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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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A little bit empty and alone after a good meet? It's like a sex comedown. I'm totally not clingy or anything but all I want is a cuddle right now for fuck sake.
It just makes me want to arrange another meet, and the cycle goes on, and I'm left feeling like I'm meeting too much and it's all never enough. It's a fucking addiction (scuse the pun) 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Think and nice long hot bath for you and then wrap up and snuggle on the sofa whilst nibbling on some chocolate should help you.
I do believe this is suffered by a lot of ladies here and is totally natural. Hope you feel right as rain sooner rather than later x |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
yumsville |
"A little bit empty and alone after a good meet? It's like a sex comedown. I'm totally not clingy or anything but all I want is a cuddle right now for fuck sake.
It just makes me want to arrange another meet, and the cycle goes on, and I'm left feeling like I'm meeting too much and it's all never enough. It's a fucking addiction (scuse the pun)
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had different sex to that what you are having. Some sex is intimate, others is brazen, others is a mix, others make your nose bleed.
Once your stomach is wrenching - and you're laughing your bollocks off at the ridiculousness of what you've just had/done, the big smile and thumping glow should be comfort enough 
Though appreciate it's nice to snuggle.. sometimes just ripping the senses off of each other doesn't give you time to want to curl up, just to hit it again |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I don't see how getting a little emotional after a good hard fucking means I do not qualify for this site and i need to find a relationship. I don't want a relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't see how getting a little emotional after a good hard fucking means I do not qualify for this site and i need to find a relationship. I don't want a relationship. "
its a bit hard to arrange a spitroasting on a dating site also I bet  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't see how getting a little emotional after a good hard fucking means I do not qualify for this site and i need to find a relationship. I don't want a relationship.
its a bit hard to arrange a spitroasting on a dating site also I bet "
dont be so blooming sure considering some of the messages I get lol |
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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago
Northampton |
What you are describing sounds like a drop. (google sub drop, plenty of info out there.)
Basically, your endorphins are in overdrive during a good session.. after, when they settle back down you are back to normal, but after the high you have experienced, you feel down.
A lot of women (and men, I guess) experience similar feelings, and there are ways to.. hmm, may be wrong of me to say overcome this feeling, but there are ways to cope for the 'down' feeling in the few hours after a good sesh.
Most important thing to remember is, its only temporary. You need to find what works for you as comfort.
Bath.. candles.. chocolate.. re-read messages from before the meet.. write down what happened in the meet... cuddle a teddy and think about your favourite actor/singer/celebrity massaging you to sleep...
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What you are describing sounds like a drop. (google sub drop, plenty of info out there.)
Basically, your endorphins are in overdrive during a good session.. after, when they settle back down you are back to normal, but after the high you have experienced, you feel down.
A lot of women (and men, I guess) experience similar feelings, and there are ways to.. hmm, may be wrong of me to say overcome this feeling, but there are ways to cope for the 'down' feeling in the few hours after a good sesh.
Most important thing to remember is, its only temporary. You need to find what works for you as comfort.
Bath.. candles.. chocolate.. re-read messages from before the meet.. write down what happened in the meet... cuddle a teddy and think about your favourite actor/singer/celebrity massaging you to sleep...
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Thank you so much I don't feel so silly now!   |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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just looked at your profile - you are young, so maybe new to it. Just take it as it is... fun! If you want relationships - find them. If you want to enjoy yourself, enjoy the company you get and take it for what it is. Been at is a few years myself and I am still exploring.. |
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I get this too.. Its normal. Its to do with oxytocin.. The bonding hormone.. Makes us want to cuddle. I want the nice bits of love/relationships thru swinging... But not the monotonous nitty gritty stuff... Also prefer bringing up my kids myself.
I may do a serious relationship one day when they have grown up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe look at a dating site. I feel you want more than swinging tends to offer
No."
I met a lovely lady off here. We fell in love, and now we kiss, cuddle and fall asleep together all the time. Neither of us meet anyone else anymore. Wasn't expecting that one bit. So there you go. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I love a good snuggle after sex. I know it's not for a lot of people on fab and some say it's too emotional or intimate but I disagree..... Cuddles for everyone!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's a thread, "Your strategy for the come down after great play." Same issues raised- you're definitely not alone! I'll go bump the thread for you. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What you are describing sounds like a drop. (google sub drop, plenty of info out there.)
Basically, your endorphins are in overdrive during a good session.. after, when they settle back down you are back to normal, but after the high you have experienced, you feel down.
A lot of women (and men, I guess) experience similar feelings, and there are ways to.. hmm, may be wrong of me to say overcome this feeling, but there are ways to cope for the 'down' feeling in the few hours after a good sesh.
Most important thing to remember is, its only temporary. You need to find what works for you as comfort.
Bath.. candles.. chocolate.. re-read messages from before the meet.. write down what happened in the meet... cuddle a teddy and think about your favourite actor/singer/celebrity massaging you to sleep...
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Definitely goes for men too...I know I feel it, cuddles afterwards are the best and definitely wanted x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't see how getting a little emotional after a good hard fucking means I do not qualify for this site and i need to find a relationship. I don't want a relationship.
its a bit hard to arrange a spitroasting on a dating site also I bet
dont be so blooming sure considering some of the messages I get lol"
this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I cant see the problem with a cuddle after find it gives the meet a more rounded feel
I can also fuck and go if thats what is wanted but perfer to make it mote social with a post fuck hug holding and small talk is nice and means no more that having full blown wounderful sex think it just shows respect for the person your with not love or the threat of commitment |
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By *y2funMan
over a year ago
DUDLEY |
"A little bit empty and alone after a good meet? It's like a sex comedown. I'm totally not clingy or anything but all I want is a cuddle right now for fuck sake.
It just makes me want to arrange another meet, and the cycle goes on, and I'm left feeling like I'm meeting too much and it's all never enough. It's a fucking addiction (scuse the pun)
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sounds like you need a relationship? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"A little bit empty and alone after a good meet? It's like a sex comedown. I'm totally not clingy or anything but all I want is a cuddle right now for fuck sake.
It just makes me want to arrange another meet, and the cycle goes on, and I'm left feeling like I'm meeting too much and it's all never enough. It's a fucking addiction (scuse the pun)
sounds like you need a relationship?"
Thank you for your input but i have already clarified that i do not want or need a relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What you are describing sounds like a drop. (google sub drop, plenty of info out there.)
Basically, your endorphins are in overdrive during a good session.. after, when they settle back down you are back to normal, but after the high you have experienced, you feel down.
A lot of women (and men, I guess) experience similar feelings, and there are ways to.. hmm, may be wrong of me to say overcome this feeling, but there are ways to cope for the 'down' feeling in the few hours after a good sesh.
Most important thing to remember is, its only temporary. You need to find what works for you as comfort.
Bath.. candles.. chocolate.. re-read messages from before the meet.. write down what happened in the meet... cuddle a teddy and think about your favourite actor/singer/celebrity massaging you to sleep...
Thank you so much I don't feel so silly now! "
 I feel like this too glad I'm not the only one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I cant see the problem with a cuddle after find it gives the meet a more rounded feel
I can also fuck and go if thats what is wanted but perfer to make it mote social with a post fuck hug holding and small talk is nice and means no more that having full blown wounderful sex think it just shows respect for the person your with not love or the threat of commitment "
Commitment's a threat ??
Sarah x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've felt a bit down (sorry for myself) after a meet with a couple once. I left to go home alone knowing they'd be snuggled up together. How I'd love to find a fb who could cuddle me in the night now and then. |
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"A little bit empty and alone after a good meet? It's like a sex comedown. I'm totally not clingy or anything but all I want is a cuddle right now for fuck sake.
It just makes me want to arrange another meet, and the cycle goes on, and I'm left feeling like I'm meeting too much and it's all never enough. It's a fucking addiction (scuse the pun)
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Does your after-sex climbdown include a cuddle/hugging session? To me, that's as important as the foreplay and sex part... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Add it to your profile that you love affection?
Plenty of guys on here are affectionate, i've hardly had a meet that hasn't ended with chat, cuddling and relaxing together afterwards. It is very nice, even if you know you've only used each other for sex i agree that you don't want to feel that way afterwards.
You could always change your pics to add a few with affection in them? I have a couple of pics in mine where i am kissing different guys coz that is important to me as well (idk if you have private ones already that are like this so just presuming). |
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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago
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"A little bit empty and alone after a good meet? It's like a sex comedown. I'm totally not clingy or anything but all I want is a cuddle right now for fuck sake.
It just makes me want to arrange another meet, and the cycle goes on, and I'm left feeling like I'm meeting too much and it's all never enough. It's a fucking addiction (scuse the pun)
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If you like a cuddle after perhaps you can meet a guy who's a cuddler |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I guess if you kind of hint that you'd like some affection when in conversation with potential meets then this might help - only issue is if you're meeting couples and they might want their time etc? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A little bit empty and alone after a good meet? It's like a sex comedown. I'm totally not clingy or anything but all I want is a cuddle right now for fuck sake.
It just makes me want to arrange another meet, and the cycle goes on, and I'm left feeling like I'm meeting too much and it's all never enough. It's a fucking addiction (scuse the pun)
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I'm not meeting at the moment.
Too many confusing things going on.
Think about what it is you truly want.
Take care. |
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