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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey guys i've been on here about a month now and got absolutly no where. I have had alot of men message me but I am straight so that dnt help lol. If people can look at my profile and tell me if there is anything I can change. Cheers x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, change your expectations. Lower them. Despite what you may have been told, the ladies will not be inviting you to fuck them the moment you say hello. Takes time and you have to have a thick skin and be prepared to jump through hoops.
Read through the forums for more of an insight into the difficulties. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To be honest, your profile doesn't really say much.
And from a female perspective, cock pics do nothing for me, I know what one looks like, unless that is all you have to offer of course  "
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"Hey guys i've been on here about a month now and got absolutly no where. I have had alot of men message me but I am straight so that dnt help lol. If people can look at my profile and tell me if there is anything I can change. Cheers x"
You can change a lot of it if you wanted to. It's a pity if you block men. They can sometimes invite you to join them and a lady for an mmf, so I don't know why someone would add more barriers to their chances of meeting. You say you can't think of anything to say, yet you know yourself better than anyone, so if you can't think of anything, how is anyone else supposed to? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey guys i've been on here about a month now and got absolutly no where. I have had alot of men message me but I am straight so that dnt help lol. If people can look at my profile and tell me if there is anything I can change. Cheers x"
There are a huge number of single men on here of which you are one so it takes time to find someone and some give up before they do you just have to make yourself stand out. |
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By *DFL6828Man
over a year ago
Leicester |
Been on here 9 months,changed my profile numerous times, different photos, tried loads of different ways to brake the ice but only had only 1 social meet, prefer to go to clubs as it just isn't single man friendly on here no matter what some people say. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Omg not another one
best advice I can give is to look up the thousands of similar threads that pop up almost daily "
Exactly this.
Bear in mind that you have only been here for 4 weeks. It takes most single guys around 6 months, on average, to get their first meet, so be patient.
Single men far outnumber couples and women on here so you really need your profile to stand out.
Also consider that many couples and women get hundreds of messages a day, so many simply don't have time, or in fact the need, to go searching for single guys, so if you're waiting for them to come to you, you're going to be waiting a long time - you need to be proactive.
A positive approach makes a huge difference.
If I were to make any comments about your profile I would simply suggest that you look at it objectively. If you came across someone else's profile that looks like yours (text wise) would you want to meet them? Look at how your text is structured. Is it easy or difficult to follow. If it's difficult to read, most won't bother and will just move on to another.
Think about what makes you stand out from every other single guy on this site. What makes you more appealing?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes, change your expectations. Lower them. Despite what you may have been told, the ladies will not be inviting you to fuck them the moment you say hello. Takes time and you have to have a thick skin and be prepared to jump through hoops.
Read through the forums for more of an insight into the difficulties."
Great advice!! Xx |
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"Hey guys i've been on here about a month now and got absolutly no where. I have had alot of men message me but I am straight so that dnt help lol. If people can look at my profile and tell me if there is anything I can change. Cheers x"
Try going to a social or 2, and maybe a club, so you can at least be verified.
There are so many time wasters on here, so at least people will know you're genuine. And it's a good way to make contacts. |
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By *iceduoCouple (FF)
over a year ago
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"Hey guys i've been on here about a month now and got absolutly no where. I have had alot of men message me but I am straight so that dnt help lol. If people can look at my profile and tell me if there is anything I can change. Cheers x"
Why not try being bisexual, you wil pull more often xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Paragraphs, ditch the text speak actually say something about yourself aside from the reasons you can or can't meet at certain times?
Let's face it your a single straight bloke the times of the week your available are pretty far down on the check list |
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I have had the most amazing time with single guys. They're the best. This site is absolutely fab. So to all the single guys out there - do keep coming and I totally respect your anonymity.  and I know that not all of you can leave me a veri. Wink wink. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've always understood MFM to be straight and MMF to include man on man play. Maybe change the wording from "I'm straight but don't mind MMF" because you might be inadvertently giving the wrong impression that you are slightly more flexible than straight, hence the attention from men |
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"Been on here 9 months,changed my profile numerous times, different photos, tried loads of different ways to brake the ice but only had only 1 social meet, prefer to go to clubs as it just isn't single man friendly on here no matter what some people say. "
of course its single guy friendly, what an odd thing to say, its just that single guys out number single fems and couples by a huge proportion, so its harder for a single guy as they need to stand out from the crowd. |
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"Hey guys i've been on here about a month now and got absolutly no where. I have had alot of men message me but I am straight so that dnt help lol. If people can look at my profile and tell me if there is anything I can change. Cheers x"
What's the point of asking? It's been 3 days but you haven't changed anything.
My advice? Don't bother changing anything, means more meets for those of us who do bother. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Talk in the chatrooms! 
Just be yourself there, as well as get yourself into clubs, parties and socials.
You may not be guaranteed an 'instant fuck', but it works both ways. SOCIALISE. Meet and greet, and if there's an attraction...well, say no more.
Be patient. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You are one single man among tens of thousands. You need to be outstanding or very patient.
I been on here over two years and I barely got past 200 verified meets....it's a struggle dude! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey guys i've been on here about a month now and got absolutely no where. I have had a lot of men message me but I am straight so that dnt help lol. If people can look at my profile and tell me if there is anything I can change. Cheers x"
Nothing wrong, but just like 100s of others! Either put something original or eyecatching on your profile or include it in your messages/ winks.
Although I don't know what you say in your messages, I delete most without reading unless my curiosity is piqued.
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