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By *entkev OP Man
over a year ago
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Over the past 2 years I've seen many a man post 'cant get a meet' etc, then you see that they have only been on the site days or weeks.
I have come to find that as couples and single ladies have such a huge pool to chose from that the everyday joe looking gentlemen will be rebuked (often quite rudely).
There was a time when this would anger or frustrate me, but now I see the site in a different way.
My ruder version of Facebook, I just use it to keep in touch with my swinger friends, the people I've met up with at clubs. These people have the advantage of getting to know me for who I am, not purely basing their decision to talk to me on whether I have a 6 pack, huge dick or that I'm young enough to boost there ego's.
Thank goodness for my friends. lol
The site is like a rollercoaster, I loved it, then hated it, now I love it again.. for all the right reasons.
Once you get through the trolls, the fakes, the bigoted and the over inflated egos .. you can find real genuine lovely people of all persuasions.
Keep on fabbing  |
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By *ussypussWoman
over a year ago
South Birmingham waiting for the bf to come back after crimbo |
"I have come to find that as couples and single ladies have such a huge pool to chose from that the everyday joe looking gentlemen will be rebuked (often quite rudely).
You just got to dig deep enough, there are some very special people on here "
Yes, sometimes us single ladies and couples do have to turn guys away but we're not all rude about it. I pride myself on saying thanks for contacting me, but I'm sorry, I won't be continuing the conversation for whatever reason and I aim to be truthful but without trying/meaning to hurt anyone
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have come to find that as couples and single ladies have such a huge pool to chose from that the everyday joe looking gentlemen will be rebuked (often quite rudely).
You just got to dig deep enough, there are some very special people on here
Yes, sometimes us single ladies and couples do have to turn guys away but we're not all rude about it. I pride myself on saying thanks for contacting me, but I'm sorry, I won't be continuing the conversation for whatever reason and I aim to be truthful but without trying/meaning to hurt anyone
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So pleased to read this...
I cannot fault your approach - wish it was more common....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have come to find that as couples and single ladies have such a huge pool to chose from that the everyday joe looking gentlemen will be rebuked (often quite rudely).
You just got to dig deep enough, there are some very special people on here
Yes, sometimes us single ladies and couples do have to turn guys away but we're not all rude about it. I pride myself on saying thanks for contacting me, but I'm sorry, I won't be continuing the conversation for whatever reason and I aim to be truthful but without trying/meaning to hurt anyone
So pleased to read this...
I cannot fault your approach - wish it was more common.... "
I also say no thanks; not my type, too far etc, its just a shame that some guys won't take no for an answer  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Over the past 2 years I've seen many a man post 'cant get a meet' etc, then you see that they have only been on the site days or weeks.
I have come to find that as couples and single ladies have such a huge pool to chose from that the everyday joe looking gentlemen will be rebuked (often quite rudely).
There was a time when this would anger or frustrate me, but now I see the site in a different way.
My ruder version of Facebook, I just use it to keep in touch with my swinger friends, the people I've met up with at clubs. These people have the advantage of getting to know me for who I am, not purely basing their decision to talk to me on whether I have a 6 pack, huge dick or that I'm young enough to boost there ego's.
Thank goodness for my friends. lol
The site is like a rollercoaster, I loved it, then hated it, now I love it again.. for all the right reasons.
Once you get through the trolls, the fakes, the bigoted and the over inflated egos .. you can find real genuine lovely people of all persuasions.
Keep on fabbing "
We pretty much use fab the same way, we are so limited with time these days that meets are unrealistic. When we get time off we go to a club rather than trawl fab for a meet (never had a response to a meet today).
Fab is our swinging hub, somewhere to keep up with friends and events.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have yet to speak to anyone bad. If someone is not for us - we say so politely and usually get a message back saying thanks for being polite are we just lucky? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have yet to speak to anyone bad. If someone is not for us - we say so politely and usually get a message back saying thanks for being polite are we just lucky? "
I must be just unlucky then....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have yet to speak to anyone bad. If someone is not for us - we say so politely and usually get a message back saying thanks for being polite are we just lucky?
I must be just unlucky then....
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Luck changes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Regarding getting nasty replies, we did get a few in the past but on the whole it's improved a lot the worse we get these days is "your loss" but that's not really nasty.
I must add that single guys have been much better at dealing with rejection than they have been. |
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I think that's the key - expectations.
We use the site in a similar manner, keep in touch with people we've met, stay abreast of what's happening in the scene and have a bit of banter in the forums.
It delivers on all our expectations so we 're happy.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have yet to speak to anyone bad. If someone is not for us - we say so politely and usually get a message back saying thanks for being polite are we just lucky?
I must be just unlucky then....
Luck changes "
Thank yoooou... I do hope so...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is an easy and successful site for those who use it to their best advantage and as a part of their lifestyle "
Could not agree more.....I too am an "ordinary Joe" ....... Certainly no great looker, or buff Adonis.... But I do have many, many verified meets.
This site is great! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This site is great when used for the right reasons. Unfortunately a large percentage of the site are single guys who like to either pester the ladies or are just time wasters. Which makes us all look unreliable sadly.
It's nice to see that there are still some ladies out there who decline politely. Most of the time my messages are either deleted or outright ignored, which is frustrating |
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