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no it happens. We chat to quite a lot of people, some of whom we'll never meet because they live too far away but frequency of messages tends to vary.
Sometimes people say they want to chat but what they really want is to meet and when it doesn't happen they sort of drift off.  |
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"no it happens. We chat to quite a lot of people, some of whom we'll never meet because they live too far away but frequency of messages tends to vary.
Sometimes people say they want to chat but what they really want is to meet and when it doesn't happen they sort of drift off. "
Thanks, I think I need to develop a thicker skin... That and stop discussing my large stamp collection by way of foreplay |
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To be honest I think that if after speaking for a few days there is no hint of it going somewhere and they have not give you a reason why they are not currently meeting then I would give up.
I think there is a small window where something can happen but after that it fades out. |
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"no it happens. We chat to quite a lot of people, some of whom we'll never meet because they live too far away but frequency of messages tends to vary.
Sometimes people say they want to chat but what they really want is to meet and when it doesn't happen they sort of drift off.
Thanks, I think I need to develop a thicker skin... That and stop discussing my large stamp collection by way of foreplay "
 philately can spoil the mood I agree .
A thick skin is useful |
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"I've been chatting to people and they just fade away, don't reply... Am I just dull??!!"
how do we know without talking to you or knowing the content of the messages you send  |
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"I've been chatting to people and they just fade away, don't reply... Am I just dull??!!
how do we know without talking to you or knowing the content of the messages you send "
A very good question, but I was hoping for some anecdotal evidence of 'no its happened to me too' and some reassurance rather than requiring evidential proof |
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"I've been chatting to people and they just fade away, don't reply... Am I just dull??!!"
It happens to me. Send a pic couple of messages then they fade away |
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"It happens all the time on here, don't dare ask for a meet or they'll self destruct never to be seen again!!"
OK, thanks folks I feel a lot better now. Can't help but think there should be a separate section for people who want to chat and have a laugh as well as meet.
I'd be happy to talk with someone hundreds of miles away if I got on with them its not just about the meets, or is that just me? |
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"It happens all the time on here, don't dare ask for a meet or they'll self destruct never to be seen again!!
OK, thanks folks I feel a lot better now. Can't help but think there should be a separate section for people who want to chat and have a laugh as well as meet.
I'd be happy to talk with someone hundreds of miles away if I got on with them its not just about the meets, or is that just me?"
I think there is, fab flirts site. Trouble is, the people you chat to might have every intention of wanting to meet but after chatting may realise you're not for them for whatever reason and can't say for fear of an abusive response so just stop chatting or even block. It is very common on here so don't worry, its not just you. |
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"It happens all the time on here, don't dare ask for a meet or they'll self destruct never to be seen again!!
OK, thanks folks I feel a lot better now. Can't help but think there should be a separate section for people who want to chat and have a laugh as well as meet.
I'd be happy to talk with someone hundreds of miles away if I got on with them its not just about the meets, or is that just me?
I think there is, fab flirts site. Trouble is, the people you chat to might have every intention of wanting to meet but after chatting may realise you're not for them for whatever reason and can't say for fear of an abusive response so just stop chatting or even block. It is very common on here so don't worry, its not just you."
Yes that's what feeds my paranoia and makes me begin threads in forums! Its sad that people have to react to rejection like that and ruin things for others. I'd never get angry and abusive, I'm just not that guy and I'd rather hear 'actually you're as dull as a wet wednesday in Milton Keynes' than nothing |
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"It happens all the time on here, don't dare ask for a meet or they'll self destruct never to be seen again!!
OK, thanks folks I feel a lot better now. Can't help but think there should be a separate section for people who want to chat and have a laugh as well as meet.
I'd be happy to talk with someone hundreds of miles away if I got on with them its not just about the meets, or is that just me?
I think there is, fab flirts site. Trouble is, the people you chat to might have every intention of wanting to meet but after chatting may realise you're not for them for whatever reason and can't say for fear of an abusive response so just stop chatting or even block. It is very common on here so don't worry, its not just you.
Yes that's what feeds my paranoia and makes me begin threads in forums! Its sad that people have to react to rejection like that and ruin things for others. I'd never get angry and abusive, I'm just not that guy and I'd rather hear 'actually you're as dull as a wet wednesday in Milton Keynes' than nothing"
Would you?  Really? I think if you heard that several times it would dent your confidence quite badly.
Lots of men say they would rather hear "no thank you" than nothing at all but do you think that would be good for a person? |
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"It happens all the time on here, don't dare ask for a meet or they'll self destruct never to be seen again!!
OK, thanks folks I feel a lot better now. Can't help but think there should be a separate section for people who want to chat and have a laugh as well as meet.
I'd be happy to talk with someone hundreds of miles away if I got on with them its not just about the meets, or is that just me?
I think there is, fab flirts site. Trouble is, the people you chat to might have every intention of wanting to meet but after chatting may realise you're not for them for whatever reason and can't say for fear of an abusive response so just stop chatting or even block. It is very common on here so don't worry, its not just you.
Yes that's what feeds my paranoia and makes me begin threads in forums! Its sad that people have to react to rejection like that and ruin things for others. I'd never get angry and abusive, I'm just not that guy and I'd rather hear 'actually you're as dull as a wet wednesday in Milton Keynes' than nothing
Would you? Really? I think if you heard that several times it would dent your confidence quite badly.
Lots of men say they would rather hear "no thank you" than nothing at all but do you think that would be good for a person? "
Personally yes, I rather hear anything rather than nothing. If someone messages me that I'm not interested in I send a polite no thanks, if I don't like someone's pic then no thanks, I just think its polite. At least then I know and can move on. I can't do anything about my face but I can work on being dull or anything else |
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"It happens all the time on here, don't dare ask for a meet or they'll self destruct never to be seen again!!
OK, thanks folks I feel a lot better now. Can't help but think there should be a separate section for people who want to chat and have a laugh as well as meet.
I'd be happy to talk with someone hundreds of miles away if I got on with them its not just about the meets, or is that just me?
I think there is, fab flirts site. Trouble is, the people you chat to might have every intention of wanting to meet but after chatting may realise you're not for them for whatever reason and can't say for fear of an abusive response so just stop chatting or even block. It is very common on here so don't worry, its not just you.
Yes that's what feeds my paranoia and makes me begin threads in forums! Its sad that people have to react to rejection like that and ruin things for others. I'd never get angry and abusive, I'm just not that guy and I'd rather hear 'actually you're as dull as a wet wednesday in Milton Keynes' than nothing
Would you? Really? I think if you heard that several times it would dent your confidence quite badly.
Lots of men say they would rather hear "no thank you" than nothing at all but do you think that would be good for a person?
Personally yes, I rather hear anything rather than nothing. If someone messages me that I'm not interested in I send a polite no thanks, if I don't like someone's pic then no thanks, I just think its polite. At least then I know and can move on. I can't do anything about my face but I can work on being dull or anything else"
To be honest I don't think this is the best place for self improvement. Too many people have an agenda that means they're unlikely to be honest in their assessment of you and why would you believe someone who isn't interested n you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It happens all the time on here, don't dare ask for a meet or they'll self destruct never to be seen again!!
OK, thanks folks I feel a lot better now. Can't help but think there should be a separate section for people who want to chat and have a laugh as well as meet.
I'd be happy to talk with someone hundreds of miles away if I got on with them its not just about the meets, or is that just me?
I think there is, fab flirts site. Trouble is, the people you chat to might have every intention of wanting to meet but after chatting may realise you're not for them for whatever reason and can't say for fear of an abusive response so just stop chatting or even block. It is very common on here so don't worry, its not just you.
Yes that's what feeds my paranoia and makes me begin threads in forums! Its sad that people have to react to rejection like that and ruin things for others. I'd never get angry and abusive, I'm just not that guy and I'd rather hear 'actually you're as dull as a wet wednesday in Milton Keynes' than nothing
Would you? Really? I think if you heard that several times it would dent your confidence quite badly.
Lots of men say they would rather hear "no thank you" than nothing at all but do you think that would be good for a person?
Personally yes, I rather hear anything rather than nothing. If someone messages me that I'm not interested in I send a polite no thanks, if I don't like someone's pic then no thanks, I just think its polite. At least then I know and can move on. I can't do anything about my face but I can work on being dull or anything else"
I think you have to accept a no reply as a no thanks, some women and couples can get in excess of 50 messages a day a just can't reply to all. Also, some men send numerous messages a day, a guy I met said he could sometimes send 30 plus a day and maybe get one reply. Can you imagine logging on to find 30 plus no thank you messages in your inbox and maybe one message from someone who's interested?? You'd have to wade through all the no thanks ones to get to the one who was interested! Much easier just to have one that's interested surely??! |
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"It happens all the time on here, don't dare ask for a meet or they'll self destruct never to be seen again!!
OK, thanks folks I feel a lot better now. Can't help but think there should be a separate section for people who want to chat and have a laugh as well as meet.
I'd be happy to talk with someone hundreds of miles away if I got on with them its not just about the meets, or is that just me?
I think there is, fab flirts site. Trouble is, the people you chat to might have every intention of wanting to meet but after chatting may realise you're not for them for whatever reason and can't say for fear of an abusive response so just stop chatting or even block. It is very common on here so don't worry, its not just you.
Yes that's what feeds my paranoia and makes me begin threads in forums! Its sad that people have to react to rejection like that and ruin things for others. I'd never get angry and abusive, I'm just not that guy and I'd rather hear 'actually you're as dull as a wet wednesday in Milton Keynes' than nothing
Would you? Really? I think if you heard that several times it would dent your confidence quite badly.
Lots of men say they would rather hear "no thank you" than nothing at all but do you think that would be good for a person?
Personally yes, I rather hear anything rather than nothing. If someone messages me that I'm not interested in I send a polite no thanks, if I don't like someone's pic then no thanks, I just think its polite. At least then I know and can move on. I can't do anything about my face but I can work on being dull or anything else
I think you have to accept a no reply as a no thanks, some women and couples can get in excess of 50 messages a day a just can't reply to all. Also, some men send numerous messages a day, a guy I met said he could sometimes send 30 plus a day and maybe get one reply. Can you imagine logging on to find 30 plus no thank you messages in your inbox and maybe one message from someone who's interested?? You'd have to wade through all the no thanks ones to get to the one who was interested! Much easier just to have one that's interested surely??! "
Very true but I usually send two or three a day. I accept a deleted message at first contact as a no thanks, its when I've been chatting for a while that I would hope for a yawn alert. |
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"You may be dull, after all we here don't really know *how* you talk to them?"
That's very true, I usually start by sending them my alphabetised photos of steam chimneys then things just flow from there |
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"It happens all the time on here, don't dare ask for a meet or they'll self destruct never to be seen again!!
OK, thanks folks I feel a lot better now. Can't help but think there should be a separate section for people who want to chat and have a laugh as well as meet.
I'd be happy to talk with someone hundreds of miles away if I got on with them its not just about the meets, or is that just me?
I think there is, fab flirts site. Trouble is, the people you chat to might have every intention of wanting to meet but after chatting may realise you're not for them for whatever reason and can't say for fear of an abusive response so just stop chatting or even block. It is very common on here so don't worry, its not just you.
Yes that's what feeds my paranoia and makes me begin threads in forums! Its sad that people have to react to rejection like that and ruin things for others. I'd never get angry and abusive, I'm just not that guy and I'd rather hear 'actually you're as dull as a wet wednesday in Milton Keynes' than nothing
Would you? Really? I think if you heard that several times it would dent your confidence quite badly.
Lots of men say they would rather hear "no thank you" than nothing at all but do you think that would be good for a person?
Personally yes, I rather hear anything rather than nothing. If someone messages me that I'm not interested in I send a polite no thanks, if I don't like someone's pic then no thanks, I just think its polite. At least then I know and can move on. I can't do anything about my face but I can work on being dull or anything else
I think you have to accept a no reply as a no thanks, some women and couples can get in excess of 50 messages a day a just can't reply to all. Also, some men send numerous messages a day, a guy I met said he could sometimes send 30 plus a day and maybe get one reply. Can you imagine logging on to find 30 plus no thank you messages in your inbox and maybe one message from someone who's interested?? You'd have to wade through all the no thanks ones to get to the one who was interested! Much easier just to have one that's interested surely??!
Very true but I usually send two or three a day. I accept a deleted message at first contact as a no thanks, its when I've been chatting for a while that I would hope for a yawn alert. "
ok! I've looked at your verifications, they mostly say that you are chatty and funny, why are you looking for negative reasons for your messages not being answered? You have confirmation that you aren't boring or dull why search for opinions to the opposite? |
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"You may be dull, after all we here don't really know *how* you talk to them?
That's very true, I usually start by sending them my alphabetised photos of steam chimneys then things just flow from there "
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"It happens all the time on here, don't dare ask for a meet or they'll self destruct never to be seen again!!
OK, thanks folks I feel a lot better now. Can't help but think there should be a separate section for people who want to chat and have a laugh as well as meet.
I'd be happy to talk with someone hundreds of miles away if I got on with them its not just about the meets, or is that just me?
I think there is, fab flirts site. Trouble is, the people you chat to might have every intention of wanting to meet but after chatting may realise you're not for them for whatever reason and can't say for fear of an abusive response so just stop chatting or even block. It is very common on here so don't worry, its not just you.
Yes that's what feeds my paranoia and makes me begin threads in forums! Its sad that people have to react to rejection like that and ruin things for others. I'd never get angry and abusive, I'm just not that guy and I'd rather hear 'actually you're as dull as a wet wednesday in Milton Keynes' than nothing
Would you? Really? I think if you heard that several times it would dent your confidence quite badly.
Lots of men say they would rather hear "no thank you" than nothing at all but do you think that would be good for a person?
Personally yes, I rather hear anything rather than nothing. If someone messages me that I'm not interested in I send a polite no thanks, if I don't like someone's pic then no thanks, I just think its polite. At least then I know and can move on. I can't do anything about my face but I can work on being dull or anything else
I think you have to accept a no reply as a no thanks, some women and couples can get in excess of 50 messages a day a just can't reply to all. Also, some men send numerous messages a day, a guy I met said he could sometimes send 30 plus a day and maybe get one reply. Can you imagine logging on to find 30 plus no thank you messages in your inbox and maybe one message from someone who's interested?? You'd have to wade through all the no thanks ones to get to the one who was interested! Much easier just to have one that's interested surely??!
Very true but I usually send two or three a day. I accept a deleted message at first contact as a no thanks, its when I've been chatting for a while that I would hope for a yawn alert.
ok! I've looked at your verifications, they mostly say that you are chatty and funny, why are you looking for negative reasons for your messages not being answered? You have confirmation that you aren't boring or dull why search for opinions to the opposite?"
Paranoia mostly, I'm still feeling my way on here and only recently actually started getting any kind of responses from people so I just never know. I'm trying to build up a circle of people that I chat to but finding it hard, people are so guarded in some instances, with good reason too, but I'm nice  |
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"I've been chatting to people and they just fade away, don't reply... Am I just dull??!!
they are holgrams .....obviously x "
Doh fooled by those typing holograms again |
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The best is when they say im genuine and wanna meet you then.......dissapear. Why not just say saves a lot of timewasting that could be spent on ppl that are genuine |
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"I've been chatting to people and they just fade away, don't reply... Am I just dull??!!"
Better offer...or maybe your just a option when there messed around by ppl there more into. Then they get back intouch.  |
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"The best is when they say im genuine and wanna meet you then.......dissapear. Why not just say saves a lot of timewasting that could be spent on ppl that are genuine "
Yes this |
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