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By *eeper01 OP Man
over a year ago
weston super mare |
i know there are a lot of couples on this site and relationships that have formed on this site but how would you explain to someone you are dating that you swing and even see if they are interested ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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well I guess it depends on how important either your relationship or swinging is.....once you ask if someone would consider swinging there's no real backtracking now is there.. ?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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how long is a piece of string?
how you figure out someone's views of swinging are gonna vary depending upon a tonne of different features. Are they really into sex? Are they a bit kinky? Do they enjoy porn? Have they had several previous partners? Are they confident about their own sexuality? Etc etc
How you tell an ex-stripper that you're into swinging is gonna be a mile away from how you'd tell an ex-nun  
People need to go on their own personal journey in order to reach that point where they finally 'get' why it's ok to involve others in your sexual explorations. For some that journey's a short walk across the hall... for others it's down the friggin length of the great wall of China  |
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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago
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Hmm.. interesting question, as I wouldn't consider 'nilla dating. But I am not averse to the fact it might happen..
So I would tell them on the first date over a couple of beers and a game of pool, that there is something they should know - that I am on a swingers site, and I do have safe sex with several guys.
I would take it from there.... but would rather they knew on a first meet (where we could just have fun in a social situation), then they could go and think about whether they wanted to see me again, and IF we really got on well enough I would pause my Fab for them or he would be intruiged enough to join.
I could never hide what I do right now from a non Fab guy who was interested in me. I would be lying to him immediately if I hid it, and thats not on for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I spoke to my mate about it. He was interested at the concept of free pussy but the thought of getting in up in front of other men freaked him. 1:1 was his thing. He is still a mate though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think the signals as to whether they could be players will be in place. I met Mrs N in a nightclub, we'd both come off back off troubled marriages (separated in case you were wondering)
She'd never considered swinging before but had several encounters with men before she met me whilst married and had enjoyed the experience. We felt it was too soon for us to settle down and besides monogomy hadn't worked out for us so after a good heart to heart chat decided to have our first meet with a single bloke at my batchelor pad. It wasn't that good but not bad enough for us to say oh gord, never again.
The rest is history. Good luck with whatever you decide to do. I think she'd have far more respect for you if you did tell her rather than find out the hard way. |
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