
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Will said child (and babysitter ofcourse) be in the same home when you meet them, or in another? Or will be at home while the three of you are in a hotel (which am guessing you're to pay for, along with their travel costs,... and yours).
Essentially - will you get any physical proof said child exists (Kinda like random people with fake photos of random people? who they claim to be, or have as partners) ?
Kinda like those adverts that ask you to contribute £2 a month to some random dog in some obscure country that you get a postcard from every Christmas...lol
And if they invited you back, would you still be paying for the sitter everytime? Who's choice to have a child? theirs. Who's choice for them to be swingers? Theirs. Who's choice to play? Theirs. Who's to pay for the child... everyone else?
Report the cheeky feckers... cite "Seeking financial gain". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What a coincidence - their childcare costs are the same as your travelling costs!
Who'd have thought it, well I never..."
perhaps he should as for his travel costs to be refunded  |
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"I've heard of people asking for many things such as, split hotel costs, travelling money, pay for refreshments, buffet, club entry, but never childcare costs. What next? Pay for wear and tear on play clothes and shoes!
Laundry bills... "
Coo...I'd make a fortune |
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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Avoid at all costs. If they are your children then your responsible for paying for them to be elsewhere while your on your meet. But if the children arent yours then stay away and tell them to get stuffed.
Total bloody cheek. Take note hun, not a single person on here agreeeing with you paying childcare costs. Thats many years worth of experience. Listen to it x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are some questions that don't really need asking!
If someone asked me for ANY kind of renumeration with regards to a meet my response would be "yeah, right" and block all contact.
That's just me...if someone is desperate enough for a meet however... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You can come and meet us instead bearing in mind that my budgie will need to be in the other room when we play and therefore you will need to pay for his incovenience for the evening by way of compensation to him. |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else |
"You can come and meet us instead bearing in mind that my budgie will need to be in the other room when we play and therefore you will need to pay for his incovenience for the evening by way of compensation to him."
Is this an open offer?  |
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"ive been invited by a couple to a one on one party M.M.F.
but have been told that i have to pay child care is this normal or a money making scam for the couple
please can i have your views on this... mal "
jesus are you serious lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Is it "Bleed Single Guys Dry" week again or what?
What next..I'll meet you for a hot date...in Bermuda...but I'll need 2 weeks R&R to get ready for it???
Give it the big miss mate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it "Bleed Single Guys Dry" week again or what?
What next..I'll meet you for a hot date...in Bermuda...but I'll need 2 weeks R&R to get ready for it???
Give it the big miss mate. "
How much blood have you got ? |
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You can come and meet us instead bearing in mind that my budgie will need to be in the other room when we play and therefore you will need to pay for his incovenience for the evening by way of compensation to him.
lol sasha well bring some dried cuttlefish and a bit of seed  |
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"hi every one that has made a comment thanks for it and have decided to walk away but thinking of reporting them as well ...mal "
Hi Mal. Don't blame ya mate, next thing'll be the kids schooling fee's along with gas, water, leccy and of course help towards the mortgage. Best off blocking them a gud matey. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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good lord i would never expect a date to pay for that!
anything we do together should be a shared cost, but blimey...really?!!
i hope this doesnt put folk of meeting parents cause they read this and think its the norm...it certainly is not!
im not gonna ask for someone to pay their share of electricity and gas and water either! |
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"Avoid at all costs. If they are your children then your responsible for paying for them to be elsewhere while your on your meet. But if the children arent yours then stay away and tell them to get stuffed.
Total bloody cheek. Take note hun, not a single person on here agreeeing with you paying childcare costs. Thats many years worth of experience. Listen to it x"
im a single person and i agree he shouldnt pay, but im going to start charging for wear and tear on my bedding and laundry costs from now on !!!! please take note all couples lmao |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ive been invited by a couple to a one on one party M.M.F.
but have been told that i have to pay child care is this normal or a money making scam for the couple
please can i have your views on this... mal "
this can be a 2 sided story, did you contact the couple and ask for a meet? Did their profile say they need childcare arrangements so cant do short notice meets?
This is only one example!!
Without knowing both sides of members its easy to jump to conclusions!!
Our profile clearly says have family so short notice or outside our free time is not possible, and willing to travel 30 - 40 mins or so, but we still get messages from profiles hundreds of miles away saying i can accom tonight llf, and we so fed up with it can send mail saying "yes no probs will hop on plane and be there in an hour" or for those who say " are you up for fun today cos i'm availible today " shall we put the out to pasture" For some people mail can get the best of them and their reply mail might be a sarcastic responce!!
Now we said might be!!
without knowing both sides and circumstances we tend not to judge  |
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"ive been invited by a couple to a one on one party M.M.F.
but have been told that i have to pay child care is this normal or a money making scam for the couple
please can i have your views on this... mal
this can be a 2 sided story, did you contact the couple and ask for a meet? Did their profile say they need childcare arrangements so cant do short notice meets?
This is only one example!!
Without knowing both sides of members its easy to jump to conclusions!!
Our profile clearly says have family so short notice or outside our free time is not possible, and willing to travel 30 - 40 mins or so, but we still get messages from profiles hundreds of miles away saying i can accom tonight llf, and we so fed up with it can send mail saying "yes no probs will hop on plane and be there in an hour" or for those who say " are you up for fun today cos i'm availible today " shall we put the out to pasture" For some people mail can get the best of them and their reply mail might be a sarcastic responce!!
Now we said might be!!
without knowing both sides and circumstances we tend not to judge "
Didn't sound over complicated to me - they wanted to meet the guy - they wanted him to pay for child care - what other side of the story can there be? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ive been invited by a couple to a one on one party M.M.F.
but have been told that i have to pay child care is this normal or a money making scam for the couple
please can i have your views on this... mal
this can be a 2 sided story, did you contact the couple and ask for a meet? Did their profile say they need childcare arrangements so cant do short notice meets?
This is only one example!!
Without knowing both sides of members its easy to jump to conclusions!!
Our profile clearly says have family so short notice or outside our free time is not possible, and willing to travel 30 - 40 mins or so, but we still get messages from profiles hundreds of miles away saying i can accom tonight llf, and we so fed up with it can send mail saying "yes no probs will hop on plane and be there in an hour" or for those who say " are you up for fun today cos i'm availible today " shall we put the out to pasture" For some people mail can get the best of them and their reply mail might be a sarcastic responce!!
Now we said might be!!
without knowing both sides and circumstances we tend not to judge
Didn't sound over complicated to me - they wanted to meet the guy - they wanted him to pay for child care - what other side of the story can there be?"
their side? there is always 2 sides to a story thats why name and shame aint allowewed!1
judging without the facts!!
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"ive been invited by a couple to a one on one party M.M.F.
but have been told that i have to pay child care is this normal or a money making scam for the couple
please can i have your views on this... mal
this can be a 2 sided story, did you contact the couple and ask for a meet? Did their profile say they need childcare arrangements so cant do short notice meets?
This is only one example!!
Without knowing both sides of members its easy to jump to conclusions!!
Our profile clearly says have family so short notice or outside our free time is not possible, and willing to travel 30 - 40 mins or so, but we still get messages from profiles hundreds of miles away saying i can accom tonight llf, and we so fed up with it can send mail saying "yes no probs will hop on plane and be there in an hour" or for those who say " are you up for fun today cos i'm availible today " shall we put the out to pasture" For some people mail can get the best of them and their reply mail might be a sarcastic responce!!
Now we said might be!!
without knowing both sides and circumstances we tend not to judge
Didn't sound over complicated to me - they wanted to meet the guy - they wanted him to pay for child care - what other side of the story can there be?
their side? there is always 2 sides to a story thats why name and shame aint allowewed!1
judging without the facts!!
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lol- not any one i know would know would charge any one for childcare in ANY situation! Name & shame? No way - not fair! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ive been invited by a couple to a one on one party M.M.F.
but have been told that i have to pay child care is this normal or a money making scam for the couple
please can i have your views on this... mal
this can be a 2 sided story, did you contact the couple and ask for a meet? Did their profile say they need childcare arrangements so cant do short notice meets?
This is only one example!!
Without knowing both sides of members its easy to jump to conclusions!!
Our profile clearly says have family so short notice or outside our free time is not possible, and willing to travel 30 - 40 mins or so, but we still get messages from profiles hundreds of miles away saying i can accom tonight llf, and we so fed up with it can send mail saying "yes no probs will hop on plane and be there in an hour" or for those who say " are you up for fun today cos i'm availible today " shall we put the out to pasture" For some people mail can get the best of them and their reply mail might be a sarcastic responce!!
Now we said might be!!
without knowing both sides and circumstances we tend not to judge
Didn't sound over complicated to me - they wanted to meet the guy - they wanted him to pay for child care - what other side of the story can there be?
their side? there is always 2 sides to a story thats why name and shame aint allowewed!1
judging without the facts!!
lol- not any one i know would know would charge any one for childcare in ANY situation! Name & shame? No way - not fair!"
If you read our first response to op then you would have seen it was about the fact that no one knows in what context the meesage was sent to him!!
some reply sarcarsim as we do sometimes when we have had enough of perstering mail that obviously having read our profile.
If you were to sit on a jury would you convict without hearing both sides and facts?? thats all we are saying. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My children my responsibilty for crying out loud I dont even get child support from their dad so wy would I ask a complete stranger. If I do club meet or hotel meet I always go halves. |
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By *ustforus OP Man
over a year ago
cambridge |
hi right for all those that want to know this is what happened
saw an add
contacted the couple
got an invite,
but nothing about child care
accepted the invite.
then told about child care.£35.00
contacted. the forum
cancelled the meet
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've heard of people asking for many things such as, split hotel costs, travelling money, pay for refreshments, buffet, club entry, but never childcare costs. What next? Pay for wear and tear on play clothes and shoes! "
Dont laugh at that read on a couples profile if the guys want her to dress up they will have to by the clothes she will provide her size |
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"hi right for all those that want to know this is what happened
saw an add
contacted the couple
got an invite,
but nothing about child care
accepted the invite.
then told about child care.£35.00
contacted. the forum
cancelled the meet
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£35, their having a laff mate. Your well rid, get them reported as soon as matey. No need nor place for that on here !
LMAO. |
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"I've heard of people asking for many things such as, split hotel costs, travelling money, pay for refreshments, buffet, club entry, but never childcare costs. What next? Pay for wear and tear on play clothes and shoes!
Dont laugh at that read on a couples profile if the guys want her to dress up they will have to by the clothes she will provide her size "
lmao, exactly the same profile i saw she wanted guys to provide outfits because of wear and tear but funny thing was one of my friends had the same outfit as she had on in her pictures and it was from primark |
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"hi right for all those that want to know this is what happened
saw an add
contacted the couple
got an invite,
but nothing about child care
accepted the invite.
then told about child care.£35.00
contacted. the forum
cancelled the meet
That is ludicurous, if someone is paying £35 for a childminder for a couple of hours think im going to become a child minder. Hope you have reported them
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By *utty tartWoman
over a year ago
the house of sin |
"ive been invited by a couple to a one on one party M.M.F.
but have been told that i have to pay child care is this normal or a money making scam for the couple
please can i have your views on this... mal "
cheeky fekkers tell um to piss off ie got kis n certainly wudnt expect a guy to pay my baby sitting costs |
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By *looboxMan
over a year ago
Fleet |
Have a look on compare dot com they got insurance for everything these days. You may find one for swingers, it'll be under the plain brown tab. Child minding would be like unexpected delay costs, get cover for all those pvc and rubber tears and damaged toys. You'd only want a new for old policy cover though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've heard of people asking for many things such as, split hotel costs, travelling money, pay for refreshments, buffet, club entry, but never childcare costs. What next? Pay for wear and tear on play clothes and shoes!
Dont laugh at that read on a couples profile if the guys want her to dress up they will have to by the clothes she will provide her size "
OMG well I want new batteries for some toys.... think it be cheeky to ask?
The toys belong to the kiddo tho, it's to keep him quiet during the school hols! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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family all need feeding before we have our date can you pay for the take -away so i can get ready ,, lolol I still cant get over this post ... really it would put me of having sex with her if i felt kids should be with mum and not me ,, lol jo xxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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def wins the award for bare face cheek lol!!
now next meet ,,, i need to pay for childcare or nanny and also petrol, food i cant play on empty stomachs, make up, lingerie, soap powder, electric for washing linen, kennels for the dog, hair spray etc or i cant meet!! x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Avoid at all costs. If they are your children then your responsible for paying for them to be elsewhere while your on your meet. But if the children arent yours then stay away and tell them to get stuffed.
Total bloody cheek. Take note hun, not a single person on here agreeeing with you paying childcare costs. Thats many years worth of experience. Listen to it x
im a single person and i agree he shouldnt pay, but im going to start charging for wear and tear on my bedding and laundry costs from now on !!!! please take note all couples lmao "
and contribution towards the rent or mortgage for use of the room? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are some cheeky gits around arent there, in every walk of life there is always someone asking for something. Good on you for reporting them.
It made me laugh about the wear and tear on clothes too - if i had to buy someone an outfit, id make sure id rip it off em so they couldnt use it again. Im quite stunned really that people have the cheek to say it. I wouldnt dream of telling anyone my size anyway lol |
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
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Sounds to me (IMHO) that there i no "child" and you're effectively paying for the lady's "time"..(ie "entertainment"). Yup - they should be on a different site,.. at best. Her husband should be ashamed, only offering her at £35... lol. |
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mmmmmmmm should have realised when you saw the meter attached to her pussy pay by the minute ............ but then some guys would have not spent a lot lol
but deffo cheeky feckers wot next pay for the electric the batteries in the toys endless list of money making scams at the end of the day its another form of prostitution childcare costs lol jeez they must have been up all night to come up with that one i say name n shame |
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