FabSwingers.com > Forums > Swinging Support and Advice > Time Waister really?
Time Waister really?
Jump to: Newest in thread
"Ok so I am currently looking for advice on how to avoid potential time wasters.
"
Don't meet anyone at all, that way nobody can waste your time 
oh hang on a minute, that would also mean it's pretty pointless being here  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
 |
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
There is no hard and fast rule. Part of the problem is what people perceive to be timewasting, when sometimes reality is the other people involved do have an emergency.
another example, I recently got very close too meeting a couple but declined when they told my very late on their teenage son would be turning up at some point. They might have perceived me to be a timewaster where as I just feel I should have been told all the facts.
If you really are concerned about timewasters, don't bother with those unverified.
Having said that, as a single guy on this site, you have to take your opportunities. One of the best meets I had was with an unverified couple who cancelled first time around. I gave them another chance after speaking on the phone and it turned out amazing |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *oxes OP Man
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
I have had 3 Confirmed meets but and 2 no shows and 1 Turn down. ( on Various sites not just fab swing/flirt)
Some one did plan to Skype me I skyped the Male partner but the female partner ask me to Skype her day after. After wasting an entire day on the laptop and doing a couple of messages (trying to be persistent but not pushy. In order to keep the convo going) they did not bloody pickup.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I have had 3 Confirmed meets but and 2 no shows and 1 Turn down. ( on Various sites not just fab swing/flirt)
Some one did plan to Skype me I skyped the Male partner but the female partner ask me to Skype her day after. After wasting an entire day on the laptop and doing a couple of messages (trying to be persistent but not pushy. In order to keep the convo going) they did not bloody pickup.
"
Were these people verified in some fashion?
I suspect the Skype couple may not have been a couple |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *exine xCouple
over a year ago
Leicester |
"Ok so I am currently looking for advice on how to avoid potential time wasters.
"
We would really like to meet you and let you do as you want taking you to heights of ecstasy and beyond.
Oh sorry. No we wouldn't.
Ok ok. Changed our minds. Come round now.
Oh wait. The dogs been sick.
Bye. Blocked.
Any good? Lol  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Ok so I am currently looking for advice on how to avoid potential time wasters.
We would really like to meet you and let you do as you want taking you to heights of ecstasy and beyond.
Oh sorry. No we wouldn't.
Ok ok. Changed our minds. Come round now.
Oh wait. The dogs been sick.
Bye. Blocked.
Any good? Lol "
Spelling is correct and therefore it is unrealistic! Jokes |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *oxes OP Man
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
"I have had 3 Confirmed meets but and 2 no shows and 1 Turn down. ( on Various sites not just fab swing/flirt)
Some one did plan to Skype me I skyped the Male partner but the female partner ask me to Skype her day after. After wasting an entire day on the laptop and doing a couple of messages (trying to be persistent but not pushy. In order to keep the convo going) they did not bloody pickup.
Were these people verified in some fashion?
I suspect the Skype couple may not have been a couple"
Yep they were the couple had pictures on their profile and I spoke to the man via Skype video cam. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Ok so I am currently looking for advice on how to avoid potential time wasters.
Don't meet anyone at all, that way nobody can waste your time
"
Pretty much this........
I've had dozens of time wasters but you can generally get a feel if somethings not quite right when messaging anyway and in the years I've been on here I have only had one person who bottled it and didn't answer the door. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"
Yep they were the couple had pictures on their profile and I spoke to the man via Skype video cam. "
did they have verifications as being a couple though ? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
We used to only attend clubs or parties as the time waster issue consistently reared it's ugly head . So it's not just single guys who suffer !
Over the last few months we have gone back to meeting by arranging here on fab , and still the time wasters are prevalent .
To answer previous questions as to what is a time waster , this is our opinion .
A person who says they wish to meet at a certain time and place , and fails to turn up .
A person who replies to a meet request , but fills your mail box with alternatives to the requested meet .
Other than this it's often the selection process which is at fault , such as expecting the too good to be true profile to be true . And turning up without a phone number .
We now go dogging if a meet doesn't materialise as a back up .
There's something far more up front and honest about doggers , and they never let you down !
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
North of The Wall - youll need your vest |
" To which the man matched via Video cam. "
Its not foolproof as a lot of people have pics posted on other sites also. You still need to use a bit of common sense.... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *oxes OP Man
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
" To which the man matched via Video cam.
Its not foolproof as a lot of people have pics posted on other sites also. You still need to use a bit of common sense...."
Right ok so even if they are in the photos they have posted on Fab and other sites match them via thevideo link on Skype it' still a good chance to be a fake then? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
Just look for profiles that have NO TIMEWASTERS on them (preferably in capitals as this give the words extra magic powers!)
This is the sign if a true, genuine (in capitals or not!) swinger profile.
Simple. 
A |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
North of The Wall - youll need your vest |
" To which the man matched via Video cam.
Its not foolproof as a lot of people have pics posted on other sites also. You still need to use a bit of common sense....
Right ok so even if they are in the photos they have posted on Fab and other sites match them via thevideo link on Skype it' still a good chance to be a fake then? "
No I meant just because their pics from Fab show up elsewhere it doesnt mean to say that they are fake because a lot of people use the same pics on Fab that they use on other sites.
But if the person you see on cam is the same person that it is in the pics on here why would you say that they are fake?
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
" To which the man matched via Video cam.
Its not foolproof as a lot of people have pics posted on other sites also. You still need to use a bit of common sense....
Right ok so even if they are in the photos they have posted on Fab and other sites match them via thevideo link on Skype it' still a good chance to be a fake then? "
Not necessarily a good chance, but a chance.
Once saw a couples profile which had web verifications, saw the cam and it turned out to be a cam off a porn site of sorts, admittedly no face was shown but people had still verified on such a basis |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
" To which the man matched via Video cam.
Its not foolproof as a lot of people have pics posted on other sites also. You still need to use a bit of common sense....
Right ok so even if they are in the photos they have posted on Fab and other sites match them via thevideo link on Skype it' still a good chance to be a fake then?
No I meant just because their pics from Fab show up elsewhere it doesnt mean to say that they are fake because a lot of people use the same pics on Fab that they use on other sites.
But if the person you see on cam is the same person that it is in the pics on here why would you say that they are fake?
"
Its physically possible but unlikely.
There so many 'couples' who cam for money that it would be possible photos could be lifted and they could be shown in the cam room. Admittedly a one to one video chat would give the game away, but hopefully you can see how it is a possibility |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
North of The Wall - youll need your vest |
"
it would be possible photos could be lifted and they could be shown in the cam room. Admittedly a one to one video chat would give the game away, but hopefully you can see how it is a possibility"
But wouldnt the fact that their lips weren't moving as you were talking to them on cam be a bit of a clue that it was just a picture??? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"
it would be possible photos could be lifted and they could be shown in the cam room. Admittedly a one to one video chat would give the game away, but hopefully you can see how it is a possibility
But wouldnt the fact that their lips weren't moving as you were talking to them on cam be a bit of a clue that it was just a picture???"
Unless they'd cleverly cut out the lips and we're stood behind using a lolly stick (or a spoon) to move them up and down.
Like they used to on Monty Python. 
A |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Its easy, you will find 98 percent will after few questions reply with "OK" "yes", even tho you have typed a long sentence, skip them and move on.. easy to sus out  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Read the profiles.. If they say they dont meet dont contact them.
I would be classed as a timewaster by the people I do not reply too..
If they had read my profile they would not bother to waste their own time. Basically if you do not fill the criteria set on profiles you shouldnt message. Quite easy really. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"No what I meant I was physically talking to the guy. "
And at what point did you speak to the woman?
Or was she at work.
Or in the shower.
Or fighting Ebola in Africa and given him permission to play while she was away.
Common sense. If it looks too good to be true, it is. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *oxes OP Man
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
"No what I meant I was physically talking to the guy.
And at what point did you speak to the woman?
Or was she at work.
Or in the shower.
Or fighting Ebola in Africa and given him permission to play while she was away.
Common sense. If it looks too good to be true, it is."
tbh the she is at work excuss and is too tired to talk right now was the excuss he used.
the couple is on my freind list. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"
it would be possible photos could be lifted and they could be shown in the cam room. Admittedly a one to one video chat would give the game away, but hopefully you can see how it is a possibility
But wouldnt the fact that their lips weren't moving as you were talking to them on cam be a bit of a clue that it was just a picture???"
Sorry I didn't explain that very well. what I meant was if for arguments sake, it was a couple who cam for a living, the photos could be lifted and then when in the chat room the video feed of them could be put on in the cam room. I only know this as it happened to me |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
What I don't get is why a man would pretend to be a girl ..... Have girl pics ... Ask you too swap and stuff and then disappear .... I mean if you wanted too see dicks and stuff I'm positive there are gay sites that would be totally up for swapping ..... very weird some people not like us normal pervs on here lol xx |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Its easy, you will find 98 percent will after few questions reply with "OK" "yes", even tho you have typed a long sentence, skip them and move on.. easy to sus out "
Ok  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *oxes OP Man
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
"What I don't get is why a man would pretend to be a girl ..... Have girl pics ... Ask you too swap and stuff and then disappear .... I mean if you wanted too see dicks and stuff I'm positive there are gay sites that would be totally up for swapping ..... very weird some people not like us normal pervs on here lol xx"
Ok thats taken strange to seriously new level. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Its easy, you will find 98 percent will after few questions reply with "OK" "yes", even tho you have typed a long sentence, skip them and move on.. easy to sus out
Ok "
Yes lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"No what I meant I was physically talking to the guy.
And at what point did you speak to the woman?
Or was she at work.
Or in the shower.
Or fighting Ebola in Africa and given him permission to play while she was away.
Common sense. If it looks too good to be true, it is.
tbh the she is at work excuss and is too tired to talk right now was the excuss he used.
the couple is on my freind list. "
Sounds like the pictures were probably of him and an ex girlfriend and he was just trying to get his jollies off |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
